We are serious about our relationship and intend to get married. we are both secular minded and religion is not an issue for us. but he wants me to convert since his is a joint family and it would cause his parents immense discomfort to accept a hindu girl as their daughter in law, with so many relatives around all the time.
im prepared to convert as for me the only thing that matters is that we live together, but my parents are being completely unreasonable about it. ive always known my parents as pretty modern in their outlook and didnt think, i could have any trouble in convincing them about marrying a muslim. but things changed immediately when i informed them about my affair with this man. initially they said, he was too old for me. (he is 10 years older than me) and that i should complete my masters before getting married, but when i told them that, the family i was going to marry into wants a housewife and not an highly educated one and i was ready to start my life as a housewife, they completely freaked out. they tried convincing me to get out of this relationship and slowly i realised that the major issue over here is his religion and my conversion. i have tried explaining them that my boyfriend is a nice man and he doesnt even want me to convert. its only because of his family members that, i need to convert. but no amount of convincing has worked on my parents. i want my parents to be happ for us and support us. how do i convince them? -Priya
Admin says:
Priya,
You have reached to the right place. Here, you will learn step wise what is to be done. We will work with you over months.
Sorry your parents are being completely unreasonable. This must be hard on you and for your love.
Before blaming your parents as “unreasonable”, first find out what is the truth to their concerns. You told us two of their concerns are
1) “his religion” and
2) “my conversion”.
Convince them that these are not issues at all. Have a healthy and open discussion with your parents on each of their concerns. In a year, with facts, your parents will get convinced and will support you.
On the point “his religion”, what does your parents mean by it? Ask your parents for more specifics.
What does “his religion” mean to you? One day, you will have to raise your children in “his religion”, help your children recite Koran and take them to a mosque. To find truth, we recommend you to
1) Have you been to his home? Next, go spend about 6 hours in his house. See how women live there and see if that is a life-style you were always dreaming about,
2) read Koran and
3) go with him to his family mosque (not any other mosque) and feel out Islam first hand.
On the second point “my conversion”; first tell us if he “truly loves you”. Like Kareena (watch this video), tell him (just to test him) you will never convert? Like Saif Ali Khan, is he still going to accept you? Alternatively, is he going to dump you if you don’t convert? Convince your parents that he “true loves” you? Convince your parents that he is not a LOVE-JIHADI.
Tell us what “my conversion”, means to you? Does it mean:
1) you will do what they do in their Muslim home but when you are at your parents’ home, you will be just the same Hindu girl?
2) If your parents wish for a Hindu wedding, will he be okay with it? Alternatively, you cannot have a Hindu wedding because now you are a Muslim?
3) If your parents have planned a Satya Narayan Katha, will you and your children be able to participate in it? Will he join you?
4) On Diwali holiday, can you take your children to a mandir with your parents? Will your husband join you for the mandir trip?
Lets talk more after we hear from you. Best wishes.
One request, never disclose your full identity on ANY public forum. We have deleted your last name for your privacy. -Admin
Priya says: July 4, 2015 at 5:44 am
Dear Admin ,
We have been dating for about 5 months now. i had gone to a party at a friend’s place and on our way back our car had broken down. a friend of mine gave me a mechanic’s no. and i called him. this mechanic turned out to be a really good looking , Muslim fellow and he helped us a lot in reaching home in time ,that night. not only did he fix the car but he also drove me home. we kept in touch after that and used to chat a lot . in about a months time he proposed to me. i obviously said yes. as we became serious about our relationship , he made it clear to me that the only way this can work out is if i convert to Islam. this happened about two months ago.
Now coming to your questions :
how firm are your parents against your marriage to this guy?
well as of now , they dont seem to be in the mood to relent. they simply hate him because hes a Muslim and want me to be one.
What are their concerns marrying a Muslim?
their only concern is that me marrying a Muslim will make then loose face in front of our relatives. their misplaced sense of honour and pride is the biggest obstacle here.
If you do marry him by running away, what do you think they would do?
i think they would sever all ties with me.
If the need be, would you go against your father and mother?
yes i will. i love my parents but i am in a committed relationship now. its not at all reasonable to hate someone only because of his religion. i can’t take sides with my parents here. my boyfriend means the world to me now. i wont disappoint him. -Priya
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i dont know y hindus here are persuading this girl priya aka ayesha to not not marry her “love” of 5 months( love was based on his good looks as she herself writes)for such a long time. i feel after a certain amount of trying to talk sense in to these girls, we should let them do what they wanna do… afterall its their fate and destiny. if she gets used by these muslims( which i hope does not happen) for their goals, so be it….its her burden and she herself can carry it…
as far as my intuition tells me about this particular case, its a classic case of love jihad….this girl is meant to be doomed( good luck to her)..i feel such girls are very superficiAL and fall for any good looking guy who shows interest and can be easily fooled…i feel and know for sure hinduism is better off without such girls…
to priya/ ayesha,
sincere good wishes from my side on ur embarking on a family life and i hope u never have to come back to hinduism and i hope ur husband does not talaak u over a text message. and fyi, i am born to a hindu family but follow no religion whatsoever…in other words, i have no religion
Priya/Ayesha
Good priya very good so u could leave ur parents for that orthodox Muslim family. Those parents who have nourished u for a long time of more than 20 years. Let me tell u something u can fall in committed relationship for a short term of 6 months relationship and u can ignore ur 20 years long term relationship of ur parents just bcoz of a 6 months short term relationship. I wanna ask u 1 question.
Do u believe that this kind of relationship shall continue for a long term? Tell me?
Right now ur love seems to be successful just bcoz ur parents r nourishing u n ur bf also but when they close their door to both of u then who will have to fight. Now did u understand y most of d interfaith marriage can’t succeed? after divorce what else will u do. U will commit suicide.
