Disha says: September 12, 2013 at 11:12 am
I am in a relationshp wid a parsi guy. I want to ask something….is it ok to marry a parsi?
i mean i dnt knw the religion much….please explain me about their religion…..
and what’s the diff between Parsi nd Farsi?
Do they eat beef? -Disha
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Admin says:
Disha,
Obviously yes, it is okay to marry anyone. However considering there are only a very few Parsis (Zoroastrians in India) left, they are very protective of their culture (Parsi) and religion (Zoroastrian).
If a Parsi marries to a Hindu, they will ask for:
1) The marriage cannot be by Hindu rituals (not allowed in their religion) and
2) The children by that marriage must have Parsi names and raised as Parsis only.
In these respects, to Hindus, Parsis are not any different that Muslims, Christians and Jews. However, unlike Christians and Muslims, Parsis and Jews do not believe in proselytism (spreading their religion). -Admin
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Aspi says: September 15, 2011
I am a Zoroastrian and love a Hindu girl. Her family wants the wedding to happen according to Hindu rituals that mean the 7 pheras around a fire.
I am not really bothered doing all this. However some members in my family have been telling me not to do the pheras as it would mean conversion to Hinduism and denouncing Zoroastrianism.
I don’t really follow religious practices or faith. I do however visit the fire temple when I feel like which is usually once or twice a year to attend my father’s baj or something like that.
Now my fiancée and I have decided that we will have our freedom to do whatever we choose to do and kids at this point are a no no.
What I want to know in detail are the legal implications of going through with a traditional Hindu wedding. —Aspi
Admin says:
Why you said, “Kids at this point are a no no”? It is possible that after a few years of marriage, you may feel like having children. Is it because of religious conflicts or just your choice?
We wish somehow you manage to keep traditions from both faiths. Take best from both faiths and leave the rest for others. Be a pluralist and tolerant of each other’s religious belief and teach the same to both sets of in-laws. Respect and honor both sets of parents but don’t submit to parents’ irrational request to give up the other faith.
We are not legal expert but read Indian Marriage Laws and cross-references into it. As far as we understand, it is the first marriage that counts. For this reason, go to have a Civil marriage first. After that you could have a Hindu as well as Zoroastrian marriages (and Jain, Christian, Sikh… as many marriages you wish to have). This way, you have no choice but to be neutral and will not be questioned if got converted from one to other and the same for her. If any Hindu priest says you must convert, find a new one!
Your parents said that being in a Hindu wedding ceremony means you converted to Hinduism. We believe a pandit sprinkling water and chanting Sanskrit slokas does not fulfill “legal” definition of conversion. For example, being in Islamic nikaah does not make one a Muslim, but before marriage the imam will ask one to take shahadah oath of conversion to Islam and that is a legal conversion. Further, going to a church every Sunday does not make one a legal Christian but one has to be baptized to be a Christian. A Hindu could be a believer in Jesus’ teachings and a Christian could love yoga and messages in Geeta; these are choices, beliefs and faiths but do not constitute a legal conversion. —Admin
Aspi says:
Thanks Admin. Really appreciate it. —Aspi
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From Wiki:
A Parsi or Parsee is an ethnic Persian member of Zoroastrian communities in India. They are legally and ethnically distinct from the Iranis even though both groups are Persian Zoroastrians. They are descend from Greater Iran who immigrated to Gujarat in western India during the 8th or 10th century to avoid persecution by Muslim invaders who were in the process of conquering Iran. At the time of the Muslim conquest of Persia, the dominant religion of the region was Zoroastrianism. Iranians rebelled against Arab invaders for almost 200 years; in Iran this period is now known as the “Two Centuries of Silence” or “Period of Silence”. During this time many Iranians who are now called Parsi rejected both options and instead chose to take refuge by fleeing from Iran to India.
The word “Parsi” in the Persian Language literally means “Persian”. Being also the official Iranian language of modern Iran A.K.A. Persia. However, sometimes the Persian language (Parsi) is referred to as Farsi; reason being that after the Arab invasion of Persia and their dominant rule, due to the absence of the “P / G / Zh / Ch” sounds in the Arabic language, they referred to the Persian language Parsi as “Farsi”. (i.e. Babak Khorramdin’s original name being Papak (Papa + Kuchak = Papak) meaning “Young Father” in the Persian language.
