SOUMIK says: June 10, 2021
I am 20+ year old hindu boy from Bangal, my father is working in Hyderabad. This post is about my dharmik pious mother who is 40+ years old. Since few months she is in a relationship with a muslim much younger to her whom she met him in social networking site. Now they are meeting frequently and my mother is completely fallen for that guy, when I confronted her she hesitantly accepted that she is having an affair, after that the muslim guy along with his mother came to our house and met my mother. I am so very confused about the situation!!!! -Saumik
SOUMIK says: June 16, 2021
My mother will send divorce notice to my father soon, the muslim man already married once and have two children and my mother has no problem with it. The mother of the muslim man convinced my mother to get nikah soon after sending divorce notice.
SOUMIK says: July 24, 2021
This is such a painfull incident of my life and I felt a little better after discussing the issue here, it is true that my mother by her own will leaving my father and now ready to be the second begum of a muslim man. -Soumik
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My case is also of my ammi but man is Hindu.
This Hindu man used to work as manager at my father mill. He is very kind and gentle and had servitude. My father liked him and used to send him home for petty tasks which a man of house should only do like painting work or fixing windows etc.
This is how this hindu guy got into touch with my ammi. My ammi is 45 of age and this guy is 23. My father is 50 and I am 21.
I was 19 when I found this hindu guy and my mom in an objectionable state. Immediately my mom cajoled me and convinced me that we are sayyeds and this thing will ruin our blood and social status not only of family but of all sayyeds and of Islam too. I was somehow made to understand. So till now I kept mum.
But my ammi never stopped she goes to the bed of that stinking poor mushrik hindu guy and that guy still enjoys trust of my father.
My mom is completely into him. She is women of my abbu just for namesakes, I can tell this because I live here and feel everything. Abbu is 24hrs busy with his work. Ammi is a beautiful women and desirable.
My life is devastated. I feel humiliated. But I dont know why I keep mum over this I feel my father and all sayyed will be humiliated. But this Hindu guy is getting bolder. He even recored my ammi, call her names and what not but ammi never rebels.
Anyone please can you help? I know this is pro hindu site but lets see If I get help
you keep referring him “hindu guy”..doesn’t he have name?And how come ur mother’s choice of being with a man she loves brings shame to ur entire community?don’t make it honor based issue…come in the 21st century from medieval times.One thing that is different in ur case is from most of the cases mentioned on this site is that ur mother is not married to him, and hasn’t divorced ur father.Essentially, she is cheating on ur dad and which is reprehensible .Your dad doesn’t deserve that.You can confront ur mother on this, or tell ur dad if needed.Your mother should either leave her bf or divorce ur dad.And if ur dad divorces her in any case after what she has done,he is within his rights to do that.
It is concerning that ur mother’s bf is recording her and abusing her.If it is consensual then there is nothing u can do.If it is not u can let ur mother know,let ur dad know and confront her bf, and take appropriate action..
I know it’s very tough to go through what u r going through, but be brave,be strong and find solution with cool mind so that u don’t lose relationship with either ur mom or dad.Don’t make this community honor issue,it’s ur personal issue,not community honor issue
Dear Saumik,
Your dilemma and anguish is understandable. Your mother thinks she love you. In reality, what she has done is for her personal happiness without thinking of your welfare and ran only for her own happiness.
What is important now is how you can be happy and how to build normal life for your own happiness within the current circumstance. You have control only on your behavior and in your case, there is not much you can do to change actions of your mother.
You are very intelligent and sensitive person and you will sure be finding ways to move forward towards and \will soon be leading to happy life on your own.
General knowledge pertinent to life both in Sanatana Dharma as well as in Islam is required before jumping into the interfaith living that you now are forced to live in.
This general knowledge will be helpful to you and to your mother to remain watchful and be prepared for unforeseen and unpredicted unhappy life situation in future and for developing right actions plan today for unexpected turns in future life with Muslim husband.
Your mother and/or yourself have to be willing to do some soul searching on your own to learn about difference between open free minded Hindu living that you already know about and the unknown hidden islamic life that is strictly mandated and bound by the dictates of Quran.
It is proven with real life stories on reality show called “Dr Phil” in USA that very few grown up women do naturally loose mental balance and become blind in matter of romance and sex that no one, including their children, can convince them otherwise. I watched only 5 different live episodes of grown children of widowed mother bringing their mother on show to make them wake up and see the truth that everybody else is able to see. Dr. Phil failed in all 5 cases to convince mothers that their online romantic partner is a fake and stop sending money to them because they promise to come and marry you, but they will never physically come and marry you. These women so strongly fight back to prove their true love with a real person that you see the level sickness in matter of romance and sex for these women.
