Section 5.12: I Pray for His Conversion to Islam in Every Namaz

Section 5.12: I Pray for His Conversion to Islam in Every Namaz

Eman says:

He’s Brahmin and very religious. I too am very religious. I pray for his conversion to Islam, every time in namaz. He’s a great guy, very good at heart, probably nicer than hundreds of Muslim guys. We love each other a lot and can’t think of life without each other.

Having affair is prohibited in Islam but I believe pure love has to be acceptable in the eyes of Allah. But the problem is our parents’ approval and how our life would be after marriage. I am thinking of having children and giving them both Islamic and Hindu teachings. Let them decide what religion to choose when they are old enough. I am sure if they get Islamic teachings they will surely follow Islam.

If as a bahu (wife) I may be asked to perform some rituals, I will do without heart. And I do have arguments on religious topics. What do I do to convince him that Islam is a true religion without straining our relationship? If I don’t get him I may never marry in my life.

Also he belongs to a family who are very narrow-minded, consider Muslims impure and all that shit. He too was like that before I came, but still he has some flinch for other Muslims. He can accept my family and me but the fact that he doesn’t respect my community drowns me.

I get over emotional over religious topics because I follow and believe in Islam, not just because I am born into it but I have actually understood it. Now I want him to understand, but preconceptions and ego will not allow him to see what I am trying to say.

Is there any way I can at least make him understand without ruining our relationship? —Eman

Admin says:

Hi Eman,

Allah knows everything and does everything. Perhaps Allah has made you fall in love with that Brahmin boy and sent you to us.

You said, “He’s a great guy, probably nicer than hundreds of Muslim guys,” why? You liked that Hindu for a reason. Why did you not like hundreds of other Muslim guys you came across in your life? Because the Muslim husband, as per Sharia (see Figure 2) laws, can have multiple wives, can lightly beat you and can give you a talaak? (read) Knowing this, why would you want that Brahmin to convert to Islam and give him all these new options? If you are smart and truly love him, marry him as is, as a Brahmin. Instead of “I pray for his conversion to Islam”, you should thank Allah that he cannot legally follow all of these practices.

Figure 2: Sharia Practices: If you are in relationship with a Muslim and are asked for shahadah religious conversion, understand how such conversion will impact your life.

You have presented beautiful, pluralistic views i.e. “I am thinking of having children, giving them both Islamic and Hindu teachings.” That is the way it should be. Let the child decide his/her own faith when he/she is 21 years old.

You said, “Perform some rituals which I will do without heart,” yes just do it for his sake. It is your faith that is important.

You said, “He belongs to a family who is very narrow-minded.” Then you will have to educate them. Likewise, you have also presented yourself as equally narrow-minded by wishing him to convert. We strongly advise you to give up this idea of conversion and learn to love and respect each other.

We question your statement “I have actually understood (Islam).” If you understood it, you would not have gotten into a relationship with a Hindu Brahmin to start with.

Love is not easy to come by. If you are truly in love, maintain it. Love him the way he is. Do not fake-convert him into what he is not. By showing your true love for him (instead of being a love-jihadi), you could change his thinking for other Muslims. Ultimately, it will be a win-win for both of you.

The bottom line is, you have two choices—accept him as is (that is as a Brahmin) or marry a true Muslim boy who prays five times a day and follows Mohammad’s teachings. Make up your mind. Best wishes. —Admin