Diya says: March 14, 2018 at 3:02 am
i am in relationship with my boy friend from past six years. now we want to get married. he is sunni muslim and i am hindu, my parents are not happy to see me getting married to him where as his parents seems fine with our relationship. i want to marry him as per court procedure but his parents are insisting on islamic marriage as he is their only son. i am confused what to do, is anyone there who converted and married to muslim ? please share your experience.
Diya says: March 17, 2018 at 4:25 am
thank you for the response.i have gone through the post you shared. his family knows our relation and they like me too, they are ok if i work, go to my parents and live like what i am living now. till now i have not seen them hating hinduism or any other faith. all his parents want to see their child marrying as per their tradition. i have discussed with them about court marriage they are ok with that but they want nikah too.
i would like to talk to someone who converted after marriage and know what and how things are happening with them.
again thank you for help. -Diya
diya says: April 15, 2018 at 5:43 am
admin, my in laws agreed on court marriage even though they are not so happy with it but they are saying i should change my name to muslim name unofficially. i think they fear what their relatives will say on our marriage. -Diya
diya says: April 28, 2018 at 10:02 pm
hello admin, two days ago we got married in court. i am still hindu and no one from his family asking me to convert. they just ask me to keep name as per their wish and i accepted it. so far everything is looking good. thank you for all the support.
diya says: May 24, 2018 at 6:46 am
i am still hindu !
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Dear Diya,
We are proud of you, we just read your statement “diya says: May 24, 2018 at 6:46 am: i am still hindu !” You are a role model for other girls in love with Muslims. If the love is true, there is no need to convert to please an imam.
In case if your Muslim relatives are saying your marriage is not valid in the eye of Allah (Koran 2:221), tell them that your husband is not those relative type of Muslim and never believed in Koran 24:30 (and dated Diya for years). Tell them that he is not a love-Jihadi.
It is a trap, a deliberate trap in islM to coerce non-Muslim girls into Islam by saying you can only marry if you converts to Islam! Islam is very orthodox so are Muslims! Can you even blame your parents? How about your parents asking him to.convert to Hinduism, will he agree and marry you… Ok why don’t you both do one thing, you convert to Islam n let him convert to Hinduism, in that why he will satisfy your parents and you will satisfy his parents! Fair deal, will he agree if not then I won’t say he loves you .
Lost case. She is no more HINDU. She will face the real problem in her entire life. leave her RIP
i am still a hindu !! and stop behaving like immature person and cursing others. and even i face any problem i can deal with it so you better keep quiet
Dear Diya,
We are proud of you and you are a role model for most other Hindu girls. You are writing a new history and we are in full support of you for what you are doing.
Krish, why are you after a girl who is still a Hindu and proud to be one? What she has done is very unusual and is commendable and you should say a few good words for her. Be a realistic, be open minded. We believe all interfaith marriages should be with equality; meaning no conversion. Now say something good to her or leave her alone, thanks.
Dear Admin,
I will give you 100 or more cases (otherwise just seeach in Quora) where these girls are never been allowed to go on temple or worship Idolization. Slowly muslim family will brainwash their mind for sure.
Would you please let me know is there any proof that she is still Hindu. If religion is inherited from husband side, how come she is still Hindu and does her in law allow her or her children to follow Hinduism. Never ever. Diya just giving us a fake information who admire and arrogant to marry a muslim cult.
Krish,
Now we live is a different world and a person like Diya is bringing new changes in life. What ever you are saying is based on last 1000 years of past. Now those things are changing and Diya is a live example of it (the future). It will also help Muslims to change stereotyping by people like Krish. Give her time, please!!! Can you?
On “how come she is still Hindu and does her in law allow her or her children to follow Hinduism. Never ever”, please trust her. She will work on to allow her children to teach Hinduism, but give her some time. Let her enjoy her newly married life now. We are hopeful.
You still Hindu saying will no more valid now.You just satisfied yourself only saying I am still Hindu. Your children will follow muslim rituals.
You cant worship Hindu Idol in your in law. Yes you will face only your bad karma, see how you will handle the extremely worst islamic situation. ISLAM IS CURSE FOR UNIVERSE and YOU TRAPPED DUE TO LOVEJEHAD. But one request please shift to muslim dominated area and live there.
Krish, this is wrong statement, “You cant worship Hindu Idol”, Hindus don’t worship to “idols” (but a Murti) nor Islam’s kaaba is an “idol”. These two are tools to see Isvara/Allah and media to help focus on God.
On “YOU TRAPPED DUE TO LOVEJEHAD”, we don’t think so, we trust her in-laws are open minded. However, if they insist on raising children Islamic only and ever ask her to change her faith, yes, we were wrong and they were love-Jihadis. Diya will come and update us when that day comes (we hope not).
Diya, this is a good forum for you to see the reality of life. People from both sides will tell you all irrational things. As we said before, you will have to learn to smile and move on!! Trust yourself and keep going.
What ever Krish is saying is based on what was happening during past 1000 years but you are bringing a change to that practice, we have high hope in you. We wish to use your experiences and your in-laws as a good example and remove past 1000 years of stereotype on Muslims. Best wishes.
It is my and other Hindu community duty to alert from such fire ball. A religion is hatred by all over world. You are planning to go western and see they hatred?. You influenced because of other’s who converted but you never looked back 90% above cases are failed and divorced.
What is your muslim name??? FAIZA??
I proud of this girl from Kerala:
Her name is Vaishakhi Krishna, former Business Analyst
Please read this story: https://www.quora.com/Do-the-Hindus-respect-the-Quran
Do the Hindus respect the Quran?
I can speak only for myself. I don’t respect Quran for three reasons
If Quran is this perfect, why is it so easily misinterpreted? Countless arguments over every single point. Violence happens all over the world based on this book. Yet people would simply say Quran is misinterpreted or misunderstood. People are dying and you are worried about a book. I don’t think I can respect that book.
It’s free. As a part of popularising islam you will get free Quran from various sources. If it’s really valuable as it says, give it to people who actually values it. No one gives away diamonds without ulterior motives. It applies to other religious books too.
It’s an instruction manual. I am a person who like suggestions if asked for advices. But telling an adult what to do, what to eat, what to wear and what not to sounds extreme to me. I am not a big fan of extremism or rewards after death.
I don’t respect many mythological books in Hinduism too. But they don’t claim to be perfect and the question is not about them. So I guess it’s ok.
Also this doesn’t mean I don’t respect muslims. I respect people irrespective of their religious beliefs.
For all the people who want me to read Quran:
My father wanted me to learn about other religions. So he took me to his friend who was/is a Muslim scholar. They were nice people. I was 11 or 12 years old then.
I wanted to make my dad proud. So I decided to give a sincere effort to learn Quran. I had good impression about that uncle and his family.
Uncle told me the great things about being a muslim just like the comments in this answer. Honestly I believed them. He was a homeo doctor who helped a lot of poor people. He gave Zakat as per Quran. He never used the interest of his deposits from the bank. He gave them away. His wife used to love me. She made my favorite food whenever I went there. There was no way one could dislike them. He used to take classes about Quran in various parts of the world.
In one of the beginning classes itself, uncle told me about the defects of polytheism i.e Hinduism. He told me Muslims are forbidden to do that because Quran says so. He told me why Islam got the highest conversion rates. People from Christianity and Hinduism fails to find the true God and reach the ultimate path of God which is Islam. At this point I started to feel uncomfortable.
He taught me namaz, importance of praying 5 times, becoming clean before praying and all things which I don’t remember exactly as I was hardly 12. Then the rules on dressing, eating and it went on. When the classes continued, instead of feeling nearer to God as he claimed I felt the opposite. He told me why I should convert to Islam. Though seeing the freedom that his 6 year old girl got I decided I would never do that. It was the forceful devotion. A Muslim scholar is teaching a 12 year old kid to hate other religions based on a book. Then you say it’s misinterpretations. Why I should respect a book which even a highly educated doctor can’t interpret properly.
I was extremely religious back then, borderline superstious because of my mom. Still no one asked me to go to temple, worship the specific God. I got choices. I liked the Durga goddess and Ganesha and my brother had different choices. We were not dictated by rules. That instruction manual sucked for a 12 year old and for an adult it’s completely ridiculous. So eventually I stopped going there and decided that Quran is not my cup of tea even for reading . I had other reasons too which is not significant here.
Respect should not be demanded but earned
You are not asking me to read Quran because it is a perfect piece of literature, are you? You want me to reach your religious conclusion that you already have and then you tell me I am brainwashed? Have you read all other religious books before you decided to become a Muslim? Have you read all the books of atheists who strongly believes there is no God but Science? Do you respect atheists?
As for the people who says knowledge is free. No it’s not. No meal is free in this world. Free education is funded by tax payers’ money.
You are giving free Quran because you want people to join Islam. You believe it’s the only right path. Then you will be furious if someone insulted it. If you are giving free Qurans to everyone, you should be tolerant enough when people criticize it. Quran or any other religious books should not be given to people who are not asking for it.
Hey Diya/Fatima,
How is your muslim life now? I know islam is worst ever religion for Women. Hope you are forcing to read Quran and Hadiah to know about Islam. By the way most of the educated mulsim women are leaving Islam, only fooled, low IQ Hindu women converting and getting trapped in Love Jehadi.
Here is the link of Quora and you can get better knowledge on women in islam as you are NOW a MUSLIM WOMEN.
https://www.quora.com/Is-Islam-the-best-religion-for-women
Merve Ozak, MA Cultural Studies, Istanbul Bilgi University (2013)
I’m a Turkish muslim but I’m not religious and have always been more spiritual and much closer to being an atheist.
As much as I’ve read the Quran and other sources about Islam and based on my experiences living in Turkey for 12 years, after I grew-up in New York, USA, I would have to say that Islam is by far the worst religion for women. Supposedly, according to some Muslims, women are to be respected, and put on pedestals. But, that just doesn’t happen as we’ve seen among several different Islamic countries. Islam has made women inferior to men.
Especially in Turkey, women are still being killed, beaten, sexually assaulted or harassed in every way. Just because they are women, and because of the teachings of Islam women’s rights aren’t considered at all. But, in actuality Turkey was the first country in the world to give women the right to vote, all due to the founder Ataturk.
