Here an Indian media-celebrity Hindu girl got into relationship with a Muslim…….converted to Islam, …was beaten, …decided to end her life, ….but now recovered some what. It is a long story, but one that all women must read.
SD says: May 11, 2013 at 12:28 am 🙁 🙁 🙁
hiiii….I am SD I am a known face on TV and the modling world and so i will refrain myself from sharing my name.
I am a 34 year old Brahmin girl, living all alone in a rented flat in an Indian major city with my mother and a lhasa apso (for the world he is a dog but for me he is my spiritual son born out of my soul and thus he is the most important to me.).
My parents got divorced even before i was born. my dad never wanted me…he wanted a son and so he never met me, except 3-4 times during court sessions for alumni. i was brought up by my meternal grandparents in a hard core brahmin family. i began my sanskrit shiksha at home and was then sent to Bhakti Vedanta Gurukul in Bengal…where i studied the Vedas, upanishadhs and the shastra. I always followed a satvik life and stayed at bay from non-veg, drinks, smoking, onions, garlic and other tamsic food. As a kid, i learnt to respect every animal, insect and plant and the panch tatva. my family never bought anything made of leather! we follow SHIVISM and i am immensely in love with lord shiva…..he is my be all!!
7 years back i met a muslim guy, who was 6years younger to me and we fell in love. he was always religious but in the begaining he was tolerent n we both use to share things about our religion. he use to take me to temples and eventually after 1 year we got married as per HINDU rights in the presence of a pandit, my mentally not so stable mother and his three friends. from here began our story of physical involvement (he is the only man who i ever have been physically involved with n that to post marrying him before lord shiva).
Soon i realised that this marriage meant nothing to him and may be it was just a way to get me into his bed. though, he is genuine…he introduced me to his parents and i met his whole family. After 2-3months of marriage he began to force me to convert to islam. This was forbidden for me!!! The first shock that came my way was when he began taking me to marriages and parties. i could not eat anything….it was just beef, meat etc (oh my god!!!). I had never seen all of this. Second shock that struck me was that he wanted me to cover my head 24×7.
I soon became dependent on him for every little thing and did whatever he said. I began reading the quran. covering my head, used no make up etc. but i refused to eat meat and leave my satvik life style. my son (dog) is the most imp thing to me….more imp than me myself. I love him the way any mother would love his child. I realised soon he and his family wanted me to separate my son from me. I objected….coz I could never understand their theory despite reading the quran.
His father was angry that my son (my dog!) sleeps with me….n im so close to a dog coz as per quran dog is napaq. but i just cant understand this theory…since i all ready told you about how i was brought up. also, in shaivism…vedas…gurukul i learnt that animals, humans, plant every thing are eqaual in their own right. They all are made of the panch tatva and their center is a soul. Anyway, I put my foot down. he had problems with my profession. I am an anchor and model. However, despite my profession i always refrained from doing work that required me to expose or be in contact with a male….this came from my gurukul teachings. Despite doing extremely decent work he had problems with this profession and wanted me to give it up. Unfortunately, I know nothing but acting!!!!
We began having fights over religion. He would insult my religion, idols etc, even wearing a teeka would create issues. He began making faces every time i would even use a little bit of sanskrit. I thought of giving in and decided to convert……….for me my heart matters and that will always be ruled by lord shiva. I converted at the jama mazjid and tried every bit to make him happy but not sacrificing on my basics of satva guna, mother and goofy. Though I have always been a Hindu at heart….i am very tolerant and sensitive.
He knew my love for Lord Shiva and knew that i would die but will surely fas on shivratri. After conversion in 2010 this was my first shivratri. True to what he thought, I fasted. Since his parents were not aware of our Hindu marriage….we lived away but near by. Thus, he followed me on that day and the moment he saw me at a temple he thrashed me to death. From here began his beating. Now he would beat me every now and then.
I soon began feeling suffocated and one fine day in 2011 I told him that I cant act anymore and that im happy in my own religion. We had a huge fight….finally after a month he got back. But for 2 years my life became a living hell…..he would talk nothing but islam and tell me how people who do not follow the book will be punished etc. in Jan 2013 we had a huge fight as he came over to my house……and got mad at the puja me n my mom were performing. That day i had a computer engineer at my place to repair my computer and he insulted my religion left, right and center. i threw him out of the house b4 the computer eng and called his dad.
We broke up for 3months. And we got back in April 2013.