Why only a few Parsis left?
Perhaps 61,000 Parsis are left in India today, three-quarters of them in Mumbai. Parsis often marry late or not at all. They have a low birth rate. Many migrate to the West. The group’s closed nature poses more problems. The children of women who marry outside do not count as Parsis, despite an otherwise progressive attitude to women. Some Zoroastrian priests do not admit converts.
Interfaith marriages in Parsis:
The majority of traditional Zoroastrians and Parsis in India openly disapprove and discourage interfaith marriages. Adherents who go through an inter-faith marriage are often expelled from the religion. When an adherent marries their partner from another religion, they go through the risk of not being able to enter the Agyaris and Atash Behram’s. In the past, their partner and children were totally forbidden from entering the following establishments, which is often still upheld today. A loophole was soon found to avoid such expulsion: offspring, especially born out of wedlock, from a Parsi man and a non-Parsi woman were often legitimatized through “adoption” by the Parsi father, and as such they were tacitly accepted into the religion. Inter-faith marriages may skew Zoroastrian demographics, considering the numbers of adherent are low already and inter-faith marriages may reduce their representation.
According to the Indian law, where most Parsis reside, only the father of the child must be a Zoroastrian for the child or children to be accepted into the faith. There have been great debates over this, as the religion promotes gender equality, which this man-made law violates. Zoroastrians in North America and Europe have denied accepting this rule and defy it. The children of a non-Zoroastrian father are accepted as Zoroastrians.
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I am a parsi married to aBengali I am looking for a parsi
Girl or a girl from interfaith marriage of a parsi parent For my son who is raised by me with parsi values Any info will help Many thanks
This site is not a matrimonial site but below are a few suggestions…
https://www.shaadi.com/matrimony/parsi-matrimony
https://www.parsishaadi.com
https://www.jeevansathi.com/matrimonials/parsi-matrimonial/
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I wish not to reveal my personal identity so I kept an alias for my name.
I am a Hindu guy who has been with a Parsi woman for a long time and we wish to continue and be very serious about it to the point we can take it to marriage. My mother has accepted her however I am unsure as to how to approach her parents.
From her words, she says that her father wants her to marry within their community. As in, marry a Parsi guy.
How do I approach her parents and show that I can be a worthy son-in-law?!
Of Hi I am irania my name is afshin I love y
Hi Afshin,
Are you Zoroastrian or Shia? Are you in Iran or India?
I am fully acquainted with the zaroastrian. Religion I had my Shia religion like my father but the sought to understand the real religion from age of 18 to 25 and eliminated religious fanaticism. I read in the torah that only Jews go to paradise. The prophet Jacob wrestled with God or angel the sentences of the torah are old and racist god of Jews is the only protector of the people. Of israel
read the Bible of Christians and disappeared into beautiful and emotional sentences. I was filled with love, feeling and enthusiasm, but wrote this book to the apostles of Christ and I was sad. Maybe Shakespeare could write better. I was not looking for a novel because the Bible was a human novel. Neither God’s Book was of no avail
The third religion I studied was Zoroastrianism. I read more than 50 books on Zoroastrian religion. I decided to keep Zoroastrians praying and waving. I wrapped 72 woven threads. Read the full Avesta book. Good and good sayings. Good deeds are extraterrestrials, but I noticed in Zoroaster’s religion that others might not know that they should accept that the book of Avesta is not the same and the same time.
The Vindhid section of the book of Avesta belongs to Zoroastrians and does not relate to Zoroastrianism. Why do Zoroastrians pray prayers for fire? Are they firefighters !! What is God from what is the essence of God? In Islam, this is a question which God is disbelieving in. In my view, the essence of God is absolute light. Islam implicitly confirms this
In Islam, when Angel Gabriel and Mohammad came to God, Angel said to Mohammad, that I can not come over that God’s light burns up, so God is in absolute light, and the Zoroastrian prayer towards the fire is actually towards the light And light is the sign of God, and fire should not be turned off because God does not die
I love a Parsi guy and we will be completing 3 years. We had so many problems since first year that our families are that rigid to accept us. They blackmail us and blame each other’s families. In this we have suffered emotionally mentally and physically. We are proving and convincing them a lot . We are tryin to make them understand but they don’t want any of the inter caste marriage.
