Harpreet says: August 3, 2014 at 5:33 am
I’m
A Sikh woman who is I love with a Muslim man.
It’s now just over 8year.
My family are coming round. His family not so much at he moment.
We are both very liberal and don’t want to convert we are happy as we are and just want to get married now.
The hard bit… My mums one wish is that we still do anand kaar which I’m happy to do but living in west London I am not sure where to start or don’t know which gurdwara would accept this. Can anyone help or guide me to the right number/site to enquire?
Thank you. -Harpreet
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Hi Harpreet,
Considering all situations are different, you will be better of going personally to each of Gurdwara in your area. Yes, you should fulfill wishes of your mother, one of these Gurdwaras will be willing to perform Anand Kaar for you.
Gurdwara in West London: http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=gurdwara+in+west+london&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8
As said in this video, all Muslims start being openminded and liberal, however things could change later. For example, Akansha had to unwillingly convert to Nusrat after marriage. For this reason, do not estimate his parents and community. Go meet them and resolve issue before you get into marriage. Also read Sikh-Muslim marriages for experiences of all good and not so good. Best wishes.
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To hav an Anand Karaj is not allowed. Both partners must believe in the Guru Granth Sahib.it
Furthermore having three kids myself and from a Hindhu Pznjabi backgrpund. i hav bpth changed my name and all my children fpllow sikhism. It would not be fair for xpur children to be brought up following twp faiths. i do not fast or atend the mandir. it is the mothers responsibility to ensure any children born put the relaitonship r not i. war over religion. the decision should b made prior to the wedfing day. i would advisr agaibst any interfaith marriages. the difficulties are hugh in Asia selocieties. from naming children.
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I am 50 and regrety life. I cannot attend or celebrate any hindhu festivals other than Diwali. it can b very upsetting and depressing. though my family life and children r very happy. i hav this inner pain wishing i cozld b with my cousins and joining my community. Think very carefully about what u r doin. it is not reversible. when u r young u believe in love. life is not about love. its about customs traditipns cadte systems heritage. everything u will learn when u mature
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mac says: August 3, 2014 at 6:23 am
Dear Harpeet,
it is very much possible for sikh-muslim to enjoy a interfaith marriage with equality if you know the true history of respected Guru Nanak and his relations with muslim, yes there was fight between muslim rulers and sikh gurus and don`t forget all rulers has to fight against any religious gurus, even those muslim rulers had to fight against their brothers or uncles
http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Guru_Nanak_in_Mecca
This is gurunanak`s words about god “There is one God. He is True. He makes everything. He is not afraid of anyone. He is not born. He never dies. He is self-made. We need only think of Him and pray to Him” and this is what a true muslim believe too
http://www.sikhmissionarysociety.org/sms/smspublications/gurunanakforchildren/chapter6/
and Quran tell us not to marry a non-believing women and if you follow Guru Nanakji then you aren`t a musrik,idolators which muslim men cannot marry, so you a muslim men can marry a sikh without conversion, and remember the term sikhism was never uttered by Guru Nanakji, he only preached Monotheism, the word sikhism was founded later after many years of gurunanak`s death
but recent relations between muslims and sikhs are not very good, it got worst during partition of india