kaur says: January 2, 2014 at 4:58 am
I feel like I’m in a similar situation to you A Kaur. I am with an Egyptian, the one main difference is he does not expect me to convert to Islam. He knows a conversion does not buy faith and so do I.
I understand your love for him is so great. I just hope you will not convert to a religion that you do not truly follow just to be with him. If he loves YOU so much he should understand you believe in something else, whether sikhi or believing that no God exists. I hope you are okay I am also in a confusing state where i don’t know what to do.. -Kaur
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I think those who claim the religion of Islam to be evil and those claiming the Quran teaching that all religions are wrong to ACTUALLY READ THE QURAN!
I have read the Quran many times and have an understanding of the religion. I am Muslim and my soon to be wife is Sikh. The Quran teaches respect of all religions and beliefs and it is with this I am marrying my partner.
We understand both faiths,and I do not intend to convert her.
Some of the backward claims about Islam being evil must be aimed at the more uneducated countries of the world
So my advice is do your research before slandering any religion,it will only make you a better human being.
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8190
I am sikh and am married to a muslim, we have been together for 8 years and are very happy, does it matter what religion you are as long as you believe in 1 god, muslims call him Allah, sikhs call him waheguru. I continue to practise my faith and he practises his and we give each other full respect. He is one of the kindest practising muslims I know, and we should not forget when we die we are all equal in Gods eyes, it is not what religion we followed that will determine our fate but our purity of heart and belief in God
If we have children they will be taught both faiths and can choose freely and no offence will be taken as it will be their choice, all this you can do this and cant do this is irrelavent, our love has proven that inter faith relationships can work, God has blessed us and we are eternally grateful, may others out there learn from our blessings
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Hi every body,
every thing is ok. Perhaps parents have disowned me. I am not worried about their decision. I wish to lead a happy and blissful life, without any restriction of movement, bureqa or job. Next months we shall marry by that time we shall be able to get a rented accommodation.
What I have observed on this blog, normally for each and every case, a separate blog is allotted to seek comments from readers. But in my case, no separate identity has been given to me. Any way I am not feeling bad, but there should be unanimity and fairness in all cases.
Rukhshana,
Can you e-mail to InterfaithShaadi@gmail.com and let us know where are you writing from. Thanks.
Hi every body,
We have decided to hire a rented house soon and marry as per special marriage act or through Arya samaj followed by registration of marriage.
My parents are not in touch with me and I have joined with my BF in the new company.
seeking blessings from all of you.
Rukhshana
Hi every body,
I discussed my association with a Hindu boy and intention to marry him.
My mother became frightened from my father,s side. She persuaded me to leave the idea, as it is not possible. One day she disclosed with my mother. My father became furious and slapped me and threatened me to kill me, if I didnot mend my ways.
That day I didn,t say any thing to my mother and went to Women,s helpline. They after listening and calling my BF, said that nothing is wrong to marry being adult and working too. They called my parents on my request. After this incident, my father said to leave his house and he is disowning me. I quietly left the house and with the help of my BF took shelter in paying guest accommodation. I am here for the last 7 days and feeling very good that my intention is good and from this forum it will be a beacon light for other girls who wants to come out of vicious circle of islamic evils.
Hi every body,
My Hindu BF joined a new company on higher grade. i am able to get job in his company almost at the same level of my existing company but scope of elevation in career are great in the new company and moreover, I shall be in close association with my BF. Our plan is to get first suitable accommodation and then marry as per Hindu practices in Arya Samaj temple.
Thankful to every body
Dear readers,
Here is an another evil of lslam to be introduced against females.
Recently a bill was passed in Iran allowing male guardians to marry their adopted girls aged 13 and below, if the court decided it was in the interest of the girl. If this bill is approved by the country’s Guardian Council, it will become law. The Guardian Council is a 12-member council in Iran which wields immense power. No legislation can be accepted without its approval. The old men of the Guardian Council with their white beards and wrinkled skins seem to be eager to start a second ‘youth’ in their old age by legalizing pedophilia and sexual abuse of minor girls and thus promoting the concept of incest. A very disgusting scenario indeed. Iran is fast going along the path of Saudi Arabia. Be it Shiias or Sunnis, neither can resist acting outright despicable because of their dependency on the distortions of Hadith.
An Iranian human rights’ activist stated that discreet incidents of incest exist in Iran as in all other parts of the world. But such a law would legalize it, making it official.
