Dr. S says: December 3, 2012 at 11:08 am
Hi Eram,
nice to hear about u…i m also in love with a girl from last 5 and half year n she is muslim. she is not indian. i went her house to convince her parents 2 times but they never agreed n when i asked my girlfriend to marry with me against her family she refused. she asked me to convert n stay in her country but i m not ready for it. she told me she will marry me only if u convert and stay with her in her country and also she said if we have children she want they all convert to muslim.
My family is against our marriage even then also i told her that i will stay with her n for me she dont have to convert or do puja n all i m ready to accept her as who she is but she is not ready to accept me as who i m she said she will marry me only if i m muslim.
i love her alot from past 5 years whatever i do i do considering her as my wife. What do you think she love me true?? or i m stupid that i love her alot n she just want take advantage of it n make me muslim. I dont know what to do can u give me any advice?? -Dr. S
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Eram faridi says: December 3, 2012 at 6:05 pm
Hi. Dr. S. Do not worry. Sab kuch behtar ho jayega. koi dharam nahi kehta ki meri puja karo. aur agar hum ibadat karte hain to hamara pyar aur respect hain apne god ke liye dharam ke sahi mayne hum insano ne khud hi change kiya hain. aap khud socho ki aap us ladki ko poori tarah se apnane ko ready hain. aur aap apne decision mein stand bhi lena chahte hain par love relation hamesha doo logon ki understanding se chalta hai. chahe wo understanding apki family ke liye ho ya fir dharam ke liye.
aap apne dil ke haathon ek baar majboor hokar ready bhi ho jaoge ki aap kisi aur country mein jao. par jab aapko apni family ki yaad aayegi tab bahut bura lagega. aur fir wo pyaar aapko saza lagne lagega. aap unko samjhao pyaar se. after all aapke family wale bhi aapse pyaar karte hain. keep faith on ur luv. -Eraam.
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Admin says:
Dr. S,
You have reached to the right site for all your answers. Considering you are a doctor and an intellectual, lets analyze your situation critically.
We believe interfaith marriages will be successful and ever lasting if it is IM-WE (Interfaith Marriage With Equality). You know it well that the “love” driven by your testosterone in blood and altered 5HT levels in brain cells will metabolized in a year or two. Considering very high rate of divorces in interfaith marriages, you must make a rational decision.
She wants to make you something that you are not. She believes in converting a rose to a carnation; if she wants a carnation, why she is not looking for one, plenty around? If her goal is to please her parents and take you to her country, you better be ready to be a true Muslim. First read Koran on Hindus? Then spend at least 6 months in a madras and learn about Islam. When you think you are ready to dump murtis of Lord Rama, Krishna and Goddess Laxmi into garbage, then only think of becoming a Muslim. Read the Hindu Boy article and references there-in.
She will tell you that I don’t care all these conversion but just do it for my father (or what ever), don’t believe her. She is nothing but a telibani, love-proselytizer, Sikh-meat, Love-Jihadi. She will not tolerate a shadow of your parents and your Hindu friends. Basically, you must be ready to dump your parents who sacrificed their life savings to make you a doctor.
The most critical point she made is “children she want they all convert to muslim”. One day your Muslim children and great grandchildren will go and convert more Hindus to Islam. …so, where this saga will end? …till no more Hindu (Sikh and Christian) left to convert? Is it your childhood dream and life objective? It is time for a change and you should bring that change by taking a right step now.
Read what we wrote in the NO BBS article. Does this exclusivist, intolerant and supremacist thinking has a place in IM-WE? You will never be able to please her even you (fake) convert for marriage because you will be able to keep up with her demands. Your life will be ruined.
Read many blogs on this site and understand our message of pluralism for a successful IM-WE. Ask her to learn pluralism from Shah Rukh Khan, Salman, and Seema Maheshwari. Tell her upfront that children will not be Muslims only, but both. Give her the Muslim girl article and ask her to read Islamic Women Today. Then dump her for 3 months (no phone calls or text) to give her time to reevaluate her irrational thinking. If she is educated and with some brain, she will realize her mistakes and will come to terms. Try! Let us know how it goes. Best wishes. – Admin.
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hello dosto mai eram faridi ki baat se sahmat hu ki pyar dharam ka bandhan nahi manta aur pyar ko hamesha pahal deni chahiye mujhe khushi hai 28 novmber mere janam din ke 7 din baad unhone ne shodi ki this is very good news for me.. mai bahot khush hu kyuki mai unka accha dost hu
The Admin has done the exceptionally philanthropic work by bringing together all the required informations from all the religions in order to enable the aspirants of interfaith marriages to make an informed decision.
The enlightened Muslim women and other like minded visitors have devoted a good deal of their time in presenting the realiity of Muhammad and his anti human teachings. The humanity will ever be thankful to them.
Thank you Satyen for giving hands for “enable the aspirants of interfaith marriages to make an informed decision.” We do not care for the outcome, as far as they make a fully “informed” decision.
Thanks Admin.
We have unanimously resolved that our wedding ceremony will be in the Arya Samaj Temple followed by registration of marriage, under special act. Regarding kids in future, they will adopt Hindu religion, my Physiotherapyst doctor has understood now, due to so many evils described learned muslim women in this site. She is deeply touched by the horrors and terrors of islamic texts in the Quran about the females. Now she is taking keen interest in Hindu religious teachings.
I told her that she could follow noble teachings of Quran too.
Thanks once again.
Comment to Alok at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3568
Dr. Alok,
Congratulations for getting your sweetheart amicably.I also congratulate your would be spouse for discarding the teachings of Muhammad that has made women’s life a hellfire on earth with a hope of heaven (that doesn’t exist for them). Sad thing is this that women folk don’t read the Quraan and Hadith for themselves and only rely on the interpretation of the Male Mulla/Maulavis. I request all the Muslim women to read at least the life story of Muhammad, his views ref=garding the women and their place in heaven vis a vis the comforts a Jihadi male will get in paradise.
Another excellent thing you did is to visit the Arya Samaj temple. I strongly recommend you to vissit the site http://www.agniveer.com (It is run by the products of IIM/IIT and other professionals)
and understand the Vedic way of life (you are free to differ at some issues).
Hi Dr., if your GF is determined for conversion, there is no point to keep the relations and attachment. Sooner or later, it will be problematic issue. If she really loves you she should not insist for it. You both could have system of own religion.
I am also in love with a muslim girl who is a physiotherapyst in the same hospital, while I am Orthopaedic surgeon. Initially she took the same condition before me, but I denined. I told categorically, that if she really loves, we can marry keeping our own system of beliefs and children could follow both systems, as millions of couples are maintaining happily and understandbly.
Good luck. Take a bold stand.
Comment to Alok at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3568
Alok,
Can you share more on your experience? Did she agree to it? Are you going to have an Islamic Nikaah (possible only after conversion)? Will she participate in a Hindu wedding? Are children going to have circumcision, sunat ceremony to announce Muslims and Arabic names?
Tell us more about her thought process why she asked for conversion. What is her definition of God? Religion? Please get back and we would like to run a full story on your case. What message you would give to other youths in love? Why?