Shama says: February 5, 2013 at 8:42 am
I am a muslim girl in Bangalore working there as a manager in a company. I am in love with my colleague who is a punjabi hindu. we have been in a live-in relationship from past 1 year. we are good friends and very open to each other. he is very sensitive and loyal and always take my care. Now he is ready to marry me. i also want to marry him so i called my parents one day and told them about our relationship. as my abbu is very educated i thought that he will agree but he asked me to come back to barely. But i denied him saying that i will marry my love only.
I asked him to marry as soon as possible. He then told me that his parents wants to see bride and then he asked me to convert in to hindu religion. i asked for 2 days to think about it. then i went to my friend who is a Muslim also. she asked me to read about hindu books like GITA and ramayana. i read these two books and understood them. But i had difficulty in disappointing my parents. so i again called my abbuu for giving me permission but he called me rebuked me and said bad words only.
Will my new family will accept me and my abbuu will forgive me as i am in love and this is not my fault? also what is the way to become complete hindu women so my in-laws dont get disappointed by me. -Shama
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zahid says: February 8, 2013 at 10:31 pm
Do not marry non-Muslims. If you marry you will not remain Muslim and will go to hell. – Zahid
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Satyen says: February 8, 2013 at 4:45 pm
Shama,
Take time and don’t be in rush. Go through all the postings at this site and acquaint yourself regarding Islam, specially about Muhammad and his marriages/wives. Also learn about Hinduism and their culture, festivals and the values. Once, you have enough information, talk to your parents regarding your marriage. One good thing in Hinduism is you are not likely to share your husband with other women as polygamy is not allowed. So, even if you remain a Muslim, never marry in Islamic way to protect yourself.
In a Hindu family, you can be well accepted depending how good or bad are the family members. Usually, they won’t care about your past religion if you can adopt Hindu way of life. One noticeable difference between Hinduism and Islam is you don’t have to follow the Hindu religious books strictly. The Hindus are in general very liberal community while in Islam you have many restrictions such as fasting for a month, wearing burqa, circumcision etc.-Satyen
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As per slam If you marry a idol worshiper you are not a muslim anymore. Hindu religion comes under Idol worshipers category. No matter hoe many Namaz you do or Roza fast you do, if you are not a muslim hell is the abode for eternity. You will never be out of 5he 🔥.
2nd you family would not accept and even after marriage they would not. If you think that some of the couples are accepted after love marriage , the reason would be the boy belongs to same muslim faith.
So, it’s better to stay away, it would be hard . But, not impossible if you take the after life and family reputation into consideration.
More than half of the interfaith marriages end within 5 years . Would he leave his religion? Ask him ,, his reply will be No . No matter how hard you try. But , he will want you to leave your parents, your religion your community and everything that is attached to you.
You don’t want to be the one to say.
Na Khudai rahi, Na MA Baap
Idhar ke rahe , Na Udhar ke.
I m hindu
…and?
People stupid .how they said we love each other if you love someone you don’t want convert his or her religion. If you say you’re parents said. That’s meaning your not adult your child
I dont want to go against hindus but being muslim i must say this if guy iz ready to convert to islam u can marry him.
but dont convert to any other religion. if u get converted u will go to hell which v dont want anyone to go to hell…
and I think hindus think ders no life after death(m not sure fr dis. sry if m wrng). but being muslim u must kno… as prophet said ‘ when u compare a sea/ocean with life. den drop of water is the earths life and whole sea/ocean is a life after death.
Hi,
I don’t know you can’t marry in other religion and respecting your faith if the boy’s family cannot accept you with religion then it’s of no use. I am Sikh but seriously and if I ever marry a girl who is Hindu or Muslim, I won’t wish her to change her religion because that religion she is practicing since birth.
Why are you even thinking marry that hindu guy and be happy!Trust me you will be happy
U luv him bs dats da thing.
U will b happy aftr mryng hm.
We al say god s n us it remains dr.if u keep ur partner hpy n at same time he keep u hpy fr life time if u luv s frever ..
