FARHANA says: January 13, 2021
I am 20+ year old Muslim girl in USA (Indian) and I love a Hindu boy from India. I know him since my 12th grade and in a relationship for the past 3 years. My family moved to the US 7 years ago.
I am not a very religious person. I believe in one god and respect all religions. I am financially independent and I live by myself and can even take of another person. The person I love is also same age, a graduate and is working right now. I don’t know how to convince my parents. Even though I am independent I am scared and stressed about this situation. My parents are not the 5 times praying muslims or very very religious people but when it comes to topics like these they would talk like it is against Allah and the religion also they would ask how can we ever go back to our country and show them our faces.
My parents till now have no idea that I am in a relationship now. I am really scared and stressed about this whole situation. My partner is also not a very religious person and is ok to convert as the last option to convince my parents. His family is happy with us. We will live in the US after marriage. -Farhana
FARHANA says: January 13, 2021 5:32 pm
Yes. I met his parents both mom and dad, last month when I visited India. I speak to them every week(video calls). They had advised their son(my bf) that muslim demand conversion before marriage and had already spoke to him about this. That conversion is only for the sake of my parents. He is interested in learning to perform namaz, learn they suras for the sake of my parents. He has already spoke to his family that he might convert to Islam and their parents are ok with it. Right now I have a niece(my sister’s child) 2 years old, although in a Muslim family since born here in the US she is not being raised in a very religious way, except on celebrating festivals. Same way our children would celebrate his festivals as well as mine but to my parents they would be named in the Islam way. We had already discussed about this to his mother. The advantage is we will be living in US and be visiting his parents yearly once. So there might not be a clash between religions.
So my whole fear is confessing to my parents. I need some motivation and words of advice to overcome my fear. This fear is stressing me out and I don’t know who to talk about this to.
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I am a muslim girl. I am very religious and my family is very conservative muslim family. I am in love with a hindu guy I met at library and started chatting with him on facebook.
My family got suspicious and now I am monitored. Can someone here help me what should I do. I love that guy very much. Though I am a staunch muslim girl but for him I am ready to convert to Hinduism. All I fear is If I run away with him my family would harm or kill his family. Please help me!
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It’s pathetic to ask someone to convert due to a religion that demands to convert for love. Get out of that regressive religion. This forum seems to be a conversion factory rather than for Interfaith relationship advice. What a joke
A great message “pathetic to ask someone to convert due to a religion”. We fully agree to it and promoting the exact same message. Please view one of Admin’s recent interview here https://youtu.be/bA9hOwePNaU
As everyone knows that Islam is a coin with its two sides of Religion and politics. So it doesn’t matter If your family is not religious but they are 100% political Muslim and it always instigates religious sentiments when time comes.
Fake conversion will not be tolerated as in Islam an individual do not enjoy the liberty or freedom to ignore or come out of the religious clutches it’s strongly imposed by family, imams and community
So it’s better instead of putting Boy friends life and liberty in danger take advantage of being into the land of freedom and be honest if you truly loves him.
Hindu boy surely will accept you but check with his family. For him and his family there should not be threat from your family and community as religious and political sentiments are very strong for Muslims irrespective of country wherever you go
This is what I think
So what is your opinion about Quran as here it is mentioned that it is haram to marry a non muslim? So will you disagree with Quran ?
Yes. I met his parents both mom and dad,last month when I visited India. I speak to them every week(video calls). They had advised their son(my bf) that muslim demand conversion before marriage and had already spoke to him about this. That conversion is only for the sake of my parents. He is interested in learning to perform namaz, learn they suras for the sake of my parents. He has already spoke to his family that he might convert to Islam and their parents are ok with it. Right now I have a niece(my sister’s child) 2 years old, although in a Muslim family since born here in the US she is not being raised in a very religious way, except on celebrating festivals. Same way our children would celebrate his festivals as well as mine but to my parents they would be named in the Islam way. We had already discussed about this to his mother. The advantage is we will be living in US and be visiting his parents yearly once. So there might not be a clash between religions.
So my whole fear is confessing to my parents. I need some motivation and words of advice to overcome my fear. This fear is stressing me out and I don’t know who to talk about this to.
You know your parents well, better than anyone else here. You said they are not vary religious/namazi. Apparently their main concern is… when you go back to India, but that is only a short period. Why worry about people in India, as far your parents are okay? What do you think your parents would say?
Koran 2:221 says you must marry only a Muslim. You are fixing that problem by converting the Hindu. Parents may also say you are harami since you are ignoring Koran 24:30 and getting into romantic relationship, that is forbidden by Allah. So you are ignoring 24:30 but will want to follow 2:221. Apparently you are not doing all these for Allah but only for parents and relatives in India, is that correct?
Even if he was a muslim, my parents would be bothered about what type of muslim, color, height etc. So the fact he is a non muslim is going to just make them be stronger in their decision. I cannot even predict how my parents would react.
Yes, I am asking him to convert just for the sake of my parents. I don’t believe in the thought that it is wrong to marry a non muslim! As long as he is a righteous person, thats all matters to me.
We agree 100% to marry a righteous person. Marrying someone who is performing namaz five times a day and literally opening the Koran for guidance at every step of life would probably make your life very miserable.
Let us give you a major lesson of life. You cannot live your life to please others, but you will be be mindful of others. Like you said, your parents will not be happy with any pick you made. Even if you marry to the one they picked for you, they still will have many complains against you. At a point, you have to stand up and say, enough is enough, this is me, and you accept or leave me. Ultimately they will realise reality of life and learn to accept who you are. In a long run, it will be a healthy relationship between parents-daughter.
Here, we have concerns about the Hindu boy. Hindus are naiive about Islam. You asked them to convert and they think they have 100 Gods so why not to add one more God, Allah. In reality, he is not accepting one more God, but giving up all his prior Gods (actually Hindus also believe on only ONE God, check in google for ekam sat, vipra bahudha vadanti). Probably your parents and communities will want to see that he is 100% Muslim and 0% Hindu. Does he realises it? We want to make sure he does not run away later on when he realises reality (for example, your imam may want his circumcision and name change now, check). Please make sure about it.
Hi Farhana,
You are out of the bubble. Now you live in America and in a nation with lots of (relative)freedom. Further, you are financially independent, thus you have an option to do that is right as per wishes of you two. You do not have to take steps just to please imams, pandits and communities.
You said both of you are not religious. If so, can you explain what that “conversion” from Hinduism to Islam means to you two? What you have talked about raising your children–will that be in both faiths or only in Islam?
You said his family is happy with you two, is that he is saying or you have personally met his parents? Are they clear that you are a Muslim and you two are planning to get married? We are asking this because sometimes parents are welcoming to friends as far they know they are only “friends” and nothing more. Will they still be happy with you two if their son decides to become (even fake) a Muslim?
There are many other points that probably you should make sure you are on right track for your planned marriage. Do not leave any confusion or ambiaguity between you two. Lets talk more later. Best wishes.