The crimes against women may happen all over the world but in Turkey I’ve seen that women are oppressed due highly to the values taught by Islam. The culture in Turkey is very different according to the various regions; some are more secular and modern (the Western area) yet, the rest of Turkey (the mid-Anatolian) is usually more religious and the most-eastern region (near Irak) has radical sects. However, the atmosphere in Turkey has changed tremendously and because of the increased migration of radical sects towards the West, the crimes against women increase more and more each day. For example, if a woman complains to the police that she is physically abused at home by her husband, the police pretend to write-up a report but send her back to the abusing husband telling her that: “he’s your husband, you should be obedient and he can do whatever he wants.” The blame is easily directed to the woman because of the undermining, culturally engrained teaching of Islam that men are always better than women and can do whatever they want!
Even though Turkey is considered to be a secular country, I think that; in general, women’s rights are being destroyed and women are being attacked due to Islam. (I say this especially because the current government is highly religious.)
Hope a response..
Krish
Diya,
No updates. What is your current religion now? Did you convert to islam?
Happy Bakri-eid. Hope you enjoyed with the butchered cow and goat in bakri eid.
i am still hindu ! . please stop cursing others.
I’m not cursing you. I am cursing YOUR religion called ISLAM A CURSE FOR EARTH. DID you forget that your ancestors were killed, raped, forced converted, destroyed scores of temples, destroyed nalanda, Taxila university (first and foremost university in the universe made by HINDU KING).
U r a Muslim terrorist
Diya,
We are relying on your updates at https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=13432#comment-417091. We are very happy that your Muslim in-laws are open minded. With people like your in-laws, it will help remove stereotype by people like Krish that all Muslims are religious fanatic.
Do let us know when they first raise a question on your name change in any formal document. Meantime, do your home work and be prepared to answer them at that time for what would you do. Best wishes.
One request, people do ask us questions on procedure of the Special Marriage Act 1954: Can you answer these?:
How difficult is the process? Do you have to have a lawyer/attorney?
How long is a waiting period after you file and you are declared married?
Do they inform your parents (both sides)?
What other point you wish to educate about this process?
This will help us educate others, thanks.
Dear Admin,
It is your assumption about me, I do agree and I will never change my thought against muslim. But kindly do let me know following things if I am wrong. How many mulsim girls marrying Hindu guy? why muslim girls are going on right direction where as our Hindu girls (specially brahmins) are always against our culture and nation.
2. I am damn sure Diya would not marry a hindu guy if she would have been borne into a muslim family. She must follow her islamic law.
3. Scores of violence done by mulsims through out India every day, be it West Bengal, Assam or Kerala or J&K.
4. This barbaric Arabian islam cult Muslim man are trying hard and fight to expand their religion in contrast these Hindu girls are easily lured muslim man and killing our culture and tradition why? Are they forget the islamic History.. Millions of our ancestor Hindus are sacrificed for our culture.
5.20 crores mulslim in India but their GDP is 0.00001%. They lives happily in India because of we Hindus Majority.
6.Islam is destroying world sooner or later.
7. Why so many muslim countries are dying???
Krish,
You have certainly lots of hatred for Muslims and exaggerating facts. Prove “20 crores mulslim in India but their GDP is 0.00001%”. Are you saying all Hindus are saints, including those rapists? Tell us how come Hanah Khan, a Muslim, is a bad person and hurting India? Tell us what you wish to gain by harassing Diya? Stop commenting anything negative to Diya otherwise we will put a ban on your comments for a month.
Admin,
it is your wish to ban or not and you please ban me for as long as you want . As you said those rapist? Rape is heinous crime irrespective of religion but failed to understand What is the relation between conversion and rape we discussed here? can you please correct me this GDP figure that I have mentioned here. Which rapist you are talking about. Kathua rape?. I am from north east and there are 26 rape case in Assam in one month done by Bangaladeshi.. do you know.
Dear Krish,
We value your (including Diya, Shafiya, mac and Hanah) contributions however you have to respect other’s choices. You can make points that someone should be careful about. Ultimately it is their life and have to make decisions in their own situation (that we are not fully aware of).
What you are saying may turn out totally wrong in Diya’s situation or alternatively they may come back pressuring (or by love!!) her to change her name in official documents. We will not know this overnight and she will update us as things progresses. Meantime, let her enjoy her married life; not ruined by doubts but by love. Stay tuned!
Kerala will be Islamic state in 10 years: Filmmaker–Sudipta.
AROUND 33,000 HINDU GIRLS CONVERTED IN LAST 10 YEARS.
https://www.thequint.com/entertainment/celebrities/alia-bhatt-and-aamir-khan-work-on-labour-day-for-paani-foundation?utm_source=quora
New Delhi, April 30 (IANS) Kerala will turn into an Islamic state in 10 years, said documentary filmmaker Sudipto Sen on Monday whose film on religious conversion was opposed at JNU by a section of students.
Sen’s “In Name of love” was screened last week amid protests led by the left-wing students union of the Jawaharlal Nehru University. It led to a violence between the union members and the organisers, many of whom belonged to the right-wing Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS).
His entire movie, Sen said, was based on an interview given by former Kerala Chief Minister V.S. Achuthanandan in 2010 in which the Marxist leader, as shown in the film, spoke about the issue of conversion.
“The issue in Kerala is not one of ‘love jihad’. It is of the largest conspiracy being hatched against the country of India… I am only supporting what Achuthanandan said.
“After 10 years of what he had said, we did an evaluation, and in that evaluation we found such hair raising facts… We can say that in 10 years from now, Kerala will be converted into an Islamic state,” Sen told the media here.
Asked whether he was open to conversation with the left-wing students who opposed his movie’s screening, he said his film was his “language” and that he was not averse to opposition provided people watched his movie first.
“I personally do not believe in ‘love jihad’. Our film is based on the issue of conversion, it is based on the statistics of 33,000 girls who were either converted to Islam or trafficked to Middle East.”
WHY I HATE ISLAM.WHAT IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF HATING ISLAM THROUGH OUT THE WORLD.
READ MY QUOTES BELOW:
Why is it that many prominent educated liberal Muslim men marry Hindu woman but hardly any prominent Hindu man is married to Muslim woman?
There are so many big reasons that hardly any Hindu man marry with a Muslim woman.Do you know this this guy? His name is Ankit Saxena. He was an ultra liberal,peace loving, kind and secular person and had no connection with any “saffron terror” organizations. He used to celebrate Eid with his Muslim friends.He was in relationship with a Muslim girl and wanted to marry her.
But one day His throat was brutally slit by Girl’s family members on a busy Delhi road. He had no communal thoughts in mind,he used to celebrate Eid with his Muslim friends; but still killers showed no mercy on him. Why? Because after all, he was a Hindu. Nobody was there to run #NotInmyname campaign for him.. Nobody protested for him with candle march.No bollywood celebrity shared any photo with card board on Twitter or Instagram. Nobody’ wife felt any danger or unsafety or rising intolerance even after seeing ISIS style cruel murder on a busy road of India’s capital.This is the main reason,why no Hindu dares to marry any Muslim woman, as he knows that his fate will be same as Ankit Saxena.
And believe me, there are thousands of Ankit Saxenas who met the same fate.
Krish,
We share your concerns. Islam and Muslims at large are unfair to Hindus in marriage. All Muslims start love by saying we respect your belief and are tolerant, but Muslims, in majority cases, will want the Hindu to convert to Islam (i.e. Love Jihad). Islam is playing an unfair game with all other faiths; this is because of their supremacist exclusivist teachings.
Question is how to deal with such unfair game being played? We have covered Islam’s exclusivity extensively in our book. In Ankit Saxena’s case, if Hindus did not do all that you mentioned, they should. We believe education is the key, not fighting/revenge.
Dear Admin,
Those Hindu girls converting just to marry their mulsim man are too educated but they dont hesitate to convert from their ancient religion. They thinks their love is more justified and high priority than their original religion and their nation as well as their parents due to this mentality they embracing islam and trying justify their motivation. Infact most of the such cases failed (around 70%) later on and 30% remain intact due to these converted adjust with their islam ritual like Shafiya. Anyway more population of islam is extremely dangerous for common people. Education is not a matter, but I think our Hindu girls should more involve into Hinudism culture and more focus on our veda, upnished etc and this is the duty of their parents.
Krish,
Lets discuss some points you raised about Hindu girls and what they should be or should not be doing. To our experience, it is not that some Hindu girls are looking to be a Muslim and that is why they are dating a Muslim. Actually in most cases it is a trap. In initial love/dating period, people from all faiths present themselves as secular and pluralist (respecting all faiths). It is only after years of romantic relationship, the subject of religious conversion or name change (like with Diya) comes up. To avert marital gridlock, the Hindu girl ultimately reluctantly accepts the conversion/name change request.
On your point “Education is not a matter”, we do not mean education as a college degree but knowledge about what is on the way to come. In love, some girls are blind to see truth while others will come to this site to get educated and will take appropriate steps.
https://www.quora.com/Is-Bangladesh-bad-for-Hindus-Buddhists-or-other-minorities
Is Bangladesh bad for Hindus, Buddhists, or other minorities?
I am a Bangladeshi Buddhists currently residing in USA and yes Bangladesh is bad for minorities. However it also depends on which type of minority you belong to..Hindus have fewer and least rights in Bangladesh. Starting from destruction of temples, illegal land grabbing, rape of Hindu women to discrimination in the government sectors everywhere hindus are persecuted. Hindus are 9% in Bangladesh but Bangladesh never had a hindu mayor, there have been only 2 or 3 hindu ministers, only a handful of hindu officers are there in the army and the representation of hindus in the bangladeshi parliament is negligible. However when talking about the Buddhists of Bangladesh, the Muslims of Bangladesh cannot persecute us because we have been tough on them and not because they have a soft corner for us. During the 1970s our condition were worse than hindus of Bangladesh and the Muslims along with the Bangladesh army wanted to Islamize and Bengalify the tribal buddhist population of the Chittagong hill tracts. Tribal Buddhist and Bengali buddhists too were heavily discriminated back then. Majority of the Buddhists of the hills were unemployed and had no proper access to education. To make things worse, the army also brought thousands of illegal muslims in the hill tracts because they wanted us to turn into a minority in our own lands and according to their plans the Muslims used to illegally grab our lands and rape our women. Then we took up arms and for the next 20 years we fought the oppressive Bangladesh army and In 1997 the army was forced to sign a peace treaty and we got everything starting from quotas in jobs and education to equal representation in the parliament. Even the chittagong hill tracts are semi autonomous regions, means we get to rule the places we own.