THE PROBLEM NOW IS THAT WITH INCREASING AGE IM NOT GETTING ANY WORK….MY FINANCIAL CONDITION IS EXTREMELY BAD. I HAVE NO SAVINGS. I LIVE IN A RENTED FLAT. I HAVE A MOTHER AND A SON (MY LHASA APSO) TO TK CARE OFF. HE IS AGAIN PUSHING ME TO CONVERT. THIS TIME PUSHING ME TO TAKE UP A JOB, REMOVE MY OM TATOO AND THROW AWAY GITA AND SHIV-LING. HIS BEHAVIOUR HAS CHANGED COMPLETELY……….HE DZNT GIVE ME TIME OR EVEN TALK TO ME. BUT HE IS OK MARRYING ME!!! I FEEL INSULTED AND NEGLECTED. I CAUGHT SOME DIRTY MSGS WITH A WOMAN ON HIS WHATS APP…..HE SAID IN 3 MONTHS HE JUST HAD A CASUAL CHAT. HE IS NOW GETTING PROPOSALS FOR MARRIAGE TOO. HE AND HIS FAMILY WANT ME TO CONVERT B4 WE GET MARRIED AND LEARN EVERYTHING AND PROOVE THEM THAT IV CONVERTED. AT TIMES HE SAYS THAT LETS LIVE THIS WAY WITHOUT MARRYING BUT YOU WILL NOT FOLLOW HINDUISM AND AFTER UR MOTHER AND SON ARE DEAD U WILL NOT FORCE ME TO STAY WITH YOU.
I STILL LOVE HIM ALOT, I HAVE NO FRIEND OR MALE FIGURE IN MY LIFE…….I DUNNO IF HE LEAVES ME HOW WILL I EVEN LIVE. WORK, AGE, MOM AND MY SON (12 YEARS OLD) ALL ARE A REASON FOR MY DIPPING CONFIDENCE AND INSECURITY. I CANNOT EVEN END THIS RELATION AND I CAN SEE HIM MARRYING ANYONE. I MYSELF CANNOT MARRY ANYONE.
BY THE WAY….JUST FOR YOUR INFO! IN A FIT OF ANGER I TOLD HIS PARENTS ABOUT OUR WEDDING AS PER HINDU RIGHTS. HE COMPLETELY DENIED AND WHEN I CONTACTED HIS FRIENDS THEY ALSO DENIED. I GAVE HIM ALL THE PICS AS I TRUSTED HIM BUT THAT WAS THE STUPIDEST THING THAT I DID. THE PANDIT AT HANUMAN MANDIR HAS GONE AWAY.
IM SO CONFUSED………AT TIMES I WANA END MY LIFE. IM HIGHLY SPIRITUAL AND ATTACHED TO MY RELIGION AND LORD SHIVA. NATURE AND ANIMALS ARE DEAR TO ME. I DUNNO WARE TO GO!!! WHAT TO DO???
IM ON ANTI DEPRESSANTS…..SINCE BEING UNABLE TO FOLLOW MY RELIGION FREELY IN EFFECTING ME ON A MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL LEVEL.
IF I LEAVE HIM, I WILL DIE IF HE MARRIES ELSEWHR AND WHAT WILL I DO WITHOUT HIM. HE IS THE ONLY MAN IN MY LIFE. IF I MARRY HIM I WILL BE SUFFOCATED AS HINDU-MUSLIM PHILOSOPHIES ARE OPPOSITE AND I GET AFRAID WHEN I SEE HIS FAMILY.
FEEL LIKE ENDING MY LIFE…..HELP!!!! PLZ HELP -SD
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Admin says:
Dear SD,
Today May 11, 2013 is a turning point of your life. Now we are your friends and your family. We will walk and talk with you.
There is nothing wrong with you, absolutely nothing! You are a very pretty and talented woman. You have a very bright future waiting for you. You have so much to gain in this life, so don’t be depressed. There are many Bollywood celebrities part of our Interfaith family and they will help you for your career. In addition, Lord Shiva will guide to enlightenment.
Only a small change you need to make in your life, and that is to kick that bastard out of your life. He is exploiting you. There is no way you will be able to make him happy, and there is no need for your to please him. He is your number one enemy in this World. Sooner or later, he is going to have 4 wives, so accept that as a reality of life. Read all that is recommended below and you will realize your mistake of being with him. So KICK HIM OUT TODAY, DO IT, JUST DO IT.
If any man does this, “he thrashed me to death. From here began his beating. Now he would beat me every now and then“, then the wife should not stay there for any additional second with him. Why? You should report to police immediately.
Lord Shiva has guide you to write at our site, now you have better days ahead. Lets talk more. -Admin
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SD says: May 13, 2013 at 4:24 pm 🙁
Hay guys! With the grace of Lord Shiva and support from you guys…iv decided to call it quits with this man.
I realised what I was n what iv become…iv become a crying ball of negative emotions, going down on my knees to please him. For what?
A man who can cheat me n chat dirty with another woman can always betray me in person too. I messaged him that “considering lord shiva as my witness I break all ties with you. I request u to neither call, msg me”. Although, he says he will continue to msg n call me….I seek guidence from Lord Shiva n assistance from you all to support me in being stronger.
If I won’t do it now…I won’t do it ever. Also,coming back to modeling and anchoring with my current condition may not be possible, as I’m nt lookin nice, am depressed, bad financial condition etc but for now I’ll get a job n kick start. In about. 2-4 months when I’m a lil better I’ll get back to work. I hope n pray that I can live by my decision. -SD
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Admin says:
Dear SD,
There should not be any sympathy for a man who wants to use a woman as a sex toy.
For him, you are just a free sex; he has no interest in what you are or your well-being. Further, he has no desires to keep you happy. Congratulations that you have decided to kick that bastard out of your life. We are sure all other women on this site will fully support you.
