Sanjay says:
I was in a “semi-serious” relationship with a Muslim girl for several months. I say that in quotes because let’s be honest, we all knew where it was headed. Initially of course it just started out as a mutual attraction, we loved spending time together, all that good stuff. Then as we grew more emotionally attached, she began bringing up conversion. It is me converting (from Hinduism), of course, not her. At first it was easy to laugh it off, but the same question kept coming up over and over again.
As we grew closer I discovered that she was not a very religious Muslim at all and had a much more open-minded and worldly view of God and faith than is usually taught by Islam—so really we weren’t that incompatible after all—but at the same time I found it stunning the degree to which she had been brainwashed.
I was raised in a fairly religious Hindu household, but really I don’t consider myself “Hindu” as much as a “Hindu/Buddhist/Agnostic/ Spiritual”—but that’s beside the point. The problem lay with her family, who would surely never approve of me, not to speak of what they would think of her. She never told her family about me (nor did I tell mine), and I ended up moving away. So, gradually our relationship came to an end, but not without a good amount of stress and angst for both of us.
Thankfully we’ve both found new significant others from similar religious backgrounds and remain decent friends, but the moral of the story is still there—for anyone from a Dharmic background considering a serious relationship with a Muslim—just know what you’re getting into. YOU’RE the one who’s going to be asked to convert, to sacrifice who you are, to turn your back on your culture and heritage. Not them. This is not something to take lightly. —Sanjay
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Prateek
Dont leave your religion. Rather convert your G/F to convert into Great Hinduism.
I am a Muslim girl in a relationship with a Hindu guy.
I am from Pakistan and have traditional parents, and he’s from India.
We both love each other to no measurable extent .We’re also fairly agnostic, and he’s also completely anti-dogmatic.
My family got to know about us and are completely against us.
I am very close to my family, but at the same time do not share the same belief and thoughts as they do. I am in a state where I don’t want to hurt my family (so much that it affects their health) but at the same time, I have no good reason to leave my boyfriend – he’s the best thing that has happened to me.
My question to you is, how did the two of you (I assume you were in love) manage to end your relationship? Were you not emotionally attached? I can’t even imagine being without the love of my life.
Reply to Muslim_girl at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4140
Dear Muslim_girl,
It will be difficult but learn from other’s experiences on this web site.
Ask him to read https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2643
You read https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2646
Read all cross references and it should help you.
You should not leave your love. You come to India and get married.You will see how Hindus respect other religion & respect girls.
man i don’t understand that why people take up on this religion thing as a big deal….if you really love each other, then religion or faiths should not be a big deal with you, what matters is the quality of relationship that you share; now let me say even if she converts to hindu then are all the memories from her past will be erased??..no they will not be…and vice versa…what I would suggest to anyone in such a relationship is that you both should carry on with whats in your heart, don’t go for what this bloody society thinks, cuz its your life not people’s…and both should support each other…
Prateek,
Excellent point….”the quality of relationship that you share…. both should carry on with whats in your heart, don’t go for what this bloody society..”
In above Dr. K’s experience, ..”it was her who began bringing up conversion. Me converting (from Hinduism), of course, not her.” Why a Hindu have to convert to Islam by Shahadah before your Islamic Nikaah (marraige)? What religious conversion has to do with your love and respect for each other (and their faiths)? Is – a MUST requirement of religious conversion of a Hindu to marry a Muslim – fair? Is that – Muslim-(former)Hindu union – a marriage of EQUALITY?
For your love relationship with a Muslim girl, see reply there. Let us know if you have to convert to Islam for your love.