The problem with hindus is that hindus are very soft and full of kindness. However in order to survive in a muslim country you have to be ferocious because you would be dealing with extremists..Just think if muslims can conduct insurgent activities living in a non muslim state why can’t we carry out insurgent activities living in a muslim land?
Will the Muslim community change color and betray Hindus when they become a majority in India?
Muslim Strategy:
Where Muslims are minority and the majority is lacking clarity in the name of generosity, they ask for concessions for Muslims, for Islamic laws / practices for them eg. India & the US. And they try to increase the Muslim population by more children, love jihad, etc..
Where Muslims are minority and the majority is clear and aware, and no separate laws are allowed based on religions, they surrender and comply with. eg. Australia: When some Imam asked for special Islamic laws, PM said there is only Australian law; anyone wanting Islamic law can go out of country. Immediately rest of Iamams came out and said that Iamam was mad, they are happy with status quo. And try to increase the Muslim population
Where they are majority, establish Islamic rule; convert or threaten, drive out the other religious people. The rights Muslims enjoy where they are minorities, they will never give to people of other religions as per Islamic rules/guidelines. This happened in Pakistan, Bangladesh, in Kashmir and happens even in districts/talukhs of India where Muslims are local majority.
So No change of color; it is The Strateg
13 DEAD: Muslim family bombs 3 Indonesian churches, even 2 young daughters had bombs strapped on.
https://gellerreport.com/2018/05/muslim-family-bombs-churches.html/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=facebook
Special edition for Diya and Purnima (Muslim name Shafiya). NEVER BELIEVE CONVERTED MUSLIMS. THEY ARE SURELY RADICALIZED BY ISLAM GOD ZAKIR NAIK, HAPIZ SAYED ETC. THESE CONVERTED ARE NO MORE INDIAN.
These so called converted Indonesian Hindu to Muslim family blast in church today and killed 19 Christians in Indonesia today.
Image of devout suicide bomb family (click on above link) – even the two young daughters had bombs strapped to their waists. Religion of peace – respect it!
Indonesian police say the suicide bombers who attacked three churches in Surabaya were all members of one family.
At least 13 people were killed and more than 40 injured when the group targeted Sunday Mass congregations in the country’s second-largest city.
Indonesia’s police chief Tito Karnavian said the family had been in Syria where the Islamic State group until recently controlled a large swath of the country.
He said the family’s father carried out one of the attacks by exploding a car bomb, while the man’s two sons, aged 18 and 16, used a motorbike in their attack. Their mother carried out another attack with her two children, aged 12 and nine.
The first attack, at the Santa Maria Roman Catholic Church, killed four people, including one or more bombers, police spokesman Frans Barung Mangera told reporters at the scene.
A street merchant outside the church said she was blown several metres away by the powerful blast.
“I saw two men riding a motorbike forced their way into the churchyard. One was wearing black pants and one with a backpack,” said Samsia, who uses a single name.
“Soon after that the explosion happened.”
Shattered glass and chunks of concrete littered the entrance of the church, which was sealed off by heavily armed police.
Rescue personnel were treating victims on a nearby field while officers were inspecting wrecked motorcycles in the parking lot that were burned in the explosion.
These mulsims are living peacefully in Bharat due to HINDU majority. These muslims are no more safe in their muslim countries. Infected Quran make them hell. But still these Hindu girls are trapped and converting to just marry an anti-national thug.
Muslims have been issued a fatwa not to buy any goods from Hindu traders during Ramadan. Hindus are Haram !!
फतवा-ए-रमजान, हिंदू ‘हराम’ है! नहीं खरीदेंगे गुजराती-मारवाड़ियों से सामान
Where are the award wapsi gang who said Hindus are spreading hatred ? Where is Prakash Raj ? Where is John Dayal ?
फतवा-ए-रमजान, हिंदू ‘हराम’ है! नहीं खरीदेंगे गुजराती-मारवाड़ियों से सामान –
देश में असहिष्णुता बढ़ी है, ऐसा कई जाने-माने लोग बोल चुके हैं। उनकी बातें इन दिनों कुछ हद तक सही
hello admin, two days ago we got married in court. i am still hindu and no one from his family asking me to convert. they just ask me to keep name as per their wish and i accepted it. so far everything is looking good. thank you for all the support.
Thank you for sharing the information. Are you going to change your name in passport or in any legal document? Now did you moved to your in-laws home? Are you currently working outside home? Do not plan for a baby for a few years; enjoy life with your husband. We hope you will have a true Hindu-Musim marriage with equality. Do keep in touch as your time permits. Best wishes.
probably name of passport and other documents will also change as i will add my husbands name now. yes i have moved to in laws place, in laws are happy to see me. i have put leave for 10 days then i will resume my work. no problems with that. as far as baby is concerned, we have not thought about it till now. we might be going abrod after 6-7 months so till then i will live with in laws
Dear Diya,
You are married and now they/you have to live with peace and harmony. This must be a two way street. However, that does not mean the “Hindu” wife has to be submissive. If they/you are not religious fanatic, it will be easy. However, if they/you are saying you are open minded but inside they/you are a conspirator, that will be an issue. We are saying all these below just as an insurance against religious fanatic.
Now you are married and soon will be in their home. Earlier you were calling shots from outside but now you are “in a lion’s cage”. There will be Saam, Daam and Dand Bhed against you and you have to handle it well. Somehow you will have to make sure your husband is on your side to support you for your liberties and freedom and ready to go against his own parents/communities. You have to be respectful to them as well learn to not let your own dignity and self-pride go down.
We highly recommend you keep very close contact with your parents and share your feelings as you go along. You will be at a big loss if you disassociate yourself from your own parents.
Your in-laws played a brilliant game and won! Please DO NOT change your first name to a Muslim name EVER in your passport and at work. Name matters and people recognize you by name. Name is most dear to you and it will change you too. Further, there is no need to change ANY names in any legal document to be married and to migrate to the West (or where ever). Just keep delaying passport change for now, there is no reason to change it soon. However, your in-law and husband will pressure you to do it as soon as possible (let us know when they do it). As a matter of fact, tell your husband now that it is your wish not to change your name in your passport. He loves you and will honor your wishes.
hello admin, so far i have seen no change in behavior of them. no forcing about anything. i got your point but i wish to bring you notice that now government allows to use the passport with old name. so i dont have any need to change it on passport very soon. ll see how things turn on and then think about making name on official documents or not.i have no restiction on what i am doing, wearing, eating so far so i am happy here. yes i am in contact with my family so no issues with that too.
Dear Admin,
She is no more Hindu. Sooner or later she must and her children must follow Islam. These thug Hindu girls can do anything for thei love, they forget how mughal killed, raped million Hindus and destroyed temples all over world. A curse women for our society
Krish,
We see you are concerns but we have experienced so far that Diya is a smart girl and will do that is just. She has also her parents, friends and relatives to guide her, not only you and us. She is a free lady living in a free country and she has rights to do that is right for her. We are not concerned at all about her. Trust her!
Thanks Diya.. you made nation in bad shape. Your choice but make sure that you are no longer Hindu whether you did Nikah or not. Your kids name will Mulsim name and must follow Islam. Anyway you are curse for Hinduism and ofcourse you born and brought up by your parents who are kafir (non mulsim) and betrayed them lastly. You will face severely when you move to USA/Europe. A curse converted muslim for whole society..
Your passport must be mentioned your religion irrespective of your name or surname. You are fooling yourself not others.
Krish,
We are not aware of this “Your passport must be mentioned your religion irrespective of your name or surname”, can you check a few passports and confirm this?
My foot You are still HINDU???? any proof??? you are a cheater in Hindu society.
1) who the hell are you to teach me whome should i marry , keep your idiotic opinions to yourself i dont need them.
2) people like you are the real curse who always divides the nation on the basis of religion.
3) thats my choice to become muslim, hindu or accept any so called religion on the earth . i dont need to give any proof !
4)look at the hate spread by you on this forum, this forum is for help not to get insulted.
5) learn how to talk to people you dont own anyone here.
I am the hell who is a HINDU by birth and choice and My conutry belongs to HINDUstan.
1. Why so nautanki heree if you have already decided to be a muslim.
2. You like mulsim converted are curse not only in my HINDU nation but also whole world whose community increasing their population like a cockroach.
3. You are really curse for your parents and my HINDU nation.
4. I (we Hindu) dont have objection if you get out from my HINDU nation and stay out side forever.
5. Muslim Converted are extremely dangerous and they easily radicalised and I am afraid my nation moving towards islmization because of you like brahmin girls converted and becoming human bomb as well as terrorist for the shake of islam.
6. Isllam is curse for human being and so you are.
7. YOU LIKE MUSLIMS ARE THREAT FOR NATIONAL INTEGRITY.
DO YOU NEED MORE.. LET ME KNOW.
Horrible Incident happened against #Dalit in Tamil Nadu (Theni) today done by bastard muslim group. MUSLIM/CONVERTED MUSLIM MEANS THEY ARE MC., THEY DONT DESERVE TO LIVE IN BHARAT
The neighborhood muslims have thrashed more than 50 houses & had hit senior citizens & children jus bz Dalits took a dead body to graveyard via their street
Please see this video.
https://twitter.com/twitter/statuses/993504724212121600
https://twitter.com/twitter/statuses/993504724212121600
Diya/Faisa Khatun (converted Muslim katwa name),
Is love jihad really happening in India, or is it a hoax?
https://www.quora.com/Is-love-jihad-really-happening-in-India-or-is-it-a-hoax
By Tejasvita Apte, Indian lawyer, inter alia
I have a different perspective to offer, but before that, let me speak of my experience –
I have been practicing law for more than 5 years now. I have personally encountered 3 cases of girls and their families coming to us for legal remedy.
Their stories were identical. Hindu girls fell in love with Muslim men. Eloped, got converted and got married. After a point of time, they realized that the marriage wasn’t working for some reason or the other and that “apparently” (A big apparently there), the men had received some prize money for marrying and converting Hindu girls to Islam.
They obviously had no proof of such an exchange of money.
But they were certain it’s true.
Anyway, I am not giving you anecdotal evidence.
Rather, I am telling you, what I told them –
Assuming for the sake of argument that this Love Jihad theory is true. What solution do you have once you realize that your marriage was under false pretenses? (No matter what kind of pretense it was).
