One my friend, who is Hindu man, married with a Christian Girl. The marriage was solemnized as per Vedic Hindu tradition, one year back. Girl had embraced Hinduism. She had accepted to follow the tradition of family of his Hindu husband.
Initially girl had tried a lot to convert boy in Christianity. Boy had very deep root of faith in Hinduism. Boy had declined to convert to Christianity. Girl had approached many churches for marriage, but they were not agreed to marriage, without baptism of boy in to Christianity.
Then girl had decided to embrace Hinduism just for marriage, just for namesake. Girl had decided for traditional marriage in social way, just to get social approval of her marriage; because, court marriages are still looked down upon in our society.
Before embracing Hinduism and traditional Hindu marriage, girl had promised boy that she will completely follow Hinduism and she had discarded her previous religion (Christianity).
From some months, there is huge change in the behavior of girl. Though she had embraced Hinduism, but now she is not following the tradition of his husband family. Instead of that she doesn’t wear sindoor, like the Hindu Indian woman. She began to attend church. And she had put the Religious sign of Christianity in her in-law house (which is Hindu family).
She doesn’t participate in Hindu festivals and insults Hindu god/goddess. Not only this, she began to disregard the Hindu deities and traditions. She began to make openly mockery of Hindu traditions and Religiosity. Many times she emotionally blackmailed her husband (my friend) to remove all Hindu religious signs (Pictures and Idols of Mahadev and other Hindu deities). Only vandalism remains to occur in this family.
When she was confronted, she flatly said that, this is a secular country, anybody can follow any religion, and there is freedom of following any faith.
Due to her this behavior, there is disruption in the harmony of family. The peace of marital life is also distorted. My friend has attempted suicide once, and he is undergoing depressive conditions. The environment of home is badly affected.
Let me quote from Constance M Vyas’s letter in “India Abroad” dated March for 26, 2010:
Love makes the difference!
George Kuttickal of Los Angeles (February 19) said he is not against or for inter-racial marriages. … He said that ‘some problems are bound to emerge.’ That is true of any marriage. … My husband is from India and I am an American-born white woman. Many people did not think our marriage would work. We have been married for 33 years. … Kuttickal [said] that ‘children of inter-racial marriages always face a lot of challenges.’ All children [do], some more than others. Our wonderful daughter is 31 years old, well educated, married, and a mother. She is proud of her heritage on both sides of our family. If a couple love each other whether they are of the same race or not, they can make it work, and their children will be better off knowing that there are differences but there is also love. No one should be judged by their color or nationality. – Constance M Vyas, Waterman, Illinois [USA].
I am secretary of interreligious council Nepal. We are encoureging interfaith harmony. Truth is base of everything. So interfaith shadi may help society to make peace and reconciliation.
In reference to the blog which was posted earlier, a few comments are required. First, the blog was done with prior approval of my Guru. Second, I am not a Hindu. I follow a Taoist Guru. All the same, I have been a Hindu in many lifetimes. I this lifetime, I have met both Gurudeva and Bodhinatha with permission from my Guru. I follow my Guru explicitly. If you are a Hindu, you must follow your Guru as well. Opportunities to follow the Guru are rare. Do not miss this opportunity.
Anyone contemplating marriage to a member of an abrahamic faith is fooling themselves if they believe there will not be difficulties. It is a game of “High Stakes Poker”. You cannot see which cards are in the hands of in-laws, neighbors, acquaintances, church members etc. Certainly, you cannot see the future and the circumstances which may appear. Eventually, you may find yourself opposed by your spouse with the encouragement of allies within their church. Don’t be surprised when your marriage is stressed beyond all prior limitations. After children manifest, the “Stakes” will grow exponentially as others scheme behind your back to get your children into church, sunday school and bible camp.
Welcome to my world. My wife and I were married in a civil ceremony in the judge’s chambers at a local court house. We agreed to not push our beliefs on each other. Eventually, these things changed. We had children. Neighbors who initially accepted my family, now only speak with my wife. She is a member of their church. Myself and my children are treated as “Heathens”. A church official once told me that I was not recognized as my wife’s husband because I was not a church member and as such could not be her spouse. Our children have been asked by neighbors: “Why don’t you go to church”? One man came into our yard when he saw my 10 year old son alone. This man was upset that my son was not attending church. To my son’s credit, he told the man to mind his own business. After years of being pressured to conform to the likes of them, we now ignore their existence as much as they ignore ours.
If you follow a Guru, my advice is to consult with his or her before committing to a lifetime of being an outcast.
