This Hindu-Muslim marriage got into trouble with parenteral pressure. Now the Hindu husband is ignoring this 7 years of marriage and going to re-marry another Hindu girl in November 2014. InterfaithShaadi believes this is injustice and she should fight for her rights.
fair says: December 2, 2012 at 4:51 pm
Hey sameer….do not worry. Everything will be ok. Agar wo tumse such mein pyaar karti h to wo tumse kabhi door nahi ja sakti. Bas thoda confidence hona chahiye. aur ye tabhi possible hoga jab tum use mentally support doge. chahe jaise bhi situation ho ek dusre ka saath kabhi mat chordna.
main 11th standard mein thi tabse ek hindu ladke se pyaar karti hun (from my 11th grade, I love a Hindu boy). aur 2007 mein humne shaadi bhi kar li (got married in 2007). humdono bahut khush hain ek dusre ke saath. hum dono saare festivals saath mein celebrate karte hain (we both celebrate both Hindu and Muslim festivals together). na usne mujhse kabhi kaha ki tum puja karo aur na maine usse kaha ki tum ibadat karo (we never force each other on religious matters). hum dono ke god ek hain chahe unhe kisi bhi roop mein dekho. (we both have the same God, even we may call Him by different names)
shaadi ke 5 saal baad bhi hamare parents ready nahi hain. maine apne in-laws ko manane ki bahut koshish ki par wo shayad kabhi nahi manege. par koi baat nahi hum apni koshish jaari rakhege aur
tum apni girlfrnd se milne ki koshish karo. life mein sab tarah ke din aate hain. so pareshan mat ho. allah ta aala aur shiv ji dono tumhare shath hain fir to jeet tumhari hi honi hain. (when Allah and Lord Shiv are with you, then what is there to worry about?) All d best.
fair says: October 13, 2014 at 9:31 pm
Hi all…maine kuch time pehle ye article likha tha..sab kuch us time achcha tha..par waqt kisne dekha tha..2013 mein us insaan Jisse maine shaadi ki thi uske uske gharwalon ne Bahut xor diya..aur wo kamzor pad gaya..unlogon ne use mere saath nahi rehne diya..Kahin na Kahin wo bhi shayad yahi chahta tha..maine itna sab hone ke baad bhi maine 1 saal aur uska wait kiya..fir baad mein Pata chala ki uske affairs bhi the..par fir bhi dil nahi maana…maine usse ye sochkar saare contacts khatam kar liye ki use shayad aakal aayegi aur wo mujhe hamesha ke liye apnayega..but use to Ek mauka chahiye tha..maine jo documents the use usi insaan ke samne jala diya..usne ye game aur lambasted chalane ka socha tha..Aaj wo Hamesha ke liye mujhse door ja chuka h..uski November mein shaadi h..uske gharwale Bahut khush hain..shaadi ki shopping chal rahi h..main usse ye sochkar door huyi ki use meri value Pata chalegi aur wo mujhe apnayega..par use to ye mauka laga..hamara divorce nahi hua h..aur uske gharwalon ko lagta h ki shaadi huyi nahi thi kabhi..jabki aaj bhi mere paas shaadi ki pictures se lekar documents ki xerox h..aur court se paper nikalwane mein koi problem nahi aati…unlogon ne mujhe ekdum side mein kar diya..ye bhi nahi socha ki Mera kya hoga..uski shaadi to ho jayegi..par main ab kaise zindagi mein aage badh paungi..agar main Sirf Ek complain Daal dun ki usne divorce liye bagair shaadi kar raha h..to unsab par case chalega..mujhe sabne bola ki divorce file karo..alimony maango…par mujhe paisa nahi insaaf chahiye tha..wo log Bahut strong hain..mere saath kuch bhi ho sakta h..meri family insecure h..uske gharwalon ko ye nahi samajh aaya ki maine Unke ladke ko itni asaani se kyun Jaane diya..duniya mein Jin logon ke divorce hote hain wife Kitna kuch maangti hain…kitne allegations lagayi hai..mera dard koi nahi samjhega..agar main kuch officially karun bhi..to wo mujhe kabhi wapas nahi milega…usne.meri Puri lyf spoil kar di…maine usse kabhi kisi cheez ki farmaish nahi ki..aur usne sabko ye bola ki maine uske Bahut paise kharch karwaye..usne jo jo kiya h…wo koi ladki nahi jhel sakti..uski harkaton se tang aakar maine use choda..ki wo shayad sudhar jayega..par uski engagement to pehle hi ho chuki thi..mera Mann karta h ki suicide kar lun..par main kamzor nahi hun..main use saza nahi dungi..Allah taala hi denge..bus mujhe mera insaaf chahiye..family ka soch kar court nahi gayi..maine sabar kiya h…Allah taala mujhe aur taqat de..maine apne aap ko change kiya h..depend banaya h khud ko..bas mujhe intezaar rahega..main apni galti maanti hun ki uske kehne par maine uske gharwalon se bas ye jhoot bola ki main Hindu hun..ye uska plan tha..Sirf ye galti huyi officially engagement ke baad maine unlogon ko sachchai bata di ki main Muslim hun..main chahti to jhoot bolkar uske gharwalon ko andhere mein rakh sakti thi..par maine sab kuch bata diya shaadi se pehle..humlogon ne pehle ho court marriage ki thi...koi nahi bas mujhe Pata h..god will do justice for me..