I am ready to take any responsibilities any Parsi family follows. I know most of the rituals as well.
Where am I lacking?
I have read so much about zorastrian and where the people can convert themselves in their community. I need your help. Are their any laws which can support us? How should me convince our parents? Which further steps should we take ?
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@Disha if u really love that guy u would not care if he eats beef or not.However , do whatever u want its ur life.
I would request the admins of this site to understand the Parsi situation before they start recommending intermarriage. First, there is no conversion in the Parsi religion so non-Parsi partners cannot become Parsi. Second, intermarriage, whether man or woman to non-Parsis is not sanctioned in the religion. Third, we are a very small community and if we start intermarriage with the vast number of non-Parsis around us, we will soon be extinct. Would you all like that? Even the government of India has graciously started a Jiyo Parsi program.
So if you appreciate what we have done for India, please do not support inter-marriage at least for our small community. Please kindly delete this page, is our request. Or at least do not encourage intermarriage.
Parsis have made tremendous contributions to India and further, unlike other immigrant to India, never hurt their host. We love them and wish they survive and grow from here. We understand that interfaith marriage is like silent holocaust; will erode Parsis. We certainly don’t encourage (or against) interfaith marriage. Further, youths in love come to us only after being in years of relationship. There is only so much we can help.
I disagree, as a Parsi myself, I think its absurd to say we should ONLY marry within the community. The argument is essentially that we need to preserve our ethnic stock in the community, and that marrying out of the community “dilutes” it. The last time this happened in the world, it was when Hitler spoke of the great Aryan race needing to be preserved. Perhaps this is too drastic of an example to use.
I understand completely that our community is fading and that it may soon go extinct. But at the same time, who are we to stand in the way of love? The problem in my Parsi community isnt just that people are marrying out of the community, there is also a large number of parsis who never marry at all. Of the ones that DO marry, many never have children. This will equally if not lower our community numbers even MORE than simply marrying out of the community. But do we blame people who marry parsis and dont have children for it? No, they married a parsi, so it is fine. But as soon as you marry a Hindu, then its an outrage?
We are going to such lengths to kick people out of the community and break apart the community, now we will even stand in the way of love and two adults wanting to be with one another, all in the name of “preserving our community”. It is very sad in my opinion. People should be able to marry whomever they choose if they love them and care for them deeply, and I simply cannot stand when people try and use our community to against this.
Just my opinions on the issue, I realize others views may differ.
All the best!
i like parsi girls for mereg how i teck mereg ?
I’ve been with a Parsi guy for over eight years now. We will be having a destination wedding at Rio De Janeiro in 8 months, with an ordained minister instead of our individual religious practices, so as to maintain the harmony we have based this relationship on.
My question however, is with respect to whether the individual faiths are open to bi-religious children. We would like to instill the traditions both of us have been taught in our children. Would such young kids be allowed to perform both parsi and hindu rituals?
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=9992
Dear admin we both were ready to get marry each other just 20 days before but my parsi girlfriend wanted to talk with her parents with regards to our relationship we talked with them that we want to marry each other. But her father said no to this relationship and now her cell phone is also being confiscated and I am being warned to not to contact her and she is being kept under lock and she is now not allowed to go out of the house and we have not talked with each other since last 15 days. Now at present I don’t know what negativity with respect to me is created in her mind or what sort of brain wash of my girlfriend is done that she have not even tried to contact me since so many days and I am going mad day by day. A girl who use to call me 10 times a day have not contacted me since so many days.
Bhavesh,
You are certainly in a very difficult situation. However, Parsis are trying to preserve their (little left over) community and wish their daughter marry another Parsi. Actually this is true for any parents that they wish their daughter to marry a person of their choice.
There is nothing you could do or take any legal step now. You will have to wait little while more. She may not be contacting because probably she is in house arrest. But this could be only temporary. Keep up your efforts smartly. Keep in touch!
I am into relationship with a parsi girl, she wanted to marry me and i want marry her but the problem is I m Hindu and her parents are not agreeing. Is there any way that I can marry her without any problems.
