Iqbal says: September 8, 2017 at 8:25 pm
Hello everyone
This is a very unique issue I have here and I am not sure if this is the correct forum or thread to talk about this. However there are certain similarities here and honestly I couldnt find a place to start my own topic, sorry about that. My name is Iqbal (name modified) and I am a transfer student from Bangladesh studying engineering.
Because of some accomodation issues in my rental unit I have been staying with a friend of mine alomg with his single mother. They are a hindu family but they are quite open minded and have no problem with me staying with them.
Now comes the issue. Over the last couple of months I have been in a sexual relationship with my friends mom Shonali (name changed). To set any concerns aside this started as harmless kissing and was completely mutual. Over the past few months we have grown very close to each other and indulge in sexual activity whenever possible. To be honest our relationship is not just physical in nature but we genuinely care for each other. We share pretty much everything in our lives with each other. We have managed to keep it a secret from my friend but I have a feeling he is suspisious of our relationship but has not yet brought it with either of us.
The problem that has risen now is that Shonali is a week late in her period and she is freaking out. She took a pregnancy test and it came out positive although I am aware it can be a false positive. I am very excited about this and really hoping that she is actually pregnant. I really want to make this relationship official so that we dont have to hide it anymore. If she is really pregnant I want to marry her and make her my wife. I am aware of the obstacles in the way; the age difference of 17 years might seem big in the eyes of society but I have no problem with this. The fact that we are from different faiths is also an issue. I also dont want to lose a good friend as well. Financially there is no issue since back home in Dhaka we have a family business which is doing good and I can join any time I want.
Shonali is very stressed about the situation and is talking about abortion. I really dont want her to take that drastic step. Wanted to take everyones advice as to how I can convince her to think about the next step of her life with me as her partner.
Shonali converting to Islam, I will not compromise on that. I have gone through your forum quite a bit and I see a lot of Hindu girls happily converting to Islam as part of getting married. I am sure Shonali will be very happy after submitting to Islam.
However to answer your question conversion to Islam is an absolute must for us to get married.
You had asked me another question regarding whether I would have gotten into a relationship with a friends mother who was muslim. I am not sure that situation will ever come true since there is almost little to no chance that a married or widowed muslim woman would ever agree to have sex with her sons friend.
I have seen you blame muslim guys for seducing hindu girls in other posts as well, however the truth is mostly the opposite. I can speak from my experience in Kolkata (cant speak for everywhere else) that bengali girls are very attracted to muslim guys and would go to any lengths to seduce them.
I personally am not super religious so i don’t know the Koranic verses by heart. My relationship with Shonali started unexpectedly and it blossomed into something beautiful. It was cynosure mutual and we both love each other. i care for shonali and want to take care of her and my child. I came here to see what can be done to convince her in this regard. You should know that my family will not accept a Hindu as their sons wife. They don’t see Hindus in the same level as Muslims. –Iqbal
List of “My Mother is in relationship with a Muslim“
| Name | Relationship with mother |
|---|---|
| Sudhansu | Sudhansu: My mother married her Muslim boss |
| Sudhansu | Reflections on my mother who married a Muslim |
| Gautham | (Muslim friend) Got My Mother Pregnant |
| Deepx | Pakistani Muslim Student with My Sikh Mom |
| Raj | My Hindu Mother Wants to Marry a Muslim |
(Muslim friend) Got My Mother Pregnant
A Great Pride Converting Brahmin Girls to Islam (My mother married her Muslim boss).
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My mom too married a Muslim guy but he was much older than her so no big deal I guess
How ur friend didn’t understand his mom is pregnant? Does she agree to breakup with her son?
See friends the reason single generally get attracted towards son friend because they are young and every old people get attracted toward young people.
The only way to protect or prevent ur mom is just to have a strong connection/bonding with ur single mom. The more stronger ur relationship with your mom the lesser is the chance of your mom to end up with ur friend. The story that Iqbal shared, mentioned that they share almost everything, the care for each other which is enough to understand what his mom’s needed. You have to protect ur mom by building a strong connection.
I know I’m very late but I have to ask this question you love her she loves you it’s fine but why she has to convert,if you love her that much then why don’t you change you religion
what you think aslam ? tumne apni dost ki sath sab se barda biswasghat kiya, or oh aurat kaya kiya bata ki dost ki sath jo apni bata ki barabar? oh aurat to apni bata ko aisa jakham diya ki oh jindagi bhar tardpa ga.uski jindagi,carieer sab kuch barbad kar diya,tum aaj khuus ho apni dost ki barbadi ki upar. oh aurat khus hai apni bata ki barbadi ki upar.
but dont worrie time kisi ke lia rukhta nahi.tum dono ke lia bhi time nahi rukhega. keu ki uparwala ki hisab barabar hai.or us time ki lia khudko tair rakhna.