fair says: October 14, 2014 at 1:44 pm
Mujhe bas ye samajh nahi aata ki uske gharwalon ko ya use ye nahi lagta ki main unlogon ke khilaaf complaint kar sakti hun..agar main itni hi buri thi to ab tak to mujhe court mein hona chahiye tha..wo kabhi ye nahi samjhega ki..i still luv him..Tabhi itni asaani se wo shaadi kar raha h..wo keh raha h ki usne us ladki ko sab kuch bata diya h…par Aisi kaun si ladki hogi jo us ladke se shaadi karna chalegi jiski wife Abhi tak zinda h…mujhe bas insaaf chahiye..mere 7 years nahi wapas aa sakte..usne har wo paap kiye jo Ek shaadi ko khatam kar deta h…par main sehti rahi..plz Allah taala…agar main uske saath loyal thi..to plz mujhe mera insaaf chahiye..
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fair,
Legally you are his wife today, if you have documents to prove it. He cannot and should not marry someone else. He and his Gharwale should understand it. You have only one month to act, sooner the better. Understand that even he stop his marriage plan, still he may not accept you. However, he (and other love boys) must be taught a lesson.
Why don’t you approach a local women abuse support group in you area? If that does not work out, contact local news media or police. Make sure to inform to your other friends/relatives and accompany with them for your safety. Let us know how we could be help to you? Act now! Good luck!
but mai kya karu
Islamic Jihad – A Legacy of Forced Conversion Imperialism‚ and Slavery
M. A. Khan
“ I was born and brought up in a conservative Muslim society. After graduating inIndia, I moved to the West for furthering my education. Despite my conservative Muslim background, I grew up with a liberal outlook. In my school and university days, my closest friends were Hindus and Sikhs: I felt more comfortable with them as they were more liberal, easy-going and humble with fewer religious scruples. I had
wholly given up religious rituals by the time I completed my university studies: they
just didn’t attract me.
When 9/11 occurred, I had lived…….Weird as it may sound, I still believed in Islam. I thought the terrorists, acting in the name of Islam, were misguided. After 9/11, I slowly started reading about
Islam: Quran, Sunnah and Prophet Muhammad’s biographies; I hadn’t read them in the thirty-five years of my life. I was shocked. I had been told all my life that Prophet
Muhammad was the ideal human being: most merciful and just; that Islam is the most peaceful religion; and I believed it. But the Quran reads like a manifesto of open-ended war against non-Muslims for converting them or for subjugating them into horribly degraded dhimmi subjects. In his prophetic career, especially during the critical last ten years, Prophet Muhammad was anything but what a peace-loving,
merciful and just person stands for. My curiosity grew. Over the past years, I have done extensively research on Islamic theology as well as on Islamic history: from Prophet Muhammad to modern times. It has been a harrowing tale of forced conversion, brutal imperialism and
devastating slavery. It’s a saga of great human tragedy—all in the name of Islamic holy war or Jihad, the foundational creed of Islam. This tragic tale is the subject of this book. – M.A. Khan.”
P.S.: This enlightening book can be obtained free of cost from Srinivas who posts here on this forum. Calling all criticism as hatred, fake or fiction is a denial syndrome muslim fanatics resort to EVEN this day and age. Read and learn and then REFORM, that’s what matters most- reform YOURSELVES and save this golden planet.
