Pearl says: September 10, 2012 at 2:00 pm
short and simple…love is above all religion…and never take decisions blindly…be practical too…nd take time… -Pearl
Admin says:
Pearl, you are lots smarter than most other girls. Absolutely agree that “…and never take decisions blindly…be practical too…nd take time…”
To your last statement, we would like to add a little……and never take decisions blindly…be practical too…nd take time……but don’t take too much time, find facts ASAP…life is too short!!
Yes, you agreed and he agreed, that is wonderful; enjoy romantic life! Wait, how are you sure that he is not a con-artist, who is telling you exactly what you want to hear? Probably he may have three other on the go Jain girls lined up, telling all of them what they want to hear; so far he is having good times!! If you are concerned (and smart), do the following:
Look, the marriage is not just between two people but two families and two communities. That is where problems will start coming from. Most problems will appear only 6 months before the planned marriage. We recommend that you meet his parents ASAP and tell your full plan ASAP. Likewise, take him to your parents. Also let two parents meet too! If you have not done this yet, you are only dreaming. These meetings will bring you back on this earth.
This is what we said for Hindu-Muslim marriage before, and simply cutting and pasting it here……..
“It is remotely possible the boy may be just out to enjoy you and keep lying to fool (and enjoy) you. Most talk of conversion comes up just 6 months before the marriage. At that time, you will hear that….
- Sorry it is my dad…,
- I did not knew this is coming…,
- just do for heck of it,
- shahadah does not mean anything,
- every one does that,…
- I will let you practice your religion even after conversion,
- I truly respect Hindus but you convert,
- why can’t you convert for our love?
- you are creating problems by not converting,
- if you convert I will marry you today,………………..
……bottom line…..CONVERT, CONVERT, CONVERT or else I am walking away.”
We don’t think this is the case for your Muslim lover, but we strongly recommend you to meet his parents and disclose your plan. Let us know how it goes. Best wishes. -Admin.
Pearl says:
hello admin, i have met his complete family….his family knowz abt us…nd his mother has told us to have a separate lyf..bcoz she konwz i want be comfortable staying wid his family…nd he has been to my house…my mom said that he is a nice guy but d only problem is religion..he has met my sister…nd her opinion was xtremely positive..he has met my best frnd..nd he is positive too..nd 1 mre thing…i hav met all his frndz meanwhile…he is very sensitive to my needz…being a jain i cant cook nd see or smell non-veg…i m allergic to it…trust me…it wud astonish u….bt in d past 3 years of relationshp…he has nevr had non-veg infrnt of me…he is nt hardcore non vegterian…nd he has a sister who is also veg by choice…nd we r open of our relationship on social website…
I hav postd here only 4 one reason…dat even i used to b cautious of muslimz…bt aftr being with him i undrstud that every body is nt d same..der r exceptionz…nd imprtantly i wud recmment every gal that if ur partner is good…no amt of wrong religiour practices wil harm u…
and 1 more thing…he against running away nd gettng married…i wud confess that 1nce i thought of it…nd he scolded me…he doesnt wana start lyf with me wid ma parentz curses..we r young nd mature nd focusng on our career bt at the same time…planing to get officially engaged with our parentz acceptance…which wil take tym…so we r planing 4 it…
Trust me admin….dese r factz…datz it…
Admin says:
Pearl, you are lots smarter than most other Hindu/Jain/Sikh girls. Just to make sure, is your boy friend’s Muslim family okay you have court marriage, and no Islamic Nikaah? Is there any doubt on that point? Will he join you for Jain pooja in derasar (and you go to his darga)? Will he join you in paryusen (and you fast for ramadan)? What he has to say for idol worships and Koran on Jains?
You are on the path of Shamim, Seema, Salman and Shah Rukh Khan. However, read every things being said on this web site, it is better to learn from other’s mistakes than to make mistakes yourself. Best way to learn is to teach! Come and guide others.