Sometimes people pretend to love you for sex. Sometimes people pretend to love you for money. Sometimes people pretend to love you to convert you (apparently).
What do you do in such a situation?
Well, you take an effing divorce and convert back to Hinduism! Is that rocket science, really? It’s easily doable in India.
The sole reason why I do not buy Love jihad (even if it exists) is because it is a dumb thing to do. Conversion is not irreversible. People can always convert back. And if they do not, and are happy converting to Islam, out of their free will, then I don’t see how it is anybody else’s business.
Having said that, the real issue is a little complex and different. The real issue sometimes is the fact that these young girls elope and marry at a very young age. They do not have jobs and are economically dependent. What’s more, because they marry outside of their religion (or caste. That can happen too, albeit the accusation of Love Jihad would not arise), their parents and community very often cuts all contact with them.
After all this, if they realize that they were cheated into marriage, for whatever reasons, they do not think they have a way out. They often succumb to their fate. Their families refuse to support them. Frankly, I blame their families more than any real or perceived Love Jihad.
This is a sad story that only happens because we do not educate our girls to be economically and mentally independent before they decide to marry. We treat them like slaves and have archaic notions of honour. We do not support them because girls are treated more as a burden than as an asset.
Love Jihad or not, that is a bigger problem to fix.
Another story:
My dad is a police officer. This is one of the many Love Jihad cases he had to deal with in our area. This was during 2008.
There was a very rich Marwadi Hindu girl who ran away with a Muslim man after they got married. Her dad came to the police station and cried and begged to my father to bring her back. My dad thought that maybe there was an opposition from the family and she decided to run. But her dad said that she never mentioned this even once. So my dad along with their team tracked them down and found them within a week. She was living with that guy in a 1BHK room in the Muslim majority area.
When her dad confronted her she said that she was in love with him. He then asked her why she didn’t tell him about this to which she replied that she knows how Hindus hate all of this and how they plot against Muslims. That Hindus don’t understand love marriages. She also said that she knows the true God and she wants to be a Muslim from now on. Her dad began weeping.
My dad, since they are police officers and have to be a little cunning, confronted the boy and asked him whether he loves her or not? He said he truly loves her . He swore on Allah and all. My dad was really surprised. He knew this boy was not financially doing well and so then he told him that her dad promised to give him 5 lakhs rupees if he lets her go. After hearing this (my dad said within minutes ) he had a change of mind and he said OK and that he won’t cause trouble.
This was all being recorded by the Hawaldar which later was shown to the girl. She wept a lot. But still was hesitant as she was brainwashed. But she did come back with her father home.
This was just one case. My dad says these cases come almost every week! He wanted to warn me so he explained this one to me.
Long story short, love jihad exist
At the heart of this bigotry is an interpretation of the Quran that forbids a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim unless her partner converts to Islam. Supporters of this belief cite Verse 2:221 of the Quran that reads: “And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.”
Islamic scholars throughout the world have dwelt on the issue and many have unabashedly proclaimed that such a union is prohibited. Closer home, India’s largest seminary DarulUloomDeoband maintains that “a Muslim woman cannot marry a Hindu man…they may not be halal for each other after having marriage and their marital relation will be regarded as adultery and prohibited.”
Another religious scholar, Mufti Mohammad Shakir from Azamgarh’s Madrassa Islamia Arabia Baitul Uloom, promotes the idea that the reason Muslims are forbidden from “marrying men and women of infidels” is because “kafir men and women become the cause of leading humans towards jahannam (hell)….”
The belief isn’t limited to imams and resonates even with the so-called progressives. Last year, The Milli Gazette, a portal that caters to English-speaking Indian Muslims, had described Tunisia’s historic decision to allow Muslim women to marry non-Muslims as a “sign of apocalypse”.
Haha so finally the trap is on, change your name, disgusting, did your parents asked the boy to change his name to Hindu tradition? Ask him to cam himself as Ram will they ever agree, shame on such love which coerce one to change ones’ identity so what are you now? Fatima? Your guy would never do that for you! Shame on such live
Dear Admin,
I read somewhere that in Malaysia if a parent converted to Islam than children automatically converted to Islam without the will of other parent ,is it true?
It depends on ages of children but it could. Read these… http://www.themalaymailonline.com/malaysia/article/path-to-leave-islam-simple-but-far-from-easy and
https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=11100
Can you tell us your situation?
Dear Admin,
I read this article posted by Hanah Khan earlier and is very true. Infact the inspiration for these sick mindset Hindu girls are coming from converted celebrity (who are extremely low IQ and money oriented) and other converted women like Tina Dhabi etc. These girls are researching web and taking inspiration from those converted, they never read the difficulties life after married. They never thought that Islam is a extremely radicalized intolerance religion. They never thought about the future generation of Hindus and Hindustan. These girls are only thinking their own interest like pleasure, love etc…
Girls like Tina Dhabi has brains unlike you who has only hate. That’s the difference.
///mac says:
November 18, 2017 at 5:16 pm
Pakistan Minister asked for non-muslim security, that`s shows how good,liberal and secular thinking paksitan leaders are unlike indian leaders who divide people based on cow,love jihad,etc issues.///
https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4148
Most intelligent and honest analysis.
///8:12
“I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieved, so strike [them] upon the necks and strike from them every fingertip.”
5:51
O you who have believed, do not take the Jews and the Christians as allies. They are [in fact] allies of one another. And whoever is an ally to them among you – then indeed, he is [one] of them. Indeed, Allah guides not the wrongdoing people.
2:191
And kill them wherever you overtake them and expel them from wherever they have expelled you, and fitnah is worse than killing. And do not fight them at al-Masjid al- Haram until they fight you there. But if they fight you, then kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers.
8:39
And fight them until there is no oppression and is the religion all of it for Allah. But if they cease, then indeed, Allah of what they do (is) All-Seer.
5:33
Indeed, the penalty for those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger and strive upon earth [to cause] corruption is none but that they be killed or crucified or that their hands and feet be cut off from opposite sides or that they be exiled from the land. That is for them a disgrace in this world; and for them in the Hereafter is a great punishment///
Most love‐filled verses
My foot Mac.
Tina Dhabi is having low IQ and OBC quota and I look her as like Haidiya..There is no difference.
Shafiya and Diya,
I always wonder on some of these issues when Hindu women marry Muslim men:
a. As Hindus, you would have been given training in music, dance, drawing, painting− the talents which your children will probably never be able to nurture since all these creative arts including braingame chess are declared ‘haraam’ in Islam.
b. Consanguineous marriage is a norm in Islamic societies and your daughter might be forced to marry your husband’s brother’s son!
c. In case if your daughter falls in love with a Hindu guy would your husband be broadminded enough to accept him?
Unless the family is absolutely modern there could be no change in these basics. How do you deal with these extremely opposite cultures?
Shafiya is already done nikah and married to a muslim man.She is no more Hindu. Her Original Hindu name was Purnima. Diya is about to marry a muslim man, but as per her statement below, she clears her willingness to marry a muslim.
Why I am restricting Shafiya (Purnima) to this interfaith site is that she wants to brainwash other Hindu girls on behalf of muslim community and she already taste the heinous religion (she already stated earlier) but seems she jealous Hindu community and trying as much as possible to trap such innocent girls.
Krish,
Shafiya is a valuable consultant at InterfaithShaadi and we value her contributions. She can guide people like Diya based on her own experiences. People will say what ever, who ever in love relationship has to decide his/her life that is right for him/her. We are here to provide guidance from all sides, that’s all.
what do i say now.. i am not imam or maulavi or teacher or handling any religious organisation. i am just stating facts which i have experienced and i want girl who are seeking to marry their muslim boy friend should know. i have seen girls getting frustrated, after marrying their boy friends. before taking any further step they need to see what would be the scenario afterwords. i am not getting any benefit rather i hear words like basterd, black spot on nation, killer of my parents pride and what not from people like you!
i will leave this forum if admin tells me to do so without saying a word. start to look beyond religion.. think like indian not like a person from a perticular religion
Krish, there are some 800 other examples on this web site just like what you have quoted. This is the fact of life.
Dear Admin,
I would like to welcome and agree with Shafiya, if she should have mentioned her situation and problem she is facing after converted. But I couldn’t see such comments from her. Kindly see her all comments and do let me know if I am wrong.
Shafiya,
You are a part of this InterfaithShaadi family and always wanted. Do share your views and experiences to all.
Krish,
You said, “if she should have mentioned her situation and problem she is facing after converted” assuming she is not happy but she is saying she is happy. Why you do not want to trust her?
It is possible she would not have converted to Islam if she was given a choice; but probably she did not had any other option left but to convert to salvage this relationship. If he was a Christian, she would have converted to Christianity. We assume she is being a practical person. Let her correct us if wrong.
Dear Admin,
You said “why cant you trust her”. The answer is simple. If marrying a muslim needs to change her faith can be done anything to the society on behalf of her community. It all depends upon the husband’s mindset and the way they regulate their so called converted wife. I have seen my 4 office colleague married to muslim.
1. Her name is X (surname is Joshi Marathi Brahmin), she worked with me in one of the software company Pune. After converted, she performS namaj in Office lobby, one day we barred her not to do namaaj in office but she refused, so was so radicalized that in every sentence she utter mashaallah. Anyway, due to pressure from other employees, management kicked her from the company, although her performance was degraded after converted. Dont know her whereabouts even she has no contact with her parents ( I came to know from one of my colleague).
2. Another girl,she moved to London for higher education and marry her muslim boyfriend without informing her parents. She lost contact with parents and friends in India. Her name is Fatima now. She even deleted her facebook. I came to know that she is planning to come India but her parents dont want to talk/meet with her. She already done nikah.
3. One girl working in IBM, Kolkotta married to a muslim man and did nikah. She is not beautiful and her muslim hubby proposed, she soon accepted and done nikah. Later her husband married to another muslim women secretly. She has a child. Both divorced. She is reverted to Hindusm but question isHOW MAJORITY MUSLIMS MAN ARE JUST UTILIZING HINDU GIRL JUST FOR SEX.(A KIND OF USE AND THROUGH).
admin, my in laws agreed on court marriage even though they are not so happy with it but they are saying i should change my name to muslim name unofficially. i think they fear what their relatives will say on our marriage.
Within one month, you made them agree to not have a Nikaah (and conversion). CONGRATULATIONS!!