“Dipankar Roy, 22 years old (Hindu) was brutally murdered as he had married Salima (Muslim). Both of them had been in love for a while. The victim was riding his motorbike coming back from Chandpara to his own house, when he was lynched and shot dead by Muslim activists led by Aamir Mandal, a member of the local Islamist organization….”
http://sri000.wordpress.com/2012/12/06/hindu-muslim-inter-religious-marriages-11-another-hindu-boy-dipankar-roy-22-killed-for-marrying-a-muslim-girl/
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“You did not understand my previous statement, right? You see, Muslims attribute every action in this world to Allah’s will i.e. everything happens because Allah wills that to happen. So when Hindus or Christians show generosity and love to Muslims, Muslims do not regard this as positive side of Hindus (or Non-Muslims) – instead they thank Allah because it is Allah who made Hindus to act (or behave) like that. After all, in Koran, Allah brands all Non-Muslims as the worst of all creatures (98:06).”
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“Muslim women are banned from using mobile phones.”
“The ban has been put in place by Sunderbari council which is in a Muslim-dominated area in the north east of India.
It always gives us a lot of embarrassment when someone asks who has eloped this time,’ said Manuwar Alam, who heads a newly-formed committee tasked with enforcing the ban.
He said the number of elopements and extramarital love affairs had risen in the past few months, with at least six girls and women fleeing their homes.
Even married women were deserting their husbands to elope with lovers.”
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2243481/Indian-women-banned-using-mobile-phones-council-claims-encourage-to.html
My opinion: I do not support girls or boys eloping. Still, the double standard and hypocrisy of Muslims is too conspicuous to be missed about or ignored. This partly explains why practice of FGM is becoming more prevalent among Indian Muslims – which is nevertheless denied by our media and so called Indian Muslim elite. And prevailing opinion among Muslims is: “This modern culture is corrupting and women needed to be protected from its influence through FGM.”
FGM is crime against humanity and women are its worst victims. But Muslim men are equally victims of it – but I am no going to be Satyen here because modern psychology has shown that abusers are equally affected by persistent abuse and cease to be humans with feelings of love, compassion and empathy. They turn in to monsters (and savages).
All this is the making of Muslims themselves, the fault is not mine nor of Hindus and Christians. And there is no need to feel pity for these monsters i.e. Muslims. They do not deserve it. The only thing we should be concerned is saving other humanity from Islam and Muslims by showing how their (and our)notions of secularism and multiculturalism are endangering our freedom, liberties and our own civilizations under the onslaught from Islam.
P.S. Abuser and Abused….
Read from the below link:
http://dawn.com/2012/04/23/female-circumcision-anger-aired-in-india-fm/
And one passage reads like this: “The main motive behind Khatna is that women should never enjoy sexual intercourse. We are supposed to be like dolls for men,” 34-year-old Tabassum Murtaza, who lives in the western city of Surat, told AFP by telephone.”
And I thought about this whole thing and what I realized made my hair stand on my skin. For most Muslim women, marital bliss is nothing but rape (only in the beginning).
At the opposite side? A Muslim male, supreme (the best) in the creation of Allah’s, according to Koran, enjoys this intercourse ?
Or is he a sadist who takes pleasure in seeing other suffer? As this kind of relation continues, abuser becomes abused and abused becomes a abuser in the due course of time….both sexes become devoid of feelings of humanity…both are self-made victims.Both cease to be humans. And both turn on the world.
I am so grateful to my late father whose atheism shaped my initial thoughts, which surely played a massive role in helping me come out of religious dogma.
I would like the girls of all religions in relationship to understand the fact that all the Muslim men abide by Muhammad’s rules including the marital ones. So, the girls must be comfortable with the Muhammad’s views on marriages because it will be religiously followed by the Muslim husbands. Therefore, to avoid any future marital issues with your Muslim husband, you must ask if he believes in Muhammad. If yes, his future behaviour will certainly be guided by that of Muhammad as he is considered to be the role model for them. So, in order to understand your futures husband’s behaviour, you must have an idea of Muhammad’s marital views. The following video link talks about the Mohammad’s views on marriages:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MN16120Q8U
Hi Fair,
Dont worry,time is a great factor. 5 years of happy married life, certainly pay rich dividend in the long run and inlaws will accept the reality.
May I know, are you both working?
My good wishes always with you both.
Hello Amir
What do you say about raping sex slaves?
Still you feel that it is a teaching of God?
Hi every body.
Please go through follwing anti human texts in Quran.