Next question to you, how will you mix with his extended families? Lets assume Amir & Khan (below) are your new relatives. What would your boyfriend answers to Amir to his statement “A muslim is not allowed to marry a non-muslim.” Amir has excellent advise, “For the Jain sister..If you really want marry a muslim boy, don’t do it until you believe truth of Islam. otherwise your offsprings will become diverted from right path, since mother influence more the life of children.” … what will you tell him? Please come back to update us on your progress, best wishes. -Admin.
Pearl says:
i wil end dis post by respnding to ur xtended queries…yes my boyfrndz family is fine wid court marriage…nd yes he has joind me in parjyshan nd visitd temples nd i hav visitd dargah too..nd regardng fast in ramadan….i hav nevr been forced to keep it…nd regardng respond to amir nd khan…he has alwayz said…dat he respects all religion…nd he wil nevr compromise on his lyf partnr..acordng to him in any religion…dere r sumthngs u think r right nd sum things u cannot logically fathom…so he has his own belif system…nd nthng is above ny human being…
Nd yes on idol worshp….he has nevr shown any prblm…he knwz dat….he is nt against it…nd i hav seen him bowng in frnt of a god i believe in…
We hav gne thru dis severat tymz…admin…i admire ur logical nd proper questions…i knw…i hav to take evry step cautiously nd inteligently…thanx admin..
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I am a Jain boy in love with a Muslim girl…
we are in a relationship since last 6 months and I want to continue it till the end…I know her properly since 6 months…we were in same class in higher secondary but got into relationship after school…before that we rarely used to talk…
I never knew that I would get so much attached with any one…I dont want to lose her and want to continue our relationship and turn it into marriage. I know she loves me too and hope that she continues to do that _/\_
but our religion and the society is the biggest barrier
in our religion its not allowed to do a inter cast marriage and Muslims also cant marry non-Muslims
and one another barrier is society and the relatives !!!!!
please I want a solution_/\_
I love her and will do that forever and I can’t see her marrying some one else !
please need help!
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=11386
P.S.: This is my choice, not hers.
Have been reading the bullshits all over internet. Let me admit that Muslims are not treated with the same respect as people of other religion because they are like that. Being from the same religion, I am making a bold statement saying this and I might have to face consequences.
Here’s my story. My girlfriend is a Jain and she has also read these posts and got so badly influenced that she is almost had a nervous breakdown. But, I am not as you guys have been stereotyping every Muslim boy here. For the sake of my love and commitment to my relationship, I want to do something that no one does. I want to convert to Jain. Our children will be given Jain names. I am a vegetarian by choice since 4 years. It is even before meeting the love of my life. So… As far as my parents are concerned. They know about me and her. They respect our relationship too. I know I will hurt them by converting into Jain. But, I am sure that they will understand. I don’t want my love to face any sort of problem. As far as my relatives are concerned, to hell with them. We are better off without the relatives from my side. Those who respect my love will be with us, those who don’t, won’t have my respect either. Before you so called Islamic centered guys start hitting me with bullshit, I am not interested in answering you. I don’t have a fight with religion, I have a fight against orthodox enemies of love. Because of the influential people who misinterpret our holy books, innocent people like us have to suffer. But, for Love, I will do the right thing. Bye Bye closed minded rigid people. I believe in one God, and will continue paying my gratitude in my own way, unbounded of the rituals.
Thanks!!!
Reply to Ashes at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4584
To All the people who visit this website, consider that
ALL THE STORIES AND POSTS ON THIS SITE ARE FAKE
,firstly u should not do marriage with muslims n all coz jain/hindu is a great religion ….baut sare bande mil jaegee…..n muslimss do love jihad n alll firstly do marriage and thn thy ditch…..u hav twoo chooz if u will marry a muslim guy….ur parentss will not be with u…n wen a muslim guy will divorce …..u will be nthng….i m reguesting u to go and ask ur gurus and then decide…….plz..
dont take ur step fast….first think and then takeee….take care
its ok…pearl.you mry him..but plz dont forgt to visit this after 10 years of your marriage..you will feel something diffrnt which is the “hidden truth” today..I will not say mo thn that.thank you.
Hello Amir,
I am from ahmediya community and I know how cruel you are towards women. You exploit females interpretating islamic laws as per your choice. How corrupt and bad character individuals are your maulvies, every body knows. How veena malik hit last year, your maulvi and he cut a sorry figure. There are so many things in favour of females but are they actually implemented?