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Just you are going to jump in the hell of fire of Islam. You are at present blind of love but will realise very soon after the marriage. This is a typical case of Love Jihad.Of course you will be victim of TALAK and then remember your parents decision.Otherwise you will live a slave life. If your B/F loves you so much why he is not ready to convert in his fore fathers religion of Hinduism. In all such cases Muslim boys act as very very good and obedient lover but things become absolutely different after marriage. Now decision is yours.
If your parents are not reasonable enough to let you convert , then what about his parents reason ability by not allowing him to convert. Love makes Hindu girls the victim of leading a slave’s life. Don’t play with your life. Take time for re assessment . Think 10 times before taking a such decision.
you are mad, he is not secular just projecting himself to be secular. if he is really secular why not let him cinvert to himduism????
Dear priya….
jazbaat k faislay…n khushi may vaada…kabhi nahi lrna chahye…
Admin……….admin…….adminn………
dnt b mean….b a man n b honest wth ua desgntn…..b polite n same.dnt b duble stndrd
Dear Priya, you said, “im converting is because i wanna be with my boyfriend. there is nothing more to it.”
This is interesting. Lets assume (just a hypothetical question) you got talaak from this marriage and your parents accepted you back hole heartedly, would you still continue to be Ayesha and a Muslim or you would be back as a Hindu Priya that you are today?
i dont think my boy friend will ever divorce me , but god forbid if that should happen , i wont go back to my parents. ill figure something out. whether ill remain a muslim or not , is something i cant say now with certainty.
Dear Priya,
How any ones life take turns and twists is difficult to predict but one must think of all potential issues and be prepared for it. We urge you to complete your masters now. This will give you strength because you know you have capacity to get a good job, if necessary. This will be good for your family and children. Mac’s mother is an Engineer and working now in government so Mac could have better quality of life today. Why not you will also wish better life for your children?
Another request is not to fake-convert (view this video). Take time to understand Islam and his family completely before jumping into it. Take one year to educate yourself and meantime complete your degree. Then get married in May 2015 (even against your parents wishes!). Best wishes.
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Hello
i had recently joined my boyfriend’s family during eid and got a good understanding of how my life’s gonna be post marriage. not only was i greeted warmly but i was allowed to take part in preparing the delicacies with the other women of the house. i bonded well with my would be mother in law and sisters in law. as a matter of fact my mom in law introduced me to some guests as Ayesha , as if i was already part of their life.the male members of the family actually prised my cooking skills even though i wasnt that good since this was the first time i was cooking non veg food. my boyfriend doesnt come from a family of divorces and neither do i. our love is real and i wont ever disobey him or any of his family members. so i feel really secure about our relationship now.
Regards
Priya
Its very gud to hear you are coming near to the truth . .
my advice is learn islam before convert. . dont convert for ur love sake …convert by ur heart. . .
dear admin
i totally appreciate your concern. truth be told , prior to meeting my bf even i used to think of getting a job and having a career but now that i in a relationship , i wanna focus all my energies into becoming an ideal houswife in his muslim family. i wanna be one of them and if i complete my masters ill be the most educated in his family causing them unnecessary embarrassment. i dont want that to happen. seeing his family i have realised that the best job in this world is that of a homemajer
homemaker because she takes care of the entire family and keeps everybody happy by sacrificing her small luxuries. i have decided to be that homemaker like my would be mom and sis in laws. my bfs family is everything to me now and i got no time for masters or anything else.
regards
priya
Priya,
This is great that you meet his family and they are nice people, best wishes.
We are here to make you think that you probably did not, that’s all. After all it is your life. There are many points one need to clarify for any marriage; like 1) new people at face value, 2) religions, 3) your parents, and 4) money. We are glad #1 looks good. Now focus on others.
Now focus on #2. Remember, they love Ayesha, and hates Priya. They love someone that you are not today (Ayesha). On this line, Muhammed gave excellent advice to make fully informed decision before converting to Islam. After you get married to this guy, you are closing your doors for your parents/relatives/Hindu friends. You do not have any chance of returning back and your life will be totally ruined if Islam is not what you thought. So first learn Islam. Muslims believe Koran is 100% truth, do you? We read Koran (read here) and found many statements that cannot be from Allah. You explain to us how come God wants you to do all these brutality to others (like your parents)? Are you ready to teach these verses to your children every day?
For #3, now you are ready to dump your birth parents and going for a new set of parents. Any married person will tell you that premarital “love” will fade away in 6 months into married life. For this reason, lets now focus on your parents. Tell us how was your childhood? Did your parents raise you with love and affection? Did they abuse you or beat you irrationally? Is there any reason you will consider them as “bad” parents? Lets talk more after we understand your relationship to your birth parents.
For #4, we highly recommend you to complete your Masters education now (even you do not plan to use it). If after marriage, if you found out that his car mechanic job is not enough for your children (or you get talaak after children), you could always find a job to support your family. Why are you in rush to get married? Are you missing out on sensual pleasure? Is he pressuring you?
There is one puzzling point for us. He is 10 years older (meaning you are 20-something and he is 30). Considering he is handsome, making money for some 10 years, coming from a wealthy family, etc., then why he is not married so far? Like he did to you, he must have given out his phone numbers to 100 other Hindu girls while fixing their cars. Generally, Muslims marry at an early age. Check out if he is a divorcee. When you meet his family next, try to find out why he did not marry all these years. We are concerned, so get back to us with more information (especially on Koran).
admin.. .
you are acting like smart ah !! why you are not asking like this question to muslim girls who wants to convert from religion.. and you didnt have even make a new post for priya sister . . if same muslim girl will say you immediately make a new post to it. . .
and i will give allegation for you statement
#1. Remember, they love Ayesha, and hates Priya. They love someone that you are not today (Ayesha).. //
Read the above comment properly…no where she says they hates the name priya…for introduce relatives they say the name ayesha.. thats it
#2 Muslims believe Koran is 100% truth, do you?We read Koran (read here)and found many statements that cannot be from Allah //
what u hav given in that link are found illogical or out of context. . my advice is to priya sister read whole quran from the book not from this out of context statements then you will understand many statement are found that admin is claiming is not word of Allah or not..
