Suzy says: March 24, 2016 at 6:05 am
Hello.. This exactly what I’m going through now. He (Sikh) actually open his heart and mind to convert so we could be married. He did his research, spoke to some of his colleagues and even to his relatives (the ones that converted). We were also there.. the only thing now is blessing from his mother. It was a flat no. Not up for negotiations. Both of us are lost. My family accepted him. My mum love him like her own son. We’re now torn. We’re broken up at the moment to figure out the next step. There’s no word that could describe the hurt im feeling right now. We met when we were 15yra old.. And now we’re 31. We have been together every step of the way. Patience i guess. -Suzy
Admin says:
Dear Suzy,
We assume he is Sikh. Correct us if that is not true.
It amazes us with your obsession of converting non-Muslims, you cannot see complete injustice being going on. Your parents are happy because he is willing to convert. The second he says he is not converting, you parents will be ready to kill you if you marry to that ‘Sikh’ man. Your mother loves him “like her own son” because he is converting, a very selfish gesture. Same like wishes of your Muslim parents, why not that Sikh mother expects you to be Sikh? Why don’t you convert to Sikhism (and your boy friend convert to Islam), thus get even deal. Let your parents feel the pain when their child converts to some other faith.
We hope and pray that he don’t convert just to marry you. Ask him — would he has converted to Islam if you were a Christian? This fake-conversion will only bring deeper trouble later in your life.
If you live in a secular country, go get married in a court. You don’t convert nor him. Let the love be a priority and not this love-proselytism. Both parents have to learn to live with a new reality of life. Is not this logical?
Suzy, now don’t come and tell us that he MUST convert because that is what Allah told you (Koran 2:221). If so, let us remind you that Allah also told you (Koran 24:30) not to date anyone till marriage. You have committed 16 years of sin. So might as well forget all this conversion bullshit and marry him as he is (meaning Sikh). Best wishes. -Admin
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Chinese Malaysian with Spanish-Moroccan Muslim
Suzy, I have a Muslim friend in love with a Sikh boy whose mother took 9 years to come around, and she still has not met my friend’s family. So it will be extremely hard to convince his mother unless you agree to do a Sikh marriage as well, which I don’t see a problem with. Sikhism is a mix of Hinduism and Islam anyway, isn’t it? It has taken elements from both, from what I have been told. So to convince his mother, you guys will need to find a common ground and do a Sikh marriage as well. But let your Sikh boyfriend fight this battle – nothing you can say or do (short of conversion to Sikhism) will convince his family after so many years. Trust me, my friend is still not engaged and she’s almost 30!
Sister Rabia, you have a munafiq friend having sikh bf as per Quran.
mac, you are also, one time, a munafiq having Brahmin gf as per Quran. This is reality of today’s life. Our job is to educate these youths and ultimately it is their choice what they wish to do.
For us, we are not concern or out to scare youths about the Judgment Day, but ‘uninformed’ decision will bring disaster (Hell Fire) in THIS life.
Unless youths in love are like Rabia (“need to find a common ground and do a Sikh marriage as well”) who are willing to give some and take some (pluralism), it is not going to work out. Exclusivism, supremacist attitude and intolerance for what the other party is — is not going to work. Interfaith marriage with equality is the best way, however one defines equality.