Perhaps you are a person of talibani mentality? Name is taliban, but very cruel, like a butcher to commit all sorts of attroctiies on women folk?
Hello Pearl,
Perhaps you are determined to spoil your life and give a bad name to your community to a muslim, who never treat female at par with male. Prior to marriage, your sentiments will be respected but soon after marriage, your grilling will start, restricting your movements, way of life. I know, how badly muslim treat their wives, just a sex doll, putting all restrictions in the name of islam and self indulging in bigamy, extra marital affairs, as he is allowed in islam. Islam is worst religion for female community, even then if you are willing to go to hell, do it immediately.
Either you are not a jain, just pretending to be so, for your ill motives, or bad luck prevails on you to repent for ever.
Please expose your true identity and don’t just spread hatred aginst muslims
Dear fake person, Your words itself explain your mentality and what ur religion has taught to you, so dare to be truthful.
Amir, How are you planning to disclose your real identity? Even you post a copy of your passport on any web, someone could say who did you stole this from?
Well, that is his opinion, you have yours. We are here to guide youths, so direct your messages to the next youth in relationship.
GOD IS ONE………then y this crazy conversion. Curiosity kills the cat. Will your life be any different if u convert ? Normads moves from place to place, no particular allegiance. Did a tree say I belong to this or that religion just becos I happen to grow there thru scatteration. But every tree needs WATER from who-ever gives it.
Jenni,
So, are you recommending that this Pearl-Jain girl should convert to Islam, take the Shahadah oath/declaration that “there is no god but Allah and Prophet Muhammad is the messenger of Allah. Worship Allah and join no partner with Him. Associating partners with Allah is called Shirk. Shirk is not only the worship of idols, but also offering prayers or supplications to anyone, living or dead. Shirk is the greatest of all sins.”
If this is not her intention, why to make lies and deception a foundation of their marriage life? What is wrong being honest to Allah, imams, his Muslim family, her boy friend and most important, to her self?
Are you a person of low self-esteem? Are you going to take Shahadah oath (if you are not a Muslim) or take Baptism if you are a Muslim?
You said “GOD IS ONE” but which one? The “One God” you get by Baptism or by Shahadah? Do you believe that Mahatma Gandhi will go to hell because he was not baptized but Sonia Gandhi will? LOL! Wake up, Jenni.
Why Christians and Muslims learn to accept people what they are, rather than being love-proselytizer or love Jihadi?
It is not about low self esteem.
It is about ignorance, their ridiculous ‘low’ life styles, lack of values and nonchalant attitude.
When a movie like Jodha becomes a hit in this Godforsaken country, obviously, these girls think by doing this they become a celebrity and it is testimony to their inner secular values.
It appeals to their lavatorial sense of what is a virtue and what is a vice.
First of all i need to ask you…Are you mad ????
I my self a Jain. First of all marrying non muslim girl is haram do you know that. I have witnessed two girls story among then one christen girl who later tried to commit suicide. Islam allows lying to kaffirs (non-muslims) as per these teaching lying and cheating is permitted.
Please revise your decision its my humble request.
@ admin,
I want one clarification from you?
Are you going to allow my answers to what pearl says? You need not consider them as replies to pearl directly.
If you say you do, I will post. Otherwise, I am anot going to waste my time.
Hope to hear from you, Sir.
This is an open forum and we have not put any restriction on what should and what should not go here. We do not want readers to get a biased opinion, so all are welcomed!
One reason for above policy is that even we do not know what is a right path to follow in interfaith marriages. So every one will say what one want to say. The dating couple will decide if they want to follow it or not.
Pearl –
It would be Best if you ask your friend to become Hindu before marriage !! Because, in Islam, even a Secular is a Kaafir !! Hence, your friend allowing you to remain a Hindu would make him Kaafir !! Instead, you can ask him to become Hindu ! Besides, almost all muslims had Hindus as their ancestors ! So he will return to his own faith !! and you both can live happily ever after !!