#3 , now you are ready to dump your birth parents and going for a new set of parents.Any married person will tell you that premarital “love” will fade away in 6 months into married life. For this reason, lets now focus on your parents. Tell us how was your childhood? Did your parents raise you with love and affection? Did they abuse you or beat you irrationally? Is there any reason you will consider them as “bad” parents? Lets talk more after we understand your relationship to your birth parents. //
why you are not asking like this same question to the muslim girls?
// Like he did to you, he must have given out hisphone numbers to 100 other Hindu girls while fixing their cars//
so do you think that hindu guys like kuwar didnt give their phone number to 100 girls…why u are not asking like this questions to them.?
do u think her love will be fake? and all other trapping guys are real
Dear Priya,
We requested you to “Have you been to his home? Next, go spend about 6 hours in his house. See how women live there and see if that is a life-style you were always dreaming about” and “go with him to his family mosque (not any other mosque) and feel out Islam first hand” to know Islam well. You said you only meet his mother and sister-in-law. Now go met his father and brother. Also go visit his mosque with the family during this holidays. We are sure his family will be excited to educate you about Islam. Let us know your first experience, thanks.
Priya,
BE AWARE OF THE CRIMINAL LAWS OF ALLAH. YOU MAY BE LANDING IN A DEEP TROUBLE TO REPENT WHOLE LIFE.
1. Killing, murder, slaughter of all infidels that have not converted to Islam.
2. Killing, murder, slaughter of all apostates of Islam.
3. Islam orders death for Muslims and possible death for non-Muslim critics of Muhammad and the Quran and even sharia itself.
4. Muslims deserve death for doing any of the following (Reliance of the Traveler pp. 597—98, o8.7): (1) Reviling Allah or his Messenger; (2) being sarcastic about ‘Allah’s name, His command, His interdiction, His promise, or His threat’; (3) denying any verse of the Quran or ‘anything which by scholarly consensus belongs to it, or to add a verse that does not belong to it’; (4) holding that ‘any of Allah’s messengers or prophets are liars, or to deny their being sent’; (5) reviling the religion of Islam; (6) being sarcastic about any ruling of the Sacred Law; (7) denying that Allah intended ‘the Prophet’s message . . . to be the religion followed by the entire world.’
5. Islam allows the ownership of slaves – it is a law of ALLAH.
6.ALLAH permits the raping of female slaves. Indeed in Islam – rape is not a sexual weapon – it is a weapon of war. Having murdered the woman’s man, Muslims can now – sanctioned by the law of ALLAH complete their final humiliation and domination of her body.
7.ALLAH sanctions the seizing, looting and pillaging of property of murdered infidels.
8. ALLAH demands a share of the proceeds realized from the sale of women and children and looted property. It is the law of ALLAH.
9. ALLAH condemns most Muslim women upon their death to the fires of hell.
10. The ALLAH depicted in the Koran is no ordinary god. He is the greatest slut master of the entire universe. ALLAH has created a deviant sexual paradise filled with virgins with big breasts and lustrous eyes. These virgins re- generate as virgins every time a believer has sex with them. These righteous Muslim killers and murderers of ALLAH are blessed with eternal erections. They are permitted by ALLAH to engage in all forms of orgies, group sex, and sexual depravity.
11. ALLAH permits the following crimes to be committed in His name and greater glory. (1) Women and children are enslaved. They can either be sold, or the Muslims may ‘marry’ the women, since their marriages are automatically annulled upon their capture. (2) Muslims may have sex with slave women. Ali, Muhammad’s cousin and son—in—law, did this. (3) Women and children must not be killed during war, unless this happens in a nighttime raid when visibility was low. Not as an act of mercy but as a commercial decision. They are money and sex on the hoof. (4) Old men and monks could be killed. (5) A captured enemy of war could be killed, enslaved, ransomed for money or an exchange, freely released, or beaten. One time Muhammad even tortured a citizen of the city of Khaybar in order to extract information about where the wealth of the city was hidden. (6) Enemy men who converted could keep their property and small children. This law is so excessive that it amounts to forced conversion. Only the strongest of the strong could resist this coercion and remain a non—Muslim. (7) Civilian property may be confiscated. (8) Civilian homes may be destroyed. (9) Civilian fruit trees may be destroyed. (10) Pagan Arabs had to convert or die. This does not allow for the freedom of religion or conscience. (11) People of the Book (Jews and Christians) had three options (Sura 9:29): fight and die; convert and pay a forced ‘charity’ or zakat tax; or keep their Biblical faith and pay a jizya or poll tax. The last two options mean that this immoral money flows into the Islamic treasury, to fund Muhammad’s jihadist army so why would Muhammad receive a revelation from God to dry up this money flow?
12. ALLAH rewards suicide bombers and other killers and murderers Islamic martyrdom which guarantees Paradise to those who “kill and are killed” for Allah.
13. All unbelievers are to be sentenced to Hell for all eternity.
14. Murder is only wrong if the victim is a fellow Muslim.
15. ALLAH teaches that women are fields to be used by men as they will.
16. ALLAH teaches that women are worth one half of a man.
17. ALLAH sanctions men to beat their disobedient wives.
18. ALLAH does not allow Muslims to be friends with the infidels.
19. ALLAH sanctions that Muslims must disown family members who reject Islam.
20. Thieves have their hands cut off.
21. ALLAH ordered that prisoners of war must be killed until all Arabia was conquered for Islam.
Dear Ayesha,
Regarding your Point No 10, it seems that heaven is nothing but bloody brothel…How can religion give this picture of heaven?