First know about our relationship and then comment . When I first time gifted Susmita a very costly saree she blushed and later told me not to buy such expensive things for her as she was never used to such things .
When I first time took susmita to a restaurant i felt that she was hesitating . So I ordered a coffee for me and veg dishes for her . I saw that she was ok with veg dishes .
When susmita fell ill and was in very bad condition i took her to a nursing home and I long waited outside and even cried secretly . When I used to go and meet her , she would simply smile and hold my hand .
Once I told susmita that she had really beautiful long hair . She later one day told me before getting a hair cut she always thought about her looks as I always prefer long hair .
Once while walking on road , she accidentally stepped on a small stone and felt pain in her feet . I then took her to a taxi and dropped her home .
I still remember when she was in nursing home for being typhoid infected , i used to sit and just wish nothing but her recovery . Nothing i wished but her recovery .
Later one day she told me that she felt very guilty in her mind . She felt like that she was exploiting me and taking advantage of me . She knew that due to our age gap no normal relation is possible of that kind . She felt guilty to herself . I held her hand and said if she was not ok then it was fine . But I can never think of any other woman in my life except her. She is the only woman in my life . She broke into tears hearing all these . She was very shy by nature and very sensitive by mind . What she liked most that I was very attentive and caring to her . Many times I just sat before her holding her hands .
Whenever I felt sad or depressed i would just try to find some time alone with her so that I could just put my head on her lap . I tell one thing , i can not imagine my life without her and I can not live without her .
she have blackmailed you emotionally, And this is true.if your friend do it with your mother what would you do, jo insan apni bhabwna ko kabu main nahi raktha oh insan nahi. tumarhe yeah kushi kisi ki barbadi par hai. just watch after 10 years what will happen. ek baat batao tum hamesa budi ko keu choose karte ho,young ladki ko impress karne ki aukat nahi hai kaya?yeah young girls ke lia dam nahi hai? ok just wait ,mera ek dost aisa pagal tha,sadi kiya ek aurat sa jiski umar uski maa se bhi jayda hai,after few years oh aurat suicide kiya,or mera dost jail main.tum log ki sath aisa hota hai.jis aurat ko apni bata ki barbadi kuch nahi dikhta uski sath aisa hoga.and this is true.tumarhe sath bhi aisa hoga
hey aslam tare wife ek kutti kamini aurat hai,aise aurat ko to kaat ke kutta ko khila dena chahia,aapni beta ki dost ki sath chi,if your friend do it with your mother what would you do?have you any idea?tare bibi ek matlabi arat hai,jisko nahi pata oh kike sath kaya kar rahi hai.thik se to dakh tare do bati tare yeah kisi or ki.yeah tare koi friend ki’
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keu ki jo apni bata ki dost ki sath aisa karta hai oh kisi ki sath bhi aisa kar sakthi hai..If your friend do it with your mother what would you do. You are a cobra snake. I think you do it always with your mother. You a son of bech.chiiiiiiii
I have a similar experience since my dad was living in assam I and my mom were alone in kolkata, two of my muslim friends got my mom pregnant and neither they nor their fathers are sure whose child my mom was having, they do the same with our hindu moms as they get chance
just kick your mom, mom ki muh par ek lath maro.
ASLAM
MAIN HOTA TO TUM DOONO KO KUTTA KI MAUT DETA,AISA MAUT DETA KI JANWARE BHI DARR JAI.
Hey listen ! I did not force her to marry me . She married me because she also agreed and that’s her own decision . We both were adults and free to make decisions . We married out of each other’s consent and we did registry marriage following all legal terms . So , technically and legally she is my married wife .
Today, she is mother of my two little daughters . I always feel how blessed and happy I am to have such a loving and beautiful wife .
And remember one thing . Tell me anything you like but NEVER DARE TO SPEAK A WORD AGAINST MY WIFE . I would take that very personally . If you have problem with me then it’s fine but don’t speak anything against my wife .
Iqbal:
Please update.
