Anmol says: October 31, 2012 at 11:13 am
I love my Muslim boy a lot and want to marry him in the future. He says his parents wont accept me without conversion. What should I do?
I want Amrita’s email id please.
We both love each other to a great extent but the only thing is he doesn’t wanna go against his parents. What should I do..please suggest. -Anmol.
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Anmol,
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First, your lover is not what you think to know. He is certainly not like Amrita’s husband, Salman. He is a mommy’s boy, he has not grown up yet. He is a true Muslim out to convert you to what you are not. He wants to convert a rose to a carnation. Actually his excuse “he doesn’t wanna go against his parents” is only a lie, actually he does not and cannot tolerate a Sikh. He is a telibani, love-proselytizer, Sikh-Meat, Love-Jihadi.
Tell (or kick) him to wake up. The days of “fake” conversion for marriage are over. No educated person with some IQ will ever fake convert to some other religion just to please in-laws. If you ever fake-convert, it will be the beginning of hell-fire in THIS life.
Your religion is like your mother, you cannot change your mother just because your boyfriend is asking you to accept his mother as your real mother.
If you like it or not, the answer is clear for what you should do (just kick him hard). Lets see what our other experts have to say to you. – Admin.
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Hi. I am a Sikh man. If u look at 1500 yrs of history. Muslims were busy killing and tormenting. Yet they did not invent a single thing. They believed in stealing. I am however do think they have very beautiful women. So I hope I marry one in near future.
islam doesnt teaches ppl to do bad things but if the muslimdoes the wrong thing,is he the person itself to b blamed,not islam.there r even sikh people who does wrong doing as well.i beleive whether in which religion u are or converted,it doesnt matter as long u chant and beleive the one and only God.thats what matter.doesnt matter in whuch way but as long u do your prayers.and the muslim boy is nt a mommy boy,but is written in al quran that a muslim must only marry a muslim person.blame the ppl who tourcher our guruji n kill them,but dont blame their religion.God is one,love comes qith the permission of God.it cant b islam is fake and also the kaabah.even guru also went there.al quran is the full word frim God.in our guru granth sahib there is only bani from only 6 gurus and also the banis from other normal human beings.im nt saying our granth sahib is false but even the al quran is also not fake..muslim cant convert because its written in the quran.most important we must beleive that God is 1 wheater Waheguru or Allah.its just the same.just do good things n pray to him,let judgement day show us the truth.
Anmol,
Don’t leave your religion. If the guy does not marry you without conversion , it means that he loves his religion first. So , if he can not leave his religion and does not convert into your religion, don’t go for marriage. At present he may portray him as a very good man but actually in later days you must face severe problems which may destroy the life.
If someone genuinely loves u they will not ask u to convert, anyway Muslims and Sikhs (particularly Pakistani Panjabi’s) should be able to find grey area as many Muslims in Pakistan love and revere Baba Guru Nanak
Nazir,
Just wondering, what’s the percentage of Sikhs in present day Punjab of Pakistan? As far as I know, it’s less than 0.01% i.e. only 1 in 10,000. Previuosly, there were about 10% or so were the Sikhs in the Pakistani Punjab. So, 99.9% have either been converted or have been expulsed. How many Gurudwaras are still there? Punjab used to be dotted with Gurudwaras. Now there may be 5 gurudwaras or so as all otheres have been either destroyed or converted to Mosques or business complexes. And all this happened with respect for Guru Nanak Dev!
Bingo ! You quoted gospel truth which can neither be denied nor disproved nor contested…
You should be my guru. I shall learn many things from you !!!!!!
(How should this be explained? That Muslims of Pakistan did not understand Koran properly ?….OR that those so called moderate Muslims do not matter ultimately?)
This is the way it goes:
Moderate Muslims hold down the feet of infidels while other Muslims cut the throat….
Srinivas,
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They are among the best yound brains in India assisted by the scholars. First read ‘What does agniveer stands for’. Click on any of the article and the caption contains the link for it. You don’t have to agree with them for everything. They will provide you with the tools for self defence and destroy the enemies of the humanity.
