Lekshmi says: April 3, 2015 at 11:11 am
I am a Hindu girl coming from an orthodox family. I love a Latin Catholic boy ..when I said this to my parents. .They are emotionally black mailing me to get married with a Hindu guy who I Don’t even know. .I love I want him But my parents are afraid of society..They are not allowing I don’t know Wat to decide -Lekshmi
Admin says:
Hi Lakshmi,
You are certainly in a very difficult situation. You are going through a growing pain.
It is hard to balance between two lovers. On one side is your own parent to whom you love dearly and the other side is your boy friend. One or the other times, in life, you will get into a situation where you will end up doing things that your parents (or boy friend/husband) may not approve.
On parent part, they don’t realize that they don’t own you. One or the other day the bird will fly away from the nest; that is natural.
Your parents are honestly wishing you to be happy. They think you will not be happy with that Christian because they may have certain stereotype thinking about your guy. However, that does not mean you dump your lover even he is perfect for you. So, what is the solution?
We feel good communication is the key. It is not going to be done overnight, so you have to have lots of patience. Never ever get into fights or heated discussion with parents or the boy friend. Instead, remain cool and calm but be firm in your quest for truth.
To start with, ask you parents for what are their main 5 concerns about the Christian guy; write it down. Later, go ask some of those questions (especially religion related) to your boy friend.
Keep in mind that your boy friend is also going through the same issue with his parents. A Christian parent may not want a “Hindu” in their home. For this reason, ask him to ask you critical questions for you being a Hindu. Let us know what you learned.
We wish to talk a lot with you but we will go in stages. Does this plan make sense?
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To add to admin’s information:
There are differences between Catholics and Christians, because Catholics can marry non-believers. http://canonlawmadeeasy.com/2013/01/17/cath-marry-non-christian/ I have several Catholic cousins who married atheists, and in the marriage ceremony, the Catholic will receive the Sacrament of Marriage and both partners will sign a document stating that both should do what they can to help the Catholic partner remain Catholic. Another friend just witnessed a Catholic-Hindu marriage so in these terms, you are fine.
But it seems that the issue is your parents on dealing with possibly an interracial and interfaith marriage, and they may think that things will be rough for you if you don’t share these cultural and faith similarities?
This is not true, “should do what they can to help the Catholic partner remain Catholic.” but they will want the children Catholic (meaning all future generations). Read https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/index.php/literature/100-pre-nuptial-with-roman-catholic-church