Salma Agha says: September 28, 2012 at 10:24 am
Hello Husna,
Great life story you explained here, full of struggles and now attempting to make financially strong. You remember I too got an opportunity to work in Hindi movie and came across a Hindu guy, very smart, loving and dynamic but due to religious pressures could not dare to marry him. One ultimately married to a muslim guy, initially he appeared sober and gentle but later on became very rude, short temper and one day I had to leave apart.
In fact to make life happy and cheerful, both the partners should be like minded, compatible to each other, respecting sentiments, loyal and committed throughout the life. But normally it does not happen in each case. In Bollywood I have seen so many muslim girls married to Hindu boys, are happy, enjoying both religions.
It is the fundamentalist of our community, who put restrictions on us.
I shall be glad to know your happy wedding ceremony with Ashok.
My sincere thanks for putting your life story here.
Always wishing you all the best and almighty showering all his blessings on you both. – Salma Agha
Salma says:
Please pray for the survival and speedy recovery of Malala, a Pakistani 14 year old, innocent school girl, lying in a critical condition hit by bullets, raising voice against the cruelty of Talibani terrorists like Amir.
Millions of thanks for writing noble cause of women cause here. -Salma
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Salma Agha says: November 22, 2012 at 2:44 am
Thanks Admin,
I am grand daughter of 30′s/40′s famous actor and actress Jugal Kishore Mehra and Anwari Begum who played the roles of the first ever made Heer Ranjha (1932). My mother Nasreen Aagha being born to a star pair bagged the lead with K.L. Saigal in A.K. Kardar’s Shahjahan A prized role of those times (1946) and Ek Roz (1947). My entire entire family was settled in London and studied in there and for further studies went to Switzerland where my father Liaquat Gul Aagha had a huge business of Persian carpets and antiques as my father was from a highly respected and reputed family from Iran, known for trading all over the world. My family name from my father’s side is Tajik but the family was given the title of ‘Aagha’ known as a Respected title in Iran and only given when highly reputed in the society. (The direct translation of ‘Aagha’ is ‘Sir’).
[edit]Career
My self along with sister Sabina produced and sang for a record called ABBA AND AGHA . The record made a few waves and was applauded by critics. However, it didn’t create any major ripples in the Hindi film circles at the time.
When acclaimed Indian director Raj Kapoor was at the London reception of his son Rishi Kapoor and Neetu Singh’s wedding, he invited his cousin Nasreen Aagha (Salma’s mother) to the reception, as Nasreen Aagha’s Father Jugal Kishore Mehra was Raj Kapoor’s Uncle. Present at the wedding were many prominent Indian directors, including B.R. Chopra. Chopra had just finished a female oriented hit with Zeenat Aman called Insaaf Ka Tarazu. He had just commissioned a heroine-oriented movie called Talaq and was on the lookout for a Muslim actress. Zeenat Aman (even though half Muslim) he felt had a much too urban look to portray the character of Neelofar in his movie. Raj Kapoor too was on the lookout for a Muslim girl for his movie Heena. Soon Raj Kapoor mixed plans and went ahead with Prem Rog. Hearing that Chopra was looking for a Muslim girl, I flew to Bombay to meet him. Using her uncle Raj Kapoor’s connection, I was soon given the role.
When the music directors heard my ABBA hits they signed her on to sing her own playback songs. The songs were a huge success even before the movie was released. The movie got stuck with the Islamic clerics who were to approve the movie before its release. They insisted on a name change and Chopra rechristened the movie Nikaah. The movie went on to be a huge success and is considered a classic. It is one of the strongest debuts for an actress and a huge vehicle for a newcomer. I earned a Filmfare nomination as Best Actress. In addition to winning the Filmfare Best Female Playback Award for the song “Dil Ke Armaan,” which was a great honour for me being a newcomer since the nominees were Lata Mangeshkar and Asha Bhosle she also earned two Filmfare nominations: one for the song “Pyar Bhi Hai Jawan” and the other for the song “Dil Ki Yeh Arzo”.
After Nikaak’s success I didn’t sign any other project right away as I wanted to do a film which would give my looks and screen appearance a total change, and even though it took a while before I signed on to second project, but my music kept playing in every corner possible. I finally found the right project that would give not just a change to my appearance but also to music. And so I signed on to Babbar Subhash’s Kasam Paida Karne Wale Ki with Mithun Chakraborty and Smita Patil. The movie was publicized with huge pictures of mine, which in turn upset and overshadowed Mithun. This movie became my second release and another hit. I earned a Filmfare nomination for the song “Jhoom Jhoom Baba” which was a super hit back in the day and still is known to be one of the songs which people love to groove to even now.
