Riya says: September 10, 2024
Hi Admin,
I am a Christian (Protestant) and in relation with my boyfriend who is a Hindu for the past 5 years. We decided to take our relation to next step and conveyed this to both of our families. Both our families were against this idea initially. But after one year, his parents have agreed on our marriage but they want the marriage to be a hindu ritual. He convinced them for both marriages and they are ok with christian marriage with a condition that only he will be present in the marriage without his family. I am ok with that.
Now the actual problem starts from my family. We converted from hindus to christians 15 years back and my family is very strict with following bible principles. They are not ok with Hindu marriage. They strongly believe that hindu marriage is idolatry and is against bible. And they also have fear that after marriage my in-laws will ask me to join in pooja. And this will bring curse on me and next generations. I understand their fear because that’s what we are taught everyday in our church.
My boyfriend is neutral he is ok to accept both religions. And he told me that I don’t need to convert but have to join in hindu rituals with his family whenever needed.
I am a very religious person but convinced myself to compromise for my marriage. Still am scared that my parents fear might come true and God will be angry on me and we will be cursed. Or what if what my church teaches about idolatry and devils is true and my life gets ruined?!! I really love my boyfriend and not willing to let go. At the same time I don’t want anything bad to happen to anyone because of my decision! My parents have already setup another christian match for me. I am 28 already and they are in a hurry now.
I really need help to take a decision!! Need help from someone who knows everything about both the religions to guide me what to do? Will God be really upset with me? Will devils destroy my life? Will I not be blessed anymore? -Riya
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Dear Riya,
To your question, “Will God be really upset with me?”, no God will not be upset but your intolerant church will. For this reason, you have to decide if you care more for your boyfriend or the church. You said, “I am a very religious person”, what does that mean? You have read the Bible and attended the church, inspite of it, why did you got in love relationship? Please update us with latest in your relationship and we can discuss more for how to salvage this relationship or it is better to end it here. Get back to us soon!