You have said it well that “I was n what iv become…iv become a crying ball of negative emotions, going down on my knees to please him. For what?” Agree; put an end to a dark chapter of your life.
He said, “Although, he says he will continue to msg n call me.” These types of men will keep harassing girls because of their sex need. He will start saying “he is sorry”, “he loves you”, “he did not he realized his mistake”, and what not. It is possible that he may even try to physically hurt you in anger, so be careful.
Please do this: Write him a formal letter telling him not to come near you, never write you a letter, e-mail or text or try to contact you any other ways unless requested by you. If he does not comply, you will contact police and file a harassment charges against you. Further, tell him to return all photos (including that Hindu wedding photos he still has) and other written communication between two of you. Send this letter by certified mail with return receipt as a proof that it reached to him and later also send him this message by e-mail, text and fax. Keep proof of all these communications.
You wrote, “I’m nt lookin nice, am depressed, bad financial condition etc”, don’t worry about all these small things in life. Understood that in show business, you have to look perfect. However, you have to remember that it could be worst, meaning you do not have a terminal brain cancer nor you lost both your eyes in an accident. Gandhiji and Mother Teresa were neither pretty nor rich, but they had vision. Trust yourself that you will be back to normal soon and further be the happiest person on this earth. Who cares if you are not most pretty or rich as far as you are happy? We love you the way you are!
You wrote, “I hope n pray that I can live by my decision”. SD, you will. Please keep in touch with our Interfaith Family here and we will guide you. Enjoy your freedom and liberty from this evil man. -Admin
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SD says: May 21, 2013 at 5:20 pm 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁
Dear all, again I’m in the same rutt….despite not wanting to be in it. I have been misrably alone since a while n have no friends as such. I ended up sending a “HI” to a guy who I was engaged to for 6months before I met this muslim man. My nana had selected this guy n it was an arranged engagement. 4 months after I got engaged, I came in contact with this muslim guy. Coming back to the present, I just wrote a hi n that’s all…I immidiately realised it was pointless being in touch with him.
Unfortunately, this muslim guy dropped in today n saw the “hi” and the response-”hi diya! Hw hv u been, indeed a pleseant surprise to hear from u, hope allz well at home n work”. Now after reading this th muslim guy began chating in my name. He wrote-”gr8! And say something”. The guy replied “nothing much diya, have been working hard, mom n sis r doing gr8…I wish u luck n a healthy life”. Now this muslim guy got after my life that how cud I sms my x fiance’…that I’m a cheat and a prostitute. Tho he forgot that he himself has been having sex chat with unknown females n mine wz just a “hi”, he took the conversation forward. I ended up crying, n trying to prove myself. Altho I knw iv done nothin wrong, I ended up pleading before him. He abused me the way no one can….I dunno, I was out of this rutt, y did I get into the begging mode. Do u think I made a mistake by sending a casual hi to someone I was engaged to? He ended up being the big one n I was just crying and begging for forgiveness. He ended up telling me that he will take revenge for this and he will forgive me at his pace. I dunno what was my mistake…whr was I wrong? Y I ended up being the sorry one. I cud nt breath, my heart was paing n I was like a psycho. I’m loosing my mental stability. I need to leave delhi asap. -SD
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SD says: May 21, 2013 at 5:34 pm 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁
Dear satyen, u r absolutely right n I myself don’t wish to be with him but dunno why I’m unable to pull my self out of this. I need more support from u n admin and all the others. I really wana move to another place. I know unless I leave this house, I will not be able to put an end to all my sufferings and all the communications with him. Even now he gives me immense mental trauma, I fear him so much, I cry n my body looses control on all organs. My heart pains, stomach churns, head aches, I can’t breath, eat, sleep or even work….if I ever got married to him, my life wud never see the day light. I’m over him, I just need some support and push from someone to pull my self out of it. Honestly, I want someone to love me….iv had enuf of a single, meaningless life.
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SD says: May 22, 2013 at 4:31 pm 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
Dear all, after days of being weak, crying and depressed…today seems to be a turning point in my life. Gathering the gutts to launch a complaint against him has ignited my confidence. Today I feel extremely light, and free. I went to the temple n experienced immense peace, joy n energy. I’m really thankful to Lord Shiva, interfaithshaadi.com, admin and satyen and all the others who stood by me in this bad phase. I learnt another lesson about unconditional support and the core concept of humanity. None of us know each other yet we have an unkown bond.
Though I’m out of this relation on all levels yet I need time to regain my strength and stand straight. I’m sure u all will hand hold me. N I’m soooo happy to be a part of this website. Now that my life has changed, I will continue to give support to those who need. I soon look forward to setteling down in my career n get financial stability, I’m eager to complete my mphil with flying colours and I look forward to a life where I will find my love with the grace of Lord Shiva. -SD
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SD says: July 1, 2013 at 7:02 pm 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
Dear Admin/Satyen and all others,
Today im leading a very happy and stable life………..im lucky things moved fast and in my favour. However, this would not have been possible without the support of interfaithshaadi and all of you……ESPECIALLY WITHOUT SATYEN BHAI, who has always been there and admin who has been truly kind. LOVE. -SD
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Dear Admin/Satyen and all others,
FIRSTLY!!! accept my heartfelt apologies for visiting interfaithshaadi.org after days! wz totally stuck up in work and other chores.