It is like a business deal, you have to learn in life how you present yourself. Believe us, they will even agree not to change your name soon. Tell them upfront BIG NO. Tell them that you are born as Diya (or what ever) and will die as such. You do not believe in a fake name or fake-promises. They should have guts to proudly tell their community that our son married to a “Hindu”. Do not let them lie for you that Diya has converted to Islam and now Nusrat is her new name.
Why not change name? Tell them that you love your name. Your name is very dear to you. Will the boy change her name to Ramesh? The request for name change is like a tip of ice-berg. You see only 1% on top and 99% is hidden. The Titanic ship’s caption missed to recognize the tip or ignore it and the whole ship crashed killing all. Once you change your name, next will come you stop visiting Hindu temple. Then will come stop going to your parents because… . Tell them that you love their son and not asking him to change his religion nor name and, like wise, expect the same on other side. There is nothing you have to gain by changing your name. Let us repeat it again… there is nothing you have to gain by being submissive. They will not accept overnight, so give them a month to settle this new idea in mind.
Now raise them the big question. Tell them that your children will not be Muslims or Hindus, but humanist. They will not be raised in one faith but we will teach them from all faiths. We will take them to churches, mosques, temples and what not for education. Let us know what they say (but don’t settle for any thing less than this).
Shafiya, Diya,
What are the similarities between The Holy Quran and Bhagwat Geeta?
https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-similarities-between-The-Holy-Quran-and-Bhagwat-Geeta
Let’s see what the Quran says:
Quran says – Islam is the only true religion and it’s the religion of Allah.
Believers will go to heaven, and there is nothing less than hell for the Kafirs (nonbelievers).
Heaven is the goal of mankind and they should try to get it throughout their life.
Five prayers, Haj, belief in prophets and Allah is mandatory otherwise be ready for the hell fire.
You have to follow the book which has been sent down to you and this is your certificate of good deeds. If you don’t do this, then no matter how saintly you are, you’ll be thrown into the hell by the same God who is the most merciful and most beneficent.
Don’t imitate the Kafirs. ( Hasn’t the same God created them?)
Now let’s have a look what Geeta says on these 6 points :
Oops! What does this term ‘religion’ mean?
It’s your Karma that will decide your fate. No religion and no hell or heaven has any place in the Geeta.
What the hell is this ‘heaven’? Peace of mind is the ultimate happiness and Moksha is the ultimate goal.
No rules. You have to do your duties and they will be changing according to the situations. You have to check the relevance of already accomplished laws. It’s not like Prophet Abraham used to do a thing 5000 years ago so only this will be right for me.
You can be good no matter what way you follow. An Atheist can be equally knowledgeable and he will have to pay only for his misdeeds, not for being an Atheist!
There are no Kafirs and no Momins . All are equal souls and God doesn’t discriminate between them.
This is what I found and it’s my personal opinion. Note that I have freedom of speech and you have the right to disagree. Let’s respect each other’s rights.
Now it’s up to you to find the similarities. Please read both the books with an unbiased approach and see.
Krish, her name is Diya, we hope you will respect her privacy.
Dear admin,
She already opened her relationship to a mulsim man and sooner or later her name will change to a muslim name.So her original name is no longer valid.
We feel Diya is not gullible and will make a right decision in her life.
Admin,
I am surprising why Hindu girls are easily convinced, converted and married to muslims and christians. They well knows about the barbaric cult of Islam and they well knows that muslim population is increasing in India and chances of their children will be involved in terrorisim, rape and communal violence, anti-national, anti-hindu and arab culture. There are many bright examples in kerala, West Bengal, Assam, UP and J&K and Bihar. They well knows that they lose thier identity and freedom. With the name of secular and democracy these women are curse for our society.
Krish, read the message from Hanah… https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=13432&cpage=1#comment-416799
Hindus are pluralist and believe all faiths are same and equal. With that ideology, they start learning the exclusivist’s ideologies or Christians and Muslims. Some fall trapped and convert. Interfaith marriages are used as a tool to convert girls. Once a Hindu girl is trapped into love, she is not easily going to walk away. Lets see what Diya is going to do.
https://www.quora.com/Why-do-some-people-dislike-Islam
Why do some people dislike Islam?
I’m an Indian and was born and brought up in a Hindu family. I was brought up with the concept of “Sarva Dharma Sama Bhava” (the equality of all religions). In January 2008, I came to Bangalore for a job and, in my company, I met this guy; let’s call him X. Out of many amazing qualities that X had, he was very charming, helpful and trustworthy. Soon I made friends with him so much so that he shared some of his personal things with me including a secret that a girl he liked and wanted to get married to. X was a converted (they call it reverted!) Muslim and the girl was Hindu. He told me that the girl’s parents rejected his proposal just because he was a Muslim. May be due to my ignorance, I thought “girl’s parents were too conservative” and “what difference does it make if the boy is a Muslim or a Christian or belongs to any faith for that matter”. I sympathised with X.
One day he introduced me to some Islamic institute (I don’t remember the name but I think it was in Koramangala). Out of curiosity, I asked couple of questions about the Islamic faith to a person (let’s call him Y), X introduced me with. In reply to my questions, Y introduced me briefly with Islam and mentioned about the concept of heaven and hell (reward and punishment) in Islam. Basically reward for Muslim and punishment for non-Muslims. By Muslim he meant anyone who took Shahada and believes and follows Islam. He also mentioned to me that if I convert (revert) to Islam I’ll have to change my name because he said my name has shirk (the sin of practicing idolatry or polytheism) as “Hrishikesh” is a name of Hindu God Krishna. At the end he asked me if I want to get converted to Islam. To which I didn’t reply because my answer was “No” and I didn’t want to hurt his sentiments but to which X replied “Insha Allah” (If God wishes so) promptly.
It’s then I started researching about Islam and more I learnt about Islam more I was drawn away from it. During my research in Islam I watched many videos of Zakir Naik and soon realized that he’s intentionally preaching ignorance with the aim of converting people to Islam. It’s a kind of brainwashing, extremely dangerous thing! It’s very difficult to come out of it. I then had lots and lots of debates with X and other islamic followers.
I always had the curiosity about life and existence of God etc. So out of curiosity, I started finding answers in Hinduism and science. I started reading Bhagavad Gita and also continued my quest in science. I learned about Big-Bang theory and Biological evolution. After a lot of learning, debates and pondering I’ve become agnostic.
I don’t hate Muslims but I don’t like Islam because Islam is extremely regressive and intolerant religion. The Sharia law is probably the worst kind of law ever existed. Islam’s ultimate aim is to take over the world and if it happens so (which is unlikely) it’d be the pathetic place to live in especially for women.
The greatest misconception about Islam is that it’s like any other religion and wants peace. You’ll see many Muslim saying that “Muslims could be wrong but Islam is right” but it’s really the opposite. Muslims are not problematic unless they follow Islam. Many Muslims say that “Islam is the religion of Peace”. Yes, but peace for whom? Peace only for Muslims not for non-Muslims. Muslims quote below verse from Quran to prove that the Islam is the religion of peace:
“Whoever kills a person [innocent person]…it is as though he has killed all mankind. And whoever saves a life, it is as though he had saved all mankind.” (Qur’an, 5:32)
Ask them what innocent means. A Kafir (non-Muslim) can’t be innocent in the view of Islam.
Quran (3:56) – “As to those who reject faith, I will punish them with terrible agony in this world and in the Hereafter, nor will they have anyone to help.”
Quran (8:12) – “I will cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve. Therefore strike off their heads and strike off every fingertip of them”
Here is why I and most other people hate Islam:
Diya, Shafiya,
https://www.quora.com/Why-is-there-so-much-hate-between-Hindus-and-Muslims-in-India
Why is there so much hate between Hindus and Muslims in India?
YOU CONVERTED NEVER DENIED THIS TRUE FACT.
Hindus and Muslims hate each other for the same reason as Buddhists and Muslims hate each other (Myanmar, Srilanka), Christians and Muslims hate each other (Australia, Iraq, USA), Jews and Muslims hate each other, (entire world) and even atheists and Muslims hate each other (China, Europe).
When Muslims first came to Kerala, India with the intent of business, the Indian king welcomed them. 400 years later, they started to betray and kill Hindu kings, convert Hindus forcefully, abduct and rape Hindu women and destroy Hindu temples and universities. The welcoming Hindus started to hate Muslim invaders. The fear of being raped grew so much that Hindus started to cover their daughters and women and keep them at home. Women started to commit suicide for the fear of being raped. In WB, Nabab Siraj Ud Doula loved to abduct girls coming to ponds for bathing, rape them and then force her family to accept Islam or die.
The hatred you see today is built with tears of innocent Hindus over 1000 years. I get surprised to see the children of those forcefully converted people being proud of their religion and denying the sad past of their families.
Excellent post, except for this one point:
//“Islam is the religion of Peace”. Yes, but peace for whom? Peace only for Muslims not for non-Muslims.//
Even Muslims will be shocked to hear this compliment.
Reality: When Sunnis are in majority they pound Shia and when Shias are in majority they pound Sunni and both of them together pound Ahmedis.
Islam and peace, Islam and humanity, Islam and justice are oxymorons.
Diya,
You already read what Krish said. To balance it out, you should also read… https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=335&cpage=2#comment-416546. You have to think what would you do if your uncle-in-law carries such views? Is your boy friend willing to fight for you against his parents and community? We do not say all Hindu-Muslim marriages will have many problems but if that family is a religious fanatic (meaning asking you to convert), that is certainly a red flag. Kavita Ramdya married without conversion, why you don’t deserve the same dignity?
Admin, i know his family from long time and talked with them so many times and i have never heard words like kafir, this wrong as per islam, shariyat law etc he asked imam about nikah without conversionis , he said its not valid! the court marriage will surely be there but its still not clear about nikah. his parents are still insisting.more than me he is frustrated with his parents demand.. he want to marry me early as possible as we are planning to move to western country.
Diya, we love to interact with you. We know, in the end, you will make the right decision, what ever that is. We are not here to persuade you to make a decision one or the other way, but even after 80 years you should feel that this site helped you make fully “informed” decision. That is only our wish.
When we write, we have in mind all other innocent DIYAs who will read this post for years to come. For you, it is your personal situation but for us–what is right and wrong for the society and for all other Diyas.