Hello rehman,
this thread is gng nowhre…nd regardng ur post…i hav alredy said…dat he has his own belief system…he doesnt believe in dat…nd accordng to us…watvr u r born wid is gods gift…ders 1 god…nd v r nobdy to change dat….
tk cre…
hello mags,
i simplly like to say u dear u had busted ur lfy,after having such education and sound family background u dnt have happy life for both urself and ur parent.do u think that u are taking a right step? if yes then i will say u go ahead.but if not then go along with ur parents,i am sure ur dad/mom will not accept that happily as they holding good position in their community and will they walk out with straight head.
just think over it.
god bless u
What did I ever say about these wanna be Jodhas? That they do not have brains and are stupid too. And that they are incapable of reading anything and seeing the truth.
And I even said that dynamites are not going to help.
The girl who started this thread just proved my point. She proved me right in every aspect. Thanks to her.
You want proof? Singapore is not a place where Islam rules. It is not an Islamic country.
Come to Malaysia ! She does not even know that Malaysia has legalized horrible discrimination towards Non-Muslims and its leaders routinely defend this discrimination. But, she can not see it as she is blinded by Indian secularism. Once you believe in Indian version of secularism, you become blind to every other Islamic supremacist act.
http://knowing-islamic-doctrines.blogspot.in/search/label/islam%20in%20malaysia
I think this is enough to show her stupidity and ignorance.
Other thing is she again repeats same lines like parrot does, ‘no religion teaches to hate others.’
I gave her a link to show how Islam makes mandatory for all Muslims to hate and show enmity towards Non-Muslims. I do it again below:
http://knowing-islamic-doctrines.blogspot.in/2012/05/hatred-of-islam-and-muslims-then-what.html
If she cares to read, she will find that it is not me who is saying this but Muslims themselves in their websites. They explain all the Koranic verses with regard to hatred towards Non-Muslims, implying it is so-called holy Koran which actually nurtures hatred towards Non-Muslims.
I think she should ask her boyfriend on this.
P.S – These Jodhas are incapable of rational analysis and pearl proved it.
hello srinivas,
i hav askd d meaning of these verses to my boyfrnd..nd also on d link of admin on koran on jains….nd thank u 4 d general knwlege…koran has been misintrepretd on many grounds…as it is written in very old dayz….nd 1 mre thing…my maternal grandfather has also secular viewz nd he has studied koran….i dnt want to giv ny mre responses or give ny mre facts to u..trust me frnd…i hav answers to all ur sarcasm…bt respondng to it is of no use..nd as it is seen in d language u hav used 4m post 1…’dumb hindu gals’, ‘stupid’…i can undrstand how much u respect ny other ladys opinion… …nobody is stupid here…itz jus dat deir viewz r diffrnt…
Anywaz…thank u 4 enlightment…as i said…m nt here to prove nythn….muslimz r gud human beings…nd most imprtantly dey r humans….evry religion can b genralisd wid wrong things…
Tk care nd god bles u
Pearl,
We wish, like you, all girls and boys are open to learn new things without being offended. We have alerted you for many things but in many cases you have already thought about it. The best is you are involving your bf and jointly studying these links. It is good to get knowledge, good and not so good, and this will help you make a fully “informed” decision.
Like Salman and Amrita, please come back over years to guide other on this site.
Helping others is the best way to help you!
Teaching is the best way to learn!
– Best wishes.
Thank you admin….i wud surely cum bak soon….
Nd thanx 4 ending dis thread in a sober manner….
God bless u….
Hyyy pearl,
Itsss me i myself love jain gul nd cant live withut her… But due to certain reasons she cnt take furthure steps for ur future….. I hope u understand… Plzzzz nvere lose ur lfe partneR…. All muslim are not same… Plzzz marry the guy whom u love i cnt do tht plzzz dont losse tht chance….
hi pearl,
its really good to know that you are really blessed with an understanding boyfriend. But its not similar in my case. No doubt that my boyfriend too loves me n understands me alot but when it comes to our marriage he is very adamant on the fact that i have to change my religion because according to him its his parents who’l always be with me after we both get married off and not my parents since they are against this relationship.
so plz suggest me something. what should i do to make him understand the very fact that i donot want to convert??
and ya 1 more thing,are your parents ok with your relationship with a muslim guy??