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Dear Priya,
Seeing your condition I can remember one of my cousin’s situation long back when she had also become like you completely behaving in a different way altogether. She was in love with a person of another faith. She would often cut her veins, cry and locked herself in a closed door. Suddenly she became a completely different person. She threatened the family members to completely scrap all relations if not married to her choice (his would be husband was not having a regular income even). Later on we had to surrender and now she is happy and the boy is also good. The only difference with you is- he was a Punjabi-Sikh. At that times I was against her choice but now after your story I feel God has really been kind. Atleast the boy was not Muslim but a Punjabi-Sikh, who also celebrates all Hindu Festivals too apart from the festivals of Sikhs. I thank GOD today, but really shiver to think if the case would have anything else? what would have happened?…..
Dear Priya,
Although I know it is futile to give advise to you but still just follow this link: http://www.spiritualresearchfoundation.org/
You can learn many things if you wish to.
Thanks
Interfaith marriage with equality is possible with Hindu-Sikh. With Muslims, there is only one God and that is as described in Koran, thus they will want no equality (100%-0%).
Priya, what is going to be your Muslim name (Priya name will be a history!)?
Marriages are never equal to start with. even if my boyfriend was a hindu , id still have to go to his place after marriage and take his surname.the only difference in this case is that , ill take a completely new name. my boyfriend has always been very honest and supportive of me. we have decided to change my name to Ayesha post conversion.But what i wish is that people understand that the only reason im converting is because i wanna be with my boyfriend. there is nothing more to it. my boyfriend’s got no ill feelings about hinduism and he totally respects me. im converting because its his family that im to be part of wants me to be one of them . i dont wanna loose the love of my life because of religion.what i see here is that people spew venom at each other in the name of God. religion is supposed to make one a better human being. going by most of the comments here , that doesnt seem to be happening.
Dear Priya,
Since you have made up your mind to convert and marry you BF, I will not make any religious comment. But since you are still now a Hindu, I would like to give some important advise to you, which you can utilize in case you want. Just open http://www.astrosage.com Prapare your natal chart, which is very easy to prepare. Now, there are 12 houses in horoscope, look at the first house (top house) see what number it is denoting. Example…if it is showing No1 then -Aries Rashi, no-2 then Taurus (Brishav Rashi), No-3 then Gemini (Mithun Rashi), No4 then cancer , No-5 then Leo, No-6 then Virgo, No-7 then Libra, No-8 then Scorpio, No-9 then Saggitarus, N-10 then Capricorn, No-11 the Aqurious No-12 then Pieces. For marriage house 7 is important it denotes spouse or marriage. Now if your first house is showing No-7, that means your lagna is Libra, and your 7th house (opposite ti first house)i.e the house of spouse is Rashi-1 (Aries). Look where the lord of Aries (lord of 7th house) is sitting. If it is Bad houses, then you may face problems in marraige (irrespective of religion), also if Venus is conjunct (joined) with Rahu in any house, it may create problem in married life. As whenever this combination will move to house No12 in annual chart (Varshphal Chart) there will be 100% chances of divorce, if not Saturn is not in 3rd house (according to Lal KItab). You can generate 40 pages free report from astrosage.com Also there is a combination which you can see. There are three Ganas…Dev Gana, Manushya Gana, & Rakshash Gana…..
1) Dev+Dev=Good
2) Dev+Manushya=Excellent
3) Dev+Rakshash=Average
1) Rakshash+Dev= Mentioned above
2) R+R=Good
3) R+Manushya= Very Bad,Should be avoided at any cost
1) Manushya+Dev=Excellent
2) M+R=V.Bad
3) M+M=Average or Good
You can find out the chart of yours and your spouse and self-calculate. There are other compatibility match like Yonimatching, Guna Matching that is complex which you may not understand. Also see what Mahadasha and Antardasha your are running…Normally under Venus Dasha or Antardasha one is married….
Hope this info will be useful…
Priya,
Please use this web site to your advantage by taking that is relevant and ignore the rest. People will tell you all kinds of things from all directions. Good thing is no one knows Priya (a common Hindu name) nor they know if you are from Australia or Zimbabwe. So, use this forum to help you make fully “informed” decision without getting emotional.
Remember, Hindu-Muslim marriage is like walking on fire, don’t get burned! Talaak after marriage will be even more painful. Breaking your love now will also leave a big scar on you. So, collect all facts over a year and then decide and do that is right for YOU.
We are puzzled for one point. Tell us how long (months) you have been dating? Further, tell us when did he tell you that you would have to change your religion (months before from now)? How/where (do not cite city/town for privacy) did you met him (considering 10 years older)?
Every one’s situation is different, no two cases are same. About yours, how firm are your parents against your marriage to this guy? What are their concerns marrying a Muslim? If you do marry him by running away, what do you think they would do? If the need be, would you go against your father and mother?
Dear Admin ,
We have been dating for about 5 months now. i had gone to a party at a friend’s place and on our way back our car had broken down. a friend of mine gave me a mechanic’s no. and i called him. this mechanic turned out to be a really good looking , Muslim fellow and he helped us a lot in reaching home in time ,that night. not only did he fix the car but he also drove me home. we kept in touch after that and used to chat a lot . in about a months time he proposed to me. i obviously said yes. as we became serious about our relationship , he made it clear to me that the only way this can work out is if i convert to Islam. this happened about two months ago.
Now coming to your questions :
how firm are your parents against your marriage to this guy?
well as of now , they dont seem to be in the mood to relent. they simply hate him because hes a Muslim and want me to be one.
What are their concerns marrying a Muslim?
their only concern is that me marrying a Muslim will make then loose face in front of our relatives. their misplaced sense of honour and pride is the biggest obstacle here.
If you do marry him by running away, what do you think they would do?
i think they would sever all ties with me.
