Krishna says: November 19, 2012 at 12:15 pm
Hey my friends whatever you are, hindu or muslim,
I have a girlfriend. She is pure muslim. We are best friends for the last 1 year, I love her much. But she is not accepting me bcoz I am a hindu boy, her thought is little bit same about my thought, but her family is pure muslim. We both are good and intelligent students. I know that India is a secular country and also I am not saying about any region. I believe in allah as well as hindu God. I am not discriminating any religion. What can I do….
and I also wants to Crack IIT so that in future I will become a good engineer, can after sucess her parents accept me???
Agnotist says: November 19, 2012 at 7:16 pm
Firstly:
1. You mention your trying to crack IIT. I assume your 17-18. Forget about love. What do you know about how you will think 4 years ahead? And IIT is no cake walk. When I was doing it, this was ALL I believed in, ate, slept, and worked on. IIT was like my religion (was much harder being a girl – no peer group). Eitherways, You CANNOT have a relationship like this and hope to crack the IIT. Forget everything and go study – listen to me.
2. Again, you are VERY young. At this age, your thoughts will change super super quickly. Your future plans might be totally different from hers 4-5 years down the road. Do you want to be in a relationship at the prime of your life at 21, just because you jumped into it w/o thinking? And another thing: you will change a lot during your undergrad, We all do. You will have grown as a person, and will definitely want different things later.
3. If she is not accepting you, its possibly because she is not ready to go through with the challenges involved. Respect her choice. You should think before you step in to this. It’s NOT an easy road. Unless BOTH of you accept each other and discuss the major points on religion, you should not even step one ahead.
Also your parents will not even take you seriously at this age. Most hindu parents place a HIGH emphasis on education. Meet those expectations first.
4. There is a chance that you might have drifted apart during your undergrad from this girl due to rapidly changing personalities and experiences. Give that a chance to happen. Her life may be totally different from yours. You dont want to graduate, have a scholarship from a US school for a PhD, and have this girl bothering you to get married immediately. Its a BAD idea to get into a relationship at your stage.
Also, if it’s destined you’ll make together it anyway. And will be more convinced and mature to deal with such complicated things later on. -Agnotist
Satyen says: November 20, 2012 at 7:56 am
Krishna, Forget the girl and concentrate on your studies for the JEE. JEE requires sacrifice and as Agnotist has mentioned, you will have to eat drink and sleep for JEE. I know that now the seats have been increased manyfold compared to what they used to be 25 years ago (when I got through). Still, you need to put your best foot ahead. This love thing will distract you for sure. -Satyen
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(Hindu) in relationship with a muslim girl for past 7 years
Feroza,
Can you tell us how the marriages of Muhammad are going to help the girls who wish to marry a seemingly modern Muslim boy with Amir Khan look? Do you mean the following reasons:
Muslim men consider Muhammad as the best person ever walked on the
surface of the earth. So, even the most modern modern looking lover with a foreign degree will endorse the lifestyle of Muhammad and his sayings such as speaking a lie to help Islam grow is right, women are half intellignet, must not believe in other Gods but only Allah, four wives are OK, marrying even a child girl is fine, marriages are just the contract, Hindu parents of wife are abominable, circumcision of the children is a must and so forth.
Does the above observations look funny to a modern day girl? Just check it yourself. Ask your boy friend if he believes in the Muhammad and his sayings? Also ask him the above points. If his answer of the any of the above questions is in negative, he is just hiding the fact. If he has utmost respect in Muhammad’s act, how can he deny the above points as those have been set by Muhammad. Doubts, refer to Hadiths and Quran to check.
Meaningful observation…
But any one with slightest capability to reason, after reading about that man, who even married his own daughter-in-law, will definitely get an idea of what Islam is and what Muslims want….who knows it might even force them to seek certain answers on their own. Take my example for instance.
When I was in search of answers, it is by an accident that I read what Mohammad did to Safiya and the way he tortured her husband, -Kinana- by lighting flames on his chest, and this made me to think a lot and made me to inquire in to Islam personally. So, there is a chance that people who have read what Feroza wrote might look in to Islam and find the truth themselves.
