sana says: July 28, 2013 at 12:37 am
hey I am a muslim girl that is in love with a jain boy, we have been together for about 2 years and plan on getting married soon, hes is a good kind hearted and understanding boy whom is well established but I am still in collage finishing my degree.
I am not to worried about what others have to say about my relationship as we live in Canada. how ever my parents may not fully agree to my marriage, his parents are pretty open minded and simple people that live in india.
my only worry is his family? I have not meet them yet and do not know the extent of how they will react to a muslim bride? My boyfriends parents means a lot to him and he means a lot to me.
I would like to know what it means to marry into a jain family? we had spoken about religion and neither of us are to religious. some times I feel that may change as I am only 21 and I may adapt islam at a more heavier capacity. I know if we love one other that will not change so I don’t see the need of waiting. -Sana
sans added:
hey thank you very much for your (Admin’s) response. we plan on living here in Canada as he has a well established job here and I will soon after I am done collage, we plan on doing a court marriage with a small party after for our friends and few family members.
A few years down the road we plan on visiting Indian to meet his family and he plans on doing a Jain wedding in a temple for his family, i do respect his family and religion and don’t mind doing that for him. ( keeping in mind i have no intention of converting).
In that case I have lived here in Canada with my mom for a few years and believe that she wont be to reluctant of our relationship as she has known about us for a while now and done nothing to stop us. As for my dads family they are a bit religious islamicly, and am not sure how he will take the news, he is living in a middle eastern country at the moment and does not stay with us. I hope that he will eventually come around as he is my father and means the world to me if I have his blessing as well.
On the matter of our children I would obviously like them to follow my religion but they will also be there fathers children, he says it wouldn’t matter as much as they will be born in a western country and have there values but id like to think id give my children more than just western values, we plan on letting them decide what they feel is right in there heart when the time comes.
As for the rest we both plan on practicing our own religions. He says love is a universal language and that it does not matter what region we come from, I really hope that religion does not become an issue down the road for us as we are very happy together! -Sana
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Hi Sana,
Have you married now. I am in a similar situation.Presently in India and shall move to Canada next month,I am in love with muslim girl Zarina PG student of IT in Montreal.We both wish to marry and raise our family.Her parents are in India and I have a good job there.Her parents wants her to marry her own cousin working in a textile company in Maharashtra, but she is not willing to marry him.
We can marry easily in Canada but I dont want to hurt feeling of her parents.My parents have no objection.They will also travel to Canada with me next month and wants to meet her.
ahhahah Massey,Shagul,Chand Osmani, Aarfah , Harjeet, Churchill now in brand new hindu boy name but he couldn`t change his biased writng hahhaha again the hindu guy is working but muslim biy is cousin and has lesser job heheheh
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My dear sister Sana,
Those who don’t worship the real Creator of the Universe Allah and following the evil path besides the righteous path of islam … could u guarantee me that he wont cheat u ???
May Almighty allah guides u … don’t ask guidance to all the fake websites and people … pls pray allah to show u the right and truthful path and let allah guides u in ur life
mashallah very good comment from you sister may allah bless u.
All the readers,
Thanks to the Admin for presenting the facts in an orderly way for the couples intending to undergo interfaith marriages. I request other readers to post similar facts over here so that these can help the interfaith marriage aspirants in taking an informed decision and they won’t repent in future if they take decision based on reason (not under the influence of emotion).
Many of the readers have complained about the language of some of the posters who have spoken against Islam. I both agree and disagree. I am totally against the use of abusive language and using expletives. Please guard your language and personal attack to any of the persons. It will bring the important issues for the discussion. If you use vulgar words, the important issues go in the background and they don’t get the attention they deserve. So, if you want your points to be heard , make your language dignified.
However, this does not mean, we should shy away from presenting the facts and truths born out of history and reasoning. In fact it’s our commitment to make the readers aware of those facts which are good for the human civilization. The human beings have suffered a lot from the hypocrisy and must this practice be discontinued. Many of the cruel and superstitious practices have been continued for centuries and have inflicted untold miseries on the human beings specially the women. The women have been the symbol of human suffering.
Now the question is what’s the reason for the above miseries? Ignorance caused by unawareness, improper way of thinking and the snares created by the people of vested interests. Our job is to make the society free from these ills. Internet is the blessing in this case and we should make use of it.