We are glad his.. “i have never heard words like kafir, this wrong as per islam, shariyat law etc”, that is great. However, probably his parents are concerned with their prestige in their Muslim society and thus asking you to convert. They want to go and tell all others that Diya is now a Muslim and our son married only to a Muslim as per Shariyat. If you sacrifice your own wish not to convert but take Shahadah to please his parents, how about the prestige of your own parents who gave you birth and raised you to be such a beautiful Diya? Whole world will know that this Hindu parents’ daughter Diya is now some Nusrat. Your parents will not forget this pain till their last breath.
Why will you make his parents happy at the expense of giving pain and sufferings to your own birth parents for their life? Instead, why not settle for the middle ground, the court marriage? This is equality, is not that fair?
On “he asked imam about nikah without conversion, he said its not valid!” yes, this is what we understood. We do not know how come Kavita Ramdya is told otherwise. We have updated the this post with your input.
On “the court marriage will surely be there but its still not clear about nikah” rest the case by telling them that in this life, you will not convert. Do this only to find out truth, even later you may submit and convert. Ask your boyfriend why he did not disclose this fact for all these years. This is Islam’s problem, not a problem created by Diya. Make your boyfriend guilty of non-disclosure. Ask him what else is not being disclosed?
On “his parents are still insisting” this is totally irrational from those who do not read/follow Koran, those who do not perform namaz five times a day, who allow their son to publicly date a girl and claim to be secular. They have to decide if they are Muslim or not.
On “more than me he is frustrated with his parents demand.. he want to marry me early as possible as we are planning to move to western country”, you are in great shape. Read and think critically all what we are saying. Then pose one point after another to him. Make him think how irrational his parents and their Shariyat are. If you have your boy friend on your side, you will win all, especially you are going to move to the West. We are very excited hearing this last statement. We are now very optimistic.
EDUCATION is the key. Keep reading all that we have written here (and buy our book for more details). Best wishes.
Dear Diya,
Disbeliever (Kafir) is punishable act as per Islamic Quran. You please ask your close muslim friends about it. We HINDU (non muslims are kafir). Once you have done Nikah, you wont allow to meet your parents as they are disbeliever. You will stay and live your entire life in Muslim community only. DO YOU KNOW HOW WESTERN COUNTRIES PEOPLES ARE SO HATRED TOWARDS CONVERTED. THEY ARE FEDUP WITH MUSLIMS DUE TO TERROR ATTACK. So my humble request is to refrain to be a muslim please.
Diya, on Krish’s point, this is not universal truth but we have one good example just like this where the converted was allowed to meet parents only once in 9 months of marriage (even living in the same town), read https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7828
Krish, we believe Diya has no intention to go through Nikaah/conversion.
Dear Admin,
Nikah or no Nikha does not matter actually. Diya’s children must follow their in law’s religion and is Islam. She must do Nikah when her in law swiftly force her later on. She decided to marry a muslim and she should know the pros and cons of Islam and their future. It is our experience is that many converted are extremely radicalized later on and harm to the whole humanbeing (we disbeliever HINDU). Regarding disbeliever (kafir/kufir bla bla) is universal true and strictly mentioned in their Quran. Evrywhere these muslims are creating problem all over world.
https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=13318
Islamization of the world by the year 2201
Please read this article.
Kindly read this one in QUORA before converted. DONT DESTROY OUR NATION
https://www.quora.com/What-made-you-become-a-Hindu-if-you-weren%E2%80%99t-born-one
What made you become a Hindu if you weren’t born one?
Sorry, I am not a Hindu, but sometimes I want to be a Hindu (conversion). I am an Indian Muslim girl from Hyderabad.
Please read answer till end to know, why..?
Islam is full of fanatics. Redicalisation of Islam is in trend. After Kashmir, Hyderabad is best example of this. Maulanas think that they have all the power to regulate Islam and interpret Kuran in their own way. They are misguiding people, just teaching things against Hinduism and other religions. Madarsas have become Jihadi factories.
Life of Muslim Youth:
As everyone knows muslim Youths especially of of Hyderabad, inspired to join ISIS and some of them are engaged in activities related to ISIS only, following ISIS on social media or funding related activities. All are misguided by our religious contractors only. All want to establish Sharia in our secular country, India.
Life of Muslim Women:
Life of Muslim women is like hell. They are meant to be give birth to children only. And after that also if you are giving birth to girls more than boys, you are most vulnerable to be divorced. Don’t mind, it is very easy in Islam of India.
Politicians like Owaisi are supporting Triple Talaq and Halala, just for their political interest. But foolish fellows are not getting the point behind this. Many maulanas rape and blackmail ladies in name of Halala (Nikah Halala – Wikipedia).
One of my cousin is victim of this Tripple Talaq over Whatspp. And after that going through all these tortures to marry the same guy again. I am ashamed of writing all this. I’m desperate of all this and nothing seems to be changed for us. No one has mercy on our poor condition.
Even after the Indian govt. is providing so many benifits to us, our community members are not enjoying these beacuse of all fanatics. A few only are interested in getting higher education and do some respectful work in society.
I have many hindu friends and sometimes I dream of having a propsperous & peaceful life and freedom like they have. I am hopeful, this dream will come true for me some day.
By convert, I do not mean that I am running out of the situation or giving up. But I mean to rebel up against all these negatives. Either you change religion or else we will walk out. Someone will have to stand up against all this.
https://www.quora.com/Do-the-Hindus-respect-the-Quran
Do the Hindus respect the Quran?
I can speak only for myself. I don’t respect Quran for three reasons
If Quran is this perfect, why is it so easily misinterpreted? Countless arguments over every single point. Violence happens all over the world based on this book. Yet people would simply say Quran is misinterpreted or misunderstood. People are dying and you are worried about a book. I don’t think I can respect that book.
It’s free. As a part of popularising islam you will get free Quran from various sources. If it’s really valuable as it says, give it to people who actually values it. No one gives away diamonds without ulterior motives. It applies to other religious books too.
It’s an instruction manual. I am a person who like suggestions if asked for advices. But telling an adult what to do, what to eat, what to wear and what not to sounds extreme to me. I am not a big fan of extremism or rewards after death.
I don’t respect many mythological books in Hinduism too. But they don’t claim to be perfect and the question is not about them. So I guess it’s ok.
Also this doesn’t mean I don’t respect muslims. I respect people irrespective of their religious beliefs.
Edit:
For all the people who want me to read Quran:
My father wanted me to learn about other religions. So he took me to his friend who was/is a Muslim scholar. They were nice people. I was 11 or 12 years old then.
I wanted to make my dad proud. So I decided to give a sincere effort to learn Quran. I had good impression about that uncle and his family.
Uncle told me the great things about being a muslim just like the comments in this answer. Honestly I believed them. He was a homeo doctor who helped a lot of poor people. He gave Zakat as per Quran. He never used the interest of his deposits from the bank. He gave them away. His wife used to love me. She made my favorite food whenever I went there. There was no way one could dislike them. He used to take classes about Quran in various parts of the world.
In one of the beginning classes itself, uncle told me about the defects of polytheism i.e Hinduism. He told me Muslims are forbidden to do that because Quran says so. He told me why Islam got the highest conversion rates. People from Christianity and Hinduism fails to find the true God and reach the ultimate path of God which is Islam. At this point I started to feel uncomfortable.
He taught me namaz, importance of praying 5 times, becoming clean before praying and all things which I don’t remember exactly as I was hardly 12. Then the rules on dressing, eating and it went on. When the classes continued, instead of feeling nearer to God as he claimed I felt the opposite. He told me why I should convert to Islam. Though seeing the freedom that his 6 year old girl got I decided I would never do that. It was the forceful devotion. A Muslim scholar is teaching a 12 year old kid to hate other religions based on a book. Then you say it’s misinterpretations. Why I should respect a book which even a highly educated doctor can’t interpret properly.
I was extremely religious back then, borderline superstious because of my mom. Still no one asked me to go to temple, worship the specific God. I got choices. I liked the Durga goddess and Ganesha and my brother had different choices. We were not dictated by rules. That instruction manual sucked for a 12 year old and for an adult it’s completely ridiculous. So eventually I stopped going there and decided that Quran is not my cup of tea even for reading . I had other reasons too which is not significant here.
Respect should not be demanded but earned
You are not asking me to read Quran because it is a perfect piece of literature, are you? You want me to reach your religious conclusion that you already have and then you tell me I am brainwashed? Have you read all other religious books before you decided to become a Muslim? Have you read all the books of atheists who strongly believes there is no God but Science? Do you respect atheists?
As for the people who says knowledge is free. No it’s not. No meal is free in this world. Free education is funded by tax payers’ money.
You are giving free Quran because you want people to join Islam. You believe it’s the only right path. Then you will be furious if someone insulted it. If you are giving free Qurans to everyone, you should be tolerant enough when people criticize it. Quran or any other religious books should not be given to people who are not asking for it.
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//My father wanted me to learn about other religions. So he took me to his friend who was/is a Muslim scholar. They were nice people. I was 11 or 12 years old then.//
A great human being, indeed!
As long as your mind is not chained by the diktats of any faith you can assume that you are in the best religion!
For all those broadminded people who treat all faiths on par I would like to place an Athira event in my circle. https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=12858
This took place in the early nineties. My relative, then in her mid-teens lived in a Muslim-dominated area and studied in a Christian School. There were five Muslim and one Hindu girl in the group. The set of friends sat in the open terrace for studying, chatting etc… Since they were thick friends no one suspected anything until one fine day, the sole Hindu girl in the group declared, “Allah is the only true God!”
All hell broke loose and her shell-shocked family tried with all their might to bring her back to normalcy. When they failed she was taken to a psychiatrist. After some sessions the psychiatrist figured out the problem and her friends were called in. Each and every buddy turned to be more Muslim than a true pal. The girls confessed that they were always discussing about Islam being the truest path and how their Hindu friend was destined for hell.
Fortunately, the doctor was able to pull the girl out of the indoctrination but only after much difficulty and today she is married to a Hindu.
Not all such stories have a positive ending.
Parents should first know about various faiths before they introduce them to children. Remember, in impressionable age children absorb like a sponge and believe that as the sole truth. Avoid sending wards to cults disguised as religions. Your magnanimity might push them into the mire from which there could be no return.