I feel the Mullahs/Mauliavis are the warriors of Muhammad, the so called moderate Muslims are the shield and the Jihadis the swords.
Well during partition many gurdwaras were destroyed in Pakistan Panjab as were Mosques in Indian Panjab. There are definitely more than 5 however some fanatics may have forcibly occupied a few
For a love marriage to work out, even within the same religion (say inter state/ caste), parents are NEVER going to be totally happy. There is always going to be some element which they will not be happy about – culture, education, language, societal status, and in more serious cases like yours – religion.
For it to work out, both people should put in 50% adjustment, and understand that their parents cannot be totally happy. In your case, it would mean, keeping your individual faiths. And respecting the others. And having a marriage based on equality.
If he can’t promise this, how are both of you going to deal with the differences hence forth?
Having a successful love marriage involves a) talking out to your individual parents, and putting your foot down when necessary, b) giving your partner equal preference (and ensuring her preferences are taken into account, if your a guy),
among many others.
It’s just not all romantic like you see in bollywood.
So I would suggest, understanding what YOU want in teh relationship honestly. And asking for it. And making sure you get 50% preference in everything – including what kind of wedding to have, no compulsion to convert, having your kids educated equally with sikhism and islam, and him coming with you to gurdwara, and you going with him to the mosque, among other non religion related things.
He owes you to convince his parents to be reasonable and not expect you to change, and you owe him the same.
Absolutely superb advise applicable to all.
Sometime, in love, people talk that they are “open minded and tolerant” and believe in equality but things changes after love. We highly recommend something measurable, NO BBS !
Sat Shri Akal every body.
Hi every one,
See the following text against women in islam:Muhammad’s Own Words
Prophet of Doom was written to expose what Islam’s founder had to say about himself, his ambition, religion, and god. Before you use or criticize these quotes, please read this overview from the author. For those who are serious about the study of Islam, be sure to read the source material appendix, entitled Islam’s Dark Past.
Women
Tabari IX:113 “Allah permits you to shut them in separate rooms and to beat them, but not severely. If they abstain, they have the right to food and clothing. Treat women well for they are like domestic animals and they possess nothing themselves. Allah has made the enjoyment of their bodies lawful in his Qur’an.”
Tabari I:280 “Allah said, ‘It is My obligation to make Eve bleed once every month as she made this tree bleed. I must also make Eve stupid, although I created her intelligent.’ Because Allah afflicted Eve, all of the women of this world menstruate and are stupid.”
Qur’an 4:3 “If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with orphans, marry women of your choice who seem good to you, two or three or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to do justice (to so many), then only one, or (a slave) that you possess, that will be more suitable. And give the women their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, eat it with enjoyment, take it with right good cheer and absorb it (in your wealth).”
Qur’an 4:11 “Allah directs you in regard of your Children’s (inheritance): to the male, a portion equal to that of two females…. These are settled portions ordained by Allah.”
Bukhari:V1B22N28 “The Prophet said: ‘I was shown the Hell Fire and the majority of its dwellers were women who are disbelievers or ungrateful.’ When asked what they were ungrateful for, the Prophet answered, ‘All the favors done for them by their husbands.’”
Muslim:B1N142 “‘O womenfolk, you should ask for forgiveness for I saw you in bulk amongst the dwellers of Hell.’ A wise lady said: Why is it, Allah’s Apostle, that women comprise the bulk of the inhabitants of Hell? The Prophet observed: ‘You curse too much and are ungrateful to your spouses. You lack common sense, fail in religion and rob the wisdom of the wise.’ Upon this the woman remarked: What is wrong with our common sense? The Prophet replied, ‘Your lack of common sense can be determined from the fact that the evidence of two women is equal to one man. That is a proof.’”
Qur’an 2:282 “And get two witnesses out of your own men. And if there are not two men (available), then a man and two women [a man is worth two women, and one man is always needed], such as you agree for witnesses, so that if one of them (two women) errs, the other can remind her.”
