Janani says: May 12, 2017 at 12:38 pm
Hi I am a Malaysian Hindu girl and in love with a Yemeni guy who lives in Saudi Arabia. We met at our college during my pre-university year. We were first friends for 6 months, and although I knew I shouldn’t have due to wanting to respect what my mum told me, I eventually confessed my feelings to him and he felt the same way too. We have been together for 8 months since.
We are still students, we are both each other’s first partners, therefore we are still young but I have high hopes for this relationship that it will last till marriage. My mother told me no dating Muslims or I will have to bear my loss (whatever that means), but I know myself and I know I didn’t fall for the religion. I fell for his kind heart and personality. It’s the same as falling for another human being (which would preferably be an Indian Hindu to my mother’s liking), but I don’t see a reason why it’s wrong to be with him/break up with him just because he’s a Muslim.
I understand my mother’s worries, that she doesn’t want me to convert to Islam. Only the Malaysian laws state that non-Muslims have to convert to Islam to marry their Muslim partner. This is not even stated in the Qur’an but although they do state that Hindus are not accepted in marriage to Muslims mainly because they are totally different. I must say that I am not a pious person, but being born a Hindu, of course I love my religion. If I want to be with him, I don’t want him or I to convert ourselves just to be with each other, it doesn’t make sense to me.
I don’t plan to tell my family or anyone now because I am only 19 and so I don’t know what lies in the future for us. I won’t tell them now because telling them now will just make it seem like I want to marry him while I am still this young. I can’t help if they spot me holding his hands in public and if they confront me about it, I will just be honest about how I feel.
Yes, maybe it’s because he’s my first love I feel like I want to marry him, but not having hope in the relationship is of no use, so I stopped doing that because it led to thoughts of breaking up. I don’t know how far this will take us but all I know is that I love him with all my heart right now and that’s all I need to think about. I am just going to focus on the present and make the best out of it. Therefore,
My questions are:
1. Does the Sharia Law in Malaysia apply to foreign Muslims as well, should be want to get married here.
2. If we cannot get married in Malaysia due to the Sharia Laws here, are there other countries that will accept this marriage without the requirement of either one of us to convert our religions. If so, which countries are these?
3. Is it impossible for Hindus and Muslims to live together and build a family? –Janani
More information: Malaysia Marriage laws, Malay-Hindu Relationships, Sharia, Singapore marriage laws, Koran on Hindus?
Return to Home, Blogs, How to Share? Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, Book, Media.
Hi Janani,
Thanks for reaching out to us, that was very smart move on your part. We will work with you for years to come.
Answers to your question in very brief:
1. No.
2. Most.
3. Yes.
Now you answer us one question. Are his parents willing to accept you, a “Hindu”, as a daughter-in-law (without conversion)?
Can we give you an assignment, to help your sister? Read and tell something to Nita… https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=12100 … and you will have all answers that what you are looking at.