The Special Marriage Act 1954 is the best option. Keep both faiths at distance and let your love rule your married life.
Dear Sir,
4 years before when i was 19 i converted in Islam and marriage with a Muslim girl now i concerned about my paternal property’s rights. I lost it or is my rights extend.
Now i want to rid of my wife.
Then how i do???
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=9781
I am Muslim guy from Kashmir and I got married to a hindu girl through nikah and also through interfaith civil marriage in mumbai court..we are having irreconcible differences between us and we both want to get divorce by mutual consent.. We don’t live together bec of her ailing single mother..we had been in relationship for more than 3 years before we got married six months before.. Kindly advice the procedure of divorce.
Hello Admin Disha mam
i have been reading it for few days. Nice knowledge about the interreligious marriage i got, my question is one thing if parsis are left in small numbers why dont they accept other religion partners. As they speak gujarati good and yes they are been respected more by hindus and had also developed and brought India fame.
Unfortunately, those faiths with maximum education and good to others are disappearing. While those who faiths that are least educated communities, produces more kids, convert others, and don’t tolerate others are spreading like wild fire.
If Parsis marry others, they feel they will dilute out. Now there are only some 70,000 Parsis left and they wish to preserve them.
HI Admin,
My friend is a Hindu girl in love with a parsee priest. I would like to know if a parsee priest is allowed to marry a non parsee girl. And by doing so will the guy have to give up being a prest. Since he is at the moment a practicing priest.
Thanks
Wow! A Parsi priest in love with a Hindu? That guy should know what will happen if he marries to a Hindu, ask him.
In most cases, the Parsi will want the Hindu to convert to Parsi. Once she is a Parsi, then it is within faith marriage. This is what all Muslims and Christians are doing.
Is your friend ready to be a Parsi (meaning no more a Hindu), have Parsi wedding (meaning no Hindu wedding) and raise children as Parsis?
For yr kind info, conversion is not allowed in zoroastrianism. So, how do u expect a hindu girl to be converted to the faith.
Great point and agree to you, however we know closely a case where the Parsi asked the Hindu girl for the Parsi marriage (and no Hindu marriage), girl has to follow all Parsi practices and agree to raised children only in Parsi faith. We also know of other cases where marriage was only by Parsi way and children are being raised as Parsis only. In all practicality, the Hindu in these cases are now a Parsi (may be 70%-30%!!).
What an individual does it their personal matter and some religious institution may not have much control over it. Here, our objective is to educate dating youths to be prepared for what is coming and be prepared for it. Logical?
Hello admin,
I’am a Hindu boy and in love with a Parsee girl. We both love each other alot. The problem is that her parents are very orthodox and wants her to get married to parsee boy only. We love each other alot and we dont want to hurt her parents too as they are too old(late born daughter). What can we do? Any suggestions from your side?
Thank you.
They wish to preserve their small community. Are you willing to convert to Parsi and raise Parsi children? That also mean you will no longer be a Hindu?
Sir / Madam,
My Name is Ronnie M Born in parsee family. My Parents & Grand Parents are from Parsee Family. In 2012 i got Married to a Hindu Girl with Good family Back-Ground. Now We have a Baby Boy 2 1/2 Yrs Old. He is Being Growing-up in Parsee Culture, right from his birth. I seriously want him to grow-up in Parsee Culture & teach him every thing the same which was taught too me By My Parents & Grand Parents.
I just wanna Know what difference does it Makes if Boy’s Mom is Non-Parsee, Well When she has accepted to grow Our Child in Our Very Own Community. Please let me Know i Whether my Child is Accepted as Parsee, though i know he is Accepted but still wanna know through the same.
Also request you to send the reply of the same on my Mail-id judt for my reference & Share it with my Relation’s.
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8706
I am a Hindu, forward caste, I would like to convert himself to parsi and marry a parsi woman because I like parsi community. How can I contact parsi religion,its priest and community etc. Please inform me
Unlike Muslims and Christians, Parsis are not out to convert others. However you may find out about their temple by google search and go talk to them. There are not many Parsis around left and thus will be difficulty find a Parsi girl for you, but good luck!
