Summary: I am Geetha. I was fooled to convert to Islam by my Muslim husband (by a civil marriage) when I was pregnant. I was unaware, confused, and put under extreme pressure to pronounce some Arabic words. Even the mosque did not inform me that it was a conversion to Islam. I was beaten. My life is ruined and is in extreme pain. Now I want a divorce. What should I do now? Please share your views at YouTube and I will be reading. -Geetha
VIDEO MESSAGE: I was trapped to convert to Islam when I was pregnant: A painful story of a Hindu victim (click here)
My life from Childhood till met this guy
I’m Hindu and raised as completely Hindu. Even though I’m a girl but never restricted at my home for my freedom, raised me to be independent. I grew up in a village, where there was not much awareness and information about religions and everyone use to follow their born faith. I used to think all religions are the same, teach to be good human beings. I used to follow basic hindu traditions and was liberal follower of my faith.
I moved to the city for my higher education, where I met him through one of my friends.
My first meeting with him
After I met him, we were friends for around 5-6 months, we used to meet and talk. It developed into like later we loved each other and decided to get into a relationship.
How I fall in love
He is very calm in nature. He seemed soft hearted, and didn’t like to get into any kind of trouble. He had more Hindu friends than Muslims. I thought he is liberal and gets along with my family too in the same way. Also his mother was Hindu before marriage, I thought he is connected with both religions relatives, he is much aware of everything. When I go to temples, he used to come with me inside temples but never prayed. I didn’t expect it to be their wish.
He used to go to the mosque only on Fridays, does not seem strict Muslim in behavior or appearance.
In our talks also he never brought up anything that belongs to religion. I didn’t feel or see anything much about him as a Muslim.
Later years I saw some red flags but I adjusted and waited for change in him.
I did not know much about Islam before I met him
My life around 15 years ago, we didn’t have the internet and access like now to know about everything around us. I grew up in small towns, where there is not much scope to get books to learn about other faiths. All I know about Islam is by seeing other Muslims around me. I didn’t see any difference from being outside what exactly Muslims life is.
My parents were not able to explain to me what exactly was wrong with Muslims as they also grew up like me. I’m also their beloved daughter so they were not much opposite but more hesitant about society, prestige and concern was not well settled and not having wealth.My other Hindu friends also never interfered much into personal life and didn’t cautioned me about this marriage. Everyone normally used to think he wasn’t suitable for my way of life.
Role of religions in early life
He didn’t ask me anything about conversions, being a Muslim etc. He didn’t even promise anything either. I regret now for not talking to those in the beginning of the relationship.
I used to be the same during the relationship too, he never objected to my appearance or activities. I thought he was respecting me and giving my privacy for my beliefs.
He was not religious during the relationship and early marriage.His parents are never happy with our marriage. I used to speak to his parents as his friend, later when the proposal came, based on my way of talking, his dad assumed I would never accept to convert and I’m not the one suitable for his son. He also opposed his parents to marry me. He moved to another country along with me.
We got married
I understand that this marriage will never happen. I thought to focus on my career and begged my parents to send me for higher education to another country. Once I moved, he was also moved, he couldn’t be without me.
After some struggles in a new country, we were together and overcame most of them and got into registered marriage. I was the same like Hindu even after the marriage, but he had very great patience and waited for the best time to apply his Islamic ideas.
He started changing
The majority of the things changed once his parents were involved in our lives. Once he informed at his home about my pregnancy and marriage. They checked about the type of marriage, asked him to remarry again in islamic only as considered as marriage, he didn’t say “No” to any of their requests.
Slowly he started implementing one after another like a language has to speak Urdu, I have to cover(Hijab) all the time, and I should not use bindi or Tilak on my forehead. Kid name and circumcision etc.
I have adjusted to many of the things but i never had intention to leave my religion.
I got pregnant
During pregnancy, he spoke to me about marriage in Islamic way, by saying that he is only son and parents wanted to see his marriage and the Civil marriage was not considered in Islam. I have asked normal questions why and etc. but he insisted saying its only marriage nothing will be changed later. He was on job trails and some months away from home. I have dealt with all types of struggles alone. As per Islam they are against the Hindu rituals to do during pregnancy. He cut down those by saying financially not well and no well wishers around us. We decide on a kid name which represents both cultures. Out of the blue after delivery he added muslim name, as the name doesn’t look like a Muslim name.
I was fooled to convert to Islam
Once he convinced me, as it’s an interfaith marriage, I respected his opinions and adjusting in some things makes our relationship better. He didn’t say anything about Islamic marriage ritual and took me to a mosque to get married and there they asked my name, I said my Hindu name, as they said only Muslim name required to write down. Then some muslim name was given.
They (Imam) said something to me to repeat after them. I did. But later I realized its was not marriage but it was conversion. I devastated and questioned him after that but he said he didn’t know either. He said it is not mandatory to follow Islam, this is only for whom converts heartfully (mine was fake!). I relaxed as I was not aware and I was not interested in Islam.
We had Nikah
But later I realized its not marriage but its conversion. I devastated and questioned him after that but he said he didn’t know either, its not mandatory to follow Islam. I relaxed as I was not aware and I was not interested in it. Later we were married in the Islamic way.
I trusted him all the time, I believed his words. I didn’t think anything negative about him.Once he realized that I’m not going to follow his religion at all, he tortured me physically, mentally. Once police became involved when he started mentally abusing me and I decided to divorce.
Religion of my son
His has a Muslim name. I want to teach and raise him in both religions, later my son can decide what he wants to be in as an adult.
Current status
After all I have requested, explained, fought, argued, counter attacked with many flaws in Islam. I tried all the possible ways to make this marriage better but he is getting deeper into religion and trying to implement sharia laws at home.
Even though I’m working, I do not to have financial freedom, I can’t invite friends and don’t have freedom to meet others. I have to obey him. I do not have rights to pray and follow my own Hindu faith. I have no chance to teach Hinduism to my child. It is such mental torture and its breaking me down all the ways. I’m ready for divorce. I wish to have my kid with me.
Message to other Hindu girls
There is no perfect lover amongst Muslims. Their religion itself is against the word LOVE. So it’s all a trap for a Hindu girls.
In their priority list God, Parents, Kids, their Community and only after it the wife. You are the least option for them after all. They never change or compromise on religion for anyone.I believe Love means letting live peaceful and happy and acceptance means accepting you ‘as it is’. That is not what Muslims learned. That will never happen with a Muslim boy because you are not their priority. They show all drama only to get you into a trap. Once they know you can’t escape they show all their true colors and intentions.
More information:
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Book (Interfaith marriage) by Dr. Dilip Amin
Hindu-Muslim Marriage (Hindi)
Hindu-Muslim marriage (English)
Other Hindu-Muslim Marriage, Sharia, Muslim-Hindu marriages, Hindu-Muslim lovers’ experiences, Koran on Hindus? Hindu girl-Muslim boy, Marriage & Divorce laws.
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Geetha, in the video you said he beat you. Can you tell us his justification for it?