All of them, at the end, do see the light when Dr. Phil presents investigative videos of the fake photos, fake address in foreign countries and sometime bringing the real person whose picture was stolen and used by scammers.
Below are some ready list on differences that you can VERIFY on your own:
1. In India, Nikah and and Islamic divorce do not fall under jurisdiction of indian constitution and justice system. Nikah and islamic Tallak/Halala are fully controlled by Qazis(Islamic judge) muftis(Islamic Counsel) and mullahs all appointed by the Muslim society (called Ummah) under the Sheria and Quranic laws.
2. Men have more legal rights over women under sheria constitution. Women do not have equal eights with men. Non-Muslim women are considered a commodity that you can win as prize and not think of them as a living human being.
3. Hindu scriptures are guidebooks without mandatory rules allowing to use your own judgement under the situation. Quran gives rules and laws that are not open to thinking or inquiry and are mandatory for living as Muslim.
4. Hindu scripture keep whole humanity as same. Islam prescribes violence against non-Muslim humans.
5. Muslim children grow up in the closed Islamic society with mindset of “despise for non-Muslim as less than humans” and it stays in their subconscious mind for ever.
6. In case of dispute or disagreement, Islam does not have flexibility to negotiate for overall happiness of all parties.
7. Suggest read Quran or watch Quran reading by Ex-Muslim on their youTube channels.
8 . Learn as to how Hindu scholars speech contents with due respect to whole humanity. Also find out that Islamic scholars preach Quran prescribed violence against innocent non-Muslim human beings, that they call Kafr or kafirs.
9. Hinduism is an ancient human civilization that is always evolving and reforming with the time. The Islam is relatively young cast-in-stone rigid lifestyle created and prescribed by one Man called “prophet” just about 13 centuries ago.
Wish you happy life forward on your own
..Dahyabhai Patel
If your website is open all than it is good but you should care this website should not become part of propgenda and mussguiding.
Same reply is given to Asif guy –
Ayesha, you are demanding from ADMIN to be supportive of Muslim man-hindu woman’s marriage.
Will you demand same from your community for muslim girls & not just for you alone?
Yes some muslims really love hindu women but that doesn’t mean it should be allowed & encouraged cause vast majority of the time their goal is to spread Islam.
If muslims are really that loving & peaceful do we see these kind of situations in so called muslim countries which have majority of peaceful muslims?
Forget about the muslim countries, even non-muslim countries the ratio of Muslim men marrying to non-muslim women is very skewed.
Do those peaceful muslim men raise their women in liberal fashion & mentality such as non-muslims?
Do those peaceful muslim men give their women freedom to love & marry non-muslim men?
Do those peaceful muslim men stand for muslim women marrying non-muslim men?
Love jihad is becoming more & more rampant & you are teaching us here to be liberal & open minded.
We already are & still in majority cases hindu family either support hindu girl’s marriage to muslim boy or simply allow them to marry & break their relations with her.
What you muslims do in Islamic countries?
Do we find skewed ratio of muslim girls marrying hindu men or non-muslim men?
1st know jiahdi exclusive mentality of your community then go & preach non-muslims to be unbiased.
Watch this if you can –
& tell me How your peaceful muslims would react if this has been happeing in Islamic countries?
Lets see your answer.
Love Jihad at your door step | Ft. Swati Goel Sharma | AKTK Podcast
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GbHgEpQNZ0s
Its series –
Forced Conversions || Ep 1A – Minor Hindu girls || Ft. Nitin Gupta
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fif-B1IGXto
इस्लामियों , इसायियों और उनके पाले NGOs द्वारा हिंदू संतों पर नित नए प्रहार || Manushi India ||
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OurN838xbi8
What Muslims are really aiming in India
https://www.youtube.com/c/manushiIndia1Manushi/videos
Mr admin sorry to say but I analysis you never support any hindu girl to marry with muslim boy.
Sorry if I am wrong but If I am wrong than show where you support any hindu girl to marry with muslim boy?
Ayesha you need to understand that my mother is already married but she is now ready to break her marriage and get remarried to the muslim who already has a wife.
