Khusboo says: February 7, 2013 at 8:54 am
I am a Muslim girl who is currently in a 9 years relationship with a Hindu boy. We both are working in consumer durable goods. His parents do not have a problem with him converting to Islam since his mother was a Muslim before marrying his father. However, my boyfriend do not want to convert to Islam because he is a strict Hindu. However, he is willing to have a Muslim wedding for my sake. I know it is not permissible to marry a non-Muslim. Also, I know I am wrong by entertaining such a relationship when I knew from the beginning such situation will/have arrived.
I am of marriageable age and my parents expect him to convert to Islam and have a Muslim wedding. It is very difficult to break such a relationship and I know that seems like the only and best option. But, is it possible we could get married with him not accepting Islam? I am not in any position to question my religion but isn’t it wrong to convert someone when they are born into a particular religion for a reason. Isn’t it one God? Can you please advise me because I am very confused. -Khusboo
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Gulnar says: February 9, 2013 at 3:10 am
Hi sister,
take more time to convince your parents in view of like minded soul mate and happiness of life together.
Converting just for marriage is not advisable from me. If both of you are working and independent you can marry under special marriage act, if in India.
God bless- Gulnar
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Admin says:
Dear Khusboo,
You know it all well what is right and what is wrong. Your boyfriend, who wishes to remain a Hindu, knows what Islam is all about. Further, you knew it very well that this situation will arise and still you decided to continue your love affair.
It is beyond imagination for any intellectual why such educated people will like you will believe in this FAKE-conversion. Why will you want that Hindu to go and lie to your parents, your Imam, to Allah and most important to himself?
If Allah was right in front of you and tell you to do that is fair, to be honest and asks you to follow nothing but truth, what would you do? Will Allah be happy if you fake-convert all Hindus to Muslims?
Is this not injustice to your innocent Hindu boyfriend whom you love the most? Will not his fake-conversion leave you with a guilt feeling of trapping a Hindu? Is this not love-proselytism? What is the difference between you and telibani? Why you wish to make lies and deceptions a foundation of your married life?
Considering you said, “I am from India, Mumbai and soon shall be going abroad on job”, you are in the best position to do that is right and just. We recommend you to take a year or two to think and make a right decision for your marriage. Do not listen to others, but do that Allah sitting right in your heart wants you to do.
Khusboo, you are a role model for rest of youths in India and the World. We hope Allah will guide you to do that is right. We are waiting to hear from you for what you ultimately do. Best wishes. -Admin
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I am in a similar situation Khusboo. I live in Canada and I face the same problem. I feel like I will loose the strength of Islam if I marry my Hindu boyfriend. He will convert for the wedding, but after that he would still like to keep his Hindu beliefs. I accept him for who he is, but I am worried I will not be able to pass down the conviction of my religion to my children. I feel blessed to have been born Muslim. I am feeling confused, because I really do want Islamic values to be strengthened in my family home. My heart wants to stay close to Islam, but I love him deeply as well.
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Khusboo,
I fully agree with the succinct and appropriate suggestion by Gulnar. So take your time to convince your parents taking help of your nears and dears who can influence your parents. For your future, never ever Muslim girls should try to convert any non Muslim guys as it will ultimately boomerang the girl herself. The Muslim girls should always attempt to take her husband away from Muhammad and ensure that her life is better. Once your husband becomes a Muslims, numerous possibilities will be born against you(Burqa, proof of virginity on the wedding night, Talak, 4 wives and so forth). So, why invite the future problems by converting your non-Muslim husband to Islam? A Muslim husband considers Muhammad as his role model.Would you like your husband to be similar to Muhammad? Read the life history of Muhammad especially his marriages and decide yourself and let others be known.
hi, I am a muslim girl who was born and brought up in the u.k. 2 years ago i came out to the states for a job that i have a contract with for 3 years. I met this really nice guy one evening who is black christian. at firts i tried not to get involved with him because i didn’t see the point in going out with a black guy when we have no future together and myself fair coloured muslima.
The more we talked on the phone, the more i began to like him and we started dating,we have been inseperable since, he really looks after me and looks out for my best interest. He treats me better than any asian guy has ever treated me.
I have one more year of my job contract left & after that I have to go home to the u.k., in case contract does not extend, he really wants me to stay and would like to marry me…the thought of us parting devastates both of us.
I come from an traditional muslim family where it has been told to me ever since i was old enough that i will get married to a muslim man & no other race. my parents would be so angry at me if i was to tell them the truth, they’re allready looking for suitable guys for me back home in the u.k.
I am stuck in a situation where i am being forced to choose between my parents and my boyfriend. i dont feel that its fair on me.
is there anyone out there who is in a simular situation to me or has been through it & can advise me on it.
your thoughts and comments would be much appreciated.
many thanks.
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Hi Admn/Satyen,
Really feeling proud of muslim sisters, responding so outspokenly on this blog on various issues of islamic evils.
Credit goes to you both for providing such a great forum for such girls to highlight burning problems they have been facing hundreds of years right from their ancestors.
God bless you both always.
Veena,
Thanks for the appreciation. The great cause of rescuing the Muslim women from the age old tyranny has been spearheaded by the Admin and the Muslim women/girls including you. These are the praiseworthy people. I am only serving the Allah/God by serving His creation. It’s only the prophets who have divided this beautiful humanity into Muslims and non-Muslims etc. To me, all these Muslim women are no different than than other Hindu women as I don’t accept this Muhammad’s division of the Allah’s creation. All the women fall in the category of Mothers/sisters/daughters/friends. So, why unfriendly treatment for them? Let’s spread the message of one humanity without any division among themselves.
Thanks Gulnar.
I am determined to take decision for me in the long term perspective.
I am from India, Mumbai and soon shall be going abroad on job.Hopefully during that every thing shall be crystal clear.
Please guide me, whenever I seek your support morally. I wish to live gracefully, free from restrictions.
Hi sister,
take more time to convince your parents in view of like minded soul mate and happiness of life together.
Converting just for marriage is not adviseable from me. If both of you are working and independent you can marry under special marriage act , if India.
God bless
Excellent advise!