I WISH TO EXTEND MY HEART FELT APPRECIATION TO ADMIN, SATYEN BHAI AND TO ALL OTHER WHO STOOD BY ME AND HELPED ME COME OUT OFTHE MUCK I WAS IN.
today im leading a very happy and stable life………..im lucky things moved fast and in my favour. However, this would not have been possible without the support of interfaithshaadi and all of you……ESPECIALLY WITHOUT SATYEN BHAI, who has always been there and admin who has been truly kind.
LOVE
SD
Congratulation for “totally stuck up in work”. We are glad you found some work and your life is on track. Do not worry about us here, focus on your career and life. Please keep posting your progress once a while, thanks.
Dear S.D.
It’s your unshakable faith in the humane values and Lord Shiva that you could cross over the predicament in so a short span of time. So, all the credit of this newly found happy life goes to you. We all just pointed you the direction objectively but it’s you who walked on the bumpy and thorny road bare footed.
Learn from the mistakes and enlighten others. Hope to see you a light house for other misguided love lorn youths who will see the right path in the darkness of ignorance.
OM Namah Shivay!
Agree 100% that SD deserve all credits. We wish all other women learn from SD and take her as a role model for life.
Every one makes mistakes, but it is important to get over it. SD did a superb job and we wish her the best.
who are Brahmins?
http://m.topix.com/forum/world/india/T9F6G3K9N9UKICHQK
Dear SD,
Can you help Nirmala?
https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=1618
What should she do?
Dear admin,
hw are u? firstly, apologies as i could not visit the blog………..i was just in the process of giving interviews. anyways am back. am going thru nirmalas story and will advise her what is best for her. i hope god guides he towards truth and happiness. love -SD
We wish you the best for your interviews. Trust yourself, one day soon you will land a job. Do not dream big today, instead take one small step at a time in life. Accept the first reasonable job you land, and then keep looking for a better one later.
Dear all, after days of being weak, crying and depressed…today seems to be a turning point in my life. Gathering the gutts to launch a complaint against him has ignited my confidence. Today I feel extremely light, and free. I went to the temple n experienced immense peace, joy n energy. I’m really thankful to Lord Shiva, interfaithshaadi.com, admin and satyen and all the others who stood by me in this bad phase. I learnt another lesson about unconditional support and the core concept of humanity. None of us know each other yet we have an unkown bond.
Though I’m out of this relation on all levels yet I need time to regain my strength and stand straight. I’m sure u all will hand hold me. N I’m soooo happy to be a part of this website. Now that my life has changed, I will continue to give support to those who need. I soon look forward to setteling down in my career n get financial stability, I’m eager to complete my mphil with flying colours and I look forward to a life where I will find my love with the grace of Lord Shiva.
We would love to see now onwards, the new SD, bursting with confidence and exuberance with the blessings of the Lord Shiva.
Keep on moving forward with the same momentum and pace and inspire other women folk in similar miserable conditions. I would like to see the day when there would be none in a condition that you have passed through.
Again, be your own lamp to light up your path here and hereafter.
Dear SD,
Even based on the way you wrote over last two days verses today, we could see that your life has taken a complete turn.
**Now you are out of living hell and into heaven.
**Now you are released from a life-imprisonment.
**Your terminal cancer is completely cured!
**Now a blind got eye sight back.
**Now you are a free lady, go enjoy, celebrate, jump on streets, distribute sweets, go meet all long lost relatives and hug them.
**Now you are no more depressed person and never will be in this life; throw out those anti-depression medicines.
**Trust yourself and never let any one put you down.
**Now you got a brand new life, make yourself the happiest person on this earth.
Now priority in your life should be to:
1) Learn to take one step at a time (don’t dream big) and enjoy life at every step of it.
2) Find any job to make you financially stable enough to feed you. We are confident that slowly and slowly you will excel in anything that you will do.
3) Also go meet all your long lost family members. Go hug them. Don’t feel guilty of your mistakes in past. Even those relatives make a negative comment, ignore it and tell them with love and smile “it is better to be late than never”.
4) Never hate any one. Make GIG your best friend. This is Godly act.
5) Start taking care of your health. Start eating healthy food and do lots of exercise. We have seen your photos and videos, YOU ARE PRETTY, and yes, show to the world that today you are even more pretty (by mind!).
6) Now you are not looking for glory, fame or money, but you are looking for real happiness in life. Go touch others heart and bring happiness in their life.
7) Write a book and make a movie on your life!
8 ) Be a role model for suffering women.
Excellent advice by the Admin. I fully agree with his advice. It’s always better not to go for ‘Make or Break’ strategy. Instead, one should start with baby steps keeping the risks under control and fully prepared for the worst. Slowly but steadily progress could be made that wouldn’t give rise to undue stressful life.
Dear all, just an hour back I got an FIR against the man. Hope now he wud nt show his face, till we r in this house. To get back he has given me a notice to vacate the house in a month. Tho I hv no job, no work etc….yet I feel this is a turning point in my life. I finally gathered the gutts to file an FIR. May shivji show me th right path
Exercise all your legal rights, check with your lawyer friend what should you do for this eviction notice.
