doc says: September 6, 2014 at 1:48 am
I am a Christian(Protestant)girl and he is a Hindu boy, we are in the relationship from past 8 years. his family knows about me and have met me as his friend(we have studied in the same college and part of the same group) he keeps forcing them and me to interact with each other, thinking at least we will get to know each other, which they do to make him happy but they ignore and avoid me once he turns his back around. now he wants me to meet his parents and tell them i want to get married to him as he wants to get married only with his parents consent.
i know their first question have you told your parents? are they ready? for which i do not have any answers. my parents don’t even know of our relationship, I cannot tell my parents now as both my parents suffer from serious illness, they had recently met with accident and mom was in ICU twice in last 2 years and is constantly on oxygen machine even at home and are dead against me even mentioning of marrying anyone outside our religion, as they are very religious people. i don’t want any thing to happen to them as i also love them a lot.
i want to get married to him first and then get our parents to come around as i know once our families get to know my family will emotionally blackmail me to get married to the person they want as they will never let me stay bachelor, which i don’t think i will be able to withstand, which he is not ready to understand and i in turn will spoil someone else’ s life, as i can never be happy with anyone else or keep that person happy, i don’t want to do this.
we both do not want to convert and he knows i won’t be able to do any of his religious things, which i had cleared even before starting our relationship and he is ok with that and says he will take care of his family. i have no problem in teaching our children both the religions, as i have also baptized after completing 18 years and want my children to accept jesus wholeheartedly not because their mom does.
i love him a lot and i don’t want to loose him also. he says he will always support me till i tell him not to. my parents have even started looking for grooms.i am very confused. Please help………. -doc
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Hi I am Hyndavi.I am converted christian and my boy friend is Hindu.Our parents accepted our love.We have been in love from past 6 years.But last year i accepted jesus as my personal saviour and took batism.Then my problems started.Now he wants our marriage to be happen in hindu style which i and my parents don’t like.i knew that after batism hindu marriage is sin.i don’t want to loose him.Please any one reply me the solution for this problem
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Hi
May I know these couple got married or not. If yes, I like to have a few words with her. Because am in that same situation except that both families are against our relation. Please give me a reply. Please…I really want to know
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Ann,
We can help explaining your parents. Are you financially independent?
If you do marry, how are you going to marry? In a church, Hindu wedding, both or none? Let us know.
Thank You for replying. Yes…we are financially independent. But we cant have a church marriage as i am a sinner before my church for having a relationship with Hindu guy. We are planning to have Register marriage. My family is very orthodox and they wont accept this marriage. They are repeatedly warning me that God will punish me if I marry a Hindu. They are very strong in bible and they warn me using bible verses. I do love my parents but I cant loose this guy.
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I think to stop fighting for cast and releted things there should be 1 more cast created and the name of that cast will be NOC no cast or humanity those who are interested to join this discussion plz mail me on dandare_p@yahoo.com the basic moto behind creation of this type of cast is those who just belive in being a good human without any castisum and there will be no such fighting of cast and 1 more thing I would like to add to this ..that is the 2 point that thing is ..’job’ people are dying for jobs there should not be reservation according to cast recruitment and job allotment should be based on the knowladge not on the cast reservation..
Thank you Doc for reaching out. I hope you both have found a way out. If not, you can always mail me personally and seek advice. I will be glad to help you and it will be purely confidential. Jesus is there for you. Trust him. My email ID is
realitycheck.harekrsna@gmail.com
Feel free to talk.
Hare Krsna
Hello RC,
Can you clear us what faith you follow? On one side you keep mentioning Jesus and other Krshna. It is not that we have any problem with your messages, but will be glad to hear your explanations.