Qur’an 4:43 “Believers, approach not prayers with a mind befogged or intoxicated until you understand what you utter. Nor when you are polluted, until after you have bathed. If you are ill, or on a journey, or come from answering the call of nature, or you have touched a woman, and you find no water, then take for yourselves clean dirt, and rub your faces and hands. Lo! Allah is Benign, Forgiving.” [The Qur’an claims women are unclean and polluted – worse than dirt.]
Bukhari:V4B55N547 “The Prophet said, ‘But for the Israelis, meat would not decay, and if it were not for Eve, wives would never betray their husbands.’”
Qur’an 33:59 “Prophet! Tell your wives and daughters and all Muslim women to draw cloaks and veils all over their bodies (screening themselves completely except for one or two eyes to see the way). That will be better.”
Qur’an 4:15 “If any of your women are guilty of lewdness, take the evidence of four witnesses from amongst you against them; if they testify, confine them to houses until death [by starvation] claims them.”
Bukhari:V4B52N143 V5B59N523 “When we reached Khaybar, Muhammad said that Allah had enabled him to conquer them. It was then that the beauty of Safiyah was described to him. Her husband had been killed, so Allah’s Apostle selected her for himself. He took her along with him till we reached a place called Sad where her menses were over and he took her for his wife, consummating his marriage to her, and forcing her to wear the veil.’”
Bukhari:V5B59N524 “The Muslims said among themselves, ‘Will Safiyah be one of the Prophet’s wives or just a lady captive and one of his possessions?’”
Ishaq:593 “From the captives of Hunayn, Allah’s Messenger gave [his son-in-law] Ali a slave girl called Baytab and he gave [future Caliph] Uthman a slave girl called Zaynab and [future Caliph] Umar another.”
Bukhari:V3B48N826 “The Prophet said, ‘Isn’t the witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man?’ The women said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘This is because of the deficiency of a woman’s mind.’”
Ishaq:584 “Tell the men with you who have wives: never trust a woman.”
Ishaq:185 “In hell I saw women hanging by their breasts. They had fathered bastards.”
Qur’an 24:31 “Say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty except what (must) appear; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display them except to their husbands…”
Qur’an 24:34 “Force not your slave-girls to whoredom (prostitution) if they desire chastity, that you may seek enjoyment of this life. [And here’s the freedom-to-pimp card:] But if anyone forces them, then after such compulsion, Allah is oft-forgiving.”
Ishaq:469 “The Apostle said, ‘Every wailing woman lies except those who wept for Sa’d.’”
Tabari VIII:62
Ishaq:496 “Ali [Muhammad’s adopted son, son-in-law, and future Caliph] said, ‘Prophet, women are plentiful. You can get a replacement, easily changing one for another.’”
Ishaq:496 “Ask the slave girl; she will tell you the truth.’ So the Apostle called Burayra to ask her. Ali got up and gave her a violent beating first, saying, ‘Tell the Apostle the truth.’”
Qur’an 24:1 “(This is) a surah which We have revealed and made obligatory and in which We have revealed clear communications that you may be mindful. For the woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication, flog each of them with a hundred stripes. Let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by Allah. And let a party of the Believers witness their punishment.”
Qur’an 24:6 “And for those who launch a charge against their wives, accusing them, but have no witnesses or evidence, except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, (swearing four times) by Allah that he is the one speaking the truth.”
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that guy doesn’t loves u at all.he is trying aurangzeb’s method in21st cent. style i.e emotional black mail.btw remember this that love is pure n the lover shoul accept u in any form.so open ur eyes before its to late.also women are not treated equally in islam n dats true,….hope u must have uderstood…may god bless u n show the right path….respect all religion and be a sikh (a learner)..
Sat sri Akal every body,
The islamic terrorism and propaganda is a great threat to the world. They established Islam by killing innocent people since more 1000 years. The cruelty and brutialty is known all over the world. In the name of religion they can commit any crime. Their prophet was so cruel and bad character person that he did not spare his grand daughter like girl. So many evils has been spoken in the Quran against women, even then these foolish persons do not understand reality.
I am from Montreal, engaged in a business of restaurent. My both sons have married muslim girls,they were poor but sincere, in our restaurent and my sons fell in love with them due to their hard work and sincerity. Both have coverted to sikhism.