As I started studying Islam later, I found that more depth I go in to Islam, Islam appeared more ruthless and less humane.
I am not boasting that I am a great scholar of Islam or that I know everything about Islam. But I can say with confidence that there is very little in Islam I do not know about.
But right now, I am in the most difficult phase of my journey. If I come through this phase, once again I will be that ‘Sri’ Hindus hated or that “Dajjal’ Muslim websites dreaded or that ‘Jake’ readers loved.
I do not think, like you do, Islam can be reformed or Muslims can be made to change. You might say this website is for advising people in love, but I will say that as long as you keep off the truth there will only be more Nirmala s or Suchitra s or Roma s.
Difficult phase means overcoming challenge of boredom by repetition.
Muhammad’s first wife, Khudeija died in 619 A.D. He took his second wife in 620 A.D., when he was fifty. He married his last wife two years before his death in 632 A.D.
SECOND WIFE
After returning from Taif to Mecca, Muhammad married Sawda. As we have mentioned earlier, Muhammad was facing acute financial hardships after the death of his wife. He desperately needed someone to help him survive until he found a permanent solution to his economic difficulties.
Sawda was a widow of Sokran, who had left behind some wealth for her to live on the rest of her life. She was neither young nor beautiful. On top of it, she was very tall for a woman and also had an excessively corpulent physique. Her physical shortcomings notwithstanding, Muhammad went ahead and married her due, perhaps, to the following considerations:
1.Having lost his ability to engage himself in penile intercourse with woman, Sawda’s age, physique and ugliness, at that crucial time of his life, had became irrelevant to Muhammad;
2. All that he wanted from her was her wealth.
His purpose served, Muhammad announced his intention to expel her from his house. Faced with grim prospects of starving and dying on the street, she implored him not to proceed with his plan, pledging at the same time that she would not divulge to anyone the state of his sex life. Satisfied with the bargain, he allowed her to live in his household for so long as she lived.
THIRD WIFE
Aisha was the daughter of Abdullah Ibn Abu Qahafa, popularly known as Abu Bakr, Father of the virgin she-camel, an appellation people gave him after he gave his child in marriage to a fifty- plus year old Muhammad. Being a friend of Abu Bakr, Muhammad had the privilege to visit his house anytime he wished. In course of those visits, child Aisha became accustomed to him, whose presence gave her delight and brought her “something of the joy of the Paradise.” In his “miraculous touch, the sensation of joy,” she narrated later, “was even tangible” (Martin Lings, op. cit. p. 133).
We believe that during his frequent visits to Abu Bakr’s house, Muhammad developed a sexual relationship with their daughter Aisha. For doing it, he, at first, made use of his fearsome character to control the child’s mind. Gradually, herself overtaken by the “sensation of joy” that his “touch” gave her, and also prevented by his order not to let anyone know what he had been doing to her, she refrained all along from divulging the secret to others. Her parents might have recognized what had been going on between her and Muhammad, and they might also have made her confess the truth to them, but his strong influence over them, as well as their own future plan prevented them from taking any action against their child’s molester.
Over a period of time, Muhammad became fully infatuated with the child due to the fact that he could “play with her and she with him.” This confession on Muhammad’s part led some writers to confirm that he had a physical relationship with Aisha before he married her (See Thomas W. Lippman, Understanding Islam, p. 54). Fed up with the secrecy with which he had been satisfying his lascivious nature, he decided to marry the six-year old child.
The Arabian traditions permitted child marriages, but the marriage of a six-year old child with a fifty-plus year old man was not common. With a view to overcoming people’s criticism, Muhammad came up with a brilliant idea. It was a dream that he made use of to justify his otherwise unpardonable marriage with a child.
One day he told everyone that he had a dream in which he saw a man carrying someone wrapped in a piece of silk. The man said to Muhammad” “This is thy wife; so uncover her.” He lifted the silk and, lo! There was Aisha.” Inadvertently, the narrator of the dream left for us a clue that indicates Aisha’s real age at the time Muhammad had developed for her his sexual infatuation: A man would ordinarily carry an infant, wrapped up in a piece of silk or cloth, and not a grown up child who is able to walk.