Reply to Pia at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2537
Hello pia,
i wil tel u dat me nd my boyfrnd were best frndz 4 one year….b4 gettng into relationshp…nd aftr getting into relationship i made him clear dat i wud nt convert…nd pia…if he wud force me…i wud have or wil walk out…i hav very strong beliefs…i preach humanity…nd i respect d community i m born in…nd so is he….nd ma parntz knw abt our relationshp unoficialy…nd waitng wen i wil tel dem officialy…ma uncle knwz abt ma relationshp…ma parentz r skeptical…bt i hav to convince dem…even if it takes tym….we both think dat 4 ny relationshp to go long…der shud b respect, trust nd compa tibilty…nd dis grows wid tym…. Tk tym…nd try to make him undrstand ur situation…bcoz
u hav to spend ur lyf wid him….dnt tk hasty decisionz abt ur lyf….
Dis is wat i can say…dese r ma viewz…rest is all on u…
All d best
hello admin,
i wil end dis post by respnding to ur xtended queries…yes my boyfrndz family is fine wid court marriage…nd yes he has joind me in parjyshan nd visitd temples nd i hav visitd dargah too..nd regardng fast in ramadan….i hav nevr been forced to keep it…nd regardng respond to amir nd khan…he has alwayz said…dat he respects all religion…nd he wil nevr compromise on his lyf partnr..acordng to him in any religion…dere r sumthngs u think r right nd sum things u cannot logically fathom…so he has his own belif system…nd nthng is above ny human being…
We hav gne thru dis severat tymz…admin…i admire ur logical nd proper questions…i knw…i hav to take evry step cautiously nd inteligently…thanx admin..
Nd yes on idol worshp….he has nevr shown ny prblm…he knwz dat….he is nt against it…nd i hav seen him bowng in frnt of a god i believe in…
God bles u admin….
As we said before, “Pearl, you are lots smarter than most other girls.” Please come back to guide others. What would you say to Imran Khan? Best wishes.
nd 1 mre thing…he against running away nd gettng married…i wud cnfess dat 1nce i thought of it…nd he scolded me…he doesnt wana start lyf wid me wid ma parentz curses..we r young nd mature nd focusng on our career bt at d same tym…planing to get officialy ngage wid our parentz acceptance…which wil take tym…so we r planing 4 it…
Trust me admin….dese r factz…datz it…
Like I said even dynamites in your ears and head will not make you see the truth and reason….
If Islam and Muslims are like deadly virus then you, Hindu girls, are like catalyst that helps virus multiplying….
Hello srinivas,
u reap wat u sow….u cannot generalise everythng…u nurture hatred…u wil get hatred…itz easy to criticise….bt difficult to c sum positive side…anywaz…i havnt postd dis to prove sumthng…itz jus dat dere r nt alwaz negative things…
You write: “u reap wat u sow.”
That is exactly what I always say. Hindus will reap what they sow. If you remain a Hindu and have attachment to it in the future, then you will see your self and your mistake.
“u cannot generalise everythng”
All Islamic nations treating Non-Muslims like second class citizens and legalizing discrimination against them is pretty well a generalization, I guess.
Other thing is that more than 90% of Muslims support for death penalty for apostates. This is a generalization, I guess.
“u nurture hatred”
Like I said you can never see the truth. If you ever care to read a bit about Islam you would never have said this because it Islam which makes hatred towards Non-Muslims an integral part of their faith.
Read from the below link:
http://knowing-islamic-doctrines.blogspot.in/2012/05/hatred-of-islam-and-muslims-then-what.html
“itz easy to criticise.”
I am just trying to open eyes of all Non-Muslims to politically fascist teachings of Islam.
But I realized that I can never convince dumb Hindu girls like you whose only motivation is from Bollywood movies and self-justification….
I consider people who are swayed by Indian media or Bollywood as subhumans.
