Priti says: July 23, 2017 at 5:04 am
Hi… ?
I was in a relationship with a muslim guy for 4 years. At the beginning he was very nice and supportive. But later on, he came in touch with a few muslim imams and i don’t know what happened to him he started asking me to get convert to islam before marriage.
He asked me to get convert only for 5 mins before marriage, but i am not that dumb to not understand that whether it’s for 1 sec or 1 hour, if i get convert, i will go out my religion.
Earlier he was Okay with everything but later on he refused to follow anything related to my faith.
I tried hard to save the relationship but i couldn’t. We had a lot of quarrel. I was ready to adjust on 2-3 things but he was not.
And i just had one thought in my mind that ” A guy cannot be more important than my GOD/religion” And ya i left him.
It was not an easy decision for me but i had to take this decision.
If he can break his promise of keeping me as a hindu after 3.5 years of relationship, why cannot I break my promise of not to leave him?
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and after 2 years of our break up, i got into relationship with a guy from my own religion and caste. And i am happy with him.
I loved him (muslim guy) truely but i had no independence when i was with him but this guy today i am with, he respect my feelings and i feel more independent with him today. -Priti
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My Parents are Forcing Me to Marry a Hindu Guy
Dear Sister Priti,
I have no word to express towards you. You are a bright example of other Hindu girls who are converting Islam just for their love marriage intact. They forget that their original religion is their identity and they lost.You have shown path to other women as well. I salute you.
Preeti, well done.
Muslim guys are interested in multiplying their population under taqiyya doctrine to adopt all deceptive tactices.
Islam is a cruel and criminal mind set against humanity. What this religion has done in arab countries, is well known fact.
Hello,my name is Bina,i am from India,now living in UK for study.
I have been visiting your site frequently for some few days.
I want to share my situation with people here and seek advice so please help me.
I am hindu girl from brahmin family(both of my mother and father is brahmin).I came to UK for soul purpose of study.
The guy first i saw was in a restaurant,normally we friend circle used to go there for gossip or to eat together.
I get huge concentration because of my look or whatever,but was never dare enough to answer any of call because my family or my mother to be specific who is very strict about religion.I got thousands of proposal back there in India and get here too from many good looking guys,but never got any answer from my heart,i never wanted myself to be a playgirl.
The moment i saw that guy,i did not know,i felt an enormous attraction,when he looked into me and for first time four eyes met,i knew he was the guy i was the looking for,i have been waiting for.
As i am a bit shy,my friend circle is very protective but also very supportive of me.They were surprised i fall for that one guy at that short amount of time,but one of my friend took the initiative to get his information.
I was getting restless,i knew deep down i started to love him without saying a single word,after two or three days when she came to us,from her face i knew something is not right,she told me that guy is islamic,to make my situation more worse she said he was Pakistani,from city name peswar.I could not talk for a few minutes after that.But i knew it was not going to stop me,i knew how madly i am in love with him, i just wanted to cry there in front of all.
That restaurant was the place where we talked first,here also my friends helped me,first time i talked to him,i was nervous beyond belief.No one had ever made me felt like that before.I got to know his name, he was 25,involved in business of his dad who was based from Pakistan but spends considerable time in UK.
After the first day of talk, as we were from same place(from subcontinent),in that way my friend helped me to get his phone number.
That is how we became “friend”,i can not tell how much indebted i am to my friends for doing this for me.
But deep down i knew it was not friendship,we started spending time,sharing personal thoughts together,i visited his office several times too,i just could not tolerate the sight of any woman standing next to him,he literally became my oxygen,i started to care for every tiny details of his life though he did not give me that right,he was mine to me.
And after spending near three months,i decided to tell him what was in my mind,i was nervous because i was aware of cultural differences and moreover the religious differences ,i knew if i get refused i would not be able to pull myself up,i would die,i was not prepared to hear the word NO at any cost.
When he heard my proposal,he just laughed it off thinking i was joking,but as i said i am very emotional,i could not control myself,when he was convinced i was not joking,he got serious asking me if i had any idea about what i am saying,how crazy i do sound,the amount of struggle i will have to go through.
As i already knew about this all,my friends told me about those things,i was mentally prepared for that,He was my heart and soul,i could have jumped off a cliff looking at his eyes,this was nothing for me,that is how madly i wanted him.
After watching my madness,he told me,let us give it some more time,may be i will not be in this kind of madness after sometimes,when i will know about reality.
In desperateness,i agreed with him ,but i knew it was not going to change anything at all,i know myself very well,i just could not tear my heart and show him how much i loved him.
So i took the boldest decision i have ever taken in my life, took the decision to take the relationship in another level,may be i wanted to prove to him how genuine my love was for him.
It was not anything forceful,i lured him.I wanted to make him only mine,tie him with an emotional bond so he can not break free off that,can not go away from me.
After that,he was feeling guilty,he said he should not have done that,he guiltiness was hurting me too much,because only i knew what my intention was.
My friends also reacted sharply hearing this,they said he will not stay,his need for me is over,i am a very homely girl,so i do not know about outside world much,when i heard them i was hurt and got very scared.
He was not talking to me because he was ashamed of what happened,so i had to talk to him,i just wanted assurance of him.I feared if i was going to loose him because of this.But after few days everything got normal.
After quite sometime of our meeting,i got to know i was not alone anymore,i had a part of him living in me.
Before telling this to him,i shared this with my close friends.But what i faced was criticism,because i had no idea what i am falling into.They were so sure now he would definitely leave me.They tried to convince me to see doctors,but after watching my stubbornness, they gave up.
I shared the news with sheer anxiousness and nervousness,after hearing the news he was stunned,but then i could see the joy,the true love in his eyes for me,eyes do not lie,i never felt so secured.
I told him about my parents,my father was open minded,but my mother was very strict,i was so scared of her.
He said we can settle in UK,but he has to convince his parents because they are very important part of his decision.
I was scared but at the same time happy about his honesty,i did not want to hear a cinematic dialogue like he would leave everything for me,my personal perspective is,if a guy can not be of his parents who have raised him from nothing,how can he be trusted?how can he be of someone else?
Now my future hang on to three persons decision,my father in law,mother in law and my mother.
I did not want to do court marriage because i want my two family together in my marriage sitting side by side happily.
Even thinking of his parents or my mother not accepting me or my love gives me nightmares,the reason i can bear this because at the end of the day i can put my head on his broad shoulder and forget everything,i know he truly loves me,the guarantee i wanted so bad.He was only mine.
I have been living with him in his home,as his parents is due to come next month,with every single second passing my anxiousness is growing exponentially,our child is growing inside me,i just do not want him or her to bear the stress i am bearing,i want my child to grow in harmony of my two family and i want my child’s father to be the shadow for his child’s mom and his child always as he is now.
I love my mother way way too much to leave her from my life,i can not do that,neither i can leave the man i love who is my heart bit,i got my hands tied with two oceans probably flowing in different direction tearing me apart inside,i am so scared right now.If i have to leave any of them, i will not be myself , the only way will be let for me is to kill myself.
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Dear Priti,
Bravo! We are proud of you. You have done that is right and just. You cannot fake convert to please some religious fanatic. Unfortunately, what happened to you is not exceptional but norm. It is the outcome in some 90+% (99%?) cases. This is Islam and this is truth (we hope others will prove us wrong!).
We wish you will be a role model on this web site to encourage others to do that is right. This is the reason we wrote our book, we hope you will read it some day. We hope to hear again and again from you here.
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