Jugal says: April 3, 2018 at 9:57 am
Whst should I do? I’m hindu and my girlfriend is Catholic. We are in a relationship from over a year and truly love each other. However both our parents are strictly against this and forcing us not to go ahead with this. We both and specially my girlfriend don’t want to marry until her parents are agreed as she loves them too is concerned about them. Her elder sister too is in love with a hindu guy and recently told her parents about it. She’s 30+ and still her parents are not accepting her choice and asking her to find some other catholic guy. My girlfriend is worried that if her parents are not accepting her sister’s relationship although it’s late for her sister then how will they accept me. They’re the only 2 daughters and both are in love with non catholic guys so I too can understand her parent’s situation as in India, society is more important for anyone. On the other side my parents are also adamant and not ready to change their mind. They hv asked me to take time and cut the relationship with my girlfriend but I don’t want to do that. I am not able to find any solution to this situation and don’t know what I should do. Its been only 3 months since we revealed this to our parents. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Jugal says: January 11, 2019 at 8:48 am
Hi,
We are still struggling to convince our parents. My parents have still not agreed and they’re stuck to only one point. “A catholic girl cannot step into my house. Her way of living is different. Society will question us why we allowed our son to do this.”
My mother is like, if you marry her against my wish then something will happen to me.
They haven’t met her yet. Just seen on Facebook pics and they think she’s not beautiful as well.
I know she’s an average looking girl but she’s pure at heart and that’s what important for me. I have told this to my parents but still no change in them.
On the other side, her elder sister who was in love with a hindu boy got recently married. Atleast in her case the boys family was in favour so it was easy. Her parent’s agreed for her older sister on a condition that Vicki(my girlfriend) will have to marry in catholic. She didn’t say anything at that time coz she didn’t want her sister’s wedding in trouble. Vicki’s sister is in our favour and she has said she will do everything to unite us. However I’m not sure how much her parents will listen to her elder sister. They’re still unhappy with her elder sisters decision but they agreed only because of her age. Not sure if they’ll agree for Vicki.
Not sure how we should proceed further.
Just fyi, no one in my community have done inter religion marriage hence i don’t have any examples to show my parents. I’m their only son hence it’s difficult for them to accept that I’ve done something like this. My dad is thinking of disowning me. I have 3 elder sisters. All living abroad and they too are not supporting me. I’m all alone against my own people. -Jugal
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Hi Jugal,
Are you financially stable, meaning you have good job and can live on your own? If necessary, you may have to give a shock treatment (a threat of move out and marry) for a short period but ultimately you may merge with them.
How did her elder sister got married? By Catholic church wedding or a Hindu wedding? Let us know, thanks.