MY POINT HERE IS THAT EVEN MUSLIM INTELLECTUALS KEEP SLENCE AND AVOID TO COMMENT ON THE EVILS OF ISLAMIC RELIGION AGAINST FEMALES AND THAT IS CRIMINAL AND ANTI SOCIAL ELEMENTS TAKE SHELTER AND GET ADVANTAGE TO MISUSE ISLAMIC RULES JUST FOR SEX, CRIMINAL ACTIVITIES AGAINST HUMANITY. -Salma
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Also read:
Veena Malik I have been tortured, insulted, defamed, when I started modeling
Shamim: (Interfaith marriages)..it WAS prohibited that rule was only valid within a context.
Sadaf: I was forcefully married to my (Muslim) husband
Fauzia: I wish I could marry my Hindu bf than marry my own cousin
Ayesha: i dont too much believe in quran… it is not for woman
Seema: I salute a Muslim
Seema: It always amazes me when people use religion to spew their own hatred towards others.
Sabana: In muslim community women are treated very badly
Anees Ibrahim: My father and brother threaten to kill me…
Jamila: 90% Muslim girls are marrying Christian, Hindus, Buddhist
Chand Osmani: Women are exploited and tortured…
Sabiya: The islamic rules are cruel and barbaric for women folk, just to have sexual requirement.
Saif and Kareena,
Bollywood interfaith marriages
If you are in a love-relationship, click one, if you are…Hindu girl, Muslim girl, Hindu boy, Muslim boy
This web site does not have a confirmation if the Bollywood celebrity is the same person blogged here.
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Pakistani now settled in Canada with Hindu husband
for those who are imputing islam and attempting ostensibly to show that they are decent human beings,i have a small test for you “I can show your evil side in a second. do you agree?
yes, brother, reveal the truth
Hi,Salma,
First of all I apology for my poor English. I am confused with what you say about your father that he was from Iran and his family name is Tajik??
I am Iranian. we don’t have Tajik tribe or name. Tajik is the name of the tribe. you can find Tajik tribe in Afghanistan. in Afghanistan, some Tajik speak Dari some Pashto language. Also tribes in Tajikistan they speak Tajiki and Russian language.
Gul name is mostly used among the Pathan people. In Peshawar, Quetta and mostly in Afghanistan you will find men called (Gul Agha) (Agha Gul)…
Yest it is true Agha means sir or Mr. So in my country Iran if you call a man you have to say Agha eg, Agha Hassan, Agha karim , Aghan Hussain …
even if you don’t know somebodies name he will be called Agha.
what I am trying to say is that Agha is a common name in my country Iran. all man are called Agha. when you see a man for the fist time and you don’t know his name so you have to call him Agha. it is like Sir or Mr.
Also the Pathan people in Pakistan or in Afganistan they call elders men even in the street,or father , uncle or elder brother Agha.so maybe your Father was doing bussnus in Iran but differently he was not from Iran not at all. why?
1) Liaqut name is in India or in Pakistan not in Iran. Also you say that your family is from India. only non-Muslims (Farsi) Iranian were forcibly immigrated to India. there was religion issue. the Iranian government forced Farsi people to leave Iran.
2)Salma Agha you father was Muslim.
3) It is hard to find green or blue eyes in Farsi people. Farsi people are very obvious for their look. they have very high nose very black eyes and hair and their skin is bit brown.
4) Iranian Muslim Shiite man never marries Hindu woman, your mother was adopted from Hindu Family Rajkapoor.
but I don’t blame you for the wrong information you gave because you grew up in Erope probably you don’t have enough information about your father family background.
I am Iranian. Iranian men don’t marry Pathan women. why?
because Iranian are sheit Muslim. we believe if a shiet muslim man marries a sunny muslim woman she will have suni religion influence on her children. we believe that the father don’t have an influence on his children as the mother.
so as you said that your mother is pathan or Pashton. Pathan are suni they are not shiet muslim.
so your father may be any one but not Iranian.
Sorry my comment may hurt you but if I don’t write another Iranian will write similor comment.
so Iranian, because Iranian are the best people of the world and Iran is janat of the world and Iranian language is the best language of the world.
Hi Suma,
It will be good if you read history about tajiks. I know Salma Aghas comment about her father origin is correct.
How idot is Ansur? Here muslim girls have shared their life experiences based on cruelty and attrocities in the muslim community by males in the name of Islam and also pointed out evil thereof.
This filthy mind person blaming Indians? No doubt, he is talibani mentality hard core terrorist? Every body is fake for him, except himself? Infact fake is his own identity and fake muslim, just treating females subject to all cruelties. Indian muslims are better than any other muslims of different countries. India is a second largest muslim populated country.Bastard hold your toungue?
