PRATEEK says: December 25, 2021
My girlfriend is a Christian and I am a Hindu Brahmin and we are dating from quite a few years. We want to get married and be together but she believes that for the success of the marriage we both have to be on one platform (faith) which has to be her’s only and hence has a condition that I should know her God and be baptised for us to be together. I have been explaining to her about equality and and that we both should support each other in our respective faiths but she isn’t ready to accept that and says that this marriage can happen only if I move to her side of the faith. I have also explained her the issues that this can cause within me and my family. Eventually we have concluded that this marriage cannot happen because she wants me to leave my faith and she is not ready to accept a neutral ground. I don’t know how to make her change her mind.
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Title – How to take my Hindu-Christian relationship to next step and make it work?
Hi Admin,
I am a Christian (Protestant) and in relation with my boyfriend who is a Hindu for the past 5 years. We decided to take our relation to next step and conveyed this to both of our families. Both our families were against this idea initially. But after one year, his parents have agreed on our marriage but they want the marriage to be a hindu ritual. He convinced them for both marriages and they are ok with christian marriage with a condition that only he will be present in the marriage without his family. I am ok with that.
Now the actual problem starts from my family. We converted from hindus to christians 15 years back and my family is very strict with following bible principles. They are not ok with Hindu marriage. They strongly believe that hindu marriage is idolatry and is against bible. And they also have fear that after marriage my in-laws will ask me to join in pooja. And this will bring curse on me and next generations. I understand their fear because that’s what we are taught everyday in our church.
My boyfriend is neutral he is ok to accept both religions. And he told me that I don’t need to convert but have to join in hindu rituals with his family whenever needed.
I am a very religious person but convinced myself to compromise for my marriage. Still am scared that my parents fear might come true and God will be angry on me and we will be cursed. Or what if what my church teaches about idolatry and devils is true and my life gets ruined?!! I really love my boyfriend and not willing to let go. At the same time I don’t want anything bad to happen to anyone because of my decision! My parents have already setup another christian match for me. I am 28 already and they are in a hurry now.
I really need help to take a decision!! Need help from someone who knows everything about both the religions to guide me what to do? Will God be really upset with me? Will devils destroy my life? Will I not be blessed anymore?
Title – How to take my Hindu-Christian relationship to next step and make it work?
Hi Admin,
I am a Christian (Protestant) and in relation with my boyfriend who is a Hindu for the past 5 years. We decided to take our relation to next step and conveyed this to both of our families. Both our families were against this idea initially. But after one year, his parents have agreed on our marriage but they want the marriage to be a hindu ritual. He convinced them for both marriages and they are ok with christian marriage with a condition that only he will be present in the marriage without his family. I am ok with that.
Now the actual problem starts from my family. We converted from hindus to christians 15 years back and my family is very strict with following bible principles. They are not ok with Hindu marriage. They strongly believe that hindu marriage is idolatry and is against bible. And they also have fear that after marriage my in-laws will ask me to join in pooja. And this will bring curse on me and next generations. I understand their fear because that’s what we are taught everyday in our church.
My boyfriend is neutral he is ok to accept both religions. And he told me that I don’t need to convert but have to join in hindu rituals with his family whenever needed.
I am a very religious person but convinced myself to compromise for my marriage. Still am scared that my parents fear might come true and God will be angry on me and we will be cursed. Or what if what my church teaches about idolatry and devils is true and my life gets ruined?!! I really love my boyfriend and not willing to let go. At the same time I don’t want anything bad to happen to anyone because of my decision! My parents have already setup another christian match for me. I am 28 already and they are in a hurry now.
I really need help to take a decision!! Need help from someone who knows everything about both the religions to guide me what to do? Will God be really upset with me? Will devils destroy my life? Will I not be blessed anymore?
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Hello Prateek,
You are on a right track. Why is she saying there is only one God and that is mine? This is illogical. She is brain washed by her church. Ask her that you will accept Jesus but not the church (meaning not baptised). Explain her all about what we have written in our book Interfaith Marriage: Share and Respect with Equality. We are sure she will realize her mistake and will come to terms. Let us know how it goes.