Dump him. You do not have any life with this guy. He is just out to ruin you.
Collect all strength, focus and start looking for a job, any job, any where, for any amount of money. Best wishes.
You did the right thing by lodging an FIR. From the messages, I can make out that you are stressed out and you need to divert your attention. I would recommend joining a meditation camp for couple of weeks. I am sure there are many available in Delhi or surrounding areas with little or no charges. I hope that will give you courage to face the current tough situation. Wish you good luck!!
SD, Tenali and many more are your friends here. Be courageous. Take one small step at a time, in the right direction. It will take time, but in next 3 years, you will be living a blissful life.
Great move with the blessings of Shivji. Just be brave and go ahead with courage like Lakshmibai (Jhansi ki Rani). All like minded people including the enlightened Muslim women at the interfaithshaadi family are with you in your struggle for justice. Don’t care about the followers of Muhammad disguised as intellectuals. They are here for an agenda to enslave women for protecting the ideology og Muhammad. They are trying to defend the losing war against the humanity.
Om Namah Shivay
Dear GIG,
You said on May 12, 2013 at 2:08 am below, “Admin, Why do you all have to publish false stories, what pleasure do you get by doing so. Even the replies to such posts seem bogus. May God guide you to the right path.“
Now even we talked to SD personally. She was a TV anchor lady in an Indian major metropolitan city and a very pretty model. If you wish, we could arrange for you to meet her. However her life is ruined today and needs help from Godly people.
In spite of all these facts in front of you, do you still think this is a bogus story?
You being a lady and a religious person, do you think one should help her or dump her?
If you get into the same situation a few years later, what treatment others should give you?
Does it matter what one humble person thinks about you. If you are maintaining such a varied site then such allegations shouldn’t matter to you. If you are true to yourselves and others that would be good for you only, it doesn’t make a difference to anyone else on the internet
We do not know what you are saying. We understood every thing else you said so far, but not here. Help us…
What would you say what SD do today? Do you trust her and her story?
If SD is depressed, what else way you expect her to write? That’s the way confused people write. In her last comment, she is in little better mental position and all of a sudden she started writing cohesively.
Do SD deserves our (yours) help?
Or should we dump SD at the mercy of her boy friend?
Is it okay for a guy to beat a lady, and you expect us to stay silent?
As a lady yourself, why you do not wish to help SD today? We hope you are not thinking that because she loves Lord Shiva, she should not be helped, is it? We are still waiting to see a few good words or guidance from you to SD. Hope to hear from you (to SD) soon, show us how God Is Great!
Dear satyen, u r absolutely right n I myself don’t wish to be with him but dunno why I’m unable to pull my self out of this. I need more support from u n admin and all the others. I really wana move to another place. I know unless I leave this house, I will not be able to put an end to all my sufferings and all the communications with him. Even now he gives me immense mental trauma, I fear him so much, I cry n my body looses control on all organs. My heart pains, stomach churns, head aches, I can’t breath, eat, sleep or even work….if I ever got married to him, my life wud never see the day light. I’m over him, I just need some support and push from someone to pull my self out of it. Honestly, I want someone to love me….iv had enuf of a single, meaningless life.
Yes, you have not tasted true love yet. What you have got is just the physical/mental exploitation to the hilt in the name of love! There is some body waithing to shower his love for you, just you have to find in this small global world! Go for it and all your well wishers at this site love you so much and wish you all the best. Probably, you will find your love sooner than later.
Om Namah Shivay
Keep life simple, please do:
1) Get rid of that guy and do it now. If he be physical or abuse you, call police
2) Get some paying job any where and any type. Keep busy. It is important to control your mind and slowly put your life on track.
Good life is waiting for you!
Dear SD,
I cn see ur posts and evrythng changing in 2 days …may 22 ,may 23
which is hardly impossible..either u have posted wrngly or ur acting fake ..
Go talk to a psychologist and they will tell you that a depressed person could have a big swing in their mood. It is likely that SD may have again bad days. That is why we recommended her to have low expectations and take one step at a time. If she could like up a good job, she will be in good shape. So, lets hope for her success and good mood for ever!
Dear all, again I’m in the same rutt….despite not wanting to be in it. I have been misrably alone since a while n have no friends as such. I ended up sending a “HI” to a guy who I was engaged to for 6months before I met this muslim man. My nana had selected this guy n it was an arranged engagement. 4 months after I got engaged, I came in contact with this muslim guy. Coming back to the present, I just wrote a hi n that’s all…I immidiately realised it was pointless being in touch with him.