Stop writing all non sense here.
Amazed at the PROPAGANDA against Islam and Muslim.
Shows how much of a coward you Idnians really are and your hidden agenda to defame Islam.
The best and most amusing is how you Indians take on Muslim names to posts to give more weight to your response.
Very shallow and deceitful people and a reflection that something is missing in your petty life.
Why Islam will always prevail, what you do today and how you defame Islam and Muslims is no diffrent to the idol worshipping pagan Arabs.
They got no where and people realised the truth.
When they do they will appreciate Islam.
You people are sad, cowardly, deceitful and shameful.
Its a prize for you to post a Hindu boy marries a Muslim in India because thats the extent of hate you have towards Muslims and based on centuries and centuries of inveriority complex.
I pity you people truly do.
Hi every body
Pakistan airlifted Malala wounded teenage activist shot by the Taliban to the United Kingdom on Monday for more specialized medical care and to protect her from follow-up attacks threatened by the militants.
The attack on 14-year-old Malala Yousufzai as she was returning home from school in Pakistan’s northwest a week ago has horrified people across the country and abroad. It has also sparked hope the government would respond by intensifying its fight against the Taliban and their allies.
Hello every body.
According to latest reports, the condition of Malala is satisfactory, her all vital parts are functioning perfectly well, but another 12 hours or so, are critical. It appears that in case she is needed to be flown to abroad, Govt. is ready to do so.
Its a great satisfaction. She is an asset for female community.
May God bless her speedy recovery.
Dear Satyen,
Very good suggestion,but how to break this nexus which is predominantly existing in countries like Pakistan, Afganistan, where terrorists have a strong hold.
Only Amir like person shall be accepting grooms like Muhammad for their daughters, sisters, otherwise no sensible person would like his name on their lips.
One good thing is that due to IT revolution, muslim sisters are awakening through various awareness programmes and cultural activities. Isolated incidents may happen any where in the world, but preaching, 72 virgins, two witnesses needed to seek justice, domestic violence, sexual assault, 4 wives concepts as almighty,s message, they are henious crimes against mankind.
“Don’t worry, Baba. I am going to be fine and victory will be ours,” Malala told him in broken words before falling unconscious.
http://news.yahoo.com/conversations-malala-yousafzai-girl-stood-taliban-133500248.html
The shooting of Malala Yousufzai along with two classmates while they were on their way home from school Tuesday horrified people in Pakistan and internationally. It has been followed by an outpouring of support for a girl who earned the enmity of the Taliban for publicizing their acts and speaking about the importance of education for girls.
The Taliban have claimed responsibility for the shooting, saying that the girl was promoting “Western thinking.” Late on Thursday, a spokesman for one of the group’s branches in the country’s north said the top leadership of the Taliban’s Swat Valley chapter decided two months ago to kill Yousufzai in a carefully planned attack after her family ignored repeated warnings.
All enlightened Muslim women and Men,
Though you might have got your love, your responsibility is not yet over. In fact it has increased many fold as you are the only hope for those remaining Muslim girls who have not yet seen the light of this freedom, passing their life behind the burqa/Naqab and are forced to live a miserable life. Will you all leave them in this condition which you all know how pathetic it is? Please raise your voice where ever you see injustice against them around your family, relatives or friends. Charity begins at home and the best place to do is the people around you who you can influence for the betterment. My suggestion is as follows:
1. Education must be allowed to them freely
2. No circumcision to any girl/boy child until maturity (age 18/21).
3. No Naqab/Burka
4. No marriage to Muhammad like husbands (aged,polygamist etc.)
Nothing against Islam but how many sensible people today would
chose Muhammad to be the groom of their daughters/sisters. Now
it’s time to discard hypocracy and come to the open. Utmost
respect to Allah but no to Muhammad (La ilaha Allalaha – Shahada
should stop here).
Utmost respect to Allah but no slavery to Muhammad.
Hello dear sisters,
Please pray for the survival and speedy recovery of Malala, a Pakistani 14 year old, innocent school girl, lying in a critical condition hit by bullets, raising voice against the cruelty of Talibani terrorists like Amir.
Millions of thanks for writing noble cause of women cause here.
Admin sir, with deep regards to you.
Thanks for taking time out of you busy life to help others who are deprived of basic freedom in life.
@ Amir- where is your quran now? What bullshit were you talking all this months, here ia the ground reality of muslims. You and your islam is killings the world. Waiting for your stupid responce, ofcource this has nothing to do with islam isn’t it? May be christians and hindus are behind it isn’t it?
