JAIN says: January 12, 2021
I really don’t know how to say but I have experienced the same . When I was 18 and my mom was 39 (she was married early), Mom was a widow 3 yrs old, a muslim friend of mine used to come my home often. He was 20 yrs age. One day I returned home early nd had the shock of my life. I heard their laughter and talk from the room. I saw my mom and him in a very close situation in bed. That shocked me most . Behind me he had made sexual relation with my mom. Later when I told him why he betrayed me like this he told me that he always lusted for my mom and now she was his. I was really shocked to hear this. Later I also talked to mom about this but mom seemed too possessed by his charm and physical relation. And then my mom and he started an open relationship. He even told me he was willing to marry my mom. I tried to make my mom understand but it did not help. Two months later they married and I moved to my uncle’s house and since then I kept no relation with my mom. -Jain
SUDHANSU says: May 30, 2021
Hi Jain
1. Sorry I read this a few months late. I have not been very active on this site lately. I have some thoughts on your situation.
Why have you broken up contact with your mom? Irrespective of whom she has married she is still your mother and might need your help. Please dont break off contact with her
2. Nowadays its very normal for hindu women to marry muslim men. Please look at some real life examples the admin has provided. You will find other cases where hindu women have married much younger or much older muslim men. I have personal experience in this case where my mother married a much older muslim man. In most cases the marriage is very successful and the woman (after some compromises is normally very happy)
3. In your case since your moms new husband is much younger I am assuming she got attracted to him due to his physical charm and his ability to keep her sexually happy. I see all these as positive changes to your moms life. Your mom is still young and she is enjoying herself now. You should be happy that your mom is now leading a sexually fulfilling life
4. You mentioned she has given birth to 2 kids already. This is not suprising that normally muslims prefer larger families. Given that her husband is pretty young I am sure he will want to have a few more children over the next few years. You must know that muslims consider a great blessing when they produce muslim children from hindu converts like your mom. You should get in touch with your mom to support her if she needs it.
5. It is nice of her husband that she was allowed to keep her first name. Normally the hindu woman has to change her first name as well and change to a proper Islamic name.
If anyone wants to chat please contact me on gmail at indian198211 -Sudhansu
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My mother divorced my father and my mother married a Muslim auto driver. My mother is 40 years old and the Muslim driver is 28 years old. Why did my mother do this? My home situation was fine but my mother cheated my father, my family did not support my mother because she married a Muslim but I supported my mother, otherwise my mother would have been ruined, now What should I do, I don’t understand why my mother did this
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Is mother’s marriage successful?
He is a jain and not hindu. Jains are strictly vegetarian on the other hand Hindus are non-vegetarian (chicken, fish even pork in northeast Region). Than how this jain man can adjust with his mother’s new family, it’s impossible very impossible. On the other hand now a days it’s often that jain girls/women of Rajasthan are marrying Muslim men in large scale. This is also a part of your destiny, it’s very painful, I understand but hone ko rok sakta hain. Actually now jain’s mother become a baby producing machine. Due to these inter-religious marriages mob lynching are going on, we often read lynchings in newspapers that going-on in different parts of india
Hi Jain
1. Sorry I read this a few months late. I have not been very active on this site lately. I have some thoughts on your situation.
Why have you broken up contact with your mom? Irrespective of whom she has married she is still your mother and might need your help. Please dont break off contact with her
2. Nowadays its very normal for hindu women to marry muslim men. Please look at some real life examples the admin has provided. You will find other cases where hindu women have married much younger or much older muslim men. I have personal experience in this case where my mother married a much older muslim man. In most cases the marriage is very successful and the woman (after some compromises is normally very happy)
3. In your case since your moms new husband is much younger I am assuming she got attracted to him due to his physical charm and his ability to keep her sexually happy. I see all these as positive changes to your moms life. Your mom is still young and she is enjoying herself now. You should be happy that your mom is now leading a sexually fulfilling life
4. You mentioned she has given birth to 2 kids already. This is not suprising that normally muslims prefer larger families. Given that her husband is pretty young I am sure he will want to have a few more children over the next few years. You must know that muslims consider a great blessing when they produce muslim children from hindu converts like your mom. You should get in touch with your mom to support her if she needs it.
5. It is nice of her husband that she was allowed to keep her first name. Normally the hindu woman has to change her first name as well and change to a proper Islamic name.
If anyone wants to chat please contact me on gmail at indian198211
Hi sudhansu
I agree with you,but the problem for jain is that her mother’s new husband is her own friend
First of all i want to correct you, Jains are not Hindus. Hindus eat chicken, nonveg food even (pork in northeast part of india) very much but Jains are strictly vegetarian. If you are an Indian than you should know, but still i want to remind you that it’s very difficult situation in inter-religious marriages atleast in India. Both Hindu/muslim Societies always have tried to avoid or to create obstacles to this kind of marriages, even cases of mob lynching we have heard often in media/newspapers, I want to correct you again that it’s very difficult for a Muslim man to marry a hindu girl in india. I have also read in a newspaper recently that religious jain girl in Rajasthan has married Muslim tailor.
He made a slow , continuous scheme to win my mom . We were in bad economic condition then so he allured my mom with his money . After marriage mom gave birth to two daughters by him . Mom has kept her name and added his surname . He and my mom are married for 3 yrs . I live with my uncle and don’t have any relation with my mom anymore .
I can understand ur pain and life, I’m also experiencing something similar but i believe u should remain in contact with ur mom, don’t leave mom just because she married someone I’m also living with my mom despite her remarry with a muslim man. So love ur mom and be with her
I am glad u haven’t severed relationship with your mother just because she married a muslim. Remember ur mother has right to marry whomever she wants so be a good son and always be with ur mother.I hope Jain goes to leave with his mother as well if his new father is ok with it
Hi Chithra
I agree with you,but the problen for zain is that her mother’s new husband is her own friend.
He is a jain and not hindu. Jains are strictly vegetarian. Than how this jain man can adjust with his mother’s new family, it’s impossible. On the other hand now a days it’s often that jain girls/women of Rajasthan are marrying Muslim men in large scale. This is also a part of his destiny, it’s very painful, I understand but hone ko rok sakta hain. Actually now jain’s mother become a baby producing machine.
Hi jain
What was the reaction of your friend’s family members on the marriage of your mother and your friend Did they adopt your mother?
Same thing happened to me. After my father left my mom, my mom married a Hindu. She was his courtesan for a few months. Now we converted to Hindu and we are very happy in life.
Can you share more details? Why you have the last name and the first name from different faiths?
Dear Jain, this must be very painful to go through this. There is not much you can do now but certainly educate other about this sad experience of your own life. Let’s hope it will help others not getting trapped like this.
Do you think that was honest innocent love or it was premeditated act to gain someone out of her? Did they got married by Nikaah? Is your mom Muslim? There must be money/asset after your dad, does the Muslim man control all these now?
Changing the subject, what would you tell to Jameela at https://interfaithshaadi.org/muslim-girl-with-a-hindu-married-man/ We hope you will interact with her.