Look who is talking a girl who married in a family who had bias against all other faiths, they are ashamed of your and your parents’ faith. And you call bias of Hindus unreasonable? All Muslims are same, they demand conversion as Islam teach it… If you feel offended by truth then be it, a practicing Muslim cannot marry a non-Muslim . It is a trap to trap non-Muslim girls in Islam . Why Islam does not allow Muslim women to marry non-Muslim boys and to convert to their faith? Hypocrisy! Look at you, you, you married in a family which do not respect your parents’ faith and has problem with you identity… Change your identity, what a great love you have, can you guy change his identitto satisfy the ego of Muslim community… Great love..
Shafiya,
https://www.quora.com/What-do-you-find-to-be-the-creepiest-aspect-of-Islam-as-practiced-by-Muslims-who-you-know
Dear Admin,
My posts are awaiting moderation approval. My request dont modify them and post them as it is please.
How muslim family are so cruel for their own daughter who is a MBBS doctor loves to her colleague with a Hindu Doctor.
https://www.quora.com/How-difficult-is-it-for-a-Hindu-boy-to-marry-a-Muslim-girl-in-India-Do-I-have-to-convert
Krish,
You have rights to express your views but you cannot curse others and present your views with supporting facts. For an interfaith youth in love needs to hear from all sides and thus we welcome your views but be respectful to those who do not follow your ideologies. Thanks.
@Shafiya,
Indian girl Tarishi Jain was stabbed 40 times and some were raped by militants in Dhaka attack. Please read and revert me why I dislike Islam. This is a hearten news in 2016.
https://newsin.asia/indian-girl-tarishi-jain-stabbed-40-times-raped-militants-attack-dhaka-restaurant-july/
For Shafiya,
https://www.quora.com/Why-do-some-people-dislike-Islam
read this and u will realise the truth.
Shafiya,
I AM HINDDU by brith and by choice and YOU ARE A converted MUSLIM (so called lady jehadi), your name is a muslim hatred name.
Your said: “you mention lord shiva, he is called as ardhnari nateshwar that is half male half female, hinduism worships devi durga in navratra in the other hand you threatening a women.”
Then Where is your stand in your word. Do you believe Hinduism? If yes, why you became muslim?
you said: hinduism is broad thing which people like you will never understand
Do you have broader sense or cheap sense.
Yes said: your close relative serving in defense right..
Daily they are facing bullets from muslim only. sizable amount of our brave army jawan martyred from muslims katwa only. Where are you at that time. Those muslim terrorist wants India to be a muslim nation and you are one of these terrorist. If you have have feelings and kind hearten for for our army, you shouln’t marry a muslim katwa. I WONT REVERT MY WORD AND YOU ARE DESERVE FOR SUCH WORD. LIVE LIKE A COWDISH WOMEN NOW.
RESPECTED ADMIN,
MY STANCE IS CLEAR SIR. I DONT HAVE RESPECT SUCH CONVERTED WOMEN.
I donno have intent to curse anyone. But such cheap hindu girls are taking such hilarious steps. Shafiya deserves the same.
APJ KALAM was not actually mulsim. Muslim only believe Terrorist Muhammad allah and Quran. APJ KALAM was a master in Veda and Bhagabat Gita. He worship Lord SHIV too and was a member of Rameswaram temple.
shafiya,
I HAVE SEEN YOU ARE VOLUNTEERING INNOCENT HINDU GIRLS ON BEHALF YOUR MUSLIM HUSBAND (SO CALLED LOVE JIHAD).
CAN YOU UTTER ALLAH HU AKBAR IN A PUBLIC PLACE??? A BULLET WILL BE SHOOT AT YOUR HEAD.
YOU NO NEED TO FEEL SORRY FOR ME. TO ME YOU ARE A MUSLIM AND TREAT MUSLIM LIKE HAPPENING IN WESTER COUNTRIES USA, FRANCE ETC, GERMANY AS WELL AS INDIA. I HAVE SEEN HOW MUSLIMS WERE TREATING IN THESE COUNTRIES. THOSE WHO ARE CHEAP, LOW IQ, DONT BOTHER ABOUT THEIR ORIGIN CULTURE, PARENTS, FAMILIY, THEIR MOTHER LAND CAN CONVERTED TO ISLAM. YOU ARE ONE OF THEM AND SO DONT RESPECT FROM ME.
ISLAM IS A CURSE FOR EARTH AND IS COMPLETELY OPPOSITE OF HINDUISM. SO MY THOUGHT TO BE SAME AS BEFORE AND WILL REMAIN SO. NEVER EVER BELIEVE MUSLIM ESPECIALLY CONVERTED WOMEN, THEY ARE MOSTLY MOSTLY RADICALIZED. WE INDIAN (I BELIEVE ALL INDIAN ARE HINDUS, BUDHIST, SIKH, JEWS, PARSI AND JAIN) FIGHT AGAINST MUSLIMS TILL OUR LAST BREATH. MUSLIMS ARE BASTARD.
I dont feel pity for you like converted to destroy our Hindu culture and mother land. You married to a religion and not a man and your husband was fought for his religion not for you. IF YOU HAVE GUT WHY CANT YOU CHANGE HIS FAITH OR LEAVE HIM. IF HE LOVES YOU WHY NEED NIKAH? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Are you married to a religion cult? Kindly dont lecture on OUR HINDU GOD. Yesterday you worship Ardhanariswar (Lord Shiv) Idol, today you will perform nammaj and betray Idol-worship. YOu lost National Identity as well. LOOK AROUND WORLD, YESTERDAY PAKISTAN CONVERTED 500 HINDUS BY GUN POINT. YOU ARE SO MUCH HATRED WOMEN, THAT NEVER EVER BELIEVE.
Dont utter from your ugly mouthpiece about My GOD (Maa Durga). I may agree your close relative MAY BE WORKING IN DEFENSE but that does not mean you converted is having patriotic feelings. THOSE WHO IS NOT LOYAL TO HIS ORIGINAL RELIGION, SHE CANT BE LOYAL TO MY NATION. MY RELIGION IS MY IDENTITY AND MY IDENTITY MY RELIGION AND MY RELIGION IS HINDU and my country is hindustan. HOW COME YOU CONVERTED TO A SUCH HEINOUS HILARIOUS RELIGION. OH MY GOD, JUST FOR SHAKE OF LOVE, YOU KILLED YOUR PARENT, FRIENDS, RELATIVES, BOTHERS, SISTERS, WHOLE NATION?????
YOU ARE LIABILITY FOR MY COUNTRY.
HALALA
HALAL FOOD
TRIPLE TALAQ
LOVE JIHAD
KILL KUFIR (DISBELIEVER)
PLANTING BOMB
FEMALE CIRCUMCISION
BURKHA
THE LIST IS MORE FOR YOU.
“anyone there who converted and married to muslim ? please share your experience” hello sister i was on same page as you are today. i became muslim to marry my love. i will agree with admin that each one will have different experiment. let me tell you something islam only consider nikah that is you need to say shahada and become muslim.the life after marriage differs from family and how orthodox they are. sometimes there is not much of difference as compared to life before marriage but in some the family expects the girl need to follow customs, wearing veil. please ask if there is any doubt.
Shafiya,
Do you personally have any interfaith relationship experience to share to us? We would appreciate if you can. Are you the same as https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=12719?
Tell us what do you see around you that most (more than 50%) Muslims follow that this Hindu, Diya, should know? This will help her if she should fake-convert to please the (intended) in-laws.
We have concerns with this (intended) in-laws. Probably they are not Muslims to begin with but they want Diya to convert to Islam; that is oxymoron. Probably they may not be performing namaz five times a day, not eating halal, not reading Koran every day and so many things. On top, they are trying to lure Diya to convert by saying “his parents seems fine with our relationship (against Koran 24:30), his parents are insisting on islamic marriage as he is their only son (that’s only reason to convert her?), they are ok if i … go to my parents (a big deal!!!) and live like what i am living now (be a Hindu after converting??), all his parents want to see their child marrying as per their tradition (marrying a “Hindu” is not their tradition but converting Hindu girls is their tradition for past 1000 years)…”
yes i am the one who posted that post.what i have seen so far is not every muslim family is highly religious. that include not praying for all five prayers, reading Quran-e-sharif every day. when you say fake convert.. few family wants girl to accept islam but they do not expect to follow everything in islam.. like converting for namesake. they might allow allow her to live like what she used to live before marriage but when it comes to praying to hindu gods they may not like it. i would say that Diya need to know how exactly is the family of her boyfriend before marrying him either in Court or by nikah.
On “when it comes to praying to hindu gods they may not like it”, well, she is a “Hindu” and they are dating for past 6 years. Did the boy disclose this simple fact that she cannot pray to her gods any more after the marriage? Why do you think they may not like a Hindu praying to Hindu gods? What damage is going to be done when it is done in their home behind closed doors? Are Hindus sinners and hell bound?
On “i would say that Diya needs to know how exactly is the family of her boyfriend…” we would say Diya needs to know exactly what she is. If she is submissive, willing to be something she is not and willing to make her parents unhappy for life, she should fake-convert to Islam. If she believes in liberty and expect dignity for what she is, she should marry by the court (to be 50%-50%).
shafiya/Purnima,
Your entire life has been changed after converted and you are one of the biggest liability for the nation. One day you loved and Worship Lord Siv Ji and now you are eating beef. Anyway DONT ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO CONVERT ISLAM” PLESE REFRAIN FROM THIS SITE. YOU BASTARD IS A LIABILITY FOR YOUR PARENTS TOO. You are now jealous for Hinduism as Islam is bad name all over world and I hate such third grade bastard lady who convert for shake of her love. You are so cheap cant imagine. You now read fake quran or do 5 times namaaj and produce dozen children (some of your children will have slaughter house) and THE MOST IMPORTANT IS YOU WILL NOT ALLOW TO YOUR PARENTS HOUSE BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS ARE KAFIR. Such Helarious religion and you are proud now. Wait for HALALA (you may be offer to some one by your husband) and HALAL food whith mustache less, unsaved beard skull cap your husband..YOU SHOULD BE KILLED
krish.. i feel sorry for you!! you mention lord shiva, he is called as ardhnari nateshwar that is half male half female, hinduism worships devi durga in navratra. in the other hand you threatening a women.. and you call yourself true hindu, shame !!! you call me bastard and saying i should be killed ? just because i became muslim? stop your psudo hinduism in your mind.. hinduism is broad thing which people like you will never understand.
stop blaming and saying mean things to anyone. humanity is always greater than any religion!! i already mentioned one of my family member is currently serving in Indian army so you better stop talking about petriotism.
i was not expecting indirect support to krish by Admin/s where he is threatning to kill someone
Krish,
Please refrain from cursing others. Every one has rights to believe what ever. Indian president was also a Muslim at one point and there are many wonderful Muslims (like SRK and many in Indian military). Expressing your views strongly without supportive evidence will only make you ineffective in your message. Please tone down your message and be open minded and respectful to others choices.
thank you for responding, please tell me were there any difficulties after marriage,how is your current life? i talked to his parents and they said i dont need to follow much like reading quran daily or eat beef or something, i dont need to pray five times etc.they doesnt seem very religiously strict . they want me to accept islam because they dont any clashes of ideologies later in married life. they agreed to have talk with my parents about our relation.