Unfortunately, this muslim guy dropped in today n saw the “hi” and the response-“hi diya! Hw hv u been, indeed a pleseant surprise to hear from u, hope allz well at home n work”. Now after reading this th muslim guy began chating in my name. He wrote-“gr8! And say something”. The guy replied “nothing much diya, have been working hard, mom n sis r doing gr8…I wish u luck n a healthy life”. Now this muslim guy got after my life that how cud I sms my x fiance’…that I’m a cheat and a prostitute. Tho he forgot that he himself has been having sex chat with unknown females n mine wz just a “hi”, he took the conversation forward. I ended up crying, n trying to prove myself. Altho I knw iv done nothin wrong, I ended up pleading before him. He abused me the way no one can….I dunno, I was out of this rutt, y did I get into the begging mode. Do u think I made a mistake by sending a casual hi to someone I was engaged to? He ended up being the big one n I was just crying and begging for forgiveness. He ended up telling me that he will take revenge for this and he will forgive me at his pace. I dunno what was my mistake…whr was I wrong? Y I ended up being the sorry one. I cud nt breath, my heart was paing n I was like a psycho. I’m loosing my mental stability. I need to leave delhi asap.
It is possible that this guy may get physical in desperation. If he ever touches you, call police and send him to prison. Take care.
SD,
Yes, you can live with this guy if he can prove you he has changed for the better. IF he can go to the court with you and completet the legal formalities certifying that
1. He has been a Hindu before you met her for the first time and that’s why he posed to you as a Brahmin.
2.He was married with you according to the Hindu rituals
2. All the marriages (in case done) after this Hindu marriage were fake and stand null and void retroactively.
He is a deceitful person as is clear from his past. He is a Muslim and may marry and bring younger girls when you become older. Will you like to live with all his wives? Will you like your son learnig to kill animals, eating meat, hating Shiva and Gufi? Will you like your progenies to fight with the same Brahnmins later?
In case he doesn’t accept any of the above, quit him for ever and get a husband of your dreams who can love you son Gufi, can fast on Mahashivratri and is a vegetarian and an intellectual. Why not get the best instead of running after a fake one who has deceived you and could continue deceiving you in future? His value systems are different from you and hence though he would be doing the right thins from his perspective that will be always hurting to the core of your heart.
So, wake up now after losing so much without further waiting for the worse to come and snatch away everthing from you.
I am sure you will get a husband of your choice with compatibility with whom your life will be spontaneously flowing.
Wake up from deep slumber before it is too late.
Om Namah Shivay.
So is your religion.
Story is fake
Hi all, today I got a call from this guy n he said that he wishes to giv away my conversion certificate and also wants the rent fr the house wr I’m staying with my mother (this house belongs to an aunt of his who teaches in the same school whr his mother teaches). I went with my mother to his shop…but his shop is in a gali n so I had to park my car outside. Once I reached his shop I realised that he had nt gt the certificate. I gave him the money n wanted to leave but he wud nt let me go. Finally, I had to sit n listen to him. The same old crap that he loves me n wants to marry me but his dad dznt trust me n can never blv that I can convert to islam. He had to rush for his namaz n in about 20 mins I fled from there.
After meeting him, I realise all the more that I dun wish to be with him. Though I still have a soft corner for him yet I can’t see a life with him, he is a diff creature n I have no faith in him. I think from my end…the affection may take time to go away but something is dead. Something that binds u in a relation dznt exist any more. The sense of care, love etc have all become alian to me. Though, I still cried when I came back home. I am a bit confused….do I love him that I cry or I don’t love him at all coz deep inside my heart I don’t wana be with him. Anyways, I’m planing to take up work outside delhi. I am looking out fr work in places like haridwar, rishkesh, mussoorie…places that will let me lead an anonymous life, a life wich is peaceful, calm and closer to nature. I think I need to leave delhi….leaving delhi will help me in rejuvenating my sense. I need u all to suggest me….
You do not need that conversion certificate. Tell him to keep it, frame it, enjoy it.
As per Indian laws, your last “formally” announced religion is your legal religion. As of today, you are legally a Muslim. You simply need to do is to go to any Arya Samaj office and formally convert back to Hinduism, simple. Contact AnanaKumar if you wish to…. https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=1941&cpage=1#comment-31436
Hi all,
I have been getting regular msgs from this guy. he is claiming that he loves me and that he just wishes to be with me forever n will never even touch me.
i do not believe him at all. n my heart says going back to him will be the biggest mistake of my life.
suggest………….
Let us remind you what Abida wrote earlier, “By nature girls are innocent and emotional, whosoever respects them (even falsely), they get trapped. There are so many anti social elements in the society who are disguised as gentlemen but internally conspirator”.
We are not surprised at all that he is saying these words. He has sex needs and must have send text messages to all his several girl friends. If not you, someone will fulfill his needs.
If he really loves you, tell him to send you a certified notarized letter accepting full facts that you two got married in that temple and return those photos to you. If he does not want to do, he is nothing buy a lier.
You got to cut that umbilical cord and separate him from you for ever. As we said before, write him a certified letter never to write you. If he does, complain to police for stalking.
You got to start a new like. This is only possible if you dump him 100%.