He interpreted the dream to be a divine command for him to marry the child. In compliance, he betrothed her when she was a six-year old child. The betrothal removed the difficulty that he faced hitherto before in engaging the child in acts that gratified his sexual fantasies.
Following the betrothal, Muhammad’s non-penile sexual relationship with Aisha continued for over two years. It had a brief break when he migrated to Medina. Within a year of his arrival there, Aisha also moved to Medina along with her family members. Soon after her arrival, Muhammad formalized his marriage, and took Aisha to his house. Aisha was nine and her husband fifty-three years old.
The young age of the bride notwithstanding, Muslim writers maintain that Muhammad had married Aisha because she was clever and learned (Abdullah Yusuf Ali, op. cit, vol. 2, p. 1113). He had judged her qualities with his prophetic eyes. After being convinced by her extraordinary qualities, he decided that he should marry her first, and then equip her with his teachings, which he expected her to relate to the posterity after his death. Because Muhammad had reposed his complete trust in her, she is universally referred to as Ummul Momenin, the mother of the Muslims. Most Muslim theologians, scholars as well as their ordinary cotemporaries consider her to be an authority not only on hadiths, but also on the details of her husband’s entire life.
Not knowing what level of learnedness a nine year old child could have acquired in an environment in which facilities for imparting education did not at all exist, we assert that what we have stated in the foregoing paragraphs of this presentation was the reason for which Muhammad married Aisha at such a young age. It was all about fulfilling his sexual lasciviousness. Her presumed intelligence and learnedness played no role whatsoever in the marriage.
After she had grown up, Aisha, we believe, resented not only her childhood marriage with Muhammad; she also hated him for not being able to satisfy her sexual needs. The fact that she supported Hafsah in her confrontation with Muhammad on a supposedly sex-related dispute lends credence to our theory (66:4). She stood on Hafsah’s side to vent her anger at what he had done to her in her childhood, as well as for what she was going through then in her sex life.
For so long as Muhammad and other fearful stalwarts of Islam lived, she dared not revolt against all those who supported all the misdeeds of her husband. Ali’s assumption of power of the Caliph gave her the chance. She revolted against him, and fought a pitch battle against the Muslim forces. Though she was defeated, yet she is believed to have caused more trouble among the Muslims than all the pagan Quraishites combined together (cf. R. V. C. Bodley, op. cit. p. 147).
Readers would be confused by our above assertions. With a view to putting their perplexity to rest, we need to mention the following historical fact:
Muhammad had six children from Khudeija. Three of them were male and they died in their infancy. Subsequent to Khudeija’s death, he took at least ten wives. Almost all of them were in their childbearing ages. Despite this fact, none of them bore him a child. In our judgment it was his impotency that had prevented his wives from conceiving, and enjoying the pleasures of motherhood.
Muhammad’s sexual impotency has always remained a well-guarded secret. To prevent it from ever becoming a public scandal, he forbad his followers from marrying his wives even after his death. His sycophantic followers buried his embarrassing condition forever by including his slave-girls and concubines in the same prohibition (cf. Maulana Mufti Muhammad Shafi, Quranul Karim, p. 1088-9).
As to the question of his having a son from Maria Qibtia is concerned, we will dwell on this issue later in our sub-chapter titled, “Concubines.”
FOURTH WIFE
Hafsah was the daughter of Omar, an intimate friend and a close confidant of Muhammad. Her father became the second Caliph of Islam after the death of Abu Bakr.
Hafsah was married to Kunays but became a widow when she was eighteen years old. Her father offered her in marriage to Othman, the widowed son-in-law of Muhammad, but he refused. She was then offered to Muhammad’s father-in-law, Abu Bakr, who answered the request in an evasive manner that hurt Omar’s pride.
Finding no willing groom, Umar went to Muhammad to seek his advice as well as to vent his anger at Uthman and Abu Baker. Counseling patience, he told him (Omar) that he would give him a better son-in-law than Othman, and give Othman a better father-in-law than him.