It is the Indian government to be blamed here for having separate laws for different citizens of India. It is favouring Muslims, who can have up to 4 wives. This man is already married to a Muslim lady but looking for extra marital relationship and to convert a Hindus. Once he has two wives, he will certainly keep eyes open for more victims. Thanks to Indian government and its irrational laws.
Admin, u r doing a cheap thing here, i agree with Ayesha who is accusing u of biasedness towards Muslim community and running ur propoganda, first of all most of these post r fake incidents, second, u mentioned that the mother who is married to Muslim and converted can’t leave Islam and remarry a non Muslims which is absolutely bullshit and a lie. This is India not Iran aur Saudi, a Muslim too have rights by law to leave Islam and Marry non Muslim and get converted so stop ur bullshit, now u said, it’s problem of Indian law that gives polygamy rights to Muslim while i agree Polygamy should be banned for Muslim in India but u can’t blame this law here as this woman already knew he’s married so why she is going for him, this shows woman has absolutely no problem with it this is her free will and u as a progresive should respect her will. U people r misleading and spreading hatred for Muslims and Islam.
Also most of these incidents seem to me as fake.
Asif,
We are concerned also if these are fake stories or what. We have deleted many such stories where we found some lie but we cannot delete this Soumik’s story just because it cannot be or making Islam look bad, if you feel that way.
Now tell us if this is true “Muhammad said: “Whoever changes his Islamic religion, then kill him.” (Bukhari 9.84.57)”? For a common Muslim to declare he/she is now Hindu is not apostasy? Do you think Muslim community will not be bothered by such an event and there will not be any action against that person? Do you think it is easy for a Muslim to convert to Hinduism compared to a Hindu to convert to Islam in India? Which of these will be more difficult?
I am glad you feel, “Polygamy should be banned for Muslim in India.” Even Dilip Kumar took advantage of it and later regretted for it. What have you done to promote to make a law banning polygamy?
On “this woman already knew he’s married so why she is going for him”, in most cases that we know, this fact is disclosed only after the lady is already in love. Actually the need for conversion is also disclosed only after the Hindu party is deep in love. Is that not love-Jihad?
Why Muslims are obsessed about conversion of non-Muslim to Islam for marriage? If the love is true, why such Jihadi ideologies are still being promoted today, especially by most progressive Muslim youths? Why not people like you are promoting interfaith couples to get married by the Special Marriage Act 1954, and, in your words, “her free will and u as a progresive should respect her will.”
Sorry to say that ur arguments is very poor and childish. As i said, we r in India not a shariah law based country where what is written in the Quran will be applied, Ayesha is right u r running a propaganda here to demean Muslim community. What is written in any religion book is not a problem what people follow is otherwise in the bible, in hindu scriptures there r many inhumane barbaric verses against humanity. Looks like u r unaware of cases where Muslim converted and married non Muslims of India, I’m from India and i know my society like a back of my hand, there r many Muslim girls who married non Muslims and got converted, conversion is a personal choice of anyone, yes, there r many marry according to special marriage acts but many don’t so whether to convert or not i will leave it to the couple bcz in our patriarchal society, even if no conversion happens, children r named as per father religion and married women too get husband surname so if one partner has no problem in keeping husband surname or children names and we don’t question this patriarchy of giving husband surname then we should not question even the conversion as well as the partner do for their partners
Now, regarding polygamy, even if a woman was in relation and then came to know he’s already married and despite that she went for it then we should respect her decision, nobody is forcing the women to marry a polygamous man she can move away easily so don’t give bullshit logic
Also as i said, u r indeed running propaganda, u r using a propaganda term non existence term(which even Gov of India denies) ‘love Jiha*’ so if a hindu girl converts then according to u it’s love Jih*d, while as i said u, i know my society quite well, there r many Muslims girls even some Muslim boys who converted for their partners so what term will u use for them? U should answer me on this or else continue to run ur anti Muslim anti Islamic propaganda
We are not talking about what was our (old) society but what is going today. You said, “in our patriarchal society,” but in that (old) societal rule, there were no interfaith marriages. Now if interfaith or inter-denominational marriages are common practice, then this “patriarchal society” has to change and accept equality for both gender. Indian women deserve equal rights.
In the new society, these norms should changed too, “children r named as per father religion and married women too get husband surname”, why it has to be that way? Take the case of Soha Ali Khan, who married a Hindu, but her daughter got her first name based on Koran, Anaaya (a middle name based on Hinduism). Why she is breaking the patriarchal societal practices? Why Kareena picked Taimur? We hope the second son’s name will be non-Arabic to show equality in her life.