Well , I have the same experience . When I was 22 years age and came to a new city for my post graduation i stayed in a boys mess . There i became good friend with a graduate student named Goutam , 19 yrs age then. One weekend he invited me to his home . I took a trip to his home and there i had the biggest surprise of my life .I was stunned to see his mom Susmita . She was 38 yrs age i later came to know . She was a widow , her hubby died two years back . I was simply appalled by her beauty and extremely attractive figure . She was very fair , beautiful and with a very hot figure . When I returned i felt immense attraction for her . I secretly started going her home without informing goutam and made good friendship with her . She seemed very polite and gentle woman with a beautiful heart . I gifted her a costly smartphone so that we could chat . During chat i even flirted and talked about her figure . She seemed shy yet she did not object me . Whenever goutam was busy in study or exam i used to go her home on bike and started taking her to movie , restaurant , shopping , park etc . First she felt very shy to go out with me but later she agreed. On her birthday i gifted her a gold necklace with gold ear rings . She was simply shocked and then cried . I consoled her and hugged her . Then I kissed her . First on her cheeks , then on her lips . She did not protest at all . I started becoming more adventurous with her . I used to take her to shopping and spend huge amount of money on her like dressing , beauty parlour , cosmetics etc . She did not object . I started touching her , hugging her and often i demanded her to spend time with me . She agreed . Then one day I became very bold and tried to physically intimate with her . She felt shy but did not stop me . That day I had sex with her . Whole night she and I had sex. Later it became a routine for me to have sex with her and treat her like my sweet baby doll . I started dominating her like telling her what I like her to wear , how to talk , how to behave and act with others . Then I told her I wanted to marry her and have babies with her . After lot of thoughts and hesitation she agreed . I made goutam understand that we love each other and though she is 16 years elder than me that don’t matter at all . I can take care of her well . And finally I married her and she proved to be a very loving , obedient and caring wife to me . What I most like about her is she is both physically beautiful and mentally a very loving and caring woman to me . She never says no to anything I tell her to do . And I feel most happy when she says she likes me most as her husband . She is a very loyal , loving and caring wife to me . Today after three years of our marriage i still enjoy sex with her a lot . As she has a very beautiful figure and is very energetic in bed . She has given birth to my two sons .She is my love , my dearest wife .
Iqbal:
Please update.
Dear admin iqbal friend’s mother submitted herself to his dominance so he is not wrong the lady who submitted herself to him is wrong that is why I am saying again and again we must save other females of our community
I married my friends widow mom . It was a love marriage . I was 22 + and she was 38 then . I am very happy with her .
Hi Aslam
How did your family react to your marriage,especially your mother?
Hello Iqbal:
Good news: There is a saying in India: “Badi Bahu Bado Bhag” means in English: “Older the wife (than husband) better the luck (for both)”. I did not understand then. After I studied the life of Prophet Mohammed (PBUH), then I came to understand. Mohammed (not Prophet at that time) was 25 years old and his wife Khadija was 42 years old (and experienced) when they got married. See what happened? He became Prophet (PBUH). As expected you are emulating them. Iqbal: “Sitara Buland Hai” (means your stars are bright).
OK: I will ask one final question: Iqbal, when you were introduced to your friend’s mother, in what words and with what physical gesture did you greet her? Will appreciate to know about your well being. Thanks in advance.
Hi,
To have sex with a friend’s mother is “As expected you are emulating them”? Is this not a disgraceful act? Would you ever invite such guys to come and stay in your house where you have many sisters and mother?
In my comment where I said about emulating Prophet Mohammed, I meant Iqbal was age 25 (last year) and Shonali was 42 (last year). See the ages match. And of course it is well known that Prophet Mohammad married Zainab, his adopted son’s wife by the blessings of Allah. For followers of Prophet Mohammad there is no disgraceful act as along as it is approved by Allah. I will wait to see Iqbal and Shonali to perform miracles.
Please Iqbal give us good news. Pyar kiya to darna kya fir durr durr aahen bharna kya. Come on Iqbal.
Hi Hari,
Are you saying having sex with friend’s mother is not disgraceful as far as it helps Islam (there is no disgraceful act as along as it is approved by Allah)? How did Allah approved Iqbal’s acts?
Hey I am Reshmi Bannerjee from Kolkata I want to know is this changing name and religion compulsory in Muslims and also love jihad true?cause I have been getting flirting msgs from one of my son’s friend named ahmed
kaya aap ko acha lagti hai.yeah acha lag rahi hai?why you are not protest ek dhamki do kaam ho gayga. aap keu nahi protest karte ho? acha lagta hai kaya?ek kaam koro apni bate ki sath aisa korlo.tum aurat jaat bahut be sharam of kuttiya cheese ho. abhi to bate ki dost ki sath chal raha hai. kuch din ki baad bata ki sath chalaoge.
