Section 7.4: A Muslim Boy in Love with a Jain

Section 7.4: A Muslim Boy in Love with a Jain

Nadeem says:

I am a Muslim guy in love with a Jain girl. I really love her and want to marry her. My parents are ready for all this but her parents are against our decision. In fact now they are not even allowing her to be out of house. Her uncle is a politician (minister and Member of Parliament). I don’t want her to change her religion. I really love her and want to spend my whole life with her only. Please suggest me something—how can we live happy together forever.

Guys please suggest me whatever you can. I really need your help and most importantly she is ready to live with me going against her family but his uncle is a major problem. Please help me. —Nadeem

Admin says:

Hi Nadeem,

You mentioned that, “don’t want her to change her religion.” This is a very honorable thought. But, do you know what does that mean? Are you okay with not having an Islamic nikaah (including conversion)? If you marry a Jain without conversion, your marriage is not valid as per the Koran and all Islamic teachings. Are you ready to go against Islamic beliefs? Have you talked to your family and Islamic community about your plan?

What will you do after marrying a Jain (murti) idol-worshipper? Please read more from Tanvi. This Muslim will marry in a court, not by nikaah and conversion. He is ready to give up meat when she is around. He is already going to Jain temples, bowing to her (Jain) Gods and taking part in Parjyshan. This Muslim will have children with non-Arabic names, will raise Jain (and Muslim) children and teach them from both scriptures. You have to wonder, is he really a Muslim? How far are you willing to go to please your new Jain family?

We are not here to tell you what you should and should not do. You must decide what the right thing is for you to do.

It is easy to talk of a secular life at age 20 something, but as a Muslim, it will be very difficult for you later on to raise a Jain-Muslim family. Again, we are not here to discourage you from being secular (or religious). Jameela, Seema, Azad and Shah Rukh Khan decided to run their life as secular/pluralists and apparently are happy, so why not you?

The most important advice we can give today is to get good education and then find a high paying job. Once you are financially independent and settled in a different city, the rest will be a lot easier for you two. Best wishes. —Admin