RAPING SEX SLAVES: THE EVIL LAWS OF ALLAH (the ANTI GOD)
All Muslims believe the Koran is the divine word of God – the laws of God – authored by God Himself. The Koran remains for all Muslims, not just “fundamentalists,” the uncreated word of God Himself. It is valid for all times and places forever; its ideas are absolutely true and beyond all criticism. To question it is to question the very word of God, and hence blasphemous. A Muslim’s duty is to believe it and obey its divine commands without question.
Following are some of the IMMORAL EVIL LAWS NOT OF GOD BUT OF ALLAH (the ANTI GOD) OF RAPING SEX SLAVES. These laws are ETERNAL AND FOR ALL TIME.
As we have already seen – in Islam – rape is not only a sexual weapon – it is a weapon of war. Having murdered the woman’s man, Muslims can now – sanctioned by the law of Allah (the ANTI GOD) complete their final humiliation and domination of her body.
Sura 23 (The Believers), Verses 1-6
23.1-6: Successful indeed are the believers, Who are humble in their prayers, And who keep aloof from what is vain, And who are givers of poor-rate, And who guard their private parts, Except before their mates or those whom their right hands possess, for they surely are not blameable.
This is the Sura which gives the slave owner the right of sexual access to his female slaves. The term “guarding the private parts” is a synonym for sexual intercourse, and it is said that this is not blameable if indulges with wives and slaves.
Sura 70 (The Ways of Ascent) verses 29-35
70: 29-35 And those who guard their private parts, Except in the case of their wives or those whom their right hands possess — for these surely are not to be blamed, But he who seeks to go beyond this, these it is that go beyond the limits — And those who are faithful to their trusts and their covenant And those who are upright in their testimonies, And those who keep a guard on their prayer, Those shall be in gardens, honored.
These verses gives the right to slave owners to have sexual relation with female slaves.
QURAN – 70:22-30: “Not so the worshippers, who are steadfast in prayer, who set aside a due portion of their wealth for the beggar and for the deprived, who truly believe in the Day of Reckoning and dread the punishment of their Lord (for none is secure from the punishment of their Lord); who restrain their carnal desire (save with their wives and their slave girls, for these are lawful to them: he that lusts after other than these is a transgressor…” This verse shows that Muslim men were allowed to have sex with their wives (of course) and their slave girls.
Men can marry up to four women if they treat them equally; unlimited forcible concubines permitted
In Islam, not only are men allowed to practice polygamy, but they may also capture women in war and use them as sex slaves. This is considered morally legitimate according to the Quran. In other words, non-Muslim women have no right to be free from the horror of slavery and serial rape by Muslim military men. Note The term “ whom your right hand possess” means slaves.
4:3 Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.
4:24 Also (prohibited are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess
4:24 And all married women (are forbidden unto you) save those (captives) whom your right hands possess. It is a decree of Allah for you. Lawful unto you are all beyond those mentioned, so that ye seek them with your wealth in honest wedlock, not debauchery. And those of whom ye seek content (by marrying them), give unto them their portions as a duty. And there is no sin for you in what ye do by mutual agreement after the duty (hath been done). Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Wise.
All married women (are forbidden unto you) save those (captives) whom your right hands possess.”
You can’t have sex with married women, unless they are slaves obtained in war (with whom you may rape or do whatever you like).
4:25 If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hands possess
23:1,5-6 The believers …. abstain from sex, Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess,- for (in their case) they are free from blame,
70:29-30,35 And those who guard their chastity, Except with their wives and the (captives) whom their right hands possess,- for (then) they are not to be blamed, … Such will be the honoured ones in the Gardens (of Bliss).
Muhammad can go beyond the four-wife restriction, can treat his own wives and sex slaves unequally
33:50-52 O Prophet! We have made lawful to thee thy wives to whom thou hast paid their dowers; and those whom thy right hand possesses out of the prisoners of war whom God has assigned to thee; and daughters of thy paternal uncles and aunts, and daughters of thy maternal uncles and aunts, who migrated (from Makka) with thee; and any believing woman who dedicates her soul to the Prophet if the Prophet wishes to wed her;- this only for thee, and not for the Believers (at large); We know what We have appointed for them as to their wives and the captives whom their right hands possess;- in order that there should be no difficulty for thee. And God is Oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful. Thou mayest defer (the turn of) any of them that thou pleasest, and thou mayest receive any thou pleasest: and there is no blame on thee if thou invite one whose (turn) thou hadst set aside. This were nigher to the cooling of their eyes, the prevention of their grief, and their satisfaction – that of all of them – with that which thou hast to give them: and God knows (all) that is in your hearts: and God is All-Knowing, Most Forbearing. It is not lawful for thee (to marry more) women after this, nor to change them for (other) wives, even though their beauty attract thee, except any thy right hand should possess (as handmaidens): and God doth watch over all things.