U can keep ur opinion…i m nt changing ma religion…i m a proud hindu nd wil be..i m nt considrd wid 90% of muslimz..nd wat r u talking my frnd..i hav traveld all d gulf countries nd whole of south east asia..malaysia, singapore, indonesia..dese r countris where islam rules…bt derz nthng wat u say..dey r vry forward nd frndly countries….nd 1 mre thing…i think u r much influenced by d politicians of india…who use evry communty as a vote cank nd use divide nd rule…nd so i dnt think i change some well educated hindus attitude..towardz humanity…bcoz no religion preaches hatred…nd teaches dat nthng is above humanity…i m nt influenced by bollywood…some real lyf xamples in ma lyf…
Anywaz…i think ur examples r cmpletly absurd…bcoz as i say each case is diffrnt..dnt generalise…
Anywaz…u can cntinue dis thread…bt i m off 4m it…
God bless u…
hello admin,
i hav met his cmplete family….his family knowz abt us…nd his mother has told us to hav a separate lyf..bcoz she knwz i wnt b cmfrtable stayng wid his family…nd he has been to my house…my mom said dat he is a nyc guy but d only prblm is religion..he has met my sister…nd her opinion was xtremely positive..he has met my best frnd..nd he is positive too..nd 1 mre thing…i hav met all his frndz meanwhile…he is very sensitive to my needz…being a jain i cant cook nd see or smell non veg…i m allergic to it…trust me…it wud astonish u….bt in d past 3 years of relationshp…he has nevr had non veg infrnt of me…he is nt hardcore non vegterian…nd he has a sister who is also veg by choice…nd we r open of our relationship on social website…
I hav postd here only 4 one reason…dat even i used to b cautious of muslimz…bt aftr being wid him i undrstud dat every body is nt d same..der r exceptionz…nd imprtantly i wud recmment every gal dat if ur partner is gud…no amt of wrong religiour practices wil harm u…
One more thing..
Don’t accept Islam for love or marriage, But to explore truth.
As you said “never take decisions blindly…be practical “.
Love is above all..correct,
but if you fail to love your creator, how can you love other people?
As always ..
Dual standard of admin.
If a non-muslim girl wants marry a muslim boy, admin always give her advice to think again, but if a muslim girl wants marry a non-muslim boy, He always appreciate..
For the Jain sister..
If you really want marry a muslim boy, don’t do it until you believe truth of Islam. otherwise your offsprings will become diverted from right path, since mother influence more the life of children.
If you can’t convert, please leave him. Don’t make his life worst.
A muslim is not allowed to marry a non-muslim.
Admin is a hindu extremist
admin should name this interfaith shaadi portal as pro-hindu website rather…. poor admin, so intimidated by the menacing presence of Islam..as being culturally superior and advanced religion comparing with fellow hindu.
i m a muslim guy in love with a jain girl,i really love her and want to marry her. my parent are ready for all this but his parents are against our decision, infact now they are not even allowing her to out of house.his uncle is a politician(minister and member of parliament), i dont want her to change her religion, i really love her and want to spend my whole life with her only plz suggest me something that how can we live happy together forever.
guys plz anything, suggest me whatever you can.
i really need ur help.
and most importantly she is ready to live with me going against her family but his uncle is also a major problem in doing all this.
plz plz plz help me.
🙁
Reply to Imran Khan at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2617
Hello imran,
i can undrstand wat ur girlfrnd is gng thru..i dnt knw much abt u nd ur gfrnd…bt in a general way…i wud jus tel u dat if u both r young….dnt tk hurried decisionz…u have to b financialy independent…to live alone…nd pls dnt run away nd marry…bcoz watevr it is…dey r our parentz…nd i wud suggest dat respect her religion..nd d most imp thing is pls think abt how wil she adjust in ur family…bcoz as a jain she may nt b able to tolerate eatng habitz..so u hav to think abt ur situation practicaly too…..4 both of u…act maturely…be firm….nd try to meet her parents nd convince dem dat u wil take care of her…nd take tym…nd tk d right way….else dis is jus wat i can say
rest is all on u..bcoz…if u tk d wrong path…thingz r liable to get awry…emotionaly nd legaly too…this is jus ma suggestion…bcoz as i say evry case is difrnt…nd u need to act accordingly….
All d best