Section 5.14: I am Not Going to Change My Religion at Any Cost
Falguni says:
I am Hindu girl in a relationship with a Muslim boy for the last seven years. We both love each other a lot and his parents have even accepted me. But my parents are against this relationship and above all I am the only daughter of my parents. So I am in a big dilemma now. Neither can I leave my parents nor can I stay without my boyfriend. What should I do? Please help me to make a decision, please. —Falguni
Admin says:
Falguni,
You have left out the most critical information, does he or his family expect you to change your religion? It does not matter what excuse he uses; bottom line, do you have to convert?
If conversion is expected (in almost all cases), are you willing to live Muslim life proudly? Considering the risks are VERY high, is it worth putting your parents to shame? If you get the talaak after marrying him, what is your backup plan? We hope not your parents!
Tell him that you will never ever convert in this life; this is who you are and will remain that way. Take it or leave it. We are sure he will accept you as you are. If not, you are only 23 and have a long way to go for your life; you will have other options. Get back to us for more guidance. Don’t jump into the well blindly! —Admin
Falguni says:
Ya, he did tell me that if I have to marry him then I’ll surely have to convert since a Muslim guy can perform nikaah only with a Muslim girl. But he did add that I’ll be allowed to visit temples and that I can keep idols of God along with me. But now am going to tell him that I am not going to change my religion at any cost. Let me see if he can accept me that way. Anyway, thanks for your valuable advice Sir! I’ll surely get back to you for more guidance. —Falguni
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