Some time later, Muhammad gave his daughter Umm Kulthum in marriage to Othman, and he himself married Hafsah, thus fulfilling the promise he gave Omar some time ago.
Afterwards, Abu Bakr explained his evasiveness to Omar by divulging the secret: Muhammad himself harbored the wish to marry Hafsah; therefore, he had to be evasive when Omar asked him to marry his daughter. Had Abu Bakr accepted his offer, it would have upset Muhammad who, in his turn, would have destroyed him and his future.
FIFTH WIFE
Zainab was the daughter of Khuzaima and was married to Ubaydah. She had become a widow when her husband was killed in the battle of Badr (Some say it was the battle of Uhud). She was rich and had a generous disposition. Her generosity had earned her the title of “the mother of the poor.” She died few years after the marriage.
Muslims claim that Muhammad had married Hafsah because her husband had been killed in a battle, and she needed a man to look after her. To us, it does not appear to be an honest explanation of what must have tempted Muhammad to marry her. Let us explore:
Eight Muslim men had died in the battle of Badr. We do not believe that all of them were married. Even if we accept, for argument sake, that some of them had wives, in that event, we may assume that there were more than one women whose husbands had been killed in the battle. Muhammad married one; what happened to the remaining widows, and who took care of them, remains shrouded in silence. We have nothing in the Islamic history that tells us that apart from Muhammad, other Muslim stalwarts had married, and given shelter to other women who had lost their husbands in the battle of Badr or in the battle of Uhud.
In the battle of Uhud, sixty-five Muslims were killed. Hamza, one of Muhammad’s uncles, was among the dead. History does not tell us that either Muhammad or any his Companions had married any number of widows, left behind by their dead husbands.
The facts, narrated in the above two paragraphs, prove convincingly that Muhammad had married Zainab either for her wealth or for her youth and beauty. His alleged piety had played no role in any of his marriages.
SIXTH WIFE
Umm Salama, whose real name was Hind, was the daughter of Abu Ummaya. She had a son by the name of Salama, hence the appellation of Umm Salama. Four months after her husband’s death, Muhammad asked her to marry him. Despite the fact that she was no more than twenty-eight years old at the time, she declined the proposal on the ground that she was too old for him and that she had a jealous nature, which would disrupt his conjugal life. Muhammad had, at this time, a number of wives and slave girls at his disposal.
Umm Salama married Muhammad after he assured her that her age was not a factor and that he would have her jealous nature cured by God soon after their union. History, however, does not tell us if she was ever cured of her jealousy or not.
SEVENTH WIFE
Zainab, the daughter of Jahsh, was a young and beautiful girl, coming from a respectable family of Quraish. She was a virgin cousin of Muhammad.
Muhammad wanted to marry her, and he might also have proposed to her. Perhaps, after being rebuffed, he vowed to avenge the insult at any cost. To fulfill his vow, he designed a trap to escape from which she would have no route.
Zaid, a freed slave and an adopted son of Muhammad, was married to Umm Ayman and they were leading a happy life with their son, Ayman. Muhammad decided to turn Zaid, into a pawn in a game that he had devised to bring his passion, Zainab, to his harem.
Knowing that the aristocratic men of Mecca did not marry the former wives of their slaves, Muhammad proposed to Umaymah bint Abdul Muttalib, Zainab’s mother, that she let Zaid marry her daughter. She and Abdullah, her son, declined the proposal (Maulana Muhammad Nazimuddin, Quran Majid, p. 612) on the round that Zaid was a former slave; and also that he was ugly to look at. Undaunted, Muhammad produced a revelation, in the name of God, which required Zainab’s mother and brother to submit to his wish. The revelation read:
It is not fitting
For a Believer, man or woman,
When a matter has been decided
By God and His Apostle,
To have any option
About their decision.
If anyone disobeys God
And His Apostle, he is indeed
On a clearly wrong Path (33:36).
