Bilqis says: December 12, 2012 at 8:12 am
Hi Mubina,
Read your story and got deeply influenced by it. I (28 years) belong to Indonesia and presently in a latin american country and working in a export import house as sales executive.
I have met with a Hindu boy here who is from India. I found that there is a big difference in the attitude and behaviour of Hindu guys. they are sobre and understand every body’s sentiments. I have met with other muslim guys, but to shocking to note their behaviour and fundamentalist attitude. We are interested in each other and discussed several times for everlasting relations. I have not disclosed it to my mother, I have 3 other (2 sisters and 1 brother), who are in Indonesia.
Seeking valuable advice and support from all intellectual of this site. -Bilqis.
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Hi Admn.
I would like to share that my BF and myself have returned from the visits of South East Asian countries and some Eropean countries too, to boost export of the company and submitted our project report to the management. It was really a nice trip with my BF to understand and plan for the future. Now he is my soulmate and shall be marrying sometime in March, almost two months from now.
Best wishes!
All stories fake under muslim names and Those who marry non muslims did not remain muslims and will go to hell forever life after death tell them you are not muslims. To learn about islam vist http://www.usislam.org for more ioformation about islam.do not belive these posts as they lie about islam.learn truth about islam from website.
Suhail
You are a typical muslim. Good that you show everyone the face of your religion of Satan.
Dear Satyen Thanks for the advice.
I know my BF, he is completely against pre marital physical relations, that he has assured from many times. He is religious minded person, believing in one wife,from soul and heart. For his nature, I have also adjusted myself according to his wishes and sentiments.
Regarding confidence of bosses, we are good books of management and recently our salary package has been raised by USD 750 per month.
Regards
Hi Admn. /Satyen,
Recently myself and my Hindu BF has been given a special project to
boost export our company to the South East Asian and some European countries. We have to vist some of these countries together and hopefully during this time, we shall be able to understand each more closely.
Please guide me, some do,s and some don,ts, during our visits.
Bilqis,
I think you are quite matured and a smart person whom the company can trust so much for its business development. It’s a good opportunity to know each other as much as possible. It’s a great opportunity to acquaint your boy friend to your South Eastern lifestyle. As per my values, I would have tried to avoid any situation that can give rise to intimate physical contacts.
Hi Bilqis,
Nice to see your comments and experience sharing in this blog. Having read so much evil practices in the name of islam against
women community, it is better to marry non muslim guys provided, they are kind hearted, adjusting and liberal.
To my epxerience, my Hindu BF fits in all such parameters and I have decided by my soul and heart to be my life partner.Please update your experience from time to time.
Hi everyone,
Being a muslim girl (24 years) from western europe in a serious committed relationship since last 3,5 years with a wonderful hindu-punjabi boy from Delhi it has opened my mind even more.
I was before my boyfriend a narrow minded muslim with a strong (negative) opinion about other religions, but because of the relationship with my boyfriend it has changed me in a positive way.
Unfortunately, my family will disown me if i continue with him but i am willing to take that risk since i believe that your own happiness is really important. I am in the process of obtaining my masters degree in a few months and he is successful in his own business as well.
If we ever get married, our marriage will be according to hindu rituals and our religious views are liberal; humanity is more important than believing in a particular god.
SInce we are together we have celebrated both hindu and muslims festivals and it felt really good. Our kids will have a liberal upbringing with mainly hindu influences but they are free to choose themselves to believe or not. Also their names will be both indian and arabic because i like the beauty of the names combined not because of the religious aspect.
A few month ago i was almost forced in an arranged marriage, luckily i managed myself to get out of it. I love my parents and family a lot but i find it really hard to marry according to their wishes…But i also find it hard dealing with the fact that they are not willing to accept my decision. I do not want to hurt them but i just cannot give up him because he really has influenced my life in a positive way. He has always supported me to continue my studies and career and he is always there when i need him.
I have told my mother about my relationship with him and she really broke down emotionally and started to blackmailing me that if i continue with him my father will hurt my mom and divorce her. And that i will bring shame to the family and our name will be ruined forever because of my selfish decision. She now thinks i broke up with him…
At times i really feel bad for being in this relationship because i am hurting my family, however i do think that because of the fact i have grown up in a western country and travelled and lived on my own they should be able to understand that my believes are different than theirs.