Dear satyen! Om namah shivaye! Iv taken this step but like an addict I get spells of weakness….n at tht point I I try to concentrate on things other than how I feel. I’m sharing this with all th truth coz I’m at a stage where I can go weak in my knees…I thus, need support from enlightenend beings like you and admin. The road ahead is tuff. I know he is trying to get back, convince me etc….n somwhere my heart too will play games n try to convience me but I have to listen to my soul n mind. I just pray to shiv baba to hand hold me. Coz I really wana get out of this muck. I’m really looking forward to chating with you. Can you call me today….I’m home through out. Call me at your convenience. Maybe u can call me even at 7am indian time or whatever time suits u. Regards-SD
Dear SD,
You have not got anything from him other than pain and sufferings.
To all women reading this, would you marry a guy who……
*(a Muslim deceive and) got married as per HINDU rights
* this marriage meant nothing to him
*he began to force me to convert to islam
*shock that struck me was that he wanted me to cover my head 24×7
*used no make up etc.
*problems with this profession and wanted me to give it up.
*We began having fights over religion.
*He would insult my religion, idols etc,
*even wearing a teeka would create issues.
*I converted at the jama mazjid and tried every bit to make him happy
*he thrashed me to death. From here began his beating. Now he would beat me every now and then.
*We had a huge fight
*2 years my life became a living hell
*he would talk nothing but islam
*HE IS AGAIN PUSHING ME TO CONVERT
*I CAUGHT SOME DIRTY MSGS WITH A WOMAN ON HIS WHATS APP
* HE COMPLETELY DENIED (the marriage)
*I GAVE HIM ALL THE PICS (stole pictures)
WOULD ANY WOMAN WISHES TO MARRY THIS TYPE OF GUY????
Dear SD,
I am happy to know that you have taken the decision in your best interests that may undo the past mistakes committed by you and will bring fortunes again smiling to you. It’s all have been done with the blessings of Lord Shiva as only He is the protector of His devotees. So, I think there is nothing to be worried about as long as you have taken recourses of Him. Don’t deviate from his devotion just to please others, whosoever they may be. Your son (Lhasa Ipso)is your son in actual son as it is he due to whom you could separate from your predator desguised as your husband/lover. And finally, your satvik sanskars (vegetarianism and non-violence) are your true protectors.
Na devah dandmaday rakshanti pashupalvat,
Yantum rakshitumichhanti, budhyasamvibhajanti tum.
(Shanti Parva- Mahabharat)
(The gods don’t protect like a shepherd with a stick in his hand. On the contrary, they bestow right intellect to those who they want to protect)
Our mind is closer to our self, than this physical body. So, convincing the mind will do the magic not just the physical separation.
Lastly, protect yourself by your own self, don’t let it be dejected. You are both, your own friend and foe as well. (Shlok 5th, Chapt-6, The Geeta)
So be your friend and leave any signs of weakness behind.
I look forward to hearing you smiling and bursting with confidence and bliss.
Om Namah Shivay!
Dear Admin,
Thanx for your kind words that make me boost with energy and confidence……….i know its a up hill task n im going to face hell in getting over this relation but i know at the end of the day i will do it!!!
as for picture…..i have asked him several times but he says that he has destroyed all the pics as he was afraid that someone may get hold of it. i guess it is a wild goose chase…..he will never give me those pix.
anyways…..from today starts a new chapter in my life. i may be hurt tremendously but im not broken. anyone who is a devotee of lord shiva can never be broken……..this is his will n so i shall adhere by it.
Dear SD,
You said it will be hell getting over him (that love). Remember it was not love, it was nothing buy religious proselytism. His only interest was to make you a true Muslim, nothing more.
Any time you miss him, think of this “he saw me at a temple he thrashed me to death. From here began his beating. Now he would beat me every now and then.” Make several big letter copies of these words and post all over you flat. You will never miss him after reading this.
We are proud of you. We are confident that you will find some or other small work soon. Don’t worry about how much money they give you, but go out of home and work at least 40 hours/day/5 days for the type of work you like. Let your ego go. Now in your new life, you are not looking for name, fame or money, but happiness and a life with dignity. Keep in touch!
Hay guys! With the grace of Lord Shiva and support from you guys…iv decided to call it quits with this man. I realised what I was n what iv become…iv become a crying ball of negative emotions, going down on my knees to please him. For what? A man who can cheat me n chat dirty with another woman can always betray me in person too. I messaged him that “considering lord shiva as my witness I break all ties with you. I request u to neither call, msg me”. Although, he says he will continue to msg n call me….I seek guidence from Lord Shiva n assistance from you all to support me in being stronger. If I won’t do it now…I won’t do it ever. Also,coming back to modeling and anchoring with my current condition may not be possible, as I’m nt lookin nice, am depressed, bad financial condition etc but for now I’ll get a job n kick start. In about. 2-4 months when I’m a lil better I’ll get back to work. I hope n pray that I can live by my decision.
Dear admin. The marriage happened wen I did not convert. So that marriage is anyways not legal. As for legalities of convertion in jama masjid….well after that conversion iv also been out of country as a hindu. My passport, visas n documents all have a hindu name….I anyways consulted a lawyer friend of mine n he said that even if u converted to islam on papers n have been practicing hinduism n involved in murti puja u will be consided a kafir. Also the muslim society will out cast u. Well, being honest I am practicing only hinduism. I’m alian to islam completey n I have no will to even follow it in the least.
“The marriage happened when I did not convert.”