Women are considered whores if they dress even nicely.
According to Islam a whore asks to be raped, abused, tortured beaten and turned into sex slaves.
Since it’s the women’s fault for tempting the man, men are not liable.
The Muslim rapists are even using this as their defense if caught.
It is an epidemic that is even more profound than we know because:
Muslim women don’t report rape because it brings shame on their family and they can be stoned for adultery.
Non-Muslim women have their families threatened or are kidnapped into forced marriage (sex slavery).
Mohammed, the prophet of the Islamic world, married his last bride Aisha when she was just six years old, and the consummated the marriage with her when she was just nine years old. In Islamic states, partly because of this precedent, this practice still happens in fundamentalist countries like Afghanistan. Muslims will say that a child of six or seven is almost certain to be a virgin. Mohammed was at least 50 when he married Aisha.
The practice of forced marriages (as opposed to arranged marriages) in some Muslim states such as Afghanistan is very common. Some reports claim that somewhere between 60-80 percent of marriages in Afghanistan are forced upon the girls involved or without the consent of the girls. These marriages are seen as a way to resolve conflicts between families, or as a way to absolve someone of a wrongdoing. The girls are treated as they would treat cattle, and are given to these men as offerings.
Some reports also estimate that 57 percent of Afghani girls are married before the age of 16, and it is unusual to find an unmarried girl older than 18 years of age. The practice is justified twofold; that the girls are helping to keep the peace between families, and that the Islamic prophet Mohammed had set this precedent.
In Afghanistan the legal age to be married is 16, but many people ignore this law or claim they were unaware of it. The children in this situation are robbed of childhood, and as you will see, many are robbed of their life. This practice is abhorrent, and any civilised culture will see it as such.
In Nigeria, a 49-year-old Muslim Senator has reportedly married a 13-year-old girl, and has allegedly previously married a 15-year-old in 2006, citing that he paid a dowry of $100,000 to the parents for her. Although looked down upon by other ministers in Nigeria it is still happening.
Women in Islam have no rights, especially if they are non-Muslim, and these men get away with their evils because people are too afraid to stand up against the barbarity of the culture which the religion they follow has instilled in them. Threats of death are imposed upon those who would stand up against this. In Lahore, a man and his entourage of Muslim lawyers has threatened to “burn alive” anyone who will come to the defence of a 12-year-old servant of his, whom he raped and murdered.
Many girls will find themselves in a marriage with a man much older than they are, and will be given the sole duties of looking after the household and giving offspring to the man. Some men have multiple wives, and the women become a harem for that man. The men are often abusive to these girls, sometimes to the point where the girl should be hospitalised, but often is not. The beating of wives is seen as the “honourable thing to do”, for the wife must be kept in line with the wishings of the man and of Allah.
Often these girls will find themselves in these abusive relationships, and will seek a way out. But the way out is a problem in itself; if the girl were to leave she would bring shame upon her own family and her husband’s, and would be hunted down and possibly stoned to death or just beaten withing an inch of her life; if she stays, she may be beaten thus anyhow. Sometimes out of pure desperation, a girl seeking to be free from the bonds of this abusive relationship will choose self-harm rather than bringing shame upon her people.
In Afghanistan, it is believe that more than 10 women and girls choose self-immolation (warning very graphic content) as the escape from their bondage. Around the web there are numerous stories of women who, feeling there was no better way, have chosen to set themselves on fire rather than continue living in such conditions. Some girls die from their injuries. Some do not but are so badly scarred so as to lose their legs, or are severely disfigured by these burns. Those that live may wind up on the streets, homeless.
The culture in Afghanistan is such that women are treated as slaves, and in some cases, worse than dogs. Not only do they wear the burqa in public at all times, they are not allowed to leave the home alone, not allowed to speak to anyone they don’t know, and not allowed to make their identity known nor engage with any of their husband’s friends they may meet in the street. They are not treated as second-class citizens, rather as livestock that can produce more sons for the family.
People blame Islam for these practices. And yet, there are many more Islamic people who don’t practice this than do. Islam itself is not to blame wholly for these atrocities, rather the culture that bases itself upon Islam, then justifies these stone-aged practices based on the words of the Koran or the Hadeeth, saying it is God’s will that this be done. When a culture is poor and has little or no access to education, these kinds of barbaric practices continue to happen.
The culture in Afghanistan is sick. The barbarism and sheer disrespect for human rights that occurs there is all so often backed up by the perverse and outmoded words of their holy books. This illness in the Afghan culture continues, even after the ousting of the Taliban, who were ultra conservative and would set upon women with batons for showing ANY skin, but it is not much better now.
