KATHY says: May 27, 2020
Hi, everyone,
I see that this blog was posted nearly 4 years ago. But, I’m undergoing a similar situation now in 2020, while we’re all locked down.
My parents are strong Catholics, very much into preaching God’s word in the church circles, and are against my relationship with a Hindu boy. Religion is the only reason (as far as they tell me). My parents quote Bible verses that speak about God commanding against inter-religious relationships and marriages. But, I love the guy and neither of us are in the state of moving on.
I hope all you girls who had posted earlier are living your happily ever-after. And I also hope that you’d help me get to mine somehow. Thanks in advance. -Kathy
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Hi Kathy,
With the information you’ve provided, I believe you are setting yourself up for long-term unhappiness ahead. All goes well while you’re both in love and high on the energy of rebelling against parents. When you have children, your early beliefs will come to life, (called samskaras by Hindus) you and your parents will want them baptized. He and his family may want them to have the Namakarana samskara and other rites of passage. Attempted solutions I’ve seen (1) do both, raising confusing children; (2) do neither, raise atheists; (3) usually the wife wins, and the husband retreats to sullenness.
If your love is deep and true, and you consequently want a harmonious marriage, perhaps consider exploring Hinduism, and if it meets your spiritual needs, leave Catholicism and adopt Hinduism, as thousands of other Christians have done. Then the two of you will be of one mind in religion as well as love.
In any case, I certainly wish you well in this life ahead.
Hi, Fred. Thanks for your advice!
Hi,
Thank you for your quick reply.
I understand your point and what Karolina did in the video. However, my main concern now is not what the relatives or the society says; I need my parents to accept my love and marriage.
For now, my mom keeps playing preaching on TV or over the internet, and somehow they are all condemning, directly or indirectly. (And since I’m stuck at home 24×7 now, there’s no escaping.)
More over, I’m worried that my parents, as they keep listening to these preachings, are going to become all the more stubborn and its going to be more difficult to make them understand.
Its been nearly 2 years and I’m still trying to convince them, but we’re still at square one.
Any advice?
Thanks,
Kathy
Yes Kathy, this is going to be very difficult. On one side it is your love and the other side is parents who are stuck in the Bible.
Do you think you will be happy to marry someone who goes to the church every week and raise children as stated in the Bible? If answer is yes, as hard it may be, dump your lover.
Parents play hard ball till the point they know they are not going to win. When they realise that you are listening to them (giving them hope), they will go with double force to pressure you. However, the day they realize you are gone from their hands, they will turn around.
You have to make a decision based on what do YOU want? If your church, original sin and Judgment are all important for you, end this relationship now. However, your life goal is not what will happen on the Judgment day and you rather enjoy this life, ignore parents. This is the decision that only YOU can make for YOURSELF.
View this video message and let us know what do you think… https://youtu.be/GVWK8Qw5494
Hi,
I’m overwhelmed that someone is trying to help. At these times even a small word of advice is of huge encouragement to me.
1) I do believe in the Bible but do not accept everything my parents interpret of it word for word. For instance, when they point out Deuteronomy 7:3, which says, do not intermarry, I think that it was said for a particular time and for a particular people, and that there are other instances in the Bible itself at which people did intermarry.
2) A big NO.
3) They’re more open minded about me being a Christian – they haven’t openly said okay yet, but neither have they objected to or rejected us.
Waiting for a reply.
Thank you.
Kathy
Hi Kathy,
We are glad you are open minded. If all Christian were so open minded in the past, they would not have killed millions during crusades in the name of God.
Why Hindus don’t have major problems for your faith while Catholics think you are doing sin marrying a non-Catholic who is otherwise a good human being? Are all Catholics on this world saints?
We would say keep Jesus but dump the church and go with your love.
View this video and let us know what do you think about what the Christian girl did is a right step?
https://youtu.be/fQ8-U2RLK-g
Hi, Admin.
Thank you. I did watch the video.
However, I am not ready to ditch him, nor do I want to lose my parents. I will do everything that I can to try to make this work pleasing both sides.
Is there any way that you (or anyone else reading this) can maybe point me out to something from the Bible that kinda approves of an inter-religious marriage? I’ve been all over the internet and found some, but my parents aren’t convinced with these. It would be great if you could help me out.
Thanks,
Kathy
PS. I’m thankful to have come across this page. 🙂
As we said before, first you have to decide who are YOU? What do you want? What religion means to you? Are Hindus sinners?
You first read this Bible on Hindus at https://interfaithshaadi.org/bible-on-hindus/ or https://interfaithshaadi.org/बाइबिल-हिन्दुओं-पर-bible-hindus/
We do not have problem with Jesus but the church. Read … https://interfaithshaadi.org/follow-jesus-church-message-interfaith-couple/ . You will be happy in this marriage only if you can keep the church out your married life.
Get into rational discussion with your parents about the Bible and church. Let us know what they say.
Hi Kathy,
Thank you for sharing your situation. Let’s see if we can be of any help to you.
Please let us know:
1) Do you personally see the Biblical logic as your parents are trying to point out to you? Are you truly a “religious” person, believing that the Bible is 100% truth and only Jesus saves?
2) If your parents are not convinced, are you ready to trash your relationship?
3) Are Hindu boy’s parents okay accepting you being a Christian?
Please share your views and we can discuss what will be the best way forward for you. Best wishes.