Yes. It is real ma’am. What is your situation now?
Hello Iqbal:
You started this blog sometime in Sept.’2017 and contd up to Dec.’2017. The blog is to share experiences with each other. According to your latest blog in Dec.’2017, some situations to be resolved were:
1. Did you inform your parents and what was your parents reaction?
2. Did you inform your Hindu friend and his reaction?
3 Did you get married and did Shonali convert to Islam?
4. Hopefully baby is delivered and you all are enjoying the new born.
5 Are you in America or in India.
Iqbal, I/WE wish you all the best. Your sharing experience/info will be educational to all of us.
Thanks. Waiting for your blog.
as per ur story if u love her there is no problem in marrying ….and as u said Muslim women didn’t do these type of things ….specially with a person of their son’s age…..u have a misconception ………the only known criminal case in India where a lady have sexual relation with her son’s school friend is in fact a Muslim lady ……. the name of that lady is rahat zakira khan who was arrested in charges of raping & blackmailing his son’s school friend ….and even her son accepted that boy as her father …..later in the investigation it was found that she also files fake rape charges against her own father & also against her ex husband for money & property…..and u are telling Muslim widowed or divorced women don’t do that clearly show the lack of knowledge ….they can fuck men with men of theirs father’s age as well as her son’s age…the hunger and lust showed by a Muslim lady in this case proves all….
lol are you really Muslim? Does Islam allow you to have sex without marriage, hypocrite shame on you, where was your iman when you had sex without marriage with a women? And now certainly you are a Muslim?
Hi I m Sana I m in relationships with a Hindu boy we are in relationships last 12 years.we do true love to each other last 5 years we are in living relationship now we want to get married to and to start
our family we are very happy with each other.what would be the way to get married and convenience our parents also . I can’t leave Without him …I tried to convince my parents they are angry with me now i m in trouble what to do ..I cannot leave my parents and not can’t leave my love..
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In one seminar a speaker said ” we are product of environment.” It appears Iqbal’s mother might have been a prostitute or might have married several times. Also, in his society, men and women marry and divorce several times. In that environment at young age he had no choice but to observe and accept and make it OK. In his subconscious mind the scenes he saw got fixed. Besides he was bombarded by his religious preachers about the life of his Prophet and what is written in Koran. See chapter 4 verse 24 where Allah has permitted him to have sex with right hand possessed women. So He can justify in the name of Allah. Now, Iqbal must be around 20 and his friend’s mother be around 40 . All this matches with the stories he was told. Of course it is up to Iqbal. Maybe he convert both his friend and friend’s mother to Islam, marry the mother and enjoy new born baby, the gift of Allah.
Lesson to be learned: Parents have a responsibility to see who are their children’s friends?
i understand what iqbal is saying…im from a hindu family and 2 years ago my mother divorced my father and got married to a close friend of mine from colege who is muslim !! The day my mother told me this , i cant deny i was very shocked and couldn’t say anything but she also me that she was pregnant with his baby and that they love each other and want to raise baby together…it was horrifying for me and my family but even after trying to persuade my mother so hard to get away from him , she did not listen …she said that she cannot imagine life without my friend and wanted me to support her so that she could marry him…after few months of fighting and all the chaos that happened in my family ,i finally agreed to give in to my mother’s happiness…my mother separated from my father , gave birth to his baby and married him after delivering the baby…now although i live with my father and miss my mother being with us..im satisfied that she is happy with him and their baby…and yeah i dont call him “dad” but the sitation is obviously very tricky and i get embarassed whenever we meet..its natural…afterall he got my mother pregnant behind my back and that shocker is not going to normalise any sooner !!
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Iqbal…
To be frank in terms of relationship, it isn’t right to have relationship with your friends mother.
Now that its done, I see you want to accept her as your wife as an act to undo the damage.
But to you realize that the lady & her son (your friend) come from a family?
Do you realize & have any sort of remorse for having betrayed your friend’s trust. As guys most of us may have had fantasies of having a relationships with someone elder to us. But whether fantasies are put into reality is all about maturity.
Realize that love ain’t everything. Today you love Shonaly, tomorrow you don’t, another day you love someone else..
Love is an emotion & emotions keep changing. Go with your head for a while, stop thinking from your dick. Respect your friend & think what would go through his heart if he got to know.