If the need be, would you go against your father and mother?
yes i will. i love my parents but i am in a committed relationship now. its not at all reasonable to hate someone only because of his religion. i can’t take sides with my parents here. my boyfriend means the world to me now. i wont disappoint him.
Priya,
So he is a car mechanic. What is his total education? We know you are doing your master’s degree.
Above question is critical because in long married life, the love will wash away in 6 months. Go and ask any married person (love or arranged) if their life is still running by their original love. Married life runs on intellectual compatibility and common values. Can he support your family and children? Do you know how much it cost to raise children and their education? If you have to live by yourself (away from his family), can he support your rental flat or a house? We HIGHLY recommend you to finish your master’s degree. Two years down in your married life, if you need more money than his mechanic job, you could always find a highly paid job with your master’s degree. Bottom line, complete your education before marriage. Remember, this is the same advise we would have given even he was your type Hindu, this point has no religious bearing.
You said you will run away from parents if necessary and parents will cut all ties with you. OK, so you will be done with your parents (a history). Now tell us where will you go if you go if you get a talaak in the middle of a cold night (read)? Is there any friend or old relative you think of – who will support you by keeping in their house for 3-4 years and give you money to run you life? Again, after talaak, if you have master’s degree you could find a job easily. Divorce rates a high in interfaith marriage and things happen. So tell us what is your back up plan?
well my boyfriend’s family has their own garage. i dont know how much they make but they have their own house . my boy friend has done his graduation. as of completing my masters , i dont think it will be of any use because i shall be a housewife and women in his family dont work outside their houses. im not in a position to wait for two years before getting married. as of my back up plan , i dont have any right now. but i dont come from a family of devorces and nor does my loved one.
Priya,
You have not seen divorces because 1) they were mostly within-faith marriages 2) arrange marriages and 3) old timers. Now divorce rates are ever increasing, even in within faith marriages but especially in interfaith marriages. Read all Hindu-Muslim marriage examples in suggested article above. We HIGHLY recommend to not to burn bridges behind you. Take little time to convince your parents. You will surely need them. Be selfish!
Dear Priya, see the hypocrisy of admin here, if you were a muslim girl, his advise would have been totally different, you search in this website and notice admin`s advise to hindu girl and to muslim girl and how it differs, incase of muslim girls, he wants them to marry hindu boy by any means..his reply to them will be positive, but when it comes to hindu girls, suddenly admin brings negative aspects of life, instead of being an admin, he becomes hindu then. Again, telling you, click here and read Admin`s advise to the couple who stand in opposite situation of yours.
Dear Mac
Admin has a point when he says i should have a plan B in place. He’s simply asking me to complete my masters before getting married. while i dont think that will be possible , ill definitely try to convince my parents to let me marry my love. im definitely getting converted and married in sometime. all i want is my parents’ blessings.
Priya, i didn`t question admin`s point, Admin should provide you the many aspects of marriage especially interfaith marriage, that is why he created this website, but i am pointing to his intent, he suddenly changes when he see hindu girl in relationship with muslim boy, interestingly he never advised any muslim girl about plan B or C, as far as i can recall.
Dear Admin,
Yes i have been to my Boyfriends place and have met his Mom and sister in laws. i have actually grown pretty fond of them and feel at home around them. they are nice people and will definitely accept me if i become Muslim. they are housewives and seem to lead a comfortable life. though i never thought of being a housewife and always wanted to have a career but seeing my bf’s family made me realise that i was destined to be the daughter in law of this household. i havent met my boyfriend’s father and brothers though.
As of the Saif Kareena example you pointed out,it isnt my boy friend but his family that wants me to convert. hell eventually have to dump me if i dont convert because even though he loves me , he cant go against his family. in our society , its the girl who goes to the in laws house and not the guy. we cannot change that .how can i ask him to turn against his family just for my sake. im not that selfish.
Now coming to your questions:
1) you will do what they do in their Muslim home but when you are at your parents’ home, you will be just the same Hindu girl?
2) If your parents wish for a Hindu wedding, will he be okay with it? Alternatively, you cannot have a Hindu wedding because now you are a Muslim?
3) If your parents have planned a Satya Narayan Katha, will you and your children be able to participate in it? Will he join you?
4) On Diwali holiday, can you take your children to a mandir with your parents? Will your husband join you for the mandir trip?
Here are my answers :
1) when i shall be at my parents place , i shal still be muslim. yes i would definitely not object in any of their rituals but would not participate in them without consulting my husband.
2)we wont be able to have a hindu wedding or else there would be no wedding at all. his family just wants a small nikah ceremony , thats all. if im to marry him ill have to leave all my hindu rituals.
3)i can definitely be present during the Katha but wont be allowed to participate in it.
4) no, a mandir is out of question for me or my children after marriage.
Dear sister Priya, if you can get answer for this 5 questions, it will be easy for you to switch over to Islam from Hinduism.
Qn. 1 :- Do you support Rape, Do you believe Rape is a Holy act?
Your Ans :- Yes/No
Qn. 2 :- Do you believe a woman is born sinful,lower-grade? Do you believe you are born fro sinful wombs.
Your Ans :- Yes/No
Qn. 3 :- Do you believe Dog=Women(you) ?
Your Ans :- Yes/No
Qn. 4 :- Do you believe women are idiot ?
Your Ans :- Yes/No
Qn. 5 :- Do you believe the incident of a mother giving to female child birth is bad,unfortunate?
Your Ans :- Yes/No
My answer is
Ans no 1 : NO
Ans no 2 : NO
Ans no 3 : NO
Ans no 4 : NO
Ans no 5 : NO
I am waiting for your answer..
i dont believe in any of the things you just said . but truth be told i dont understand the context here. this is a not religious war but my personal life. every religion has its up and downsides.
Priya, great point “this is a not religious war but my personal life. every religion has its up and downsides.” 🙂 🙂 Mac wants every one to convert to Islam and today!