Frightened by Muhammad’s potent determination, the family gave in, and Zainab became Zaid’s second wife. Soon afterwards, Zaid realized that his adoptive father nurtured a tremendous lust for Zainab and that he was dying to have sex with her. Knowing that his refusal to please Muhammad could cost him his life, he volunteered to divorce Zainab so that he could fulfill with her his heart’s desire.
Muhammad was delighted at the prospect of having Zainab in his grip, but an age-old pagan custom doused his sadistic plans; they believed it was unethical and also a sin for an adoptive father to marry his adopted son’s divorced wife. Fearing a storm that his marriage with Zainab was going to create, he advised Zaid to retain her in his marriage until such time he was able to find a solution of the problem.
He tried but found no solution. Unable to control his passion for Zainab any longer, he decreed, “Muhammad is not the father of any of your men,” . . . (33:40), thus paving the way for him to have his adopted son’s divorced wife in his bed. Zaid heard the decree, and while he was on way to his home to divorce Zainab, “the power of Revelation overwhelmed him.” When he came to himself, his first words were: “Who will go unto Zainab and tell her the good tidings that God hath given her to me in marriage, even from Haven?” (Martin Lings, op. cit. p. 213).
Zaid wasted no time in pronouncing “I divorce thee,” perhaps, three times. The divorce formality over, he handed over his former wife to Muhammad. Claiming that his marriage with her had already been contracted in heaven (33:37: “We have joined in marriage to thee”), the best man among all mankind took her, without bothering for a formal marriage, to his quarters for inflicting on her all sadistic tortures that he could conceive of. Thus, in the manner we have described, Muhammad fulfilled his vow of revenge on Zainab, which he had taken when she rejected his marriage proposal.
The divorce formality that we say Zaid had followed needs some clarification. Traditionally, a Muslim husband is required to pronounce the words of divorce three times over a period of time. Thereafter, the divorcee needs to wait for a term of three months (2:228) in order to make sure she was not pregnant at the time of her divorce. Only after completion of the waiting term, can a divorcee contract a new marriage. Conversely, a widow has to wait four months and ten days (2:234) to clear up the question of her pregnancy viz a viz a divorcee who is required to wait just three months to achieve the same result.
Contiguous nature of verses 33:36 and 37 gives us the impression that immediately after Zaid’s marriage with Zainab, Muhammad made it clear to him that he wanted his wife to be his bed partner. His announcement forced Zaid to avoid a physical contact with his wife. Since there was no possibility for Zainab to become pregnant and as her marriage with Muhammad had already been contracted in heaven, we believe, Zaid took a shortcut in divorcing his wife. He did not divorce Zainab in the traditional manner, for doing that would have delayed Zainab’s availability to Muhammad. Having seen him react against those people who failed to measure up to his expectation, Zaid knew any delay on his part would bring him a serious problem from his highly enraged mentor. Zaid must have hastened the divorce to save himself from Muhammad’s wrath.
Zainab’s procurement gave Muhammad immense pleasure and happiness. To celebrate his victory, he threw a grand party to which he invited all the people of Medina. Interestingly, this was the only party, related to his marriage, which has found a place in the pages of the Quran (33:53).
EIGHTH WIFE
Jawayriyah, also known as Barra, had become a captive in the hands of the Muslims. She belonged to the clan of Bani Mustalek. A woman of great beauty, she fell to the lot of a Helper from Medina who, not appreciating her beauty, fixed a high ransom for her freedom. Muhammad learned of her predicament and, being highly charmed by her beauty, paid the ransom himself and took her as his wife.
NINETH WIFE
Umm Habiba was the daughter of Abu Sofian, Muhammad’s uncle and his inveterate foe. She was married to her cousin, Ubayd Allah Ibn Jahsh. While in Abyssinia, Ubayd had reverted back to Christianity and died. The widow remained a Muslim.
Once she saw a dream in which someone addressed her as the “mother of the faithful,” which she interpreted to mean that she would marry her cousin. After her marriage with Muhammad, Abu Sofian, her father, is reported to have remarked: “By heaven, this camel is so rampant that no muzzle can restrain him.”