While this culture is deeply ingrained in their societies, these practices in the name of Islam shows it toi be, in its extreme, nothing more than an ultra-conservative ultra-violent “boy’s club” where it members all look after each other. And as sickening as all this is, nothing seems to be getting better.
These girls stories are the same story I have heard again and again of extreme desperation, of girls who see their only escape from forced marriage as being self harm. It is gut-wrenchingly sad to see such lives destroyed by the greed and stupidity of men. Here is an example of one girl’s account of the horrors she has faced at the brutal hands of an extreme Islamic patriarchy.
Yes,but Mohammed PBUH did not have sex with Aishah peace be on her soul, until she reached puberty! so tafe the ”F” crap regarding the prophet or else some one some where will show you seriously, so stop being an idiot & stop acting like a kafir please! although abuse is not allowed in islam our porphet said use two fingers to slap your wife if she does not listen or dont share your bed till she understands from wrong to right.how can some one hurt you with two fingers??? it does not hurt trust me. our prophet said force marriage is not a ”valid marriage” so wake up muslim brothers & sisters were living around kafirs but we are not like them! dont follow them but ensure them that our religion is safe and invite them with out forcing them to our religion….shame on you all…….
Hello every one,
When Political Islam advocates jihad to achieve world domination, anyone deeply concerned with humanity and human rights should be critical. Of all the existing ideologies, Political Islam remains the greatest danger to humanity. Political Islam has been neither tamed nor moderated by progressive forces. It has the power to inspire the terrorist mind, and, through its ties to oil-rich states, the funds to pursue its plans.
Why do the Bangladeshi clergy make the Torah and Jews a serious taboo to the innocent and mostly uneducated people?
When I had the opportunity to read the Torah, I immediately got the answer. Anyone who has the opportunity to read the Torah, will immediately have the window of intellect opened to make judgments over various divine and worldly issues, including many criminal interpretations of the Qur’an, as well as false propaganda by the Muslim clergy.
In today’s world, when terrorist attacks and suicide bombing are threats to global peace, a question circulats in the minds of the people about the influence of Sharia Law on Muslim minds, towards Jihad, and killing Jews and Christians to attain heaven and 72 virgins.
Any religion promising 72 virgins in exchange of murder or genocide, is for a start, a religion of bad taste. Why should a man become insane for 72 virgins? Moreover, when the Qur’an promises virgins and all comforts for men in heaven, it completely ignores the rewards for women. Why? Any special reason? Does Islam consider women as mere things or something even worse?
For readers to evaluate?
Hello all,
I read through this whole website and the most profound impressions I had is that most of you are prejudiced and adamant to believe anything but your own opinion. Mr. Amir here is trying to defend his religion which is not a wrong thing and why here, you may ask? It is because this is a website and it is for the whole world to see abd what you are doing is both good and bad.
It’s good that you have formed a forum to address issues pertaining to islam and women which is a growing concern.
It’s bad that you are not being professional and polite about this. Focus on the solutions rather than simply stating problems and expressing rage. From an outsiders perspective, this website can be described as ‘anti- islamic’ instead of being an ‘ islamic women empowerment’ based forum.
Moreover, no religion is perfect in it’s entirety and the concept of religion dates back to nothing but belief and if you are a skeptic person like i think i am. Don’t believe in the concept of religion and if you complain about your family being conservative and orthodox, and if it’s brought you trauma beyond repair- LEAVE .
My point here is, ‘ Dont impose your perspective. If you simply don’t believe in a religion then don’t. Having a negativistic attitude isn’t going to get you anywhere good. You have a right to not believe, but have the humility to respect every religion, person, race.
Best regards,
Ayesha
A good suggestion, something all should keep in mind.
Can you share more on “Focus on the solutions rather than simply stating problems.” Good education and financial independence are on our top list, what else would you propose?
in middle east and other muslim countries individualism is an alien concept , what u did or not it is everybody business , muslim girls are used as sex toys and can be divorced any time , they cannot marry non-muslim girls , muslim men can marrry jewish-christian girl but muslimah cannot marry non-muslim , iranian girls living in abroad have mostly afairs with non-muslims , many of them have married , Iranians are not crazy about religion it is due to mullah regime they are living under the islamic flag while many iranians have secretly renounced islam . In India muslims are getting more radicalised due to arabistaion , muslims of south india are now more conservative and radical than muslims of north india because they are going to middle east and comming with wahabi flavour .
I do not think Amir is compatible for voice chatting over issues raised here. Let educated females go through these operessive rules.Voice chatting is not an appropriate forum to this effect.This is an attempt to restrict the women,s freedom of speech and express.