Ofcourse dear u will go to heaven…..as dr is 1 god…n 1 hell n 1 heaven…
Its nt like hindu god hs its own hell n heavn.
Muslim god has its own n cristian hs dre own…nthng like dat…
Do wat ur heart says nt those stupid comments. .
Luv hm
Marry hm
Enjy ur life
Dnt cre abt any1
Society thy sucks
dear shama,, its something like..if hindu girl wants to marry a muslim,she has to convert right? y so? think about it once.. its just the same thing.. all of you tell me one thing. whats religion? every religion teaches us the humanity,peace,love… but when it comes to marriage every religion has their own rules and regulation… why??? should a girl/boy has to love the same religion girl??? love can happene with anytime with anyone??? does this love has any barrier?? every religion has good and bad people,, if a girl is loving a hindu guy … if he is too good,, then tell me whats wrong…??? get the hell out of this concept..after our death only these things will be counted.. are we loyal to our loved ones? are we really humble ? are we helping poor people?? that all my dear.. hmm if u/him worshipping allah /shiva??? whats wrong,,,???
Excellent message.
Unfortunately many of Christians, Jews and Muslims will be glad to be in love with a Hindu/Jain/Sikh, but when the time come for marriage, all of a sudden they start talking about conversion. If not at the marriage time, they will certainly insist on children’s religion only their religion.
This must change. Our message is “respect your love and dump the BBS practice” for interfaith marriage. Make senses?
i have seen this post one year ago, i belive this is fake post , no muslim girl ready to marry a non muslim if she marry a non muslim boy then she wont be a muslim anymore,
My only request is for muslim girls not to belive in such kind of posts and comments also, bcz thy them self only comment by changing names,
be aware
Akram,
It is possible that this may be a fake post, at the same token, it is also possible that this may be a true one. If you wish to help this Muslim girl and guide her to a true path, you will be better of assuming she is a (misguided?) Muslim girl. Give her practical justifications why she should not consider a non-Muslim boy. Tell her what she will get if she marry to a “true” Muslim man who literally follow Koran and Muhammad.
Hello Shama,
Have you decided to marry your BF?
If not take decision as early as possible.
Do not marry non muslims,if you marry you will not remain muslim and will go to hell .donot go the posts of hindus who use fake muslim names. Learn position of women in islam vist http://www.islam4women.org which is opened by muslim women vist http://www.muhammad.net to know about prophet muhammad vist http://www.muslimconverts.com there are some hindu women converted to islam they can tell you best about islam and hinduism vist http://www.usislam.org to go comparision of religions
Suzanne khan married a Hindu, Hritik roshan…she is leaving best of her life, Manoj bajpai also married a Muslim actress, she is super happy…ether u or ur Qur’an is lying.
Do not marry non muslims,if you marry you will not remain muslim and will go to hell .donot go the posts of hindus who use fake muslim names. Learn position of women in islam vist http://www.islam4women.org which is opened by muslim women vist http://www.muhammad.net to kn
Shama,
Take time and don’t be in rush. Go through all the postings at this site and acquaint yourself regarding Islam, specially about Muhammad and his marriages/wives. Also learn about Hinduism and their culture, festivals and the values. Once, you have enough information, talk to your parents regarding your marriage. One good thing in Hinduism is you are not likely to share your husband with other women as polygamy is not allowed. So, even if you remain a Muslim, never marry in Islamic way to protect yourself.
In a Hindu family, you can be well accepted depending how good or bad are the family members. Usually, they won’t care about your past religion if you can adopt Hindu way of life. One noticeable difference between Hinduism and Islam is you don’t have to follow the Hindu religious books strictly. The Hindus are in general very liberal community while in Islam you have many restrictions such as fasting for a month, wearing burqa, circumcision etc.
