Anamika says: May 22, 2016 at 2:03 am
Hello admin,
Iam a 28 yr old christian girl from delhi in love with a 28 yr old hindu kayastha boy since 5 yrs. we are totally committed and intend to marry. his family has no problem. but for my family having a past of failed inter religion marriages of relatives…its a big issue.
i might add both of us and are families are financially well off and all are employed at a reputed posts in govt sector. also my bf and me are least religious. we both believe in praying in private for 5 minutes rather than spending hours at holy places. he never really visits a temple and i visit church only for some festivals.
we have talked about comlications regarding our marriage and raising children. we are pretty much comfortable with the idea. but my parents are having a hard time accepting our relation. we both have decided never to marry secretly. we want to wait. but during that time its really hard for me to see my parents suffer and my bf too. im kind of in middle of all this and im utterly depressed.
I have seen your blog and its pretty impressive.i hope you could shed some light on the issue. Thanks. -Anamika
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hi admin,
i am a kerala hindu guy and my girl is tamil christian CSI,conditions in my family seems to be pretty ok as far a i tried to convince them.but still some problems in her family,her parents are not yet been convinced.i dont have no idea about csi people rather than the informations from my girl.would you suggest some tips to convince them
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Dear Anamika, you said you and your bf is not very religious, may be so, but check it whether your bf considers cow as holy, if his answer is yes, then he is not a irreligious guy.
Hi,
My bf doesnt exactly beleive that cows are holy.he beleives that all animals are creations of god and must be respected.
Dear admin i have asked my parents about their worries regarding my marriage.they have a long list and i have countered all their questions.but whenever this discussion is held in my house environment gets very tensed and we all have a disagreement.as a result it gets postponed.due to this tension my parents are now suffering from high bp issues.i feel guilty all the time.plus all the interfaith love marriages in our family which were around 5 have been doomed.some are divorced some have committed suicide.my parents are very anxious and i understand their concern.how should i convince them my fate will not be one of those.my bf and i are also ready to sign a pre nup if any need arises….
Anamika,
Your parents concerns are valid that you have to double make sure what you are getting into. We will help you somewhat in that direction.
It sounds bad but we recommend you to make a decision to marry this guy like a business deal. Do not make any decision out of emotions and pressure form your parents or bf but what ever you will do that is logical, ethical and rational. Make a target to get married by Dec 2016 or forget this deal. What ever is your decision, you are not going to curse your parents, the bf or yourself. Just smile and live with what ever you decided.
Now dealing with your parents, issue is–your parents think you are still that little cute girl aged 4 years old. Just to give them a wake up call, EVEN YOU DON’T MEAN IT, tell parents that you have 100% decided to marry that guy in November 2016. Let them boil over and do all hungama. After that you always listen every word they have to say, even write it down. You never get upset but always smile. Their frustration will die down in 3 months and they will be ready to cut some deals with you (again just like a business deal!).
That guy may be tall-short, rich-poor, black-white, bald-hairy etc and we will let you decide on such issues but we will focus here only on religion. Deal? Now tell us 3 points your parents raised against him being Hindu. We will help you explain it to your parents. We will be waiting right here!
Anamika You are pointlessly wasting a otherwise beautiful life due to religious brain wash.As an ex-christian I can assure you that Jesus is not some divine figure as you are duped into believing.
Jesus has not fulfilled a single prophecy to qualify that right. take for example a fake Prophecy mentioned in Matthew (2:23):
“Mary, Joseph, and the child Jesus settled in Nazareth, in order … that what was spoken through the prophets might be fulfilled, ‘He shall be called a Nazarene.”
There is no such stupid prophecy in entire Old testament. Just google it and see for your self.
Though some claim this refers to Judges 13:5. This verse describes an angel speaking to the mother of Samson, her son “shall be a Nazirite.”
A Nazirite is quite different from a Nazarene (So called Jesus).
A] Nazarene = Resident of City Nazareth,
B] Nazirite{Samson in this case} is a Jew who has taken special vows to abstain from all wine and grapes, not to cut his hair, and to perform special sacrifices (see Leviticus 6:1-21).
On such weak premises New Testament stands and you are willing to through down love of your life for some fake and fictitious Hell concept.
Do you even know that there is no such concept called Hell in Old Testament!
Don’t ruin your life for fake doctrines.
Hi Anamika,
We are very happy to hear from you and are confident that we could make some difference. We will work step wise with you and you may have some good news by coming Christmas.
Your case is very ripe and it is matter of little touch up before harvesting. Please do these 3 things:
1) View this video? Let us know what you agree and what you don’t agree in that message.
2) We loved your strategy of “never to marry secretly,” only cowards will do that. Your parents have good reason to be nervous and pay good attention to what they have to say.Like you would do in a business meeting, analyze the issue and provide solutions to it. Can you ask your parents for what are their 5 main concerns with your relationship. We will work step wise on these with you, get back to us.
3) To win a war, one needs a major weapon. In your case, the weapon is “education.” So start educating yourself for Hindu and Christian faiths and two societies. Best way to educate is to teach! Can you guide Swati? Helping her, you will solve 50% of your own problems, so start that now.