I was expecting a positive and logical answer.
Its perfect answer, what part you didnt understand? Would you like you own sister speaking to just a guy on internet, and on this personal topic? If yes, just reply to this and tell her facebook id or her phone number.
Hello Amir,
You cannot explain in true manner.Had you been a muslim female, born in a middle class and married to a fundamentalist, and he marrying another 3 women in front of you, you would have realized the mental torture and you becoming victim of domestic violence every day, only then you would have been able to describe, hell of difference between realities and so called rules what you have been propagating for long, without knowing realities of fate accompli of a muslim women.
“You cannot explain in true manner.”
well, if so then may be i need more efforts, but if u r really interested in knowing Islam, then can we have voice chat?
To answer each and every person is a challenge. But I hope, telephonic talk has more relevance.
“Had you been a muslim female, born in a middle class and married to a fundamentalist, and he marrying another 3 women in front of you”
I live in a society where i have never seen such person marrying 4 girls. God did not make it obligatory.
Polygamy was very common in Hindu few years back, ( more than muslim ), and there is no upper limit to marry in Hindu religion.
Wife-sharing found in Hinduism.
Polygamy found in Hinduism.
Extra-marital affairs found in Hinduism.
“domestic violence” is a serious issue which is majorily due to drinking habit of men and dowry system.
But drinking and dowry both are prohibited in muslim.
Read news-paper carefully for such instances.
But real problem is such news are at corners, and muslim issues are at editorials. Cheap.
@Amir:In hindus only one marriage is allowed at a time.without divorcing the first spouse u cant have second marriage.i think ur brain is empty.or u dont know to read n write well.so u have not read about such laws in India.Polygamy is never practised in India.if u marry 2nd time without divorce with first spouse then its a crime as per Hindu law.extra marital affairs are there among Muslims as well.they marry 4 wives.n remaining girls they dont marry.but they ruin the lives of all.In Islamic countries women are treated like animals.Thats a fact.if u realy wana change then bring a revolution there.stop barking here about ur bullshit thoughts which are all crap.U need sum crime awareness around the world.
Better read history.
One marriage rule has been enacted by Government and not by Hindu religion.
lol from which idiot u bring the bullshit
jocker naik or mushafiq sultan or any madarssah mullah
Thank you Ayesha to pin point 10 oppressive rules against females in Islam. It would be better if Admin analyses in right perspective and gives his views.
The females are subject to so many tortures due to interpretation of these rules.
Hi Sabia and other muslim sisters,
I have already said that I too donot believe much in Quran. It is not meant for women. Sabia you are right to point out that Islamic rules are barbaric, cruel against females in muslim community, which are established by the following quotes from Quran:-
(1) A husband has sex with his wife, as a plow goes into a field. Your women are your fields, so go into your fields whichever way you like . . ‘If a man invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning.
(2) Husbands are a degree above their wives. The Prophet said, ‘I looked at Paradise and found poor people forming the majority of its inhabitants; and I looked at Hell and saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women.
(3) A male gets a double share of the inheritance over that of a female.
(4) A woman’s testimony counts half of a man’s testimony. ‘This is because of the deficiency of a woman’s mind.’
(5) A wife may remarry her ex—husband if and only if she marries another man, they have sex, and then this second man divorces her.
and if the husband divorces his wife (for the third time), she shall not remain his lawful wife after this (absolute) divorce, unless she marries another husband and the second husband divorces her. [In that case] there is no harm if they [the first couple] remarry.
(6) Slave—girls are sexual property for their male owners.
And forbidden to you are wedded wives of other people except those who have fallen in your hands [as prisoners of war).
(7) A man may be polygamous with up to four wives.
(8) A husband may simply get rid of one of his undesirable wives. Allah made it clear that the husband cannot literally keep equality between two or more wives because they themselves cannot be equal in all respects. It is too much to demand from a husband that he should mete out equal treatment to a beautiful wife and to an ugly wife, to a young wife and to an old wife, to a healthy wife and to an invalid wife, and to a good natured wife and to an ill—natured wife. These and like things naturally make a husband more inclined towards one wife than towards the other.
(9) Husbands may hit their wives even if the husbands merely fear highhandedness in their wives (quite apart from whether they actually are highhanded).If you fear highhandedness from your wives, remind them [of the teaching of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, then hit them. If they obey you, you have no right to act against them. God is most high and great.
(10) Mature men are allowed to marry prepubescent girls.
Prophet, when you [and the believers] divorce women, divorce them for their prescribed waiting—period and count the waiting—period accurately . . . 4 And if you are in doubt about those of your women who have despaired of menstruation, (you should know that) their waiting period is three months, and the same applies to those who have not menstruated as yet. As for pregnant women, their period ends when they have delivered their burden.