Millions of thanks my sister Raeesa,
I am also determined to get rid of burqa, remove sense of insecurity through tripple talak orally, continue my job and live a blissful life. My BF shall join in the new company next week and hopefully, I shall join him in the same company probably next month and I am planning to meet his parents, as they are interested to meet me too.My BF is only son of his parents and sister married. His father is a Govt. executive.
Hi Sister Raeesa,
Nice to read your life story. You are right that females have no respect in the family. Quran teaches hatred and violence against non muslims. My elder sister is married in the muslim family, she is not happy at all. Her husband is cruel and divorced his earlier wife. My sister feels insecure. I am working in a cotton mill to support my parents. I am in love with a Hindu boy working in the same company, very sober and intelligent. He has got appointment on a higher grade in another company. Very soon he will join there and also look for me suitable job. I wish to marry him only and not ready to marry in the muslim family. He has accepted me as his soul mate. I dont know what will be reaction of parents, must be negative, as they cannot dare the violation of evil practices of islam. I wish to be working woman and live a graceful life. We both are 23/27 years old hailing from UP.
I need moral support from like minded readers.
with regards to every body.
@Rukhsana: Sister, You have follow your Heart and Soul. You must Marry that Hindu boy, At lest You do not have to hide your face in Burqua, You will get enough respect after marriage.You can live life happily with that Hindu Guy.Lord Krishna bless you. Hope, You will get married with that Hindu Boy.
My earlier name – Raeesa Khan
My current name – Raeesa Singh
I am an ex-Muslim.
Married to a Hindu boy and am happy and am greatly relieved to have come out of the hellish religion – ISLAM.
I am fond of Hinduism because it teaches it’s followers to respect feminism. Hindus worship GOD in the Male form a their Father as well as the Female form as their Mother.
I too am respected in this family as a woman of the family. It is my utmost duty to hold this family together and take care of them as a mother, daughter, wife etc. Moreover, my husband will never even think of marrying again and bring hom his 2nd, 3rd of 4th wives – Which is a common practice in Islam.
I dont have to hide myself in a burkha and am given the independence to preserve my own self.
I go to mandir with my husband and even have one in my house. We sit for pooja everyday together and perform pooja and arti together. The atmosphere is extremely holy and no-one carries any kind of dessent / hatred in his / her minds about anyone else.
While with my family before marriage, there used to be so much hatred (Hatred about Hindus and Hatred about this country as well) in the minds of everyone that I used to feel suffocated in that kind of atmosphere.
Today I feel as if I am finally free from all kinds of hate towards others and no I am ‘allowed’ to give my love to ‘ALL’.
Dear Raesa,
We are glad to hear from you and happy that you found love and respect in your in-laws home. Which country or state you are from? How did you got married? Is your family and relatives have any issue with you believing in Hinduism?
Dear readers,
I would like to add on the evil of child marriages with older people in islamic countries.
This article is, therefore, about “Respect” for chidren! It is about young children wasted by adults in poor and backward Islamic countries either as “Chile Brides,” (girls) or as “Suicide Bombers,” (boys) by adult Muslims under tenets conceived during the Medieval Ages when slavery was an acceptable practice of human bondage. Even Aristotle had preached earlier that some “elotes’ (slaves in Greek) were happy living as slaves. Then, there was the law of supply and demand, where men died in medieval wars, and there was an oversupply of single women flooding most societies. Rather than have them live and die as spinsters, Islam allowed men to marry many, which gave those women a sense of a shared marriage, as oppose to no marriage at all. After all, more boys were needed to replaced the dead warriors, and the women were just the producers of tomorrow’s armies. That practice went on for thousands of years, and established women as a sub-human and subservient specie to men in many continents and cultures.
We are in year 2013 now, and some women still continue to be tradeable in “some” backward Islamic societies. 70-years old men still can buy 17-years old bribes from Muslim fathers or bothers who may give them away at will, or in lieu of an unpaid debt. It resembles the colonial America where debtors paid their debts by giving their debt-holder Negro slaves in lieu of cash. Karl Marx used this example to castigate capitalists for buying, selling, and trading humans (black slaves) in Mississipi as if they were horses! Some Muslim girls are also traded similarly nowadays, and reports in the press have surfaced that some of them committed suicide – rather than enter into forced marriages. But when this kind of social bondage reaches down to 8-years old girls, I believe most of the non-Muslim world is freaking out as I do! Here is why – from a story in yesterday’s Chicago Tribune newspaper:
SANAA, Yemen: “An 8-year-old Yemeni girl died of internal injuries bleeding on her wedding night after marrying a man five times here age, a social activist and two local residents said, in a case that has revived debate about child brides. Arwa Othman, head of Yemen House of Folklore and leading rights campaigner, said the girl, identified as Rawan, was married to a 40-years-old man late last week in the town of Meedi in Hajjah province in northwestern Yemen.”