TENTH WIFE
Safiya, a Jew of great beauty, belonged to the tribe of Khaybar. She was married to Kinanah when she was seventeen years old. A few months after her marriage, Muhammad reached Khaybar on an expedition against her tribe. At this time, Safiya had a dream. She saw a brilliant moon hanging in the sky and knew that beneath it lay the city of Madina. Then the moon began to move toward Khaybar, where it fell into her lap. When she woke up, and told her husband what she had seen in her sleep, whereupon he struck her a blow in the face and said, “This can only mean that thou desirest the King of the Hijaz, Muhammad.”
After the fall of Khaybar to the Muslims, Safiya’s husband was beheaded, and she was brought to Muhammad as a captive, still bearing on her face the mark of the blow. He asked her the cause of the injury and she told him the story of her dream. Flattered, the he took her as one of his wives. Their nuptials took place while the remains of the bride’s murdered husband awaited a burial.
ELEVENTH WIFE
Maimuna was a widow. Her full sister, Umm al-Fadl, was married to Muhammad’s uncle al Abbas. The uncle offered his sister-in-law in marriage to his nephew, when he came to Mecca to perform his lesser pilgrimage about two years before his death. He accepted the offer and married Maimuna while still wearing the pilgrim’s Ihram. (Bukhari, Hadith 49, Book 62, Vol. 7). He consummated the marriage at Sarif, a few miles outside of Mecca. Ordinary Muslims are not permitted to marry while wearing their ihram.
TWELFTH WIFE
Esma was the sister of a princely desert chief of Najd. She was given in marriage to Muhammad in order to protect his estate from being taken over forcibly by the King of Hijaz.
Realizing his sexual incapability, she left him the night they were married. Muslim Apologists narrated the incident with a twist. They tell us that as she was young and very beautiful, Aisha and Hafsah developed in them a sense of insecurity, fearing that Esma’s youthfulness and beauty might force Muhammad to pay her more attention than he was in the habit of paying them. Consequently, they hatched a conspiracy in order to prevent their husband from approaching her sexually. Their plan worked well and Esma forestalled all attempts to engage her in a sexual act on the night she joined his harem. Her persistent refusal to copulate infuriated Muhammad. He divorced her without consummating the marriage (R.V. C. Bodley, op. cit. p. 266).
Maxime Rodinson speaks of another wife whom Muhammad divorced on the ground that she, too, had denied him sexual access.
According to many of Muhammad’s biographers, only nine of his wives ever lived together in the quarters that he had built around the Mosque of the Prophet in Madina. These quarters also housed an unknown number of slave-girls. They catered to all needs, which included sexual intercourse of their master. For them to deny him sexual pleasures would have tantamount to displeasing God thereby earning for them a place in hell after their death.
CONCUBINES
Apart from his wives and slave-girls, Muhammad also owned a number of concubines. Two among them deserve a brief introduction:
Rihana: Rihana was a Jew from Bani Koraida. She was the most beautiful female of her tribe. After Muhammad put most of the male members of her tribe to sword, he chose her before distributing booty among his followers. Some writers maintain that upon her conversion to Islam, Muhammad married her. Others say that she remained a Jew and died a Jew, five years after her enslavement. They add, however, that once when her Master discovered that she had not become pregnant, he asked her to embrace Islam. She is said to have declined his suggestion saying, “O Messenger of Allah, leave me in thy power; that will be easier for me and for thee.”
Maria Qibtia: We have mentioned earlier that Muqauqis, the ruler of Alexandria, sent Muhammad two Coptic sisters, called Maria (or Mary) and Shiren Qibtia as gift. Of the two, Maria was a great beauty. Both the sisters captivated Muhammad, but since his own law forbade marrying or having sex with two sisters “at one and the same time (4:23), he reluctantly gave Shiren away to his close friend and poet Hasan Ibn Thabit. She bore Hasan a son, whom they named Abdul Rahman. Later on, Hasan became Muhammad’s poet laureate.
Maria also bore Muhammad a son whom they named Ibrahim after the patriarch Abraham. According to most biographers of Muhammad, Ibrahim died at the age of fifteen months.