Maududi correctly interprets the plain meaning of verse 4, which appears in the context of divorce:
Therefore, making mention of the waiting—period for girls who have not yet menstruated, clearly proves that it is not only permissible to give away the girl at this age but it is permissible for the husband to consummate marriage with her. Now, obviously no Muslim has the right to forbid a thing which the Qur’an has held as permissible.
In the name of above quotes, innumerable attrocities are committed on females and males enjoys all sorts of freedoms irrespective of their personal demerits to be called as a human. These are known as top 10 rules to oppress female community in the islam.
In view of the above, I request our young female community that if they get any good boy, liberal, kind hearted, sobre, educative, like minded, committed and loyal, they should not feel hesitated to marry him irrespective of community or religion.
Hi,
If i could answer you for all the above doubts. ( which are nothing but distorted assumptions ) then Are you ready to be a guided muslim?
Just tell Yes or No.
Amir,
Seems like you ran out of things to say, why? Unless you could explain it all here, intelligent and educated women will take a wrong “take home” message from this.
Veena has summarized it all for you, “Don’t believe the quotations mentioned by Amir. Had Amir would have been a female from lower class, only then she would have realized the mental torture that she had to suffer.”
Salma, your experience “initially he appeared sober and gentle but later on became very rude, short tempered” is not uncommon. Main reasons could be jealously, insecurity and communication problems.
Most guys like a smart girl friend but a dumb wife!!
While dating, guys like the hottest girl and the one who will impress all their friends at the first sight. The same continues in the married life, except only when out for a party. However, immediately after coming home from the party, the same husband will wish the same (hot-out, cold-in) wife to remove his shoes and prepare a good cup of chai for him.
The situation is worst for the working women. Both work outside the home 8-10 hours a day, but when they return to home, in-laws and the husband expect the wife to cook and take care of children while the husband watches TV. This got to change, equal work-out equal work-in. If both bring in same money home, then both should contribute same time in the kitchen (which is below dignity for many from the Eastern culture). If a guy is not ready for all these, don’t get an educated wife.
A guy may like a pretty wife but will feel insecure when she goes out to work (especially in the film or modeling industry). Ideally, the guy should fully trust wife’s morality and give her extra respect and love when at home; then there is no reason to be insecure about her. Instead of being jealous of her progress, he should be proud. Short-tempered nature is a sign of poor communication skills. Being “rude” is something person has learned from childhood.
Well, how a dating girl will know how her lover will turn out years after marriage? If one wants to know, then find out how the guy’s mother was (is being) treated by his father. What goes comes around!
Hi Zeba, How will you react when your husband marries 3 more wives in addition to you? Thereafter you become a victim of domestic violence?
you are not allowed to move freely and kept in burqa in 47Deg.cel.?Inspite of that your husband enjoys all sorts of privieleges?
Though this is not asked to me, but it is very common question so i m replying..
Concept of 4 wives is a provision but not obligatory. We just act as per our society, and at present i don’t find anyone marrying 4 or even 2 at the same time around me.
Moreover polygamy is in other religion as well.
Islam says that men and women have right to marry as per their choice ( but with muslims ) , so if a man has already 1 wife, and the girl whom he wish to marry must also agree upon marriage.
I ask you, will you agree to marry with someone already with one wife?
Islam is completely against of extra-marital affairs.
What others do, they have a wife despite they are involved with other girls. They do it secretly. Is it correct?
So Islam urges if you want more than one relation you have come under agreement of marriage, which is hardest to do, as you have to be just with all, and in present scenario, it is not practical.
Quran clearly says, if you can’t be just then marry only one.
Infact Quran is the only book that say – marry to one.
And..
for the Burqa, Women should cover their body, but not necessarily wear burqa. Face and part of hand could be open.
If there is heat of 50 degree, what will you do , you will even cover your face to protect complexion.
Lesser the clothes, more the dehydration, So your logic does not hold good for heat.
hey Amir if men are allowed to marry 4 wives then y arent women allowed the same rights?u said Islam gives equal rights bla bla bla then y not here?y is a woman forced to marry another man and have sex with him n get talak and then get back to her 1st husband incase they wish to stay together after talak?its cheap isnt it?n men have all shit freedom to do whatevr they wish right?equality u see.God came on earth n told dis bullshit to u guys right?n Quran says men are allowed to rape the war captive women.so wat is your say on it ?God allows it right?U think God can be so low in his thoughts right?u are actually blind.