Upon reading this, I was struck by a sense of awe and disbelief. The question “Where is humanity” flooded my mind with disgust.
Hi readers,
I would like to narrate cruelty of muslim guys against their younger age bride.
A 13-year-old Yemeni child bride who bled to
death shortly after marriage was tied down and forced to have sex
by her husband, according to interviews with the child’s mother,
police and medical reports.
The girl’s mother, Nijma Ahmed, 50, told the Associated Press that
before her daughter lost consciousness, she said that her husband
had tied her up and forced himself on her. “She looked like she
was butchered,” she said about her daughter’s injuries.
Elham Assi, 13, bled to death hours after she spoke to her mother
and just days after she was married to a 46-year-old man. She
died on April 2 in the deeply poor Yemeni village of Shueba, some
200 kilometers northwest of the capital.
The practice of marrying young girls is widespread in Yemen
where a quarter of all females marry before the age of 15, according
to a 2009 report by the country’s Ministry of Social Affairs.
Traditional families prefer young brides because they are seen as
more obedient and are expected to have more children.
Legislation to ban child brides has been stalled by opposition
from religious leaders. There has been no government comment
over the case.
The girl — one of eight siblings — was pushed into marriage after
an agreement between her brother and her future-husband to
marry each other’s sisters to avoid having to pay expensive
bride-prices — a common arrangement in Yemen, the poorest
country in the Middle East.
According to police notes from the interrogation of the husband,
he was upset because he could not consummate their relationship
and felt under pressure to prove his manhood.
Assi’s mother said she also tried to persuade her daughter to have
sex with her husband so as not to shame the family.
Al-Hikmi took his young bride to a nearby medical clinic, asking
a doctor there to administer her tranquilizers so she would not
resist his advances. The clinic said it refused.
Al-Hikmi then obtained performance enhancing pills, according
to the police interrogation, and that night completed the act while
she screamed.
The next day, he returned to the same medical clinic carrying
Assi because she could not walk.
“I told him not to go near her for at least ten days,” said Dr. Fathiya
Haidar. She said Assi’s vaginal canal was ripped.
A forensic report obtained by the AP showed that Assi’s injuries were
much more extensive, including extensive tearing around the vagina
and rectum, suggesting that there might have been additional
intercourse after the clinic visit.
Her mother said she visited Assi later that day, where she found her
daughter fading in and out of consciousness.
“She whispered in my ear that he had tied her up and had sex with
her violently,” she said. “I said to her husband, what have you done,
you criminal?”
She said al-Hikmi told her that the young bride was just possessed
by spirits and said he would take her to a folk healer to cast them
out. Hours later, Assi was dead.
“She asked me to stay beside her,” her mother said.
The practice of marrying young girls is widespread in Yemen
and has drawn the attention of international rights groups seeking
to pressure the government to outlaw child marriages.
“Early marriage places girls at increased risk of dropping out of school,
being exposed to violence, abuse and exploitation, and even losing
their lives from pregnancy, childbirth and other complications,” said
UNICEF’s regional director Sigrid Kaag, in a statement Wednesday
condemning the death.
A February 2009 law set the minimum age for marriage at 17, but it
was repealed and sent back to parliament’s constitutional committee
for review after some lawmakers called it un-Islamic. The committee
is expected to make a final decision on the legislation this month.
The issue of Yemen’s child brides received widespread attention
three years ago when an 8-year-old girl boldly went by herself to
a courtroom and demanded a judge dissolve her marriage to a man
in his 30s. She eventually won a divorce.
In September, a 12-year-old Yemeni child-bride died after struggling
for three days in labor to give birth, a local human rights organization said.
Associated Press Writer Diaa Hadid contributed to this report from Cairo.
Source: AP
Dear readers,
The muslims of gulf countries, including Egypt, are most corrupt in sexual matters. They are indulged in polygamy, contract marriages in the name of Mutta, Halala, liquir forcing female to be virgin, that is Hymen repair surgery among muslim women is increasing day by day.Sexual assault on maids, nanies from poor nations of asia, is a routine matter. Even in Madarsas, rape and sodomy practice is a common and no body can dare to raise voice against such evils.
SO NON MUSLIM GIRLS MUST BE CAUTIOUS AGAINST MUSLIM GUYS
I dont understand why non muslim girls believe on criminal islamic guys.
These guys initially are very sober, gentle, adjusting and submissive but once girls are trapped, they start putting on them restrictions,forcing them to lead miserable life,if resisted they are badly beaten.