Hi,
We hope former Purnima/now Shafiya will come to guide you soon for why she converted.
We wish you will be really happy even after, even after 60 years, with what ever you decide. However, let us share some thoughts goes through our mind.
Why it is “my parents are not happy to see me getting married to him where as his parents seems fine with our relationship”? This is our common observation in most relationships. WHY? Is that because the Hindu parents are conservative and old minded while the Muslims are progressive thinkers and open minded? You are intelligent thus think crucially why it is so.
We know once you convert and become 100% Muslim you will be treated well and there won’t be any issue (in most cases). Only that you have to be 0% Hindu, don’t wear bindi, don’t wear Om, don’t go to a mandir, don’t be a part of Satya Narayan katha at your parents’ home and don’t let your children be a part of holi or Diwali but celebrate Bakra-eid. If your parents don’t like these, then you will end up stop going to their place. Even your name will be changed to some Arabic name, like there is something wrong with your current name. Your parents understand that they will have limited happiness of enjoying their grandchildren because your parents are still kafirs (Hindus). They cannot freely associate with your God’s-favored-“Muslim”-children. What is in for your parents to be happy about? Is that the dream they raised you since your birth?
It is one thing you may not want to go to a temple by your own choice and another you are now expected not to enter a temple. You have to understand that you are giving up your rights to express your desires. Your liberty is being taken away, even living in a free country! Are you okay for all these?
We would have told you all these six years before when you fall in love with that guy on the first day. We wonder why did he not told you all these then? What else he (and his parents) have not told you today that you will find out tomorrow (and more 20 years down in your life)? How can you trust this type of people who are not honest upfront?
What would they say if you say sorry, I wish to remain what I am (Hindu). Will they kick you out for being what you are? They don’t want you but want something you are not? Why they don’t want a rose be rose? Why they want a rose to convert to a carnation? If carnation is what they wanted, why they started with a rose to begin with?
Sorry, these are some thoughts come to our minds, but it is your choice and your life. Do keep in touch with us.
Diya,
Are you so mad to convert to Islam? just for for your love like Purnima? There are lot of Lovejihad case happening and many HINDU girls are trapping by educated muslims to spread their fake barbaric hilarious religion. You like HINDU girls are abolishing great ancient HINDUISM. Why cant you leave him as LOVE is temporary and your religion is your identity and your identity is your nation so called HINDUstan?? Dont you know your life will be spoiled after converted. What ever your lover’s family is saying is fake, you will see the real face once you will do Nikah. Remmeber you will loose yuor freinds, family and relatives like Sophiya (Purnima). PLEASE DONT TRAP WITH CONVERTED MULSIMS LIKE SOPHIYA (PURNIMA). SHE IS WASTE GARBAGE NOW. She follows her mulsim hunband decision and now she is biggest threat for nation as well.
Diya,
Think several times before this bold and wrong step. You know you lost your familiy, friends and relatives. Islam will not permit you to visit your parent’s house because your parents are Kafir (non believer). it is very painful than your marriage if you wont allow to visit or talk to your parents. There are thousand such cases (please read the blog of this site to know the real face of muslims) where hindu girls were divorced and living with their parents with their kids. One more painful is none of your friends (especially HINDU or non muslim firneds) will talk to you, you will be socially boycott post marriage. ONLY YOU WILL LIVE AND STAY WITH MUSLIM COMMUNITY AND THAT WOULD BE TERRIBLE LIFE. REMEMBER LOVE IS TEMPORARY and as I said earlier is your religion (HINDUISM) is your identity, please dont loose it.A great religion. YOU WILL TREAT WORSE WHEN YOU WILL TRAVEL TO WESTER COUNTRIES (ONE OF MY CONVERTED COLLEAGUE WENT TO GERMANY AND SHE FACED SUCH DISCRIMINATION). HINDUISM HAS GREST RESPECT ALL OVER WORLD. DONT CONVERT JUST FOR A LOVE. IF HE LOVES YOU ASK HIM TO CONVERT TO HINDUSIM. *ALSO DO YOU WANT INDIA TO BE A MUSLIM MAJORITY COUNTRY*. YOU WILL REALISE AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE, PLEASE REFRAIN FROM THIS DECISION.
thank you for your suggestion but i dont agree with you ! i personally feel you are judging the entire community because of few instances. its clear from my side that i will marry my love its just that how and when i will marry.
i have gone through the entire post and i see you are cursing shafiya, is it just because she became muslim? so now please tell me mr krish will i be called same if i accept islam ? like basard, liablity and all? or will i be called godess if i get married to vedic brahmin?
it is a forum so please maintain your language, everyone has right to do things as they want, its fundamental right given by constitution.
i feel religion is just a way to pray to god.
coming to your post, you said i will not be allowed to go to my parents house, answer is i will be able to for sure. me and my boyfriend are marrying in court the question is on nikah.
Diya,
This below post and discussion is the answer that you are looking for. Note that there are all kinds of views, ask you friend to ask his imam about this and answer us back. We hope to hear what his imam says.
https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=76
Diya,
If it so called you decided to conver to a mulsim, then why are you playing and posting here. You have already made yuor decision. Dont post it here. Many interfaith marriage scrapped.
It is upto you. But thing is you people are converting and increasing mulsim population in India. Do you agree with 0% Hindu and 100% mulsim. ?
Shafiya is deserve that word because you search how she is doing lady jehadi in this site.
Diya
Please check QUORA about the life after marrying a muslim man. These are tons of such incidents and you will definitely get some sort of knowledge. we all are against your proposal. Please think billion times. One my post about REEMA CHHABRA:
krish says: March 25, 2018 at 5:18 am
Dear Mira,
Yes I know REEMA CHHABRA she stops following ISLAM now she is against islam and Quran. She hates Quran. Personally I know her and she is working in a top MNC company in Hyderabad. Now she is not wearing veil or Bukha and living happily. She was running with bipolar depression and attempted suicide many times after marriage. She stops because Quran is based on Arabic language. Reeema also done great knowledge on Arab language. She frightened when she translated QURAN into English and she came to know that Quran is not a religion book. It is full of war muslim and non muslim and conquer of land and spread the population (abortion is prohibited in Quran etc). She divorced when she argued with her husband about Quran.
Dear Diya,
There will be all type of people you will come across from both sides of family and they may make many comments (sometimes irrational). We hope you will take this web site as a training ground for what is coming and not get disappointed. Take that apply to your situation and ignore the rest. Do stay in touch.
Shafiya/Purnima
My humble request please refrain from converting others. You are now lady muslim katwa jehadi want to destroy innocent Hindu girls who are being emotionally trapped by muslims. Please get out from this site. You are whole burden of the nation Bastard.
thank you for the response.i have gone through the post you shared. his family knows our relation and they like me too , they are ok if i work, go to my parents and live like what i am living now. till now i have not seen them hating hinduism or any other faith. all his parents want to see their child marrying as per their tradition. i have discussed with them about court marriage they are ok with that but they want nikah too.
i would like to talk to someone who converted after marriage and know what and how things are happening with them.
again thank you for help.
Diya,
We highly recommend you to do one thing, and that is–your boy friend and you will not lie and deceive any one; not your parents, not religious leaders nor to God/Allah. This will be the key to your very happy married life for ever. That means you will have to be bold and tell your parents what is going on up front. It does not mean you have to follow his or your parents’ wishes. It is better to tell on face that you will not follow–this or that–their wishes because you do not think that is logical or rational. Does this small request make sense?
On “they want nikah too”, means you have to be a Muslim (shahadah) before the Nikaah. Further, a Muslim cannot be a Hindu. Is that okay with you not to be a Hindu after the Shahadah? As we recommended you before not to lie, don’t fake-shahadah. If your wish it to be a Hindu (even 30%), tell them honestly your wish. It seems they are open minded and they will honor your request. You are not asking him to be a Hindu so why should they ask you to be a Muslim?
This will not help you “i would like to talk to someone who converted…” because you cannot go by one person’s experience. His/her situation is definitely going to be different than yours and thus may not be applicable to your situation. For that we recommend, if you can afford, buy our book because that has 56 people’s experiences with Muslim (intended) spouse. It will also tell you points that you may have missed. It is good to make fully “informed” decision for your life.
Please, please do keep us updated with your new situations. Interfaith marriage is like walking on fire— do not go alone–and we will walk with you. We hope to hear from you soon.
Hello sister diya may be it sounds silly to you but please read Bhagavad Gita I believe Bhagvat Gita help you to take your decision without any worry,independently.
Sister do you know why your parents are not agree because they know you have to compromise each and every step of your life after marring him.
His parents are ready because they know their son will remain same after marriage he don’t need to compromise for you and yes they already demanding you to change your religion. Why his parents have any objection when they are going to get a daughter in law who is going to delicate her life for his husband and in -laws
You love him so you have to leave your religion, your parents, your identity everything what he is sacrificing for you? Nothing
He will remain to live with his parents with his name ,religion, friends, relatives and you have to leave everything WHY?
Because you are a girl.
Sister you are not born to become a puppet Believe in God we have only one master our God
READ BHAGVAT GITA and take right decision.
And if he is only son so what ?I think you are not unwanted child of your parents and your parents love you more than anyone else your parents have also dream for your life right
So you want to fulfill his parents dreams what about your parents dreams for you?
Please read God’s words Bhagavad Gita and take right decision.
Hi Diya,
We have changed your name for your privacy.
You are on track for the court marriage plan. If he is the only son or one of ten is not the reason you have to convert, just tell them NO. If you are not sure why we are saying, read/view these.
https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2402
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RiWLGEKusIg
Don’t be disappointed, we will help you marry the same guy the way you want it, so do get back.
If you want, Nita will be glad to talk to you.