We believe in today’s world, people get stuck on old “book” and ask for conversion is wrong. That practice should end, and now. Once one is ready to marry interfaith, he/she should be ready to give up all “old practices” and norms.
On Love-Jihad, this is a generic word to explain the situation where a person gets in love without full disclosures but ask for conversion after the person is trapped in love. Yes, it is the same term should be used (as a generic term) if the Hindu asked for conversion of Muslim for marriage.
I fully agree “to convert or not i will leave it to the couple,” but we hope today’s interfaith couples make decision on their own and not out of societal pressure or try to fit “old practices.”
Saumik’s mother converted by her wish and is legal. There is nothing anyone can do or should do. However, it must be painful for Saumik to go through such a life situation and has rights to express it here. Is it not?
Look, just like we don’t complain on naming children and giving surname likewise we shouldn’t cry over conversion, it’s should be left to the couple decision, they have rights to decide for themselves, we shouldn’t complain on it unless the couple itself do, i said u i don’t cry over conversion issues as it’s useless, giving the patriarchy we have, the women after marriage will be indirectly forced to follow husband faiths so as far as she or he has no problem we should not give it any conspiracy or propaganda term. Even elite people do, India attorney Harish Salve married a brit woman and converted and baptized for her so why should we have problem when he hasn’t. If anyone asks me to convert and i did then one should respect my decision, don’t give it any stupid conspiracy or term. U people r not true fighter of freedom of choice, as far as one isn’t complaining about conversion or having husband surname also this surname is also common in the west as well
We should avoid stupid term love Jih*d, people convert and leave an ideology for favor, we should respect their choice even if comes out of some greed or whatever unless she/he complains.
So refrain from using term like love jiha* even if the girl is ready to convert,respect her choice, there r millions of people who change political/religious and other ideology for their benefits, we don’t question them so we shouldn’t question it
In my relatives too 2 hindu women married and converted and both r happily living with their husbands and we should respect their choice and let them enjoy live as they wish.
Thanks and avoid any conspiracy term
yes,it’s about toxic patriarchy and bigoted tribalism..it’s all about denying women the freedom to choose their own spouse.Also,they would rather prefer women to suffer in a bad marriage than divorcing husband and choosing man of their choice and be happy
We have moved your comment here https://interfaithshaadi.org/we-should-not-cry-over-conversion/#comment-428307
Admin & others should know that its useless to have meaningful discussion with muslim.
This Ayesha & you are demanding from ADMIN to be supportive of Muslim man-hindu woman’s marriage.
Will you demand same from your community?
Yes some muslims really love hindu women but that doesn’t mean it should be allowed & encouraged cause vast majority of the time their goal is to spread Islam.
If muslims are really that loving & peaceful do we see these kind of situations in so called muslim countries which have majority of peaceful muslims?
Forget about the muslim countries, even non-muslim countries the ratio of Muslim men marrying to non-muslim women is very skewed.
Do those peaceful muslim men raise their women in liberal fashion & mentality such as non-muslims?
Do those peaceful muslim men give their women freedom to love & marry non-muslim men?
Do those peaceful muslim men stand for muslim women marrying non-muslim men?
Love jihad is becoming more & more rampant & you both muslims teaching us here to be liberal & open minded.
We already are & still in majority cases hindu family either support hindu girl’s marriage to muslim boy or simply allow them to marry & break their raltions with her.
What you muslims do in Islamic countries?
Do we find skwed ratio of muslim girls marrying hindu men or non-muslim men?
1st know your jiahdi exclusive mentality of your community then go & preach non-muslims to be unbiased.
Watch this if you can –
& tell me How your peaceful muslism would react if this has been happeing in Islamic countries?
Lets see your answer.
Love Jihad at your door step | Ft. Swati Goel Sharma | AKTK Podcast
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GbHgEpQNZ0s
Its series –
Forced Conversions || Ep 1A – Minor Hindu girls || Ft. Nitin Gupta
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fif-B1IGXto
इस्लामियों , इसायियों और उनके पाले NGOs द्वारा हिंदू संतों पर नित नए प्रहार || Manushi India ||
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OurN838xbi8
What Muslims are really aiming in India
https://www.youtube.com/c/manushiIndia1Manushi/videos
This is such a painfull incident of my life and I felt a little better after discussing the issue here, it is true that my mother by her own will leaving my father and now ready to be the second begum of a muslim man,
Ayesha
We love to interact with you–that is what intellectuals do—that is to challenge each other on certain viewpoints.