I am a Hindu, forward caste, I would like to convert himself to parsi and marry a parsi woman because I like parsi community. How can I contact parsi religion,its priest and community etc. Please inform me.
Why don’t you look for their Agiari (Parsi Fire temple; search in Google). Actually, Parsi are not one who convert people like Christianity and Islam. Further, there are only a very few parsi girls around left, so search hard for her. Good luck!
hi admin im iranian and live in khorasan region .i wana marry a parsi guy does it possible? parsian community axept iranian girls marry a parsi guy ? plz help me
Where did you met?
If you agree, how will you marry? If the Parsi family ask you to give up your birth religion Islam, are you ready? Alternatively, will your Muslim family asks him to convert to Islam?
hi admin i need to your help, im iranian girl and wana maried parsi guy in india does it realy possible? i very eager to marry a parsi guy i live in iran now .
I am a parsi girl. I have a very serious doubt.. I NEED HELP! When a parsi-boy marries a non-parsi-girl, their children are accepted in the community as parsis…. but when a parsi-girl marries a non-parsi-boy, their children are NOT accepted in the community as parsis!
In a community like parsi, which is considered the most literate and developed community, WHY THIS INEQUALITY???
As a 21st century parsi girl, I consider this as my right to raise this question, and if any of the parsi specially is reading this,I request U to post your opinions on this matter!
Common people, raise your voice to enlighten the truth! I really need to know!
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7972
Dear admin, please reply to my query dated 25 April 2014. Please !
I was forced by the parents of a minor Muslim girl to marry her under special marriage act. The girl was high school passed but her parents did not submitted her high school certificate before marriage officer and they also consealed the real age of girl from me. At the time of that forced marriage they also taken my signature on a blank nikahnama . After 16 months of that forced marriage when my parents got knowledge about that forced marriage they got angry and met the parents of that girl and talaq was obtained as per Muslim law, mehar & iddat was also paid and an agreement was also executed for the mutual consent talaq in the presence of members of both families. After 15 years of that talaq that girl has filed 125 crpc case claiming maintenance for her and her daughter . She is claiming marriage on behalf of forged nikahnama only and she totally consealed the fact about special marriage. Please provide me some citations of Supreme court in favour of me.thanx
This is little complex to understand. Why someone forced you to marry without your parents knowing it? Why don’t you go get your Special Marriage Act certificate from local office where you filed for papers and show it as a proof. You signed the nikahnama, that is a fact, how are you going to prove that it is forged? Anyways, if you fathered a child, you are responsible for the child.
The girl was baled and has lucoderma also.through a conspiracy her mother involved both of us in to sexual relations. Then after all of sudden her mother and her elder brother who is a police man started blackmailing me by giving me the threat of rape case.in those days I was living with them because her mother is my father’s step sister. At that time my friends advised me to marry that girl just to avoid rape case. But the court marriage was null & void because she was minor as per her matriculation certificate. Her brother & mother consealed the fact about her age and misguide the special marriage officer & me also. Now after about 18 years from the date of that forced special marriage I knew about her real age at the time of special marriage , I also obtained her matriculation certificate ( photo copy) . So that marriage was based on force & fraud. The forged nikahnama shows date of marriage 7-8-95 and special marriage certificate shows the date of marriage 5-7-95. So as per my case there were two marriage ceremonies were organised in two different dates. My question is which marriage was valid? Please suggest me some citations of supreme court & high court.
Anyways, if you fathered a child, you are responsible for the child. Any court will not let you go away from your fatherhood responsibility on any technical ground.
I am agree to pay maintenance to child but I don’t want to pay her mother because she is not my legally weded wife. She was involved along with her parents in misrepresentation & misleading the special marriage officer at the time of that special marriage. They totally ultra wire the conditions prescribed in sec 4 of the special marriage act 1954. Can she ( ex wife) still get maintenance from me? please suggest me some citations of HC & SC.please help.
Unfortunately we are now lawyers and difficult to give specific guidance on the web. Best would be to contact a local lawyer.
Hello,
I am a Parsi boy married to a Sikh Girl under the Special marriage act and both our parents were witnesses. However, my father started developing issues wiht my wife and threatened to chuck us out of his house and he sent an email to my in-laws as well stating the same.