Learn more on mac and Haque here.
Dear sister Priya, Learn more on Mac and his family from admin and his gang. Click Here
Yes every religion has its good or evil. But actually some fools have interpreted Hinduism in different light, without going into its depth, and thus improperly interpreted. Yes offcourse earlier some corrupt preist (brahmins) who had the knowledge of vedas manipulated it in order to suit their political needs. I just want to say that in Hinduism you even do not need worship idols, you can remove all idols from your home, if you just worship your parents or Guru everyday, automatically you will be worshipping God.
“Gurur-Brahmaa Gurur-Vissnnur-Gururdevo Maheshvarah |
Gurure[-I]va Param Brahma Tasmai Shrii-Gurave Namah” ||1||
Remember ” All that glitters is NOT GOLD”…the newly founded religions have many flaws in them because they were made-made religions, you can search on google. But worlds some of the reknowned persons had prasied Hinduism, were they fools?. Anyway, this matter is purely personal. But think 1000 times before you take any drastic decisions, and keep in mind:
1) you will have to sacrifice your GOTRA (Lineage) and can attract the curse of the sage who is the first ansector, like if you are Kashyap Gotra..you are from Kashyap Muni lineage
2) You may attract the invisible curse of your parents or Guru, which may not be good for you and your children in future.
3) Often these kinds of situation puts a person on test, testing how strong you are, and if you are not deluded, and remain firm, it may happen that you find a more suitable match in future 1000times better and also acceptable to your parents later.
4) Just ask two questions to your would be hubby: a) if you have a male child, when he grows up and wants to marry a hindu girl, what would be his stand? b) if you have a girl child and if she wants to marry a hindu boy what would be his stand? I think his answer will show you some light and help you to take decision
Rest in God’s hand. No body can alter your destiny. I wish a happy life for you. Thanx
TAKE THIS SCENERIO : TWO MAN (A & B)SIGHT A VERY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN.
A SAYS ” SHE IS SO BEAUTIFUL”, AND B – SAYS “WOW SOOOO BEAUTIFUL UUF”,..NOW ANALYSING SITUATION ….A -REFLECTS AWE OR RESPECT , WHERAS B -REFLECTS LUST OR PASSION TO POSSESS HER. SAME WITH BHAGVAT GEETA, SOME KNOWS ITS DEPTH AND THEREFORE ARE NOT DELUDED, AND SOME PEOPLE SPECIALLY MLECCHAS OR THE LOWER ONE MISINTERPRET ITS CONTENT IN A NEGATIVE WAY, THEREFORE ONLY FIND EVIL IN IT. HINDUISM IS THE MOST SCIENTIFIC PROVEN RELIGION, THE MIGHT AND DEPTH OF WHICH CANNOT BE CHALLENGED BY ANY OTHER RELIGION IN THE WORLD. AND EVEN SO MANY BRAHMINS COULD NOT INTERPRET SHREEMAT BHAGVAT GEETA IN ITS PROPER FORM, SO NOT TO SPEAK OF MLECCHAS OR GOTRA-LESS PEOPLE. FYI….
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Yatim-ashram-gurudwara-akalgarh-sahib-pathankot/344036159067890
Very sad!
Frst learn ua relign n then ua bf relgn..ull defntly realize wht s best fr u..
Dear Priya,
I am a Bengali, from Kolkata and being a bengali, I can say that if a survey is done on Inter-religion marriages or inter-caste marriages, bengali girls would surely top the list. From my personal experience I can say several of my female friends have married out-side their religion to muslims, and none of them are leading a happy life, on the contrary some of them have tied knots with non-bengali Hindus, or even Christians, Sikhs, etc almost all of them are happy, with offcourse some exceptions. So mathematically also by the laws of probability I can say this kind of religion is as admin rightly said just like ” walking on fire”. Just think about it before taking any desicion. Later you should not regret in life. Remember for 1 or 2 year happiness (after marriage) you cannot risk your life for the coming 30+ or 40+ years (or more till you live), whereas for 1 or 2 years of struggle (present situation) you can get 30+ or 40+ years of happiness later on (or more till you live). Choice is yours.
Dear F-I,
Can you find out about this Bengali guy. It amazes us how come he is holding such a big position in your state, still.
https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8380
Dear Admin,
I stay outside Kolkata at present. Now it is accepted fact that Bengal is getting slowly in the hands of these fanatics because of appeasement policy of its Political Parties. They are not understanding these facts now, later on they will regret. First of all, we are Bengali Hindus and it is our land, and they are Muslims converts at least most of them, like in Pakistan. In Bangladesh people speak bengali, which is having vedic roots, it is from Sanskrit, how? because earlier most of them were Hindus. Also in Pakistan we can find Punjabi Muslims etc. The Pakistanis call themselves different from Hindus, but while coining their country’s name they forgot to remove its Vedic root. See PAK=ISTAN, Istanam is a Sanskrit word. If you see the Bhavisya Puran you will find about Islam. They can be never our friends. It is their policy to get closer to the Political Parties in the state and later on capture powerful posts and propogate their religion. It is their hidden agenda to make this country an Islamic State, not only us even Europe is facing this threat from Islam. But accroding to Nostradamus Prophecies there will an end to this once and for all soon, and people will revert back to their original roots once again. What they say hardly matters, they always boast of their religion which is actually a false one. Basically they are of Tamasik nature, which earlier Asuras possessed, so they boast, speak loudly speak about their religious books but everything is fake and improper, when people get deluded and attracted by this newly founded religion they only will be attracting their bad days. Follow this link:
” Islam in Bhavisya Puran” and also Shreemat Bhagvat Geeeta Chapter 9 verse 12.