Dear Admin,
I was born a hindu. When I first accepted the presence of a super natural being around me, it was in the name of Jesus Christ. One of my college professors asked me to recite a prayer for him to welcome him in my heart and I did so. Back then my mind was preoccupied with thoughts of abandonment and rejection. I had a broken family and a painful childhood which left me really scarred. But after I truthfully accepted Jesus in my life, things got better. Whenever I needed guidance, the bible helped me out. I used to open up to any random page and find my answer. Yes, I do believe in Jesus as I know he has accepted me and loves me back. Well, the church might ask me to keep my faiths confined to only Jesus, but when I asked him, he guided me to his father, God(my Krsna). That’s when I reconnected to Krsna as well. Jesus is my FRIEND.
Krsna is not just my friend. He is my confidant. Well you might not believe but I have plenty of things given to me by complete strangers that guided me to Krsna. Things like books, jap maala, Krsna idol, cards with prayers on it etc. and that’s when I was more and awed by his divine grace. The more I got to know him, the more I was attached to him. Some people raised questions against him and I went on to find the truth and read endless number of Shlokas and Puranas to answer their doubts. But all of it was with constant faith in him that he wasn’t wrong. That he is the absolute truth and I was in love with him. I used to spend nights just talking to him and being mesmerised by his love. I still talk to him every minute. At times when I don’t like something that is happening around or any action of anybody close hurts me, I speak to him and he answers my questions in the most beautiful ways. He has taught me about my me the dharma and cleared all my doubts. He taught me the gift one receives in forgiving others and oneself. He is my love, life and everything else. So today I am still a hindu with my faith dedicated to the holy bible as well.
I am happy with my life and contended even though I don’t have the best clothes or fancy things. Because what I have is the rarest of it all, I have the heart of the divine, the love of my lord.
Hare Krsna.
P.S. Anyone with any sort of religious doubts or personal guidance, feel free to email me at:-
realitycheck.harekrsna@gmail.com
I would love to help you and share with you my own piece of happiness.
Thank you.
HareKrsna
Doc,
We are sorry to hear of conditions of your parents, we hope they will recover well soon. We also feel pain what you are going through regarding your love relationship. We see that you have been fair and try to find the best solution.
If you and the Hindu guy are not religious fanatic and willing to “take some and give some” in relationships relating to religion, then all will work out well in the end. This is great that you both don’t want to convert and we assume you will let your children decide their religion as an adult (like you did). This is superb, go for as you have planned.
We do have one major concern with the guy. Does he really have guts to go against his parents and to protect you after marriage? Why he keeps asking you to do some things that he could do?
Are you guys financially stable (meaning are you have jobs)? After marriage, are you planning live independently or with his parents? Let us know and we will talk more later.
Sir,
Have you received my reply? trying to contact you for a few days.
Waiting for your reply……………
Can you reply again, please?
If a problem, write to Interfaithshaaid@gmail.com
3) Are you guys financially stable (meaning are you have jobs)?
Yes , we both are working and also pursuing our studies (completed Diploma in engineering and pursuing correspondence Degree). I don’t think we come any way near to being financially stable as whatever we earn goes to support our families without any savings or investments.
4)After marriage, are you planning live independently or with his parents?
Independently is simply out of question , he doesn’t want to stay way from his parents.
Thank you so much Sir for the your reply, we really appreciate your concern, I did have a word with him regarding your questions.
Your Questions:
1)Does he really have guts to go against his parents and to protect you after marriage?
he said that he will stand up against his parents and protect me but when any situations arise with a large no. of people like his relatives or his village then he says he can not stand up to them and we have to do some adjustment and find a middle path like i should be going inside a temple or sit for puja but find a way to avoid actually worshiping.
Interfaith marriages work for only atheist, one of you is 100% submissive or both are pluralist. If you believe salvation is possible by different paths (to reach to the same ultimate God), then it will work. He comes to your Christian church for special festivals, have Christmas tree in home and enjoy all festivals, and you do the same for his Hindu things. You are doing all these as a respect for your spouse and family (both sides equal).
Read our article on Follow Jesus but not the church and view our Interfaith marriage video. Let us know what do you think.