The solution is for you to probably to ask forgiveness to the mother & go far away from them & not repeat such a thing. (Also atone fr your sins)
Hello VAR
Thanks for your rational response. At least it is not filled with hate and judgement like others.
My relationship with Shonali was two sided. We were both attracted to each other and anything we did was absolutely consensual and no one forced anyone to do anything. I agree the situation is definitely not ideal by any means but I am trying to improve the situation without hurting anyone and definitely by preserving an innocent life. Also people must remember that Shonali was single and is pretty free to do what she wants.
Since my last post we have confirmed that Shonali is definitely pregnant and we have agreed to keep the baby. We will soon be announcing our next steps slowly to close people. We have started talking about marriage and the steps we need to take in the next few months.
The one thing I couldn’t agree with your statement was just to walk away. That would be a very irresponsible thing to do.
Wow! What a thumping response!
What is seen as ‘hate & judgmental’ by the perpetrator will be perceived as ‘just, empathetic and considerate’ response by the victim! It depends on where you stand!
And some of the other brazen points:
//two sided; both attracted to each other; that Shonali was single and is pretty free to do what she wants.//
Life is worth only when moral rules are abided by in earnest! A single mother doesn’t mean that her son’s trusted friend will entice the emotionally forlorn lady, sleep, impregnate her and now uncringingly play the role of her ‘Saviour’, too!
After backstabbing and poisoning his friend’s life forever, how beautifully he plays an innocent lover!
Either you’re too cruel to understand others’ pain or just under-aged to comprehend the gravity of evil committed by you! If it’s the first case, then what admin called you‒ Cobra, is incorrect; he is mistaken‒ you are King Cobra! In case, if you belong to the second category, then please read further!
//am trying to improve the situation without hurting anyone and definitely by preserving an innocent life//
Not hurting anyone? Apart from hurting that pure friend and your parents, the child which would be born out of this lecherous relationship, would it have any respect for its parents? Would you have any admiration and regard for your parents if you were born out of an almost mother-son relationship?
//The one thing I couldn’t agree with your statement was just to walk away. That would be a very irresponsible thing to do.//
What you’ve displayed is parasitical responsibility‒ to suck from the very benevolent host!
If even an iota of ethicality is left in you, just place yourself in your friend’s shoes, think what you would have done if you were put through this hellish situation, repent, apologize to the mother-like lady, move to a faraway destination.
Time is the best healer!
If you do plan to go ahead with the marriage, then you’ll be carrying only the curse of an absolutely innocent fatherless boy, who will also become motherless now‒ thanks to his best friend!
Hi Iqbal,
Lets talk idealism verses reality. What would you do…
1) If your parents absolutely disagree with your marriage to Shonali, would you ignore your parents?
2) After marriage and while returning form your work place, if you find out that Shonali was happily talking to an handsome neighbor for some time. What would you do? Would you trust her or will think this loose character lady should be kept in absolute control and you will lock her up behind doors?
3) Shonali may be around 35-40 years old. What if in 5 years, she goes into menopause stage? Would you sacrifice your sex life forever or marry another young girl?
Hi admin
I personally am not super religious so i don’t know the Koranic verses by heart. My relationship with Shonali started unexpectedly and it blossomed into something beautiful. It was cynosure mutual and we both love each other. i care for shonali and want to take care of her and my child. I came here to see what can be done to convince her in this regard. You should know that my family will not accept a Hindu as their sons wife. They don’t see Hindus in the same level as Muslims.
My primary concern now is my childs and Shonalis well being. I don’t want to abandon them and leave her helpless. I want to do the right thing.
Can you accept her as you found Shonali… meaning Hindu and with the name Shonali? If you did not like Hindus or Shonali name, why you fall in love? It will be easy for you since you are not religious. What will you do if Shonali declines to covert, will you dump her and the child? No conversion will make it easy for Shonali. People will not call you a love-Jihadi but a true lover.
Your parents will not accept your relationship anyways, so if your objective was to please your parents, you should have thought about it long before.
Would you have also got into F-ing relationship if it was your one of Muslim friends’ mother? Or that was only because she is a “Hindu” friend’s mother?
Explain us, “They don’t see Hindus in the same level as Muslims.” We are curious!
I came here to ask for advice as to how I can convince her to marry me. I have not gotten any answer for that. I do not want to abandon Shonali or my child. I never said I dont like Hindus nor did I say I didnt like her name. I already said I am not very religious.