Psychologically this process of accepting my self the way i am and the relationship i am in has been really hard but at the end worth it. I am not a practicing muslim but culturally a muslim because islam has shaped me while growing up.
I do not agree with islam but i do respect the people practicing it.
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Suzanne,
You are now turned into a matured person who can become her own torch bearer. I agree with all you said. Ony thing is give some more time in order to complete your education i.e. Master’s degree. Next goal should be to settle in your chosen carrier for a source of income, making you financially independent. Meanwhile, you can make it clear to your parents that for now, marriage is not the priority and it will be your choice in this case with all due regards to your parents. (I would have made it clear to them, “If they cannot accept my right to marry with the boy of my choice, they may not see their daughter married”. You can come up with better and more suitable argument). It’s surprising that your dad will divorce your mom due to your misdeeds (in their views). Why should she be punished for your crime(in their views)?
To sum up, wait for some more time to settledown in your career and come up with a practical solution. Meanwhile make them understand that it’s your responsibility to lead a blissful life.
Thank you Satyen,
I have the same vision for myself for the upcoming year(s). My education and career are the number one priorities at the moment. I will make clear to my parents that my marriage will be suitable for me at a later stage and with someone i choose to be with.
My father works mainly abroad for months and basically has told my mom that the children are her responsibilities. So, if one of the kids makes a mistake my mom usually gets the blame. My parents do not really have the most perfect relationship its more dysfunctional and there is a lack of communication always. With some mental and sometimes in a few cases physical abuse which i have witnessed a couple of times. These dark memories of their fights have marked me for life.
Thanks,
Suz.
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Thanks Satyen,
You are right that indonesian muslims are tolerant relatively but there are fundamentalists who propagate the evil practices followed by Mohammad with criminal frame of mind set. I shall be helping my other sisters and brothers and giving advice of humanity. My parents are old enough and needing financila help from me, which my would be soulmate have agreed till they stand on their own. That is a great thing for me.
The problem in the muslim community is that no one prepared to speak against the evil practices of Islam. No body attempts to go in to the details and origin of such things. Educated and professionally qualified girls find difficult to get a compative soul mate in their own community.
I have read various Hindu religious books and greatly influenced by them being a very old religion, scientifically proved. I have great respect for it too.
Dear Belqis,
Though not an intellectual, I dare intrude among the intellectuals. I have some idea about the Indonesian culture and many of the Muslims owe their ancestry to Hindus. Even some of them participate in dramas portaying the epic Ramayan. I think, Indonesians are among the most tolerant Muslim people due to this Hinduised culture.
So, you are going for the colourful Hindu way of marriage in a temple though you will be following your own religion i.e. Islam.
I am curious about what religious teachings would you like to impart to your children?
Finally, a piece of suggestion (however stupid it may appear to be). As you will be living with your Hindu husband, is it not worthwhile to understand his belief system? The following is an excellent site to understand the Hindu culture:
http://www.hinduwisdom.info
I suggest you also to go through the Geeta and the Ramayan and the Mahabharat later as the last two are voluminous. The Geeta is a small booklet and forms a part of Mahabharat (though famous stand alone).
Similarly, go through the life sketch of Muhammad if you have not gone through yet. Also advise your boyfriend to read the biography of Muhammad. You both may find enough material on this site regarding Islam but you may have to go to other sources for Hinduism.
Hello Admn.
About marrying I am not contemplating through muslim wedding. It will be ina Hindu temple method and register the marriage. I shall be following my own religion but having deep respect for hindu religion. It is a fact that God is every where, even in a small particles. Every thing is created by him only. We shall be settling in Brazil only.
Thanks for the comments. Shall be glad to get more update.
Regards
Best wishes.
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Bilqis,
If you do decide to get married, how are you planning to get married by? Are you okay being a part of Hindu wedding ceremony where multiple forms of Gods are being invoked from sky, earth and water? Are you planning to get married by Islamic Nikaah after religious conversion of your Hindu boyfriend?
We know about laws in Malaysia, what type of interfaith marriage laws are there in Indonesia? If you decide to settle in Indonesia, will your Hindu-Muslim marriage (without Nikaah) be valid?