This verse is for Muhammad. ALLAH (the ANTI GOD) allows Muhammad to own and rape his slave girls.
The above verses are only a few out of numerous such verses scattered throughout the Quran. What could be more unethical than owning slaves and raping slave girls? ALLAH (the ANTI GOD) graciously allowed Muslims to own and rape slave girls. Prophet Muhammad himself and his disciples routinely raped their slave girls. Muslims were permitted unlimited raping of their slaves and even gang rape. Sex slaves were one of the main factors in the spread of Islam. This is the evil that is Islam.
FROM THE HADITHS
Bukhari (62:137)- An account of women taken as slaves in battle by Muhammad’s men after their husbands and fathers were killed. The woman were raped with Muhammad’s approval.
Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:
We got female captives in the war booty and we used to do coitus interruptus with them. So we asked Allah’s Apostle about it and he said, “Do you really do that?” repeating the question thrice, “There is no soul that is destined to exist but will come into existence, till the Day of Resurrection.”
Bukhari (34:432)- Another account of females taken captive and raped with Muhammad’s approval. In this case it is evident that the Muslims intend on selling the women after raping them because they are concerned about devaluing their price by impregnating them. Muhammad is asked about coitus interruptus.
Bukhari (59:637)- “The Prophet sent Ali to Khalid to bring the Khumus (of the booty) and I hated Ali, and Ali had taken a bath (after a sexual act with a slave-girl from the Khumus). I said to Khalid,’Don’t you see this (i.e. Ali)?’ When we reached the Prophet I mentioned that to him. He said,’O Buraida! Do you hate Ali?’ I said,’Yes.’ He said,’Do you hate him, for he deserves more than that from the Khumlus.'”
Muhammad approved of his men having sex with slaves, as this episode involving his son-in-law, Ali, clearly proves. This hadith refutes the modern apologists who pretend that slaves were really “wives,” since Muhammad had forbidden Ali from marrying another woman as long as Fatima (his favorite daughter) was living,
Abu Dawud (2150)- “The Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) sent a military expedition to Awtas on the occasion of the battle of Hunain. They met their enemy and fought with them. They defeated them and took them captives. Some of the Companions of the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) were reluctant to have intercourse with the female captives in the presence of their husbands who were unbelievers. So Allah, the Exalted, sent down the Qur’anic verse:(Sura 4:24)’And all married women (are forbidden) unto you save those (captives) whom your right hands possess.'” This is the background for verse 4:24 of the Qur’an. Not only does Allah (the ANTI GOD) grant permission for women to be captured and raped, but allows it to even be done in front of their husbands.
Dear Admin,
Can we discuss on Pluralism?
If it is not what this site requires..then we can discuss via other sources.
Agree?
I never understand what your faith and beliefs are.
People who don’t know religion and when they use such comments which try to represent them from one, it is all ridiculous.
AMIR
RELIGIONS ARE MAN-MADE AND FULL OF STUPIDITY ,MAN FREEDOM WHAT TO THINK , HOW TO LIVE , WHAT TYPE OF GOD A PRAISE STARVER , INTOLERANT , WHO SENTS TO HELL FOREVER IF WE DONT PRAY OR PRAISE HIM.
Amir,
Welcome back after a while, we missed you.
You are an exclusivist that Islam is only true religion. With that concept, you will never understand pluralism. Eram will explain you better what is pluralism, like…
…we both celebrate both Hindu and Muslim festivals together
…we both have the same God, even we may call Him by different names
…when Allah and Lord Shiv are with you, then what is there to worry about?
Amir, you stated, “People who don’t know religion”, we request please don’t teach Eram religion, otherwise she will start saying…
…we can celebrate only Muslim festivals, Hinduism is fake so there is nothing to celebrate
…Only Allah is true God, Saudi Arabia is the only direction God is, there is no other name of God
…when Allah is with you, then what is there to worry about? To speak of Lord Shiv is sin.
With such teachings, her current happy married life will turn into hell in THIS life.
Agnostist will explain pluralism better at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=3339