Regret Hindu-Sikh Marriage

Bal Kaur says: October 13, 2014 at 9:31 am

I am 50 and regret life. I cannot attend or celebrate any Hindu festivals other than Diwali. it can b very upsetting and depressing. though my family life and children r very happy. i have this inner pain wishing i cozld b with my cousins and joining my community. Think very carefully about what u r doing. it is not reversible. when u r young u believe in love. life is not about love. its about customs traditions caste systems heritage. everything u will learn when u mature

Furthermore having three kids myself and from a Hindhu Punjabi backgrpund. i hav bpth changed my name and all my children follow sikhism. It would not be fair for pur children to be brought up following twp faiths. i do not fast or attend the mandir. it is the mothers responsibility to ensure any children born put the relaitonship r not i. war over religion. the decision should b made prior to the wedding day. i would advise against any interfaith marriages. the difficulties are hugh in Asian societies. from naming children. Bal Kaur



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9 Comments

  • Sahilsethi
    May 27, 2023 8:31 am

    Mostly Sikhs And Hindu’s marriages successful in within same ethnicity or caste like Jatts, Khatris and Arora’s

  • December 26, 2020 12:41 am

    i am a 20+ year old hindu (not religious but not receptive towards any other religion). the boy i like is sikh (he is very religious towards his religion)
    we are thinking of marriage. his family is happy and they don’t mind a hindu girl. the boy and his family said that i wouldn’t have to change anything.
    however, i haven’t told my family yet and i’m confused as hell. what if i have to compromise on my religion ? what if the boy says in the end that he will like his kids to follow sikh only. i will be devastated.
    please help and tell me what are the consequences (pros and cons) of a hindu-sikh marriage?

    Reply at https://interfaithshaadi.org/pros-and-cons-of-a-hindu-sikh-marriage/

    • Neha
      June 17, 2023 11:25 pm

      Hi. My name is Neha. I am from Ahmedabad. First of all, congratulations. That you’re thinking about marriage.
      My boyfriend is a sikh too. I had this same doubt as I am hindu and my family, especially my grandfather doesn’t approve love marriages be it in our own cast.
      His family is okay too with me. So one day i gathered courage and told them everything. There were many arguments, not to scare you or anything. You will have to make them understand that why that boy is right for you and you can’t CANNOT fight with them at any cost because they will be your one point of contact if anything goes down. After some time, and many disagreements later, our families decided to meet. We didn’t meet but they met. And my family liked their home, the people. I think this is very important that your family sees the boy’s family and how they live.

      My only advise would be that you yourself have to be very sure of the boy and then only you will be able to convince your parents. My boyfriend’s family did not mention about conversion nor they will try to convert me but as time goes on, you will be attending all the sikh rituals and customs.

      Lastly I would like to say that I am a proud girlfriend of my SIKH boyfriend. And I hope that your parents will agree too ❤️ just keep faith in bhagwanji and babaji ❤️ everything will be for the best, all the hardships (if you’re facing any) will be fruitful at the end ❤️ just don’t lose hope as in our society interfaith marriages are still not acceptable fully but, if both the families are happy with each other’s customs and religions, then I think everything will work out at the end that too, very happily ☺️ I wish you all the best ❤️

  • Ramneet Singh
    September 6, 2018 2:05 pm

    Dear Bal Kaur.. I wish that Sikh girls also think about you but they never regret like this. Sikh girls getting married out of community on purpose in huge number. They simply want to get out of Sikhism so that they can follow their desires without any guilty.

  • Priska
    December 17, 2016 11:49 am

    Hii,i want to tell something to all of you from personal experience.never ever marry someone from another religion.no matter how much you love him,no matter how much he loves u,u ll regret every single day of your life.

    • December 17, 2016 3:12 pm

      Priska,

      Why? Can you tell us what was the issue in your life? That will help us understand the issue.
      Was he Muslim?

  • Shivam
    August 18, 2015 1:19 am

    Hi there, thank you for sharing your story. I can totally understand your situation. I’m hindu guy 23 years old and my gf is Sikh and we both are together from long time now. We are going to marry next year. I would never stop her celebrating any sikh festival. We both are open minded, its obvious sometimes we all have to make sacrifices for our loved ones and I really dont mind bringing up my kids with both the religion and I also told her that you dont have to change your religion and you are allowed to follow your rituals, I dont have any problem. We do understand each other very well and she is very supportive, I’m very lucky to have her 🙂 Thank you.

    • September 10, 2015 12:09 am

      Hi shivam ..my name is geet and I am a Hindu and in a relationship with a Sikh guy ..its been only a few weeks for us to be together but we both are very sure about this .the other day we were talking about our families and as usual he brought the wedding topic up he said his family will be all cool with this (our relationship) and won’t even ask me to change my religion but he question remains that will my family accept it or not and I am not really sure . can you please tell how you convinced your parents or talked to them about this .It would mean tge world to me if you did

      Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=10518

  • Aradhana
    April 11, 2015 9:27 am

    Well, every guy is not the same. Some guys are understanding and they do not mind their kids bringing up with both religions. But few guys make it very strict that his kids will follow only his religion. As far as I think, when two people love each other irrespective of religion then talking about what religion their kids will follow is completely wrong. Maybe they fear what his parents will say. But, its fine as long as the female is ok with the changes/compromises. Because yes, the guy and love is important too.

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