Sandeep says: October 31, 2012 at 12:36 pm
Dear Friends,
I am a Hindu man who has been in a relationship with a Muslim girl for the last 3 years. We are both over 30 and the reason we have been waiting this long is because we were hoping her parents would accept this relationship. But alas that doesn’t seem to be happening.
We have discussed the problems most inter-faith marriages face, many a times and have come to the conclusion that one possible way of avoiding future problems would be to let go of the wish to have children, since we have seen, once children come into the picture of interfaith marriage, that really puts a strain on the relationship.
We have also agreed that the best way to keep the peace going would be to continue believing in what each of us believe and we have no expectations or wishes that either of us convert. However, having said that, we do realize that the only way her parents can come on board, is if I convert to Islam.
What I wanted to know from reliable and experienced people like you, is that is it possible that I convert to Islam just as a formality? Can I continue keeping my Hindu name even after I convert? Also once I convert, are there any religious implications or problems, if we both are comfortable, if I continue believing in Hinduism? We would obviously not lie to her parents and we would like to tell them that this conversion is ONLY for the marriage to happen? What i want to know is if it is possible? I would greatly appreciate some inputs.
Regards, -Sandeep
Admin says:
Sandeep,
You have certainly reached to the site that has wealth of information that you need. Answers to your question has already been given at least 100 times on this site, so sit down with your gf to read all these posts.
A very simple answer to your question, never ever “fake” convert. Read “Hindu Boy” and ask her to read “Muslim Girl” article and references there in.
Are you a person with low-self esteem who will go and lie to Allah, your parents, your Hindu community, her Muslim community, Imam and most importantly, you yourself? This “fake” conversion will ruin lives of both of you and both sides extended families; ultimately your marriage life will be like that of Madiha’s parents, Dee, Anita and Nirmala. There are many legal implications of this conversion, talk to a lawyer before this conversion.
She is using her parents as an excuse. It is possible that deep in her heart, she wishes to see you as a Muslim. She cannot tolerate an idol-worshipper kafir Hindu, not even a shadow of it. She has tolerated you this long just because she thought one day you will convert and this way she could go to heaven. We hope we are wrong in estimating her!
Learn the art of negotiation. Simply tell her that you will NEVER EVER CONVERT to Islam, at least not in THIS life. You are not a lier. She MUST accept “Sandeep” the way “Sandeep” is today. This is a package deal, take whole as is or leave it. Tell her – “on your senseless conversion request; you are ending this relationship”. Hang up the phone and then do not answer her phone calls for next 3 months. Give her a wake-up call.
Sandeep, you seem to be educated and intelligent. Critically evaluate this conversion business. Read the Bible, Koran and Geeta. Evaluate who is the God? What is religion? Is it right that children are taught that “Mahatma Gandhi will go to hell”? What Osama Bin Laden did in the name of religion is right? How far your girl friend is from Bin Laden type mentality? Read these 14 articles and evaluate why there is so much intolerance for each other in this World today? Then go re-educate your gf.
We hope to hear from you in 4 months. Best wishes. -Admin
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Religion is a man made system of belief whereas the love is the creation of God
No Sandeep you can not do this you you could not accept Islam for as formality
dear sandeep,
i myself am in love with a muslim girl. i am still a student and i realise that i don’t have the appropriate experience or wisdom to be giving advice. i myself am confused as to how to approach her family with the proposition of an inter-faith marriage.
but even in hinduism, it is believed that there is one true god (brahma samaj)… there is always one true god. how you worship, how you believe, is completely up to you.
i believe in god, though i don’t believe in religion. being a hindu, i have had beef. i don’t see anything wrong with it.
so, my advice to you is…. approach her parents as politely as possible. tell them what you want to do. tell them that you are marrying her for growing old with her, not for praying with her. after this, if they accept you, wel and good. but if they don’t, please walk away… beacuse that’s what i’m planning to do. all the best man, take care..
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It’s very sad that some people or rather many of them post comments just to praise their particular religion n many a times just to disrespect and demean Islam as a religion. Trust me when I say this that I am not writing this post because I am a muslim but just to maintain the sole purpose of this wonderful website which is not to put anyone’s religion down but to help people with their suggestions on the problems they are facing due to their interfaith relationships.