It was a marriage and if shows photos, that will prove it as be a legal marriage.
“As for legalities of convertion in jama masjid….”
This is a legal conversion to Islam. If you do not want this, you must formally convert to religion of your choice and document it.
Remember, you are still married. You need to get an official divorce.
All what you have written on this blog could serve as legal documents for or against you.
Dear sayten, thnx fr the kind n comforting words. I’m so delighted. I told admin to giv u my number. But I need to correct u here. He is nt my husband. That hindu marriage had no meaning fr him n he denied it too. Anyways, I’m looking forward to chat wth u. Regards-diya
Dear SD,
You said you do not have any proof or documented any where that you married to him as per Hindu ceremony. So you could not prove it in Indian courts.
Further, you said, “I converted at the Jams Mazjid”. The Mazid must keep legal document to prove it. So as per Indian laws, you are a Muslim. Now suppose you marry to a Hindu, your marriage could be null and void (read Indian Marriage Laws).
For these reasons, if you do not want to remain a Muslim, that you are today, you must go to Arya Samaj and formally convert back to Hinduism. Keep full proof of it. Further, you have said on this site that you have married to that Muslim guy, again after your new marriage to a Hindu guy, your former Muslim husband may come back to court (and media) that your new marriage to a Hindu should be null and void since you two are already married. For this reason, if you wish to, you must formally get divorce from that guy with a help of a lawyer.
Do not underestimate these legal issues.
ADMIn…correction needed. U said “the gig was a hindu n now a muslim”. That’s not true. I’m a hindu n will always be one.
GiG is another lady from
https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=5304
Readers, admin has deleted real identity of SD. If you saw her real identity disclosed earlier, do not share on the web, thank you for understanding.
We are here to help people, not hurt.
Dear god is gr8! Those who doubt themselves are the ones who doubt others. I do not wish to communicate wth u and with all the respect I would advice u to not get in touch with me or comment on my post. I dunt want suggestions from people who are zero themselves. As for authenticity, let the admin of this blog decide. He has all my details. Your having faith or not having faith means nothing to me. OM NAMAH SHIVAYE!
Dear SD,
There is always something to learn from others, so do not shut off any one.
This GIG lady was Hindu and now in relationships (or married) to a Muslim. Now she is a Muslim. That is her choice and we don’t have any problem with it.
And for those who think this is false….may visit my site http://www.XXXX
Note: Admin has deleted the identify of this person for privacy. In long run, it is not a good idea to disclose too much personal information with real contact information. We hope you understand.
Just providing a website of some model doesn’t prove its written by her itself. And if you really are as spiritual as you claim you would have found solace and wouldn’t have been sucidal. Plus if he is really so religious like you claim he wouldn’t have married you in the first place.
Every muslim knows the pre requisites before marrying someone.
Sorry I doubt the authenticity of this post because all of the problems are just post “marriage”. A real muslim would have explained to you the fundamentals of Islam and not just forced it upon you.
Admin – Please publish some realistic posts
Dear GIG,
We can’t believe your thinking and ideology.
Until now, we were with you, but in this case we can’t believe why will you not want to help a needy person? Is this the type of “God’s messages” you learned?
You idiots never change do you?
This is my story. I am XXXX (deleted by Admin) . This is not a false story. Sad that u people do not feel others pain. Anyways, shiva knows the truth. But this site has not published any false story.
Admin, thanx for what you have wrtiien. Iv tried to leave this guy so many times but it never happens. Iv now lost faith in myself.
Dear SD,
We fully trust you and we are with you. We have zero doubt for what you have said. You are a honest person. Have patience.
This is a public forum (or any other blogs like this). Do not get disturbed by what others say. You focus on your main goal and try to pick that work for you and ignore the rest.
You are a national celebrity and a very popular person. We have visited your web site and you are certainly VERY pretty and have accomplished a lot. Your fans love you!
NEVER disclose your identity and contact information to public, that could hurt you later.
Admin,
Why do you all have to publish false stories, what pleasure do you get by doing so. Even the replies to such posts seem bogus. May God guide you to the right path
Dear GIG,
Lets discuss this at a length. Why you think this is a fake story verses any other story on this web site?
Here if someone is begging for help, why will you not help?
What type of God you believe in that doubt needy people? True and honest people are not only live in Mosques, churches and mandirs, they are all over. Lets discuss more.
Hello SD
Foolish girls like you get trapped by muslim guys whose aim is just to have sexual pleasures.
Muslim guys are most intolerant, cruel and liar to trap the girls.SUch girls repent lateron. Lieing is permitting in the kuran to trap the girls and convert them.
It is a fact that 95% present population of muslims are from converted Hindu religion by force, cruelty and bloody war.
YOUR STORY SHOULD BE A LESSON TO OTHER GIRLS TO BE CAUTIOUS.
I AM TOO MUSLIM AND KNOW THE MENTALITY OF IMAMS AND MAULVIES.
Hi Admn.
This is a completely bogus and false story. I know the exact persons who has cooked this story.
In fact it was a story of sunni girl, whose incidents and texts have been changed and was in love with a Budhdhists boy.
There is no truth and hence no cognizance should be given.