My in-laws see no security for my wife and do not want her to be with me and as such are making a think on lines of a divorce. She is staying with her family since a year now and not with me. The problem is not between us and we really want to be together.
Under such circumstance can I get a house in the Parsi Baugs under the Bombay Parsi Punchayat scheme ? i have stayed in mumbai for 27 years and just a year back moved to Gurgaon for my job. I am told that i need to be in mumbai to get a falt – but the point is will i get a flat under the BPP.
Pls help me as we both wana save our marriage. I have no security to offer her parents and having a flat in my name will help. She wants our kids also to be Parsis.
I need some help please.
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=7601
Many Zoroastrians do not eat beef, because of the cow that saved Zoroaster’s life from murderers when Zoroaster was a baby. Actual Pahlavi texts state that Zoroastrians should be fully vegetarian…
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via wikipedia….
Hiiii disha….
. its me md jannat from india new delhi..
i m muslim and i love a girl she is hindu… We love each other tooo much and we want to marry very soon.. We dont have any typ of distance in our relationsheep… But the problem is her parents will never accept me becouse i muslim and my girl friend told me that if my parents will not accept u than i cant marry you or any one and i will kill my self.. Than i told to my gf okk i m converting my religion and i will alsp change my name for you than she discussed with jer parenta again they told i will never accept that man.. He is not a bad man but he is muslim… Disha please please and please help me. I cant live without her i love her so much.. But she told me if my parentse will not accept u than i will die… Is it solution????? No… Why we will die. We can marry.. But please please help me what should i will have to do… Please give me a solution vary soon… Its urgent….
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yes.. i am in a relationshp wid a parsi guy… he said that its not allowd to eat beef in der religion though many ppl have it….. plzzz……help me out…..wid correct details……plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Best is to go to their religious place in your city and ask their religious leader.
Eating beaf is one issue. It is possible that your boyfriend may promise to never eat beaf, if that is important for you. However, there are many other things to discuss. How are you planning to get married? Is he willing to be a part of a Hindu wedding (and you Zoroastrian wedding)? Will kids have Hindu or Parsi names? Will kids be raised as Hindus, Parsis or both? Let us know what he is telling you. Next, go and confirm with his family.
Aspi, can you help?
Disha,
There are many interpretations of religions texts. Some say no beef or pork, others say no meat at all, some just dont say anything.
Most parsis eat chicken and mutton but tend to stay away from beef and pork plainly as they have not developed a taste for it.
Now this may just be my interpretation but I always like to view rituals through a practical lens.
Beef and pork is not as easily available as chicken or mutton hence our parents stuck with whatever came to the doorstep thus allowing us to develop a particular taste.
Guess it all boils down to personal preferences.
I eat beef and pork but cant stand cooked fish. Doesnt mean everyone should stop eating it. That said, for some reason I love sushi 🙂
Hello readers,
Here I would like to add further that Parsi community do not bury or burn the dead body. They put the dead body on the tower of silence to be eaten away by vultures. Due to rapid uranization, the number of vultures have reduced considerably and it is seen that on the Malabar Hills of Mumbai body does not decompose soon and the surroundings areas complain about such practice.
Disha,
Yes disha parsi eat beef and as Satyen said that spearheaded movement for establishing cow slaughter house in India, it is 100% true. Paries are attempting to trap non parsi girls to multiply their population.
Yes, Parsis can eat beef and I know at least one of them eating it. In fact it is said that they had pioneered the slaughter houses of cows in India. Though I am not sure of it.
do they eat beef?
Disha,
Are you in any interfaith relationship? How come you are interested in Parsis?
The cow protection is a Hindu belief.
Parsis came from Persia (current Iran area) and it was a common practice there of eating meat. However, Parsis arrived and settled in Gujarat and adapted Gujarati food and language. It is possible that some of them may not be eating out of (new) cultural reason or to respect to Hindu hosts and not due to Parsi religious reason.
We must add that Parsis were the best guests Gujarat and India ever got. We wish other guests who arrived to India were like Parsis. Parsis mixed in milk like sugar, sweeting the milk. Parsis made tremendous contributions to India and we (InterfaithShaadi) are proud of them. It is very sad that only 61,000 Parsis left among some 1.1 billions other Indians.