Thanks and regards,
Zyrah (Dubai)
Zyrah,
Thank you of reminding to people.
One question to you, how would you define Interfaith marriage with Equality? Hypothetically, lets assume you are in love with a wonderful professional caring Hindu who is willing to allow you to practice your own faith 100%. Let us know if you will ask him to convert to Islam by Shahadah before your Islamic Nikaah? Is not this fake-conversion? Would you expect your children to have circumcision for religious reason (to announce them Muslim) and have Arabic names? Your comments will help guide others. Thanks.
Please come back again and again.
Admin,
“….caring Hindu who is willing to allow you to practice your own faith 100%….. ” ohoooo , really!!! 100%, then why prateek couldn`t reply that yes i will allow her to practice Islam(celebrate id-ul-azha)
You have left out “Hypothetically, lets assume…”
— Converting to Islam for the “sake of it” has legal implications. Tomorrow something goes wrong, you will be judged/ sentenced/ etc through islamic laws and NOT by indian laws. You are agreeing to this by converting.
— The above includes rituals for your last rites, etc. You will be buried, not burnt. And if you go to a muslim country to live, things will get worse, because you are legally muslim. “Apostasy” which could even be going to a temple is punishable by death.
— You will be cheating her parents if you fake convert to Islam. What will they think of you when they get to know? That you bought their daughter? That you cheated them?
What will your own parents think of you?
— To cover one lie, you will have to lie a second time and a life full of lies. Do you want this? And then you will real convert, and still have regrets in your mind, because you can never think islamic.
Solution:
Be Honest. Get her family to accept you for who you are. Figure out an equitable solution, involving both religions if necessary, for the benefit of you, her, your relationship and your future children.
The going will be tough in the beginning, but you will start a relationship based on truth and honesty.
these guys are realy sic.totally.i hate the word conversion.that to towards islam.its like getting ur body cut by urself.pushing urself towards fire.forget the morone thoughts of ur gf.tell her to accpt u as u are.otherwise tell her ‘get lost’.and u find sum1 better.
This website has been made with the sole aim of converting muslim girls to other religions and to misguide. Beware all Muslims.
They very well know that muslim girls are pretty, chaste, beautiful and truthful unlike their ones who flirt with anybody they find, are slutty and have multiple relationships at the same time.
BEWARE ALL MUSLIMS: THIS IS A TRAP. THIS WEBSITE HAS THE SOLE AIM OF TRAPPING YOUNG MUSLIM GUYS AND GIRLS AND CONVERTING THEM.
muslim guys r sluts mr zaheer.they date many women at same time n ditch all.they hv dis business of convertn ppl.they r not chaste.u r one of them.they r luv jihadis.trap innocent hindu girls n make dem pregnant wid fake marriage n ditch dem.marriages wid dem last as long as a day.dey dont spare muslim girls also.bastards.
sandeep don,t do this mistake , u r religion is like ur mother aand mother religion is the best , love is unconditional , conversion for the sake of love is totally non-sense , there are many other girls ,
why only with those fanatic muslim girls who want to convert u , conversion to islam is nothing but converting to terrorism and retardness ,superstionism
today many muslims are leaving islam as due to their intellectual thoughts
“Your religion is like your mother. Just because your mother is less attractive than your friend’s mother you can’t abandon your mother and adopt a new one.” – Mahatma Gandhi.
“Your religion is like your mother. Just because your Muslim friend is asking you to accept your mother-in-law as your real mother, you cannot abandon your birth mother.” -revised for you!
Hi Sandeep. No need to convert just for a formality. it is a cowardness.If she is not able to be bold enough, leave her and let her be in the hell. Ask her to read various attrocities committed against women.
Dont be so low esteem male. Where there is a will, there is a way. Tell her frankly.
God bless you.
Hi Chand,
OMG, what a great collection of attrocities on the poor and helpless women by fundamentalists. This is a great sin against the mankind.
Where is the judgement day for such cruels? In fact such butchers should be chopped into the pieces?
They are the real shaitans like prophet Muhammad
hi fatima
at least respond with a real name arther than masqueardign under a fake muslim name.