“men are allowed to marry 4 wives then y arent women”
if a woman marry with more than one men it becomes difficult to identify the real parent of children,(without DNA test 😛 )
Moreover if you see our society, women after marriage live in the house of husband. So it is difficult for a woman to live and care more than one house.
Number of women in world is more than men naturally, and also men die more because of wars, accident. Average age of women is more than men. If everyone marry one, there will be lot of girls without marriage.
Therefore it is permissible for men to marry more than once but not obligatory.
We think as we live today, but see history, polygamy was common, but it is Islam who put the check on number of marriage and encouraged Single marriage for men and women.
“y is a woman forced to marry another man and have sex with him n get talak”
while Talak is kept at very low preference by Prophet Muhammad, but it is allowed for extreme conditions. By Hadith – “Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is divorce. ”
So Talaq is usually discouraged.
You will be aware that Talaq is three times and not just one.
So if you make mistake even three times, you are punished by not allowing to live together again. Otherwise it would become common to get divorced as per need and get back again.
However, you get a different partner then finely realize which one was better. It can help you in either to get a better partner or realize your mistake with the previous partner.
Hope you understand.
“allowed to rape the war captive women”.
Rape is prohibited in Islam. And a muslim is not allowed to have sex with already married women.
For the slaves good behaviour is sought.
A hadith says -“He who slaps his slave or beats him, the expiation for it is that he should set him free”.
So forceful sex is beyond Islam, however unmarried slave girls may do sex ( by consent ) with their owners.
Slavery was always prominent in society and in last 100-200 years, it is abolished, but rules are for all the times. We don’t know what will happen after 100 years, so we can’t make ever-lasting rules. But it is God who made rules to be followed till life ends.
@Amir:start preaching ur muslim brothers.because they are a bad name to humanity.they never have good hearts towards women.specially outside India women in muslim community are always mistreated.does not Allah punish them then?they will be the crown winners of Heaven right?muslim men are good only in rarest of rare cases.they all have common thinking.that they rule this world.n they can do ne shit in the name of religion
Hello Zeba, are you Zeba Bakhtiar?
if so then I know why are you jealous, because you flopped wherever, you worked in film industry? Did you not do cheap acting in Heena and Vikranta movies in Bollywood?
If not that actress, then your mental set up is totally against womanhood, who wish to come out of slavery position of muslim women.
Vow thanks Admn. for giving a befitting reply to Zeba, who is certainly prejudiced and biased against me. I donot need to reply her now. Regarding comments of Nargis, my daughter is matured and competent to take decision about her profession/ career with dignity and judicious mind. I shall not put any restriction on her detrimental to her interest and career.
Dear Salma,
Thank you for sharing your personal life story for the benefit of other young adults. Husna admired it and that counts.
Veena and Salma, it must be very hard being a celebrity where every one thinks it is okay to throw any shit at you, insult you and talk bad about your family. After all, you are a normal common lady with dignity and pride. In spite of all these, we admire that you spoke out for a good cause.
Considering that God has given you only 24 hours in a day, just focus your energy in a positive direction. Do not be bothered to defend yourself to those who cannot (do not want to be) be pleased. Instead, when ever your time permits, please come guide girls in relationships on this web site.
Hi Salma,
I am not surprised with your comments. Aren’t you the person who danced semi-naked in Bollywood films just for fame and money. I presume your daughter would be doing the same. I dont think you are any scholar or in any moral position to preach muslims.
Zeba,
Your statement “the person who danced semi-naked in Bollywood films” could be said for any lady working in the film industry. Do you want her to work in the film industry in full Burqa with a net in front of her eyes?
Your second statement “just for fame and money” could be make for any person advanced in almost any field. Are you jealous of her success?
Here, Salma is not claiming to be an Islamic scholar or authority, but simply guiding Husna as a sister. She also made a beautiful statement as a common person, “In fact to make life happy and cheerful, both the partners should be like minded, compatible to each other, respecting sentiments, loyal and committed throughout the life. But normally it does not happen in each case.” This is beautiful, is it not?
What would you say for her statement, “It is the fundamentalist of our community, who put restrictions on us.” Do you think the fundamentalist in Muslim community are not putting restrictions on Muslim women?
Zeba, do you feel the Maulvi was right and Veena Malik was wrong in this debate.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pMnAmRa4NYw ???
hi Salma,
It is understood that your daughter Sasha is in romance with Arjun Kapoor and playing heroine role in Aurangzeb with him? How about if she marries Arjun Kapoor?
Hi Salma
Nice to see your comments in this forum for the under previelged and depressed women folk of muslim society. If intellectuals of your level share life experience it would be a great service to our community.
Millions of thanks.