Yeah. Thats the fact…….the softer u are…the easier u are to be eradicated…..
Survival of the fittest……
But yes….Parshi folks are very kind and nice…..
Proud of them…
Very true, “the softer u are…the easier u are to be eradicated”, that is true for fastest growing religions. This is so sad. Where is humanity? Where is God?
Its a fact….Islam will do no mercy to anyone who will try to eradicate it..
Afterall thats why lion is the king of jungle….and not the cow……
To this point “Islam will do no mercy to anyone who will try to eradicate it”, yes, we see clearly what is going on in this world today.
If u wr pointing out to ISIS then i think u got me wrong…..
Hi,
I am a Zoroastrian and in love with a Hindu girl. Now her family wants the wedding to happen according to hindu rituals which mean the 7 pheras around a fire.
I am not really bothered doing all this. However some members in my family have been telling me not to do the pheras as it would mean conversion to hinduism and denouncing zoroastiranism.
Is there someone who I could talk to about the details of a Zoroastrian / Hindu wedding.
Dear ASpi,
Hindus and Parsis have lived very peacefully for years, even there are contrasting religious beliefs and practices. However, when you are talking about a marriage, you will find many conflicts in your own home. For this reason, interfaith marriages are not for those who are with weak ears (meaning those who likes to please their religions leaders).
Unless you are a pluralist, your marriage will be a battle ground all along. For this reason, learn to believe that there is only one God but different people calls him with different names and try to reach him by different routes. The day any one start telling that -there is only one God, and that is mine- all trouble will start.
Are you planning to have wedding by both Hindu and Parsi ways?
Are you planning to give your children Parsi names?
Are you planning to raise children by both Hindu and Parsi religions?
Are you willing to go to Parsi and Hindu Temples to pray to One God?
Please ask your Hindu girl to come and get educated here. We will talk more after we hear from you.
Hi Admin,
Thanks for the prompt reply.
To give you a better perspective on my question,
I dont really follow religious practices or faith. I do however visit the fire temple when I feel like which is usually once or twice a year to attend my father’s baj or something like that.
Now my fiance and I have decided that we will have our freedom to do whatever we choose to do and kids at this point are a no no.
What I want to know in detail are the legal implications of going through with a traditional hindu wedding.
I will be consulting a lawyer soon but just wanted to know a bit more from you.
Would like to connect with you offline to further discuss this matter if you agree.
Why you said, “kids at this point are a no no”? It is possible that after a few years of marriage, you may feel like to have. Is it because of religious conflicts or just your choice?
We wish somehow you manage to keep traditions from both faiths live and follow both temples. Take best from both faiths and leave the rest for others. Be a pluralist and tolerant to each others religious belief and teach the same to both in-laws. Respect and honor both parents but don’t submit to parents’ irrational request to give up the other faith.
We are not legal expert but read Marriage Laws and cross references into it. As far we understood, it is the first marriage that count. For this reason, go to have a Civil marriage first. After that you could have a Hindu as well as Zoroastrian marriages (and Jain, Christian, Sikh, …as many marries you wish to have). This way, you have a choice to be neutral and no question that you got converted from one to other and same for her. If any priest says you must convert, find a new one!
Your parents said that being in a Hindu wedding ceremony means you converted to Hinduism. We believe that a pandit sprinkling water and chanting Sanskrit slokas does not fulfill “legal” definition of conversion. For example, being in Islamic Nikaah (wedding) does not make one a Muslim, but before marriage the Imam will ask one to take Shahadah oath of conversion to Islam and that is a legal conversion. Further, going to a church every Sunday does not make one a legal Christian but one has to be Baptized to be a Christian. A Hindu could be a true believer in Jesus and a Christian could be a believer in Karma or loves Krishna’s message; these are choices, beliefs and faiths but does not constitute a legal conversion.
Thanks Admin. Really appreciate it.
Law is very clear on this point. Couples of two different faiths willing to get married have to get themselves registered under Special Marriage Act. Once they get registered under Special Marriage Act, they will be governed by the provisions of Special Marriage Act, and other secular laws. Religious laws will have no implications on them. In your case religious rituals after getting registered will have no implications.
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What is the issue? Which two faiths we are talking about?