Shahin says: December 15, 2012 at 9:50 am
Hi every body,
Gone through this blog incidentally and found very educative too.
I am Shahin from Hamilton NewZealand, working in a renowed shopping mall THE BASE since 2006, on a payment counter. I was originally from Pakistani Gujarati. In this mall many Indians from Gujarat(Hindu) are also working. One of the guy, Ashish Patel has attracted me, who is a soft ware engineer on sprial process model for our mall.
My parents wants to marry a muslim guy from Bangladesh, who runs small catering business of sea food items. I do not prefer his business. 2/3 times he came to see me but on conversation, I found him very rude and uncultured and poor knowledge of day to day matters.
Ashish is also interested in me being he Gujarati also. I think he is suitable for everlasting relations. We have discussed the issue but not disclosed to any one.
May please advise us. -Shahin.
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Satyen says: December 15, 2012 at 12:26 pm
Shahin,
Most of the suggestions give to Uzma and others also apply to you. Take time to understand your friend more closely and let him know more about you. It’s a life time decision and hence be careful. As it involves Islam, take care of your safety and don’t disclose it to others for your and your friend’s safety. Don’t marry with an incompatibility person to make your life miserable. It’s your responsibility to make your life a happy one.
Meanwhile go through as many comments on this site as you can to familiarize yourself with the various issues, problems and solutions.
We only want to see you happy for the whole of your life. The God may show you the right path. -Satyen.
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Admin says:
Shahin,
As we said before, in general, Gujarati, and especially Patels, are street smart business people. Read all articles suggested below. Ask Arvind to read Koran on Hindus? and below articles and ask him to come blog here. Most important question you will have to address now is will the children have the BBS label? Do not waste too much time being nice to each other, instead be honest and upfront with each other. This honesty principle is best for all. Best wishes.
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Shahin says: March 29, 2013 at 11:40 am
Dear Admn./Satyenji,
I have married my gujrati BF(Patel) as per Arya Samaj tradiditions and got our marriage registered. Initially, parents were against but seeing my determination and my BF, they ultimately gave their consent.
Very happy with him now for ever. Hope shall enjoy always your blessings and good wishes. -Shahin
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Dear Admn./Satyenji,
I have married my gujrati BF(Patel) as per Arya Samaj tradiditions and got our marriage registered. Initially, parents were against but seeing my determination and my BF, they ultimately gave their consent.
Very happy with him now for ever.
Hope shall enjoy always your blessings and good wishes.
Congratulations.
Sukhi thao ane bahu bahu jivo! Bhagvan tamaru saru kare.
Dear Shahin,
Congratulations for choosing the rational and logical path. The god helped you and you got what you wanted without losing your parents. I am sure you must be elated now. How are going to spread this happiness to your sisters who are still in darkness and believe in repressive practices considered as religious practices? Please spread the right knowledge and read Satyarth Prakash of Arya Samaj. You don’t have to follow everything in it but accept all the rational things you consider ligical in it.
Sorry to be late on this special occasion.
Wish you a long and prosperous married life full of bliss.
Well done. Be happy in this world. Life and punishment after death are all bogus. Don’t believe it.
Very true.i dont like exploitation of women n giving them treatnent as if they were 2nd rate
All the stories are fake and do not belive on it as they are antiislamic. If you marry non muslim then go to hell forever. To learn about islam vist http://www.usislam.org
ppl like u who curb freedom of helpless lively women wl surely go to hell n rot.go n use ur suicide vest so that the world is rid of another devil
Hi Satyen,
I have read almost all blogs and found comments interesting particularly those written by muslim girls about realities of islamic religion.
I am almost decided to marry my BF. Right now educating my parents that it is not against any religion sentiments but for the happiness of their daughter only.
Shahin,
It’s your judicious and commendable decision to discard Muhammad and his teachngs very cleverly wrapped in religion. After going throgh so many blogs on this site, you must have understood how Muhammad has painted Allah as a partisan and a grim God while in reality Allah is the ocean of compassion and impartial God who loves everybody, irrespective of his/her faith.