One my friend, who is Hindu man, married with a Christian Girl. The marriage was solemnized as per Vedic Hindu tradition, one year back. Girl had embraced Hinduism. She had accepted to follow the tradition of family of his Hindu husband.
Initially girl had tried a lot to convert boy in Christianity. Boy had very deep root of faith in Hinduism. Boy had declined to convert to Christianity. Girl had approached many churches for marriage, but they were not agreed to marriage, without baptism of boy in to Christianity.
Then girl had decided to embrace Hinduism just for marriage, just for namesake. Girl had decided for traditional marriage in social way, just to get social approval of her marriage; because, court marriages are still looked down upon in our society.
Before embracing Hinduism and traditional Hindu marriage, girl had promised boy that she will completely follow Hinduism and she had discarded her previous religion (Christianity).
From some months, there is huge change in the behavior of girl. Though she had embraced Hinduism, but now she is not following the tradition of his husband family. Instead of that she doesn’t wear sindoor, like the Hindu Indian woman. She began to attend church. And she had put the Religious sign of Christianity in her in-law house (which is Hindu family).
She doesn’t participate in Hindu festivals and insults Hindu god/goddess. Not only this, she began to disregard the Hindu deities and traditions. She began to make openly mockery of Hindu traditions and Religiosity. Many times she emotionally blackmailed her husband (my friend) to remove all Hindu religious signs (Pictures and Idols of Mahadev and other Hindu deities). Only vandalism remains to occur in this family.
When she was confronted, she flatly said that, this is a secular country, anybody can follow any religion, and there is freedom of following any faith.
Due to her this behavior, there is disruption in the harmony of family. The peace of marital life is also distorted. My friend has attempted suicide once, and he is undergoing depressive conditions. The environment of home is badly affected.
Comment to Kumar at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3494
Let me quote from Constance M Vyas’s letter in “India Abroad” dated March for 26, 2010:
Love makes the difference!
George Kuttickal of Los Angeles (February 19) said he is not against or for inter-racial marriages. … He said that ‘some problems are bound to emerge.’ That is true of any marriage. … My husband is from India and I am an American-born white woman. Many people did not think our marriage would work. We have been married for 33 years. … Kuttickal [said] that ‘children of inter-racial marriages always face a lot of challenges.’ All children [do], some more than others. Our wonderful daughter is 31 years old, well educated, married, and a mother. She is proud of her heritage on both sides of our family. If a couple love each other whether they are of the same race or not, they can make it work, and their children will be better off knowing that there are differences but there is also love. No one should be judged by their color or nationality. – Constance M Vyas, Waterman, Illinois [USA].
I am secretary of interreligious council Nepal. We are encoureging interfaith harmony. Truth is base of everything. So interfaith shadi may help society to make peace and reconciliation.
In reference to the blog which was posted earlier, a few comments are required. First, the blog was done with prior approval of my Guru. Second, I am not a Hindu. I follow a Taoist Guru. All the same, I have been a Hindu in many lifetimes. I this lifetime, I have met both Gurudeva and Bodhinatha with permission from my Guru. I follow my Guru explicitly. If you are a Hindu, you must follow your Guru as well. Opportunities to follow the Guru are rare. Do not miss this opportunity.
Ron Higgins
Anyone contemplating marriage to a member of an abrahamic faith is fooling themselves if they believe there will not be difficulties. It is a game of “High Stakes Poker”. You cannot see which cards are in the hands of in-laws, neighbors, acquaintances, church members etc. Certainly, you cannot see the future and the circumstances which may appear. Eventually, you may find yourself opposed by your spouse with the encouragement of allies within their church. Don’t be surprised when your marriage is stressed beyond all prior limitations. After children manifest, the “Stakes” will grow exponentially as others scheme behind your back to get your children into church, sunday school and bible camp.
Welcome to my world. My wife and I were married in a civil ceremony in the judge’s chambers at a local court house. We agreed to not push our beliefs on each other. Eventually, these things changed. We had children. Neighbors who initially accepted my family, now only speak with my wife. She is a member of their church. Myself and my children are treated as “Heathens”. A church official once told me that I was not recognized as my wife’s husband because I was not a church member and as such could not be her spouse. Our children have been asked by neighbors: “Why don’t you go to church”? One man came into our yard when he saw my 10 year old son alone. This man was upset that my son was not attending church. To my son’s credit, he told the man to mind his own business. After years of being pressured to conform to the likes of them, we now ignore their existence as much as they ignore ours.
If you follow a Guru, my advice is to consult with his or her before committing to a lifetime of being an outcast.