Bye for now
No slavery (gulami) anymore to the outdated barbaric customes such as circumcision. All educated womenfolk should think that circumcision is just an oppressive custom on Muslim babies/children as many practices on the women. You all should be determined to no to circumcise your children unless they attain the age of maturity, preferably after marriage. This is an issue that affects the wife of your child. Hence, it should be decided by the married couple. So, must stop this oppression of your child and don’t allow it where ever you can as it’s nowhere mentioned in Quraan. It has imported and thrust upon to the civilized world and though it has lost its ground in the whole non-Islamic world, it still exists among the Muslims/Jews.
Breath in fresh air. It’s time to say no to burqa/Niqab altogether to save yourself from suffocation. Raise your voice where ever you can – in your/relative’s family, in schools, hospitals, buses/trains, marriage parties or other gatherings.
Be your own Maulavi/Mullah. Allah has given intellect to everybody including Muslim women. Then why this dependence on Male Mullahs and Maulavis? You can have female Maulavis/Mullahs who don’t need to be certified by the Male Maulvis. Believe in Allah, but never in Muhammad’s words. Accept the good things of Quraan but not everything of it. The irrational things must be discarded.
Hello
Read it and analyse reality.Mohammed, the prophet of the Islamic world, married his last bride Aisha when she was just six years old, and the consummated the marriage with her when she was just nine years old. In Islamic states, partly because of this precedent, this practice still happens in fundamentalist countries like Afghanistan. Muslims will say that a child of six or seven is almost certain to be a virgin. Mohammed was at least 50 when he married Aisha.
The practice of forced marriages (as opposed to arranged marriages) in some Muslim states such as Afghanistan is very common. Some reports claim that somewhere between 60-80 percent of marriages in Afghanistan are forced upon the girls involved or without the consent of the girls. These marriages are seen as a way to resolve conflicts between families, or as a way to absolve someone of a wrongdoing. The girls are treated as they would treat cattle, and are given to these men as offerings.
Some reports also estimate that 57 percent of Afghani girls are married before the age of 16, and it is unusual to find an unmarried girl older than 18 years of age. The practice is justified twofold; that the girls are helping to keep the peace between families, and that the Islamic prophet Mohammed had set this precedent.
In Afghanistan the legal age to be married is 16, but many people ignore this law or claim they were unaware of it. The children in this situation are robbed of childhood, and as you will see, many are robbed of their life. This practice is abhorrent, and any civilised culture will see it as such.
In Nigeria, a 49-year-old Muslim Senator has reportedly married a 13-year-old girl, and has allegedly previously married a 15-year-old in 2006, citing that he paid a dowry of $100,000 to the parents for her. Although looked down upon by other ministers in Nigeria it is still happening.
Women in Islam have no rights, especially if they are non-Muslim, and these men get away with their evils because people are too afraid to stand up against the barbarity of the culture which the religion they follow has instilled in them. Threats of death are imposed upon those who would stand up against this. In Lahore, a man and his entourage of Muslim lawyers has threatened to “burn alive” anyone who will come to the defence of a 12-year-old servant of his, whom he raped and murdered.
Many girls will find themselves in a marriage with a man much older than they are, and will be given the sole duties of looking after the household and giving offspring to the man. Some men have multiple wives, and the women become a harem for that man. The men are often abusive to these girls, sometimes to the point where the girl should be hospitalised, but often is not. The beating of wives is seen as the “honourable thing to do”, for the wife must be kept in line with the wishings of the man and of Allah.
Often these girls will find themselves in these abusive relationships, and will seek a way out. But the way out is a problem in itself; if the girl were to leave she would bring shame upon her own family and her husband’s, and would be hunted down and possibly stoned to death or just beaten withing an inch of her life; if she stays, she may be beaten thus anyhow. Sometimes out of pure desperation, a girl seeking to be free from the bonds of this abusive relationship will choose self-harm rather than bringing shame upon her people.
In Afghanistan, it is believe that more than 10 women and girls choose self-immolation (warning very graphic content) as the escape from their bondage. Around the web there are numerous stories of women who, feeling there was no better way, have chosen to set themselves on fire rather than continue living in such conditions. Some girls die from their injuries. Some do not but are so badly scarred so as to lose their legs, or are severely disfigured by these burns. Those that live may wind up on the streets, homeless.