The death of Ibrahim caused Muhammad great pain, for he, in him, according to his biographers, had reposed his hope for transmitting his name to posterity.
Consequently, he cried uncontrollably as he bent over the bosom of his heart. He was bathed in tears as he laid his child’s little body down into the ground The lamentations reportedly exhibited by Muhammad on the death of Ibrahim were in contradiction of his earlier conduct, viz a viz, the death of his three sons, born of his first wife Khudeija. All of them had died in their infancy. He neither cried nor expressed any sorrow at their death. Similarly, he remained nonchalant at the death of his wife Khudeija. We have no historical record that indicates that he cried or expressed his grief at the loss he allegedly suffered due to the passing away of his so-called beloved wife.
We have our doubts on Ibrahim’s paternity. We submit, hereunder, the reasons, which caused us to develop our doubts:
Traveling to distant places, in 7th century, was not an easy matter. It used to be more so, when one had to undertake his journey from the deserts of the Middle East.
Many people of the Arabian Peninsula did travel to Syria, Persia and Egypt etc., on trade, but those travels were not frequent. They used to take long time in organizing their caravans, and only after preparing themselves in all respects, did they embark on their missions. Advance preparations were inevitable for the reason that traveling in those days entailed great risk to lives and properties. Due to the perilous nature of their journeys, the Meccans traveled, only once in a year, to Syria and to other distant lands for conducting their trade.
As long-distant travels caused great hardships, women and elderly people always avoided undertaking the risks of long journeys. Those among them who had to go, they usually traveled on camels’ back. Otherwise, the group of travelers almost always consisted of young and strong individuals, who were willing to walk great distances, when their camels provided rides to those men who walked, and became exhausted, before them.
In view of the perils and risks they expected to face during their long journeys, the Meccans always sent small caravans to distant countries. The small size of their caravans served them two purposes: It helped them not only save lives; it also prevented their caravans from becoming the target of the highway brigands.
Considering the fact that long journeys, in his time, caused great hardships to the travelers, Muhammad selected Hatib b. Abu Balta’a to go to the court of Muqauaqis, the ruler of Alexandria and to ask him to accept Islam. Hatib was a young person, who was willing not only to undertake the hazardous journey, but also to complete it successfully. Muhammad must have given him a horse or a mule to cover the distance between Medina and Alexandria.
End of part-12
On his journey back home, this young man has, in his company, two young and beautiful damsels. They were Maria and Shirin Qibtia, two Coptic sisters, given by the Alexandrian Ruler as gifts to be had and enjoyed by Muhammad, the imminent Ruler of the Arabian Peninsula. They travel together; eat together and sleep together in the tent. Hatib, an Arab, most of whom cannot survive without sex, makes his move. Knowing well that they are in the midst of a desert where Hatib’s help is as essential as a few drops of water, the girls do not repulse his approach; rather, they indicate their cooperation.
Hatib establishes physical relationship with both of them, which continues until their arrival at the gate of Medina.
He delivered them to Muhammad. He was highly impressed by their beauty and would have possessed both of them, had he not decreed earlier to have sex with two biological sisters at the same time to be a sinful act. Thus prevented, he chooses Maria, who was prettier than Shirin, to become one of the newest members of his harem, without knowing that she was pregnant.
Muhammad permitted Muslim men to have sex with their female slaves without marrying them (4:24). Muslims are required, under the decree, to accord a bastard child or person (Dictionary definition: Bastard: a person born of unmarried parents) the same care, privileges, respect, honor and opportunities they accord to their legitimate children. It was this Islamic spirit that enabled many bastards not only to live their normal lives; it also enabled many of them to attain high offices and respect in the past. Wasiq was one bastard who became a Caliph in 842 A.D., after succeeding his father Must’asim. He was the son of a Greek slave girl Karatis (Prof. Masudul Hasan, History of Islam, Vol. 1, p. 228).
Muhammad had three sons from Khudeija. All of them died in their infancy. We do not know the exact time period in which those boys were born. However, we surmise Khudeija had gone birth to her sons either during the period Muhammad was undergoing his training in the cave of Hira or during the time he was struggling to establish his apostolic mission among the pagans. In either case, his pre-occupation did not allow him to take good care of his children. Also the obsession that he had developed for his mission prevented him from understanding the important role that a son, in certain circumstances, is called upon to play during his father’s life or after his death.
