john says: February 4, 2014 at 3:24 pm
Hi,
I am Christian guy(orthodox) from bangalore in a relationship with a Hindu girl. We are planning to get married soon and my parents wants us to get married in a church. I guess, and as far as I am told, the church would want my girlfriend to convert to allow us to marry in the church. I am not in favor of this, but would like to fulfill my parents wish to get us married in church. So, please suggest how do I go about this? Does the church conduct interfaith marriage without conversion? Is there any church (catholic/Pentecost) that is open to conduct such marriage?
And what does it mean to get converted/baptized? Is it just in the records of the church? Can’t my girl friend continue to use her Hindu identity in any records after the baptism?
PS: I’m not a religious person and don’t know much about any religion including my own, so don’t think about me imposing my religion on my partner. I would like to get married in a church without my partner getting converted, but if that’s not possible and it is a simple formality that doesn’t change anything then we would contemplate taking that route.
Please advise
Thanks -John
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Hi Admin,
I’m a Hindu girl and in love with a Syrian orthodox boy, both our parents agreed to our relationship. Now we have decided to take our relationship forward and get married however his mother wants a Syrian orthodox wedding and my parents want a hindu wedding. Can we get married both ways? Can we get married in Syrian orthodox rituals without me being converted? I don’t want to convert to another religion for my advantage as I feel it won’t be ethical. Please let me know if u have a solution.
Regards ,
Ramya
Hi Admin,
I am hindu not born in India, my girlfriend is malankara Syrian Orthodox Christian. We both live in UK. We love each other and want to get married but not sure how our parents will react to this.
We both respect each others religion and want to practice both. We decided that our children will have the Hindu rites and the Christian rites(Baptism) and they can decide which religion to follow when they become of age.
The problem is I am cannot find anywhere online where we can both marry in an orthodox church. I dont want to give up hope. Do you have any advice?
Thanks,
Raj
Regarding the earlier comment, wanted to know about the churches in bangalore preferably
Hi,
I’m in love with a born again Christian girl and was wondering if there were any born again churches that would welcome intefaith couple as there’s a good chance the church she’s currently in will kick her out of we get married as they have had a sermon warning against having relationships with unbelievers in the past. I’m looking into this because I don’t want her to lose the chance to practice her faith because of me. She wouldn’t be complete without it and the church has this bully characteristic to kick people out!!
Hi,
I am a christian guy(orthodox) from Kerala. I would like to marry a hindu girl. Both our parents accepted it. Although her father is willing to do it in a christian wedding manner, he also want to do it in a hindu wedding. I just want to know is there any problem to conduct a hindu marriage ceremony if the church (orthodox) knows it???
Please advise.
Inform his parents that the church may ask the Hindu to convert to Christianity, are they already for it?
If she is going to be a Christian, why two Christians want a Hindu wedding?
We suggest to go get married by the Special Marriage Act 1954. Later, you can have as many marriages as you wish. If the church ask for conversion, go find a different church who does not.
Hi , can anyone suggest churches in bangalore where an orthodox Can marry a Hindu without conversion . John did you finally get married without her converting and where did u get married
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=10008
Hi Pratiksha,
I know I am pulling this up from an old thread. But was just curious to know if you got your dilemma resolved as I am going through a similar situation. I am an orthodox/Jacobite christian wanting to marry a Hindu girl. Wanted to know if we can have a church wedding without her converting.
Any pointers will help.
Hi JJ,
I am in the exact same situation as you. please let me know if you have found the best way out of the dillema
Dear Jer,
Many times churches and madirs are run by people from old times and are out of realities of today. We hope you know your situation better than most. Do you feel the church has more control on what Jesus will want you to do compared to you? We always say Jesus was a very progressive preacher. Think Jesus was in front of you right now and tell you to do that is more progressive and logical, what would you do?
From deep into your heart, do you wish the Hindu to convert to what she is not?
If you don’t like (or hate) Hindus, why you got in love with her to start with?
Why not enjoy your interfaith marriage with respect for two faiths, share two faiths and equality of both?
Get back to us and lets talk more.
Hi john
Please let me know in case you know any church becoz I am also searching for the same
Hi Mini,
Can you share your details? Do you wish the other party to convert to your faith? Are you willing to marry by the Special Marriage Act 1954? We could guide, if you wish.
hi,
its me nilanjana.. I am a hindu girl.. Born and brought up in a hindu family.. But now when i am 22years old, i can’t accept my religion.. I feel, i haven’t own identity.. Thats why i want to be a chistian to creat my own identity.. Please help me and guide me..