The culture in Afghanistan is such that women are treated as slaves, and in some cases, worse than dogs. Not only do they wear the burqa in public at all times, they are not allowed to leave the home alone, not allowed to speak to anyone they don’t know, and not allowed to make their identity known nor engage with any of their husband’s friends they may meet in the street. They are not treated as second-class citizens, rather as livestock that can produce more sons for the family.
People blame Islam for these practices. And yet, there are many more Islamic people who don’t practice this than do. Islam itself is not to blame wholly for these atrocities, rather the culture that bases itself upon Islam, then justifies these stone-aged practices based on the words of the Koran or the Hadeeth, saying it is God’s will that this be done. When a culture is poor and has little or no access to education, these kinds of barbaric practices continue to happen.
The culture in Afghanistan is sick. The barbarism and sheer disrespect for human rights that occurs there is all so often backed up by the perverse and outmoded words of their holy books. This illness in the Afghan culture continues, even after the ousting of the Taliban, who were ultra conservative and would set upon women with batons for showing ANY skin, but it is not much better now.
While this culture is deeply ingrained in their societies, these practices in the name of Islam shows it toi be, in its extreme, nothing more than an ultra-conservative ultra-violent “boy’s club” where it members all look after each other. And as sickening as all this is, nothing seems to be getting better.
These girls stories are the same story I have heard again and again of extreme desperation, of girls who see their only escape from forced marriage as being self harm. It is gut-wrenchingly sad to see such lives destroyed by the greed and stupidity of men. Here is an example of one girl’s account of the horrors she has faced at the brutal hands of an extreme Islamic patriarchy.
Hi Chand,
OMG, what a great collection of attrocities on the poor and helpless women by fundamentalists. This is a great sin against the mankind.
Where is the judgement day for such cruels? In fact such butchers should be chopped into the pieces?
They are the real shaitans like prophet Muhammad
Jo bole so nihal,sat sri akal,
I wish to share my life story also. I have business of packed food in Vancoouver, Canada. One muslim girl used to work us and soon I fell in love with her and ultimately married. Our age was 28/27 respectivelyl that time. Now we have twins male and both using turban. No problem with her. Our business flourishing.
My other Hindu friend, who has the business about 10 kms.away from our house, has also married her sister. Both are enjoying and next month expecting to become parents.
Satsri akal
Satinam wahe guru,
I am from Toronto and in love with a muslim girl. I am running agriculture business and dairy products. Almost same business her
parents are doing. She is Sabia Qureshi and ready to marry me even if my parents insist her to covert to sikhism.
She is very helpful in business and accommodative too.
Sat sri akal
Santinam waheguruji,
First it is a baseless and false story, second, why that girl giving a bad name to the community. Our gurus never vowed before tyrant people, better got beheaded.
Let that boy get converted to sikhism if he really loves her.
wahe guruji ki fateh
Waheguruji ka khalsa, waheguruji ki fateh,
I had a true love but the only thing that he is a muslim guy.. but he want to marry me and trying to convince me from last 13 years.
Finally he decided to get converted to sikhism. Please asvise what should i do now … how is it possible that he can adopt our religion
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Wahe guruji ka khalsa, wahe guruji fateh,
Absolutely baseless,ill motivated propaganda by bad character muslims terrorists.
Dont believe on it.
For change lets assume it is a true story.
Here a Sikh sister is looking for help, are you not going to give her a few words of advise/suggestions? Every one makes mistake, it is important to realize it before it is too late. if you think Anmol is making a mistake, give her a few rational reasons why it is a mistake. If you don’t say something logical, she will proceed further with her love.
Please ask other Sikhs at Gurudwara to speak out to help your sister, please!
Hi every body, it is a fabricated and cooked story to malign the image of sikh community by a mentally sick person.
Due to evils of islamd, muslim girls are attracted towards non-muslim guys. Non-muslim girls understand how cruel and violent are muslim guys.They donot spare even their own cousins and sisters in sex matters.