Initially, Muhammad was not much confident of his success, nor did he know that he was going to become the virtual ruler of the peninsula. Consequently, he did not realize the importance of having a son, whom he could entrust with the responsibility to carry on with his mission in his absence. By the time he realized his mistake, it was already too late.
After being in Muhammad’s company for sometime, Maria disclosed that she was pregnant. He was shocked by the news, for he as well as Maria knew well that he was not her impregnator. Their respective secrets thus exposed, both of them agreed to play their respective games of deception, hoping that the child when born would be a son. In the birth of a son, Muhammad pinned his hope on having a successor; Maria on the other hand, had a great hope in Muhammad’s successor to bring her freedom and a good and happy life. The child’s death in his infancy dashed their hopes and they were devastated.
Muhammad’s manipulation of Maria’s pregnancy created uproar among many of his lukewarm supporters. Having inkling of what was going on in his sex life, they did not believe his claim. Unable to contain their discontentment, he is reported to have put Maria in a separate house, though it was his custom to have all his women reside in the quarters he built in the court of the mosque, now famously known as the “Mosque of the Prophet.” This mosque is the second holiest mosque, after the temple of Ka’aba, for all Muslims of the world. The child’s untimely death, at fifteen months, rescued Muhammad from many of his suspicious followers
It is an excellent compilation, and is in conformity with what Muslim sources say.
Besides giving actual info. explaining simple things using, reason and logic – of which Muslims are incapable of, is also good.
Good work.
It is not understood how are you in love with her, when she is not accepting you?
It is perhaps one sided, which is meaningless.
Hello Krishna
It is better to forget her right now. You have a long way to go to settle your life. Emotions are temporary and mental swing may not be stable.
Krishna,
Forget the girl and concentrate on your studies for the JEE. JEE requires sacrifice and as Agnostic has mentioned, you will have to eat drink and sleep for JEE. I know that now the seats have been increased manyfold compared to what they used to be 25 years ago (when I got through). Still, you need to put your best foot ahead. This love thing will distract you for sure.
Satyen,
Wow!! Impressive education. We could see through from your writings that you are not an ordinary Joe!
On behalf of all dating couples looking for guidance, we thank you.
Thanks for the compliments agter 25 years! However, I don’t have any experience in the field of love (was sort of reclusive). Said this, I could seen some effects on the lives of lovers and has been a learning process for me.
One don’t have to have experience to see major issue with this “fake”conversion business. Please join us in stopping this “fake” conversion practice.
No one, none, nada, none yet has come forth on this site yet to promote this “fake” conversion practice; still all Muslims expect Nikaah from the Hindu and all Christians and Jews expect the BBS for children. If you cannot tolerate children from your spouse’s faith, why consider interfaith marriage? Guys like Aamir Khan (telibani?) should be exposed. Did he disclosed to his Hindu wives on their first date that he has allergy to Hindu children?
In today’s information age and the age of freedom and easy divorces, this so called conversion just for marriage will surely bring only disaster later in life. How come a Muslim come to a Hindu lover and say now you must convert and then only we could get married? How come a church asks non-Christians to sign a pre-nuptial agreement?
Interfaith marriages are not for exclusivists. Unless you are a pluralist, do not marry interfaith.
@Krishna – If you love her and she loves you there his nothing that will stop your both marriage. If I can be of any help i will be more than happy, may be after 2-3 years, Hurry up get your self ready get a good job and good income and marry her. You can reach me at rohit.arya1998@gmail.com.
Thanks
Rohit
Krishna, get married with your loved one but tell her that your religion is the religion of her fore fathers and her ancestors were forcefully converted in to Islam by Muslim invaders.So, she should come back in Hinduism, the religion of the land and her fore fathers.
krishna
better it is leave her , muslims are dangerous and intolerant, more pure form of islam more is the form of beast and savagery , love is unconditional , follow
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