Straight answer to your question, we said in our book in 2017, Kareen Kapoor-Saif Ali Khan’s marriage is an admirable act. Is that sufficient to comfort you? If not, we have made 4,600 comments on this website since 2009. Please cut and paste (and include the URL link) our statement that you found objectionable. We believe whatever we said is in line with our mission statement.
At a high level, we are here to promote pluralism. We believe you are also a true pluralist, is that still correct? We hope you will not cave into pressure from your imam and community to ask your Hindu lover to (fake)convert and nurture Islamic supremacist exclusivist ideology.
If Allah comes to you and tell you, “Ayesha, I made you smart and educated. Go do that is most logical and rational. Don’t believe to middlemen (or middlewomen). Whatever you do, use your own brain, not others. I (Allah) will judge you on what YOU do.” If Allah Himself empowered you, what would you do?
We asked Mac (https://interfaithshaadi.org/muslims-perspective-5-points-hindu-muslim-dating/) to write about his vision of Hindu-Muslim marriage. We request you here to write in 500-1000 words what is your vision of Hindu-Muslim marriage. We are waiting!
Yes my mother is now fell into love and lust with that muslim guy and the guy is also very smart to convince mother mother to be his 2nd begum, I think my mother only thinking to fullfill her desires now.
you are telling you are supporter of pluralism bu I see many time on your website when you and your comenter mussguide about muslim family.
If I am worong than sorry but you should care this.
You should delete all comment and sentences when people try to misguide about muslim family.
I will share my view and experience on your provided link but please sure me i will be not hurt on that post.
Because I very herted on your website.
Answer of your questions.
(1) I am also supporter of pluralism
(2) Allah said in the Quran for using mind.
I want also share my point on view to your provided link but I am fearing becuse I have all ready hurted by mussguider comments so you should delete comment who mussguide.
If you are pluralism supporter than I hope you are knowing. Same problem for every girl (every relagion ) who want interfaith marrige.
But on the your website pepole mussguide about muslim family so I think you should make a policy.
I hope you will be make a policy than muslim can also visit your website without any problem.
This website is open to all, especially people like you.
Note this is an open forum and thus we have a limited control on what people say here. We cannot start removing comments that we do not like, because that way we end up creating a bias collection of material. That is not good for people.
For your personal situation, remember, interfaith marriage is not a rose garden. You will hear hasty comments from both sides of families and distance relatives. However, you have to learn to filter bad comments out and focus on your goal. Actually, this website is a good training ground for you for what could come in your life. Best wishes.
bro u ned to understand it , he is your mother lover he takes care of her loves her , if for once forgot he is muslim , tell me dont u find him a real man who makes your mother feel like real woman and feminine.
bro my mother also married a muslim guy we must accept this and respect our mother even more let her enjoy her life and her womanhood ,she deserves love
You are May be right, she is indeed very happy and excited about relationship
Hi soimik
What is the age difference between your mother and her lover?
My mother is 5-6 years older
Hi soumik
How did the lover’s mother react to the marriage of your mother and lover?
She was initially unwilling but later agreed
Hi soumik
Who do you hold responsible for your mother’s new marriage? Sexual attraction or economic reasons.
Ho soumik
How has your mother’s marriage affected your social life?
Love jihad is becoming more & more rampant & you are teaching here to be liberal & open minded.
We already are & still in majority cases hindu family either support hindu girl’s marriage to muslim boy or simply allow them to marry & break their raltions with her.
What muslims do in Islamic countries?
Do we find skewed ratio of muslim girls marrying hindu men or non-muslim men?
Watch this if you can –
& tell me How peaceful muslims would react if this has been happeing in Islamic countries?
Love Jihad at your door step | Ft. Swati Goel Sharma | AKTK Podcast
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GbHgEpQNZ0s
Its series –
Forced Conversions || Ep 1A – Minor Hindu girls || Ft. Nitin Gupta
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fif-B1IGXto
इस्लामियों , इसायियों और उनके पाले NGOs द्वारा हिंदू संतों पर नित नए प्रहार || Manushi India ||
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OurN838xbi8
What Muslims are really aiming in India
https://www.youtube.com/c/manushiIndia1Manushi/videos
Regarding divorce also they have proper plan to get mother father into serious legel trouble,to avoid the trouble my father will be asked to simply dgive the divorce without any interference to my mothers life
My mother is financially moderate, and the muslim guy is not so financially strong. As I have told her that the guy can give you talaak after few years, she did not take it seriously and now she doesn’t listen to me ar even care about me, she is only dreaming to getting married again.
