nirmal says: May 7, 2013 at 5:31 am
hi admin,
My situation is quite similar with mr hari’s case, but the issue here is, im a hindu guy, and my girlfriend is protestant christian, as you know that catholic people can be tolarate with hindus but protestant is quite different.
After 5 years of relationship we’ve decided to get married, then there is the issue was started, her cousin’s forcing her to get me to convert,,,, what da heck?? im from a typical hindu family, once i told my dad that im in love with a protestant girl my dad was fine with it, and he asked me get my girlfriend to try to adopt the calture during festival times.
Then the issue became serious again, she said being a protestant she wont be able to adopt to our culture and she told she got brought up in a way of not believing in statue praying. Problems kepts occur ever since we started talk about marriage, please advice me on this.
Furthermore I do have my friends whereby they got married in a both ways they are living a good life. Please advise.. i dont want lose her in my life.. please. and I dont want to hurt anyone in this issue. -Nirmal
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Admin says:
Dear Nirmal,
You are a good citizen of this World. We need to make sure we all live with peace and harmony. Unfortunately, these religious leaders want us to keep fighting among us so they could survive.
You said, “Catholic people can be tolerant with Hindus but protestant is quite different”, that is absolutely wrong. Their Second of the Ten Commandment teaches them not to tolerate people from other faiths. Christians (mainly Catholics) have killed millions during their crusades; more killed by Christians than that collectively killed by Muslims. Today, a protestant will not tolerate a Catholic, who will not tolerate a Mormon, who will not tolerate Muslim, who will not tolerate a Jew, and all these will not (not suppose to) tolerate idol-worshipper Hindus. So, where this barbaric teaching (the Second Commandment) will end?
Your girl friend said, “she said being a protestant she wont be able to adopt to our culture”, what an absurd talk. You cannot and should not even dream of marrying her. She will ruin your life, you will cry for your whole life (like Hinu).
Are we saying you should not marry her? Yes and No. Yes, you should not marry her who believes not to tolerate idol-worshipper Hindus. On the other hands, YES, marry her if you could educate her that “Isvar Allah tero nam”. There is only One God, you may call Her or Him LORD God, the Father God, Allah or Isvar. Tell her to forget the church and follow Jesus. Ask her to read all that we have written on God. It is your duty to bring her out of darkness of her church, educate her and enlighten her.
You said, “her cousin’s forcing her to get me to converted”, tell them that you are a Hindu and will die as a Hindu. Make it clear to your girlfriend that, especially for children, NO BBS. Take it or leave it.
You said, “my dad was fine with it, and he asked me get my girlfriend to try to adopt the culture during festival times.” we bow to your parents. They are so noble and why would you go against them? Tell your gf that you will take your children for Easter parade, have big party for Christmas and Diwali time, will take them to a Mandir on Saturday and to a church on Sunday, but will not allow to put a label of Baptism on children. Your children will not be sinners and there is no need to wash their sins by Baptism (read Gandhi). Your interfaith children should decide their own faith at their age 21, what ever that is.
You said, “I don’t want to hurt anyone in this issue”, don’t be so nice to those who are not nice to you or your faith. Act tough. Be a man! Learn tit for tat.
You said, “After 5 years of relationship we’ve decided to get married, then there is the issue was started”, this is common to all interfaith couples. Hindu go along all the way assuming the Christian/Muslim/Jew is a pluralist but all of a sudden before marriage the Hindu finds out the requirement of the BBS. This BBS is giving so much pain to all interfaith couples. This BBS is a social-sin and must go.
Another thing you could do is to expose her. Go tell all your common friends what rubbish she is talking. Give all of them and her relatives this URL https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=5394 and ask them to blog here. Create peer-pressure on her to wake her up. Educate her. Free her from clutches of her church. Till she has not learned a lesson of pluralism, don’t think of marrying her. Best wishes. -Admin
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I am a Hindu boy. I am in love with AG Christian girl. We love each other, but we are not sure how to proceed further to marriage due to difference in our faiths. I am ready to go to church with her and read bible along with her without converting to her religion.
But she is not ready to participate in Hindu rituals. She says she couldn’t accept other Gods other than Jesus and also she is not used to idol and photo worships. She didn’t ask me to convert to a Christian because she believes it should not be forced but out of my own will I should convert. So if I convert to a Christian (but I don’t want to), there are chances her parents may accept me, and also she wants her kid to be in her own faith.
However, I don’t want to blame her for she’s not able to accept other gods, because she’s a religious Christian herself and it’s very difficult for her to adapt as this what she has been taught all these years. So we have decided to stop talking and part our ways, but it’s very difficult for us to do so.
Can someone help us what other options are available for us to live together?
Reply at https://interfaithshaadi.org/we-have-decided-to-stop-talking/
Why every one has f**k around. It can’t be simple that there is only one God. We all follow the same. Why everyone has to divide everything. This religious things bring life at enormous situation where you just get stuck between two things. It should be simple and understandable but don’t know what they are taught and why they are taught so.