Some of the readers say that all the religions are good and we must respect them. They further add that we should never say any thing against them as all the religions are equal! In fact, this has never been said before the last 50 years or so by any religious people, except the followers of Indian religions! How can the religions be equal if they don’t say so. Does Islam or Christianity say that all religions are the same? If not, why this hypocrisy? I request the Admin to start this important discussion among the readers to clarify this important issue for for the guidance of those who are planning to have interfaith marriages.
@Jamal … this is what you people are all about… ask few simple questions to yourself … is it what you are born to do? only hatred… convert others forcefully and destroy others? … you have to try and understand what lies and pathetic culture your prophet has passed on to you and I challenge you that if you do so … you will surely change your religion! But you will not do so … cause you are a hypocrite … just like other many mindless brainwashed muslims … I feel pity for you!
Sana,
Good pieces of suggestion have come to you from the Admin. In addition I would add you not to let your children undergo any sunnat before they turn 21. Just think how would you feel undergoing FGM (Female genital mutilation) that millions of Muslim females are forced to? In the same way, the Muslim helpless babies are inflicted this type of unbearable pain. Raise a voice against this cruel custom and you should be fine. If love is the universal language, why continuance of this superstitious custom? As you are in the west, you can be free of many of the Islamic vices such as Burqa, polygamy, triple talak etc.
I bet you don’t even know what Sunnat is Satyen. Atleast google it before posting such ignorant statements
well said sis Zara
Hi Sana,
Thanks for sharing your life experience. Please contact your BF,s parents and get their idea about you. It is good that BF is having good job and also get ensured that he will be loyal and committed for life long relations. You also try to get some job and become independent to some extent.
Normally Jains are business oriented community with vegetarian life styles and non-violent and decent people.
God bless you.
Sana,
We are glad that you reached out to us here. We will work with you for years to come.
First, read all Jain-Muslim relationships here https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?cat=27. We have said a lot and there are many relevant things there for you.
We hope you are going to settle in Canada and not in India. After marriage, if you are planning to move back to India with his family, then it could bring lots of complexities for your relationships. If this is a case, we recommend you to go and spend 6 months there before getting married. This way you will find out if there is a computability between you too and two families.
What you mean by “my parents may not fully agree to my marriage”? What you will do to make them happy?
How are you planning to get married? Jain, Muslim (after conversion) or secular court marriage? How are you planing to raise your children; Jain, Muslim or none, or both?
Please get back to us and we will talk more. Thanks.
hey thank you very much for your respond. we plan on living here in Canada as he has a well established job here and I will soon after I am done collage , we plan on doing a court marriage with a small party after for our friends and few family members. A few years down the road we plan on visiting indian to meet his family and he plans on doing a jain wedding in a temple for his family ,i do respect his family and religion and don’t mind doing that for him. ( keeping in mind i have no intention of converting).In that case I have lived here in Canada with my mom for a few years and believe that she wont be to reluctant of our relationship as she has known about us for a while now and done nothing to stop us. As for my dads family they are a bit religious islamicly , and am not sure how he will take the news , he is living in a middle eastern country at the moment and does not stay with us . I hope that he will eventually come around as he is my father and means the world to me if I have his blessing aswell. On the matter of our children I would obviously like them to follow my religion but they will also be there fathers children , he says it wouldn’t matter as much as they will be born in a western country and have there values but id like to think id give my children more than just western values , we plan on letting them decide what they feel is right in there heart when the time comes . As for the rest we both plan on practicing our own religions. He says love is a universal language and that it does not matter what region we come from , I really hope that religion does not become an issue down the road for us as we are very happy together !
We are in very much support of your planned Interfaith Marriage with EQUALITY of two faiths.
However, there may be many issues that you guys may not have thought through and it could become a major issue later. For this reason, listen to what people have to say (knowledge cannot hurt) here and then do that is right for you.
Note that we are not here to decide for you, but just to provide you talking points. As much as you may find some of comments disturbing, just play cool and answer to people if you feel like and ignore them if you don’t like their comments.
Can you ask your bf to join for this discussion?
Jains are pluralists and will never claim that only Jains will go to heaven while Hindus, Sikhs and Muslims will get Hell Fire. Contrary to that you know it well that Islam (like Christianity) is an exclusivist religion. There cannot be an equality between and an exclusivist and a pluralist. We find such exclusivist thinking (like only Baptized will be saved) absurd. It gives us pain to hear claims of superiority over other faiths, like my God is better than yours. Do you agree that Islam cultivates exclusivist thinking?
I appreciate ur thinking 🙂 …all the best….. 🙂