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8074
i am a orthodox christian i want to marry a hindu girl in bangalore but v r non residents of karnataka but wanted to marry in bangalore church can anyone suggest me the churches plz thanks in advance
Do you expect her to convert to Christianity? Do you know what does it mean marrying a Hindu? Can children be Hindu as well as Christian? Go check out with several churches and select the one who do not expect conversion. Best wishes.
Dear John
You need to talk with your local Orthodox Christian priest, not an internet forum. He will be happy to help you learn all about your religion. The admin is pretty anti-Christian (and loves cherry-picking bits of our faith to make it seem like 50:50 children are OK in our religion), imo you should dump the Hindu girl – Orthodox Christianity tends to be stricter than Catholicism about inter-faith marriages.
Hi anushka even the same problem im facing in my life.no need to worry u ill face the until ur husband understand ur situation.
Can you give more details of your situation? We would appreciate it, thanks.
Hi,
I am married to a Roman Catholic who is 7 years elder to me. Being a single child of my HINDU parents, I was very pampered and yes stubborn too.I met ABC(my husband now) and was madly in love with him.He asked me to get converted and i madly in love said ok and after many difficulties i convinced my parents too.
We got married in both Hindu and Christian way.. before that i got baptised and did all my Catichisam classes, etc with all my heart i accepted this religion. Everything was nice suddenly my Father In law introduced me to one of his relative saying… “yes she got converted as she wanted to come into our faith” but this was not the reason as they wanted me to get converted.. this line pinched me like a dart as this conveyed that i think that THEIR religion was superior so i got converted. And since that i was in a dilemma. Though my husband is a very nice person but after this relative husband once during a Hanuman Jayanti i refused to eat non veg(it was just a call from inside) so i quietly told my husband that see i will not be able to eat non veg and then he went and told my MIL that she will not eat Chicken so please cook veg for her and this she was so upset.. and since then the problem started.
After exact 9 months of marriage i kept Idols and started my pooja.. as i was really disturbed with thousands of small little issues. Initially Husband was upset but slowly he accepted. We both were working so had little time to put our brains in some other thing.
Then after 1 year few months of marriage i conceived because of few health issues i left my job and convinced my husband to send me to my mother place.
Little fights we use to have but nothing huge use to happen.
Once baby was born i had millions of problem.. ad while i was pregnant i had few complications and this brought me more close to my BHAGWAN JI and more of guilt.
Now… there are tons of problems between us. As i have 2 unmarried sister in laws and a brother in law and ofcourse MIL and FIL all keep on interfering and their interference is entertained by my husband.
I still do puja path and have kept my mandir but when anyone comes from my Inlaws side i close the cupboard.
I feel ashamed of what i have done.. all surrounded by guilt.. I really dont know what to do and how to overcome from this GUILT.
I have spoiled my Life my Parents Life and also my Husbands life. I know its my FAULT.. but Now what to do..????
I wish i found this site earlier.
Regards
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7762
God will help u anushka,u no need to learn abt the churchs bcoz ur have already tired of learning abt ur religion.best of luck….
John,
Thank you for sharing your case. We are proud of you because you believe in “I am not in favor of this (conversion business).”
There are many other options. Go talk to several church who will perform wedding without conversion or asking her to sign a preNuptial to raise children Christians. Best option is to go get married FIRST by Special Marriage Act 1954.
Do not make lies and deceptions a foundation of your married life, do not go for the FAKE-conversion. Do not make your loved one do that is sin, that is fake-baptism. Jesus will not approve this, never.
Is the Hindu gf okay baptizing? Do her parents want a Hindu wedding ceremony and are you okay with it?
Can you ask your gf to come on this web site? It is important for her to be fully educated about what she is getting into. If not, later in life, she will start cursing you for no reason.
Hi,
Thank you for your prompt response.
As suggested, I will talk to several churches about this.
She is ok as far its just a formality. I want to avoid it as much as possible. I love her for who she is and want her to remain who she is.
I am open to a Hindu ceremony and I am yet to talk to her parents about the next steps(they are yet to accept our relationship).
Thanks again for your advise,
John
John
First, you are a wonderful human-being. Jesus came to this world to accept ALL (Jews and Gentiles, to love even those who are not circumcised and He changed the Second Commandment to Love Thy Neighbors). You are following His footsteps by saying, “I want to avoid it (baptism) as much as possible. I love her for who she is and want her to remain who she is. I am open to a Hindu ceremony“.
Jesus may love you but not your church. You will find out exactly opposite demands from all different churches (not to tolerate Hindus and convert her). You will realize that churches are more powerful than Jesus (‘ messages). Let us know if we are wrong.
Further, do not expect smooth sailing with Hindu parents. They know it all well that Christians are all out converting Hindus. What will you tell them for the religion of your children, can they be 50% Hindus and 50% Christians (no baptism)?
Please keep in touch and update us for what you learned from your churches.