You may have heard love of mother stories that she will even give up her life to save a son. However, here, the mother does not give a damn to satisfy her lust.
Well, as per Western standards, she is an adult and has rights to do that is good for her. She knows what is good for her and the son (you) is already an adult, so why should not she follow what is right for her? True, she should do that is good in her interest. However, you (son) need to know that you have a mother not that typical stories you heard. Keep it in mind if she comes back broke and begging for you help some 10 years down the road (again, in the West, parents don’t count on their son for their welfare). So, follow the Western standards from this point on.
Why your father is fearful of legal trouble? Is he fearful of some physical hard in your West Bengal from the guy?
Absolutely right, I have already discussed about all the cons of her relationship and future effects but she is in a complete different state of mind and she is very eager to be the begum of the muslim guy that she is not considering any negative points.
How much you care to stop your mother from getting re-married?
Your Hindu mother is “married” now and the divorce proceeding can go on for several years. Till that time, she cannot officially marry another person, even a Muslim. We are glad you are trying to educate her for what is coming. She is not in love but infatuations or lust. It is possible it may end in a year or two when reality hits her. If not, there is nothing much you can do later (thus do your best now).
What is your father has to say or do all about? Is he willing to give her divorce easily so she could go to the Muslim easily?
Is there any family relatives (like your maternal uncle, etc) who can talk to her?
How about finances? Do your mother have asset or money? How about the Muslim guy, is he rich or poor?
It is sad that India has unfair marriage laws. A Muslim has nothing to loose by marrying her (or again to another one later). He can always get rid of her or can get a third wife later. For Islam, Nikah is not a sacrament, but a contract to sleep with someone, simple. This is also an opportunity for the Muslim to convert a Hindu and this will secure a spot in Allah’s heaven. He does not have a true love for her, because he will walk away for sure if she does not convert. He is a love-Jihadi (view: https://youtu.be/-Y19i0dCeq4 )
For you, you are an adult and thus must be ready to live your own life on your own. If you feel that way, tell your mother that if she marries the guy, you are ending your son-Mother relationship (it may work is she cares for you, try!). It is possible if she gets dump by this guy after a few years, she may come back begging you to take care of her (at that time, you will be earning). Remind her of this situation. If she don’t not care for you, well, so sad!
My mother will send divorce notice to my father soon, the muslim man already married once and have two children and my mother has no problem with it. The mother of the muslim man convinced my mother to get nikah soon after sending divorce notice
Hi Saumik, you can help open mind of your mother. Does she know what she is getting into? She will have to take care of you, his two prior children and may be a few more by her new marriage. It is possible (most probably) that she will ultimately abandon you (especially if you don’t convert, your step father will not care for you). For your personal interest, try to educate her.
Remind her that in next 10 years he may find another younger girl to marry, will your mother be okay with it? Note talaak is easy for Muslim man compared to women. Has she read the Koran (Koran on Hindus? -ask her to read from above)? Does she know that after the talaak, she can marry only another Muslim only, not any one from another religion? Does she know that she cannot leave Islam after Shahadah, even she does not like it any more (Muhammad said: “Whoever changes his Islamic religion, then kill him.” (Bukhari 9.84.57))?
Another thing you can do is to take her to his community at night at 9 pm and sit there for 2-3 hours. Do you feel safe and comfortable? If not, how can you think of spending whole life in such community/atmosphere? Remind her that the dating time promises and lust will not last a few months into married life and she may be stuck in a new reality. Is she really ready for it?
You are an adult and in your personal interest it is important to educate her, and now. Let us know how can we help you help her?
Hi somik
Did they both get married again?
Yes and my mother is pregnant now
Soumik
Are you still living with your mother?
Hi Saumik, does your dad aware of the situation? Should you inform him? You learn more about what it means being dating a muslim or marrying one and try to explain it to your mother. Talaak may be out but polygamy is legally allowed in India for Muslims. If there is an age gap, it is possible in a few years your mother may go in menopause stage and this young guy may leave your mother. Try to discuss with your mother open-heart and mind and let us know how it goes.