Amul says: November 26, 2013 at 9:17 pm
Hi Ashes,
I am a Christian girl and my lover is a Jain boy. I am ready to convert into Jain. But even though they are not accepting me. I m suffering with this for the past 6 years and could not able to do anything. Could you please share with me your opinion about this and what and all you have done what whats the position now. -Amul
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I know why they do not agree your marriage, I am a jain and face a similar situation, forget christian even Hindus are forbidden, that’s only because they fear dilution of faith which is fair enough assumption as many inter cast marriages result in jains adopting Non-Vegetarian diet, violent acts, the next generation having no relevance to the faith and many other small small things. This can also be without inter faith marriages but it acts like a possible catalyst which parents try to avoid.
The jain principles are considerably strict and hard to keep up with in today’s world.
The bright side is that people are changing and jains willing to accept a good person. The trick is to be a bit traditional and show u can keep up with it. There is no need to convert as we do not have any concept of conversion, just follow some principles and u r good to go. Jain parents will listen to fair arguments with logic and substance, treat them with respect and present urself as a responsible person i am sure all will be fine.
Can you elaborate more on “I …. face a similar situation”?
Hello readers,
Yesterday I met parents of my (Hindu) BF and they discussed me in detail all aspects of life including life style, faith, cultural dimension and future adjustment. I was treated very well and looking my determination finally they said that if you both(me and my BF) could adjust and live happily, they have no problem to accept me as their daughter in law, without changing my religion. This was a great moral boosting support for me and now I have decided to marry him only irrespective of any hurdle from my own community.
I dont think that my parents on their own shall take a harsh step against us if they are not instigated by our own relatives and mullas.
They pressurize my parents to make me to marry my cousin in the name of
islam. Looking my stand and will power, they do not talk with me on this matter but from outside they bring pressure to do so. I know that marrying my own cousin is not a compatible match in any respect, leading me to lead a miserable life. I want financially independent and live blissful life.
Hi readers,
Me,23 years, a sunni muslim, working in a manufacturing company in Pune and in love with a Bihari Hindu boy 29 years. I wish to marry him.I discussed about him with my parents, who became angry and now wish to marry me with my cousin, who is running a small shop with other 3 unmarried sisters. Though I have refused to marry him, yet I am under tremendous pressure from my relatives. I am fully aware that I shall not be happy with him at all. They are against my working in the company.
I discussed this matter with an advocate alongwith my Hindu BF. He said that special marriage act would be suitable to marry and seek police protection in the event of any unpleasant behaviour from my community.
I wish to be financially independent and the Hindu BF is quite sobre, gentle and caring deserving my whole life partner.
Please suggest.
Whyy so ??? that’s not good .. actually me myself jain and we have in our family sindhi sister in law.. but we have accepted her and one is Hindu ( bramhin) we never had such problem.
If you really love that Jain guy and that guy too love you genuinely ..
then take a decision .. i mean why don’t you guys do court marriage and later on parents will accept you I’m sure!!! I would also suggest you to talk with his parents .. i mean your BF and you both sit together may be they will understand.
I wish everything come good in your way
Regards,
Jain, Sikh, Buddhist and Hindus are not exclusivists. However, Christians are, meaning only those who are baptized will go to heaven. For that reason, their church will ask that children by this marriage must be Christians only.
Agree, go marry by court and keep the church (and temple) out of your life (but keep God).
What is their plea of not accepting you?
Md.Zia-ul-Haque,Alim & Advocate
Dear Ashes,
The society is still very close and every parents are trying to preserve their heritage. In this respect, even if your bf found a Hindu girl, their Jain parents are going to say no (and vice a versa). Only time parents will accept this love is when they realize that there is no option left but to accept it. 1) For this reason we would recommend you two to complete your education and find a job outside your city. Once you are financially independent and out of parents’ umbrella, you have a chance.
Meantime, we would recommend you a few things. 2) You said, “could not able to do anything”, we understand it is very hard to think of life without him but somehow you have to manage to run your life. Find a job, if you can. 3) What you have learned in you churches? Can non-baptized be saved? Are Hindus and Jains are idol-worshippers? Please tell us. Educate yourself by reading recommended material. 4) How would you convince your parents and priest at Church? 5) Think of options other than this Jain boy (sorry it is hard to think, but this is the last resort). Lets talk more, get back to us.