Hi Nirmal,
All said and done, marriages are compromises. Once you get married you win some and lose some. Reason being happiness. To remain happy and to keep others happy, you need to compromise a lot. If you can’t or your partner can’t compromise, just be friends. Don’t ever get married and face unwanted problems.
There’s a level you have to reach above all religion related matters. If you can’t reach that level, then just forget about marriage.
Vinayak.
I am in love wit a girl who is protestant and I m a Hindu guy…I like her sooooooooo much n she too….But I am scared that I may lose her in my life….I m not getting how to convince my gf n her family and at a same time I dont want to convert to Christianity too…pls suggest Me wat to do
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8949
Hi Gowtham,
Please don’t ever get married to a Christian. I have married a catholic guy and I am crying each day. Your life will become miserable. They will torture you imposing their views on you. Please run away and be happy.
Hi Preethi,
Can you tell us what they are making you do? This will be good education for others.
hi admin,
i am facing same problem as nirmal. i am hindu and my girlfriend is Protestant. my girlfriend’s father is priest. i really love her and i want to marry her. she says bible does not allowe her to marry me. i dont want to loose her. please give me some advice.
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8872
hi i am hindu girl getting marry to christen tamil boy . i dint want take baptisum coz i dont belive on castisum suggest me somepoints where i can make him understand that i dont want to fight
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8124
Thank You Admin For Your Advice!
I’m A Hindu And She’s Protestant. And, We’re In Love For Couple Of Months. We’ve Decided To Talk About This To Our Parents Once We’re Done With Our Studies (In 3 Years Time). I Was So Confused With This Matter Too! Because I Don’t Want To Convert. And Now, I Got Some Ideas Because Of You.
Thank You Very Much Admin, Really Appreciated! 😀
Kartik,
Let us know what are her expectations. Do not underestimate Christians (and Muslims)’ exclusivity, they believe that only they will get into heaven on the Judgment Day.
Make it clear that not only you will not convert, but your children will never have baptism (at least till age 21). Read NO BBS. Your children will decide their own faith as an adults.
Get back to us with more details. Ask her to join this post to have a first hand learning.
Hi Nirmal,
If you both love each other very truely, sincerely and committed for everlasting relations, there should not be any problem subject to:-
(i) that you both are matured,(attained age of maturity)
(ii) fully understood each other,
(iii)both are working and financially independent,
Her relatives, whosoever, have nothing to do in the matter. You tell her frankly that there is no need to coversion by any one, just marry her and get marriage registered. I am being a muslim girl married a Hindu boy, very happy with him, still following good things of both relgions. If she does not follow, then leave her.
God bless you.
Nirmal,
Chand made an excellent point, “still following good things of both religions”, that’s the way all interfaith marriages should be. Keep out the church, baptism and priests of your married life, and you will have a very happy life.
Hello,
I m a protestant girl and I have dated a hindu boy for 5 years and 3 months .
In the beginning of our relationship my mother do knew about My relationship with him but my mother did not have any objection at that time so we continue our relationship.
His family have no objection for our marriage.
But suddenly in 2024 my mother is emotionally blackmailing me that if I marry him she will forget that she had a 3rd daughter also .
My family want him to convert in chirstanity but I m ready to go and adopt his culture and religious things , but now as I told him that my mother is not allowing me to marry you so what I will do is I m ready to marry you because I Genuinely don’t have a connection with my mother since my father died . But now he is telling me that his mother will not allow for this marriage because she want both family to bo together. And from here I m very confused about what I will do …….
please help me .
Comment at https://interfaithshaadi.org/protestant-hindu-troubled-love-relationship/
Hi Nirmal,
When she is not able to adopt your culture and there may be so many issues that may come up, later on, making life of both of you, as hell.
Better separate from her and look for compatible and like minded girl as soul mate.
Married life is a long journey, with several ups and downs and so perfect understanding is needed.
Jhon made a great point “perfect understanding is needed.” Now spend some time educating her and take her out of wrong teachings from her church. If that does not work out, after a year, dump her.
Dear admin & john.
Thank you so much for you guys for the prompt respond towards to my issue, and emm,, lot of info’s i came to know about catholics, but just Reiterate that I have convinced her to marry her in a temple, and she agreed on it, and I’ve slowly educates her about what is our culture about how does it works and everything, and now she slowly tried to get out from the darkness which surrounds her all this while, actually I got a very respect towards her parents and cousins, but why the cousins involving in our personal and urging her to convince me to convert to Christianity why this peoples are motivated in such way and carrying immoral attitudes ?
Can I marry her without converting into? Feel like wana slaughtered them off, but am still in control till i get married with her, after all she agreed to move on her life with me, now the cousins making big havocs and interfering our issue, how to STOP them?
You are marrying to the girl and not to those cousins. Focus on the girl, educate her, that’s all.
Make it very very clear to her and her parents that your children will never ever be baptized, is that clear?
Do not plan to get married in their church, they will ask you to write one sided prenuptial agreement. Don’t.
Thanks admin, really appreciate. 🙂