It is happening because of lack of education among the Hindus. We boast of our education background, but we lack spiritual education, that’s why many peole even if they are very educated fall prey to these kinds of false people, which only propogates cruelty and anarchy. Another problem is that we like to call ourselves very liberal. Being liberal is good but by doing so we become very submissive too and their motive is to make us slave, as they feel very proud of doing so. Personally I would never even a drink a drop of water in their house, I always feel proud of my background and religion. I also have brahmin blood, so drinking even water would tantamount to be bad for me. We are actually very compassionate by nature, history tells this, earlier Ghori had been defeated several times by Prthvi Raj Chouhan but every time he let him go, untill one day he himself was captured by Ghori, even the Rajputs won’t kill any men who was without arms, even Arjuna before starting the War, felt depressed. If only we had been little cruel in our actions History would have little different for us today. It is an Alien religion started in Middle-East, it cannot be an Indian Religion..NEVER. Although I belonged to Bengal, but my birthplace is Nagpur, so you can say that I have little bit of valour like the Marathas. And in India, only the Rajputs, Marathas, Sikhs resisted their attacks.
The only process for us would be to uplift ourselves spiritually and let Lord Krishna decides the course of our path. By the way I am a staunch Lord Shiva Follower and a Shaivaite…..Cheers.
Another reason for their rise is offcourse of the present AGE. It is KaliYuga -or the Dark Days, where morality will be less and negative powers shall be on rise, people will get deluded from actual path and get attracted towards improper path or religion by their Glitters (ALL THAT GLITTERS IN NOT GOLD), and finally meet their doom. But after this age again new age shall come and people will be again live their lives happily. Only those people shall get eternal happiness and survive who chose to be with Lord Krishna (whose internal form is Vishnu and External form is Shiva). In this dark days only one God for Human beings can save them from misfortunes and He is Lord Hanuman (a form of Lord Shiva). Who shall live till the end of Kali Yuga for the benefit of Mankind. All humanbeings will acquire impurity even trees, animals etc…only one creature which shall remain pure through this AGE is -Peacock…(Google how Peacock mates). As it is only the Peacock wh never mates phisically to produce child shall remain in its pure form till the end of this Present DARK AGE….
We are out of Dark age now, real dark ages where during vedic period,puranic period. Thank god
https://www.trsiyengar.com/id272.shtml
FOLLOW THIS LINK TO KNOW ABOUT GOTRAS
DEAR PRIYA,
IT IS GOOD THAT YOU ARE SO LIBERAL IN YOUR ATTITUDE. I GIVE YOU SOME ADVISE HOPE YOU WON’T MIND.
“We are serious about our relationship and intend to get married. we are both secular minded and religion is not an issue for us. but he wants me to convert since his is a joint family and it would cause his parents immense discomfort to accept a hindu girl as their daughter in law, with so many relatives around all the time”
1) IT IS GOOD THAT YOU BOTH ARE SERIOUS ABOUT UR RELATIONSHIP AND INTEND TO MARRY. V.GOOD
2) YOU BOTH ARE SECULAR-MINDED. V.GOOD.
3) RELIGION IS NOT AN ISSUE. V.GOOD
4) BUT HE WANTS ME TO CONVERT. WHY? WHEN YOU BOTH ARE GOOD FROM POINT NO 1-3 ,THEN WHY YOU ONLY WOULD SACRIFICE? WHY NOT YOUR BF DO THE SAME?
5) WHY HE SHOULD FEEL DISCOMFORT AMONG HIS RELATIVES BECAUSE OF YOUR HINDU BACKGROUND? BECAUSE HE IS A MUSLIM? HERE ONLY YOU PEOPLE ARE COMMITING MISTAKES. HINDUS ARE FAR MORE SUPERIOR THAN MUSLIMS, OUR RELIGION IS 1000 TIMES SUPERIOR RELIGION THAN THEM. CHECK THIS LINK:
http://bhavishyapuran.blogspot.com/
http://www.bhagavad-gita.org/Gita/verse-09-12.html
“im prepared to convert as for me the only thing that matters is that we live together, but my parents are being completely unreasonable about it. ive always known my parents as pretty modern in their outlook and didnt think, i could have any trouble in convincing them about marrying a muslim. but things changed immediately when i informed them about my affair with this man”
1) YOUR PARENTS HAVE ALSO CROSSED THE AGE WHICH YOU ARE IN AT PRESENT. SO THEY ARE MORE MATURED AND INTELLIGENT IN THEIR THOUGHT PROCESS. THEY KNOW THE REAL-LIFE SITUATION AND THE AFTER-EFFECTS/AFTER SHOCKS OF THIS KIND OF RELATION. THEY PERHAPS ARE AFRAID OF ITS SUSTAINIBILITY. IF YOU HAD MARRIED ANY OTHER CASTE HINDU, THEN THEY WOULD HAVE ATLEAST 50% SATISFIED, BUT IT IS A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BALL ALTOGETHER.
2) MODERN IN OUTLOOK DOESN’T MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO BE EXTRA-MODERN IN EVERYTHING SO THAT YOU WASH AWAY THE VALUES OF OUR RELIGION WHICH IS NOT ONLY ANCIENT BUT HAS STRONG ROOTS. THEY HAVE GIVEN YOU BIRTH, RAISED YOU, PERHAPS SACRIFICED MANY THINGS FOR YOU JUST TO MAKE YOUR LIFE CONFORTABLE, ONLY DESIRED THAT ONE DAY YOU WILL FIND A LIFE-PARTNER WHICH WILL MAKE THEM HAPPY AND SATISFIED. BUT NOW IF YOU GO AGAINST THEIR WISHES, IT WILL HURT THEM IMMENSLY FROM WITHIN, WHICH YOU CANNOT EVEN FEEL AT PRESENT BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL NOT A MOTHER.