So, educate your parents or close family members/relatives to differentiate between Allah and Muhammad who had declared himself a prophet, sealing others to question his behaviour. This is the root cause of all the misery of our Muslim daughters/sisters/mothers.
Hello Admn./Sateyn, and muslim sisters,
Nice to read different comments on different blogs.
I wish to share that few years back, the press and radios in Britain were abuzz with reports that muslim girls, especially Pakistani muslim girls, UK, were demanding the Hymen Repair Service free on the NHS, Britain. It was reported the demand for this service had gone up many fold in recent years.
If done privately, the hymen can be repaired for about 4,000 pounds sterling, while if approved, it can be done free of charge on the National Health Service.
The demand for this service arises from the fact that muslim bridegrooms ask for virgin brides, so muslim girls after this operation pretend to be virgins, while enjoying premarital sexual relationships.
One wonders if muslim men REALLY need a virgin bride, for on dying a jihadi death, they are guaranteed 72 virgins (plus 30 odd pearly-eyed boys), who revert to being virgins after each sexual intercourse ! In that case, do they really want an ‘earthly’ virgin bride ?
Now coming to my own life history, I have been brought up and studied in a free enviornment of Britian, so dont hesitate to disclose that I even enjoyed premarital sex many times with boys of different communities, like Hindu, Budhdhists, Christians, like the other girls in the hostels enjoyed.
I am in relationship with a sikh boy, who has sexual relations with me and wants to marry me, but my parents wants me to marry with a Pakistani boy. If decided to marry with a Pakistani, I have to repair my hymen to restore my virginity. I am also a working women(28 years), personally dont want to do that surgery, rather to marry sikh boy, who does not use turban and works in the same company with me.
I am here really to know what should I do?
Reply to Sha Gul at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3918
God made u free being so act like one.dont get coerced into a relationship which curbs ur freedom.remember religion is a private thing.
In many Muslim countries, rape is common but the idea that there should be four witnesses to prove the rape can be hard to produce as rape can take place when the aggressor and the victim are totally alone.
Some women prefer not to report the rapist for fear of scandal as sex outside marriage or rape is seen as dishonouring their family.
The Islamic law or sharia condemning the aggressor to lashes or death is practised in very few countries like Saudi Arabia. In other Muslim countries like Morocco the penalty is imprisonment and a fine or the aggressor with the consent of the victim in case of deflowering her should marry her.
Another point is that in many Islamic countries rape within marriage isn’t recognised as the woman should be at the beck and call of her husband even in sexual matters. But in countries like Morocco, there are associations formed to help women in difficulties with their husbands, including the sexual abuse they can be exposed to.
In view of the traditional restrictions on sexual freedom in Muslim countries and the desire for a romantic relation, many women fall victims to rape resulting in deflowering which is considered as a loss of dignity for the woman and a dishonour to her family.
To deal with the problem of rapes and to have real statistics about it in the Muslim world, taboos on this should be lifted and open debates should be organised to sensitise women about the legal procedures they should follow as well as sensitizing societies and families to provide the victim with support instead of looking down on her as a shame to her surrounding
Hello Shahin,
First understand your BF thoroughly, like his life style, habits, commitment and loyality and then try to understand his parents view and if found suitable, give hint to your parents to know their reaction. Try to educate them about your future and graceful life.
Hope every thing will be ok. You have to convince your BF too about your commitment towards him.
God bless
Shahin
Don’t take any decisions early, if u think u r boy friend ashish is lovable to you, gives freedom to you then u can marry her, u should concern u r safety as member of ur community will never accept ur love, so take care
Shahin,
Most of the suggestions give to Uzma and others also apply to you. Take time to understand your friend more closely and let him know more about you. It’s a life time decision and hence be careful. As it involves Islam, take care of your safety and don’t disclose it to others for your and your friend’s safety. Don’t marry with an incompatibility person to make your life miserable. It’s your responsibility to make your life a happy one.
Meanwhile go through as many comments on this site as you can to familiarize yourself with the various issues, problems and solutions.
We only want to see you happy for the whole of your life. The God may show you the right path.