Shama,
If he loves you he will accept you in same religion.
neither you nor him have to change any religion. Marriage is just institutionalization, love is the main part.
and yes you have to put your heart out in front of your parents to get their support also. they gave birth to you and love you more than anything so have to take their permission but let them know your heart try more and more . i am sure you will succeed. take boy with you to respect your parents like his and ask their permission to marry you and show his love and respect towards you.
tc
I am a Muslim girl who is currently in a 9 years relationship with a Hindu boy.We both are working in consumer durable goods. His parents do not have a problem with him converting to Islam since his mother was a Muslim before marrying his father. However, my boyfriend do not want to convert to Islam because he is a strict Hindu. However, he is willing to have a Muslim wedding for my sake. I know it is not permissible to marry a non-Muslim. Also, I know I am wrong by entertaining such a relationship when I knew from the beginning such situation will/have arrived. I am of marriageable age and my parents expect him to convert to Islam and have a Muslim wedding. It is very difficult to break such a relationship and I know that seems like the only and best option. But, is it possible we could get married with him not accepting Islam? I am not in any position to question my religion but isn’t it wrong to convert someone when they are born into a particular religion for a reason. Isn’t it one God? Can you please advise me because I am very confused.
Reply to Khusboo at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4312
Shama!
I will firstly ask you to not to change your religon. I am a hindu guy. Just give it a thought again that “why religon comes in doing marriage”
It just need two humans. Please marry to him if you both love each other truly.
But before changing your religon give it a though again 🙂
Best of Luck.
I am a young Muslim girl and I am in love with a young Christian guy. I met him on the now removed website Mystery Google. I had put out a search for someone to email me, but only it wasn’t me. I assumed a pseudonym. The guy I am in love with was one of the people that replied back to my search. We began to email back and forth without him knowing my true identity. Our emails continued for several months, but he was still unaware of my deception. I had been deceiving him about my name, and family and friends. I was only honest when talking about myself. We began to date, though we never saw one another. We live far from one another. I never told him the truth about myself for fear of rejection. I lied to him for months.
We quickly became serious about each other, and fell deeply in love. We began discussing marriage. He wanted to spend his life with me, but it wasn’t really me he wanted to be with. The guilt and the lies were eating me up inside. I tried often to break things off with him, but I could not let go, and neither could he. I started losing sleep over my cruel actions toward him. I loved him so much, but I would not tell him the truth, until yesterday. Yesterday I confessed to him what I had been doing.
He said he is hurt, but he still loves me. He believes there are a lot worse things I could have done to him, and wants to give me a chance to show who I really am. Now that he knows everything, he is having a harder time trusting me, which is understandable considering I lied to him for so long, but he still loves me and wants to work this out.
Herein lays the problem, well the second problem after the trust issues that I so kindly gave to us. He and I are not of the same faith. He comes from a religious Christian background, and I from a religious Muslim background. We are in love. We are both unwilling to convert to the other’s religion, because our family would be lost. We are both unwilling to let the other go. I would not ask him to leave his family and join a faith he does not agree with. He would not ask the same of me. I do want to marry him, but I don’t know how that would be possible, unless he or I converted. I am aware that I cannot get married to him without the consent of my parents. My parents would not consent to a union between us if he was not of the same faith.
I don’t know how to make this all work out. I want it to very badly. I love him. I want to spend my life with him, but I can’t because of a religious divide. Is there any way that I could marry him? I need to know. I need to know all of the possibilities. I truly believe we were meant to be. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I would not object to a union of love so long as the Iman was strong. I ask for counsel. I don’t know what to do. I will not part ways with him. I can’t now. I love him. That won’t stop. I need to know if there is hope for us.
Thank you.
And yes, I know I have done wrong in lying to him. I don’t think it’s wrong however, to love him.
Seeking advice.
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4305
Shama,
Please take time to make up your mind, do not rush if you are in any doubt. Your parents also need time to understand your situation and know the other party better.
One cannot change your faith in a few days or by reading a few books. First, you have to know yourself. What Islam means to you? Do you believe in the Judgement Day? Do you believe in One Allah who cannot be expressed in many forms like Hindus do? Please read many posts written on this site and it will help make up your mind. Please keep us posted.