Abida says: December 10, 2012 at 8:36 am
Hi Fauzia,
Glad to read your life story. Where there is a will there is a way.
I am almost in the same situation presently in UK, working a mall.
I have come across with a Hindu guy and deeply impressed towards him for everlasting relations. My parents wants me to marry my own cousin, who is just a mechanic in a motor workshop, which I donot like to accept him as my soul mate because he is not professionally compatible nor I like his family environment.
I have told my parents that I would like to marry as per my choice, even if I am disown by them, as they cannot put restrictions for my life in the name of religion. -Abida.
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Satyen says: December 10, 2012 at 2:03 pm
Never marry your cousin as it is medically incorrect decision. Do some research on google and you will know. It’s one of the legacies passed down to Muslims and need to be rectified, led by the educated Muslim women like you. Many Muslim girls are coming up openly against this custom in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh apart from the developed countries, to avoid giving birth to unhealthy (mentally or physically) babies. -Satyen.
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Abida says: December 27, 2012 at 4:44 am
Hello every body,
I have now decided to marry my Hindu BF and flatly told my parents that I cannot marry my own cousin.
We have decided how to marry and how to get registered lateron. In the meantime, in search of a good accommodation prior to marriage.
Thanks -Abida
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Hi Abida,
how are you? I am in love with a sunni girl 24 yrs.,a school teacher,
myself wealth manager,aged 27 yrs.Both wants to marry but problem from
her parents.Her sister divorced and living with parents.In consultation with advocate, we have decided to marry under special marriage act.
Seeking good wishes from all readers.
glad to know ur story, are u two married yet? hoping to get some reply from you.
Hello every body,
I have now decided to marry my Hindu BF and flatly told my parents that I cannot marry my own cousin.
We have decided how to marry and how to get registered lateron. In the meantime, in search of a good accommodation prior to marriage.
Thanks
Msulim girls in love with non-Muslims,
Think the road ahead before falling in love with non-Muslims. The Muhammad’s ideology has kept the Muslim males captivated in brutal acts. What a double standard for boys and girls! On the one hand the Muslim Umma is encouraging the boys to marry with non-Muslim girls after converting them while on the other hand the same Umma is making its boys vigilant so that no Muslim girl could befriend a non-Muslim boy.
Surprisingly, they don’t have any problem when a young charming Muslim girl is forced to marry a father like aged person from the middle East. Most of the time, this marriage lasts for a few days/weeks only and the respectable fatherly Muslim figures go to their middle east countries after a delightful sojourn, leaving the devasted Muslim girl behind for ever! Height of hypocracy with all the blessings of Muhammad! The naive and illerate parents lose everything before their eyes, covered by the ideologies of Islam!
Muslim sisters, respect and love your parents as they really love you and wish your happiness but many of them don’t know how they can make your life happy. Here comes your role to educate them slowly and in a way they understand. Take help of your other near and dear ones who can influence your parents if you cannot do it directly. Start with the unacceptable practices such as —
1. Marrying a cousin, aged person, already married, not well educated.
Thinking Muhammad as prophet and Quran as the divine revelation.
Shahada including Muhammad and considering him as the role model.
Always have a registered marriages even with a Muslim so as to safeguard your future. Never be trapped in Nikah, surrendering your future to the husband.
2. Burqa, Circumcision, not working, going out with a male of your
family only, having Muslim friends only, Qurbani etc.
3. Whereever, you may be, always have a like minded Muslim women’s organisation who can give you even a feeble assistance when you need it. This organisation can have even like minded Muslim men as well.
But, first go for the best of education and see if my suggestions are really in your best of interests. If you don’t feel so, leave it aside without any hesitation. I am not the best of the persons.
See the following video to discourage the Muslim girls from having friendship with non-Muslims:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IckCStNi2HQ
Hi Abida and Fauzia,
Gone through your problems.Glad to see that in the modern age, our muslim girls are attempting to brake the shackles of islamic religion and lead a blissful and graceful rather than soccumbing to pressure and get tortured throughout life.
I am from Adelaid, South Australia, migrated from Indonesia, working in Beach Petroleum, oil and gas exploration and production company, as chemist. My job mainly relates to chemical analysis of mud core samples, and drilling fluid testing. My boss is an Indian, who is from Gujarat State of India, earlier worked in ONGC, India. I am deeply attracted towards him for his leadership qualities, way of working, and personality traits. He is equally interested in me. I have no problem, from my parents, being independent and born and brought up in a liberal environment.
Requesting Admn. and Satyen to guide me.
Reply to Uzma at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3656
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Hi Abida,
Great stand taken by you. Muslim female community needs bold girl like you to improve their life style and decision power to lead a happy and cheerful life.
Operessed since long, misbehaved and tortured women generation needs your help.
God bless you.
Abida,
Najneen is right that “Muslim female community needs bold girl like you to improve their life style”. Please come to this site to guide other youths. Best way to learn is to teach, you yourself will learn a lot while guiding others. We hope to hear from you every week.
Never marry your cousin as it is medically incorrect decision. Do some research on google and you will know. It’s one of the legacies passed down to Muslims and need to be rectified, led by the educated Muslim women like you. Many Muslim girls are coming up openly against this custom in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh apart from the developed countries, to avoid giving birth to unhealthy (mentally or physically) babies.
Hey,
Glad to see that you have got true love. Please don’t leave him in the name of religion. I have failed in my case and I don’t want others to fail just like me (read https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3581).
Hope you make the right decision.
May God help you.