” he was too old for me. (he is 10 years older than me) and that i should complete my masters before getting married, but when i told them that, the family i was going to marry into wants a housewife and not an highly educated one and i was ready to start my life as a housewife, they completely freaked out”
1) THIS IS ANOTHER PROBLEM. TOO YOUNG AND TOO OLD IS ALSO A BIG PROBLEM WHICH YOU WILL NOT FEEL INITIALLY BUY GRADUALLY AFTER A CERTAIN AGE, YOU START FEELING THE SAME.
2) EDUCATION IS NOT ONLY IMPORTANT FOR A MAN BUT ALSO IT IS IMPORTANT FOR A WOMAN AS WELL. LETS ASSUME A SCENERIO: AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE YOUR HUBBY FIGHTS WITH YOU AND WANTS DIVORCE, NOW YOU’VE A CHILD ALSO, AND YOUR PARENTS ARE NOT ALIVE TO SUPPORT YOU. WHAT WILL YOU DO? IF YOU ARE SEPARATED? IF YOU HAVE GOOD EDUCATION THEN AT LEAST YOU CAN LEAD A RESPECTABLE LIFE. YOU CAN FIND A JOB ALSO. SO THEY WERE RIGHT IN THEIR APPRAOCH.
“i have tried explaining them that my boyfriend is a nice man and he doesnt even want me to convert. its only because of his family members that, i need to convert. but no amount of convincing has worked on my parents. i want my parents to be happ for us and support us. how do i convince them?
1) YOUR BF IS A NICE MAN. GOOD. INITIALLY EVERY ONE LOOKS VERY NICE. BUT LATER THEY CHANGE COLORS. WHICH YOU WILL NOT UNDERSTAND NOW, BECAUSE YOU ARE UNDER SOMETHING WHICH IN ASTROLOGICAL LANGUAGE IS CALLED ” VASH”. OR UNDER INFLUENCE OF NEGATIVE PLANETS, WHICH IS CURVING THE PATH OF YOUR DESTINY. IT IS NOT YOU WHO IS TALKING BUT THESE NEGATIVE PLANETS WHICH FORCING YOU TO ACT IN THIS WAY. FORCING YOU TO REBEL, TO GO AGAINST YOUR’S PARENTS WISHES, AND IN THE PROCESS OF MAKING YOUR LIFE EITHER GOOD OR BAD. GOOD IN THE SENSE IT MIGHT TURN OUT TO BE GOOD FOR YOU, BUT THE % OF GOODNESS IS VERY LESS, MAY BE 20-80% {20% GOOD & 80% BAD}.
2) WHY HE IS SUBMITTING HIMSELF INFRONT OF HIS FAMILY? HE SHOULD TELL THEM UPFRONT THAT YOU WILL NOT CONVERT. AFTERWARDS HOW CAN IT MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE? YOU WILL BE SAME PERSON, WITH SAME LOOK, SAME COLOR OF SKIN ETC, WHY HIS FAMILY WANT YOU TO CONVERT? IT IS BECAUSE THEY WANT TO INCREASE A MEMBER OF THEIR COMMUNITY, SECOND THEY WANT YOU TO ACCEPT THEIR TRADITIONS AND NEGLECT YOUR TRADITIONS, THIRD THEY WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO BE RAISED AS MUSLIMS NOT HINDUS.
AFTER GOING THROUGH THIS IF YOU STILL WANT TO GO AHEAD THEN IT IS YOUR DESTINY WHICH NO ONE CANNOT ALTER…..I WISH YOU A HAPPY LIFE
AND PLEASE DO NOT FOLLOW THESE BLOCK-HEADED HEROINES,OR HEROES WHO ARE SETTING EXAMPLES FOR OTHERS.
1)FIRSTLY THEY ARE ULTRA-RICH, SO IT DOESN’T REALLY MATTER FOR THEM TO FOLLOW ANY RELIGION, THEY HAVE SPECIAL GRACES OF GOD, AS THEY MUST HAVE DONE GOOD WORK IN THEIR PREVIOUS LIFE.
2)SECONDLY, EVEN IF THEY GET SEPARATED THEY WOULD BE LIVING A KING-SIZE LIFE.
3)THIRDLY THEY HAVE ALREADY GONE THROUGH SEVERAL RELATIONSHIPS EARLIER SO NOW THEY JUST WANT TO SETTLE IN LIFE THAT’S IT. HOW DEEP THEIR LOVE-FOR EACH OTHER -IS A BIG QUESTION?.
To franklyindian, since you left islam and converted to hinduism, then what about your parents reaction, how did they reacted…do they also follow islam properly…how did they became muslim that you thought to leave islam
DEAR MAC,
I AM BY BIRTH A HINDU, AND THAT TOO REALLY A PROUD ONE. I ALSO HAVE A BRAHMIN BLOOD, AS MY GRANDMOTHER WAS A KULIN BRAHMIN AND GRANDFTAHER WAS KAYASTYA, AND THEY BOTH WERE DOCTORS. WHY WOULD I ACCEPT ANY OTHER RELIGION WHEN I KNOW THAT OUR RELIGION IS THE MOTHER OF ALL RELIGIONS. AND ALSO SUPERIOR TO ANY OTHER RELIGION OF THE WORLD. HOW? I WILL GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE: ALL OTHER PEOPLE ARE KNOWN BY THEIR NAMES, THEIR RELIGION, THEIR CULTURE, THEIR TRADITIONS, ETC BUT WE HINDUS APART FROM THESE ATTRIBUTES ALSO KNOWN BY OUR GOTRAS…I WOULD NEVER EVER SACRIFICE MY GOTRA AND THUS I SHALL REMAIN A HINDU TILL MY DEATH. THANKS
mac and Mohammed,
We requested earlier to you to write 10 points of dating a Muslim. Can you tell Priya what it will mean for a Hindu being a wife of a Muslim (tell her 10 critical points). Detail expectations of a Muslim family and community from a Hindu. We are waiting. Thanks.
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