Section 5.16: Is It Possible that I Convert to Islam Just as a Formality?

Section 5.16: Is It Possible that I Convert to Islam Just as a Formality?

Many youths decided to convert to the spouse’s faith without truly understanding the faith. The next few sections give such examples.

Yogin says:

I am a Hindu man who has been in a relationship with a Muslim girl for the last 3 years. We are both over 30 and the reason we have been waiting this long is because we were hoping her parents would accept this relationship. But alas that doesn’t seem to be happening.

We have discussed the problems most inter-faith marriages face many times and have come to the conclusion that one possible way of avoiding future problems would be to let go of the wish to have children, since we have seen, once children come into the picture of interfaith marriage, that really puts a strain on the relationship.

We have also agreed that the best way to keep the peace going would be to continue believing in what each of us believe and we have no expectations or wishes that either of us will convert. However, having said that, we do realize that the only way her parents can come on board is if I convert to Islam.

What I wanted to know from reliable and experienced people like you is if it is possible to convert to Islam just as a formality? Can I continue keeping my Hindu name even after I convert? Also once I convert, are there any religious implications or problems? If we both are comfortable, can I continue believing in Hinduism? We would obviously not lie to her parents and we would like to tell them that this conversion is ONLY for the marriage to happen? What I want to know is if it is possible? I would greatly appreciate some inputs. —Yogin

Admin says:

A very simple answer to your question—never ever “fake” convert. We are sorry, this is a blunt answer but it is true. Are you such a person who will go and lie to Allah, your parents, your Hindu community, her Muslim community, imam and most importantly, you yourself? This “fake” conversion will ruin the lives of both you and your girlfriend, and both sides’ extended families. Once you are a Muslim, even in namesake, following Hindu practices is considered sin. Later, your conversion back to Hinduism is considered apostasy punishable by death in some areas of the world. Instead of a fake-conversion, spend time learning about Islam and if you like it, consider converting with true faith. If, however, you disagree with Islam, be clear that you will never convert and continue to worship in your own faith (and she in hers) as you have already agreed upon. The parents’ issues need to remain with the parents’ and you will need to figure out how to distance yourself from their disapproval, if they in fact do not “come on board.”

She may be using her parents as an excuse. It is possible that deep in her heart, she wishes to see you as a Muslim, so this is something to consider. Best wishes. —Admin