If any woman dare to revert to her original faith, she is stonned to death.
This community/faith has made the entire world hell, every where bomb blasts, firing and killing and their faith encouraging them in the name of islam to get reward of 72 virgins for sexual pleasure.
Kaur,
Don,t believe blindly on that muslim guy. He will not take time
to change his colors, once his sexual game is fulfilled.
Koran encourages muslim guys to trap non muslim girls, kidnap, rape and lie in the name of islam, and that is not evil in the eyes of allah.
Be careful. On the wedding night they expect bride to bleed and blood stains on the bed sheets are displayed before the family members, as pride of honor. So, dont get involed in the dirty game. Kick him out of your life.
Girls intending to marry liberal Muslims,
Girls often site the example that their BF is not a strict Muslim and is a liberal one and hence acceptable as a husband. But they don’t know that their could be two possibilities:
1. He is feigning as a liberal just to trap and once married, will show his true colors. So, these guys are more dangerous as they are the wolves in the coat of sheep.
2. He may be ignorant about Islam and once he knows the diktats of Islam, he will turn as any other hard core Muslim. The reason is he is a believer in Muhammad and sooner of later, will try to follow Muhammad who sanctioned all the tyrannical practices against women.
So, give a thought to the above points to safeguard your life and your children. It applies to both – Muslim and non-Muslim girls because Muhammad recommends enslaving all girls/women.
Only way to save yourself is marry some one who doesn’t like Muhammad and worships only God. Be be careful, if he is speaking truth or using this to trap you. The Muslim males are recommended to tell lies to trap girls. So, be very careful in dealing a Muslim guy. Try to avoid them as much as possible.
Dear Kaur,
You are innocent and do not understand the tricks of muslims.
These muslims killed your gurus in the past.
One more thing, if you married him, he will get your clitoris removed, due to islamic practices to make you fully a muslim female. This is most cruel practices, which I am explaining here.
Female genital mutilation (FGM) comprises all procedures that involve partial or total removal of the external female genitalia, or other injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons.
The practice is mostly carried out by traditional circumcisers, who often play other central roles in communities, such as attending childbirths. However, more than 18% of all FGM is performed by health care providers, and this trend is increasing.
FGM is recognized internationally as a violation of the human rights of girls and women. It reflects deep-rooted inequality between the sexes, and constitutes an extreme form of discrimination against women. It is nearly always carried out on minors and is a violation of the rights of children. The practice also violates a person’s rights to health, security and physical integrity, the right to be free from torture and cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment, and the right to life when the procedure results in death.
Procedures
Female genital mutilation is classified into four major types.
Clitoridectomy: partial or total removal of the clitoris (a small, sensitive and erectile part of the female genitals) and, in very rare cases, only the prepuce (the fold of skin surrounding the clitoris).
Excision: partial or total removal of the clitoris and the labia minora, with or without excision of the labia majora (the labia are “the lips” that surround the vagina).
Infibulation: narrowing of the vaginal opening through the creation of a covering seal. The seal is formed by cutting and repositioning the inner, or outer, labia, with or without removal of the clitoris.
Other: all other harmful procedures to the female genitalia for non-medical purposes, e.g. pricking, piercing, incising, scraping and cauterizing the genital area.
Hi Kaur,
Be careful about your muslim BF,s intention because of Love Jihad being propagated by islamic fundamentalists to trap non muslim girls for sex and mutliplication of their population.
Egyptians are indulged in sexual games even with a dead wife.
Polygamy and mutta marriages for sex purposes are very common in arab countries. Before so called marriages the muslim guys are very liberal and making all sorts of false promises, but once they start sexual games, their real monster face gets exposed. You should remember that you can be divorced any time simply by oral tripple talak utterances.
nice to hear from you. we are studying, where there are no gurdwaras unfortunately, which is how we met but are both from the west which is where we want to work in the future.
he eats ‘haram’ meat, drinks alcohol and hasn’t been to the mosque in years. he is not a strict muslim but is a believer and it does not bother him that I am skih nor does it bother me that he is muslim.
ideally we would give the child the choice.
i respect islam, before i didnt, but i now know there is nothing wrong with the religion, just some muslims in the world are evil as with some sikhs, hindus, etc. but i would never convert which he knows. we understand that faith is what makes a person religious not a paper claiming anything.
However, in society this does for some people. i wanted to hear your views on fake conversion. bare in mind i am still young, my parents have met him and loved him, but do not know we are together. we spoke about him fake converting to sikhism so that my parents might accept us more..