However my parents are also extremely important to me and I want everyone to live happily together. I cannot abandon them just like that. Also when our relationship started we were not thinking about each others religion.
Regarding your last question I wont answer that since that is not my view but my parents.
We understand your wish Shonali carry on this baby but how much she can trust you. You already said, “parents are also extremely important to me”. So when your parents say don’t marry this 17 years old, what are you going to do? Do you have guts to go against your parents? If not, why she should trust you?
On “I never said I dont like Hindus nor did I say I didnt like her name”, assuming your parents agreed for her, are you going to leave as a “Hindu” and not change her name? Are just dreamer, not a realistic.
On “I am not very religious”, do you believe Koran is 100% God’s words? Do you believe there will be a Judgment Day?
Hi Admin
I know I love Shonali and I know she respects and trusts me a lot. I dont have any doubts about that. I personally have no interest in changing her name since I like her name a lot. I am confident I can convince my parents in accepting her as my wife. Regarding the matter of Shonali converting to Islam, I will not compromise on that. I have gone through your forum quite a bit and I see a lot of Hindu girls happily converting to Islam as part of getting married. I am sure Shonali will be very happy after submitting to Islam.
You had asked me another question regarding whether I would have gotten into a relationship with a friends mother who was muslim. I am not sure that situation will ever come true since there is almost little to no chance that a married or widowed muslim woman would ever agree to have sex with her sons friend.
I have seen you blame muslim guys for seducing hindu girls in other posts as well, however the truth is mostly the opposite. I can speak from my experience in Kolkata (cant speak for everywhere else) that bengali girls are very attracted to muslim guys and would go to any lengths to seduce them.
His friend trusted this creep and gave a place in his house and how this lowly creature has paid him back? Sexually exploited a lonely woman whom he should have treated as his own mother and now justifying his dastardly act!
And tragically, this fourth-rated scoundrel is bragging about the character of Muslim women‒ nothing could be more humiliating to Muslim women than this devil’s compliment.
If this lowlife were to provide accommodation to his friend in his house and that trusted friend betrays by sleeping with the ‘most honourable’ Iqbal’s mother, will Mr. Iqbal get his mother married to his friend?
By mistake, I’ve mentioned this conniving predator as ‘Mr. Iqbal’, for which I deeply regret! It should be read as,’Leech’!
This parasite has made his friend’s mother pregnant which is equivalent to impregnating his own mother!
Treacherous monster!
Hahah, Yes, he is a low life, is this Islam all about? We said earlier, “People should know this… if you feed milk to a cobra snake, one day he could come back to bite you. Best is to keep off.”
Iqbal, why you said “conversion to Islam is an absolute must for us to get married”? You said you are not religious. Will you dump her if she does not convert? If she convert, she is a wonderful person but if she does not, she is not a good human being? Your love for her is nothing unless she converts? Are you not a love-Jihadi?
can you please explain me “I am not sure that situation will ever come true since there is almost little to no chance that a married or widowed muslim woman would ever agree to have sex with her sons friend” Mr iqbal first thing is you have created a big mess! you have taken advantage of Shnali’s condition, betrayed you friend. it has nothing to do with the religion of that lady ! such a ill thought.
Iqbal..
This is not your fault. It is your Islamic religion fault which taught to marry any one including your mother and sister too and have sexual relation..Bastard…
Hello admin,
17 years is indeed a big age gap but I really care for her and want to marry her. I have not told my parents yet. The only people I have mentioned this are a couple of my very close friends from back home.
Regarding conversion to Islam we are not there yet since I have just had a brief discussion with Shonali regarding marriage. However to answer your question conversion to Islam is an absolute must for us to get married. I cannot convince my family who are quite religious to accept a Hindu wife. The age difference in itself is a big hurdle and if I ask my parents to accept a Hindu woman it will become impossible for me to convince them.
I might seem a bit rigid here but there are certain things I cannot compromise on. Shonali is not religious at all and I dont expect this to be a big issue in our relationship.
Hi Iqbal,
Are you showing us Islamic requirements? Then tell us… having sex with a trusted friend’s mother is something Islamic? Is not following Koran 24:30 but 2:221 not love Jihad? Do you know Allah is watching and will consider this on the Judgment Day?
People should know this… if you feed milk to a cobra snake, one day he could come back to bite you. Best is to keep off.
If your friend do it with your mother what would you do. You are a cobra snake. I think you do it always with your mother. You a son of bech