Aamira Jalal says: March 2, 2013 at 10:22 am
Hello readers,
I am from Sydney, Australia, aged 31 years from an asian muslim country. Working in shipping and cargo company, I am in love with a Hindu boy age 30 years(myself elder), very cooperative and intelligent and winning confidence of bosses.
I want to marry him, but parents are opposing. Being an independent, I have told them that I shall not marry any muslim guy to lead a restricted and miserable life. He has no compulsion for me to convert.
I have learnt so many things about Hinduism and greatly impressed now.
Planning to marry as per Hindu customs and get marriage registered here in Sydney.His parents have no objection.
Seeking advice from all of you please. -Aamira Jalal
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Hello!
So, I’m in a confusing situation. I’m a Muslim woman,32 yrs.working and I cover my hair. Now that’s a personal and spiritual choice, and although it’s an important part of me, I don’t feel that it defines me. I am an active woman, both socially and publicly, and through my wide array of interests, I’ve met many men (-and women!). Many of them have later become friends, some really good friends.
A year ago I met a non-Muslim guy. At first he was simply an interesting guy I shared interests with, later we became friends and hung out more frequently. At some point I realised I had a crush on him. I kept quiet though, not wanting to kill off the friendship. But after awhile I really didn’t know where I had him. Perhaps it was wishful thinking on my side, but even friends of his, and friends of mine, commented on our flirtatious tone and great chemistry. For my psyche’s sake, I decided to ask. So, quite bluntly, I asked whether he liked me.
At first he started telling me about the difficult relationship he recently finished off, and that he hadn’t decided on whether he liked me or not. Then he laughingly said that he felt my head-covering had fulfilled it’s purpose, and that although there were men who fancied exploring beyond the hijab, he wasn’t one of them (what does that even mean?).
After some awkward silence, he asked me what my motivation to ask was. I came clean and told him I was infatuated. But laughed that I was probably better off not asking.
He said he was glad I asked. Told me he felt we had great chemistry, and that he had on occasions felt some sparks. But that he hadn’t given it much thought. He said there were just too many obstacles inbetween. I should mention he’s somewhat older than me.
Since then we’ve met several times, just us or with friends. The conversation is free, there’s great flow, there’s that chemistry again, and for some peculiar reason (perhaps I’m overthinking it), we are a bit closer. Or so it feels. We haven’t talked a about the awkward talk since that first time, I sort of asked whether we could just forget about it and carry on – that same evening.
A rational, and great, portion of me tells me that I got rejected, and should try moving on. Then there’s the small part confusing me, and telling me it’s not definite. What do you make of my situation? And if I’m rejected, should we keep on the friendship?
And a general question: Is it (im)possible for you – as a nonmuslim man – to consider a woman with a hijab as a love interest?
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=4661
Hi,
I think the boy you have a crush on is really interested in you. But because of your insistence on wearing our cultural attire, he is hesitant because he does not want to be seen as part of that culture.
So here are a few questions that you need to ask yourself:-
1) Do really love him enough and would like to lead the rest of your life with him?
2)If answer to 1) is yes, are you willing to give up on some of your cultural beliefs so that you are not seen as one belonging to a restive culture (whether that is right or wrong)?
3) Are you willing to give up your own religious beliefs and start adopting your love’s religious beliefs? I am not against Islamic beliefs but the way Islam has portrayed itself is that it’s restrictive and inflexible about the beliefs about other religions. I am a hindu and have visited numerous darghas and have prayed but have never seen a muslim visit a temple.
4) now to your question – “And a general question: Is it (im)possible for you – as a nonmuslim man – to consider a woman with a hijab as a love interest?” It’s really difficult. It’s turn off because one start thinking that it’s a signal from the women that she is a muslim that only wants to date muslims.
Wish you good luck and hope you find your true love whether that is muslim or non-muslim
Satish
Imaan,
95% muslims are converted from non-muslim communities due to attrocities and murder of non-muslims around the world. Only
shias are real muslims having different features.
Those converted are real enemy of females and they resort all sorts of crimes on the females just to show themselves as true followers of Prophet, a rapist and murder, not sparing for sexual abuse even 9 years old girl.
Believe in Allah and Quran….seek knowledge and pray to God to guide you. Prejudice or hatred simply destroys people and their life.
I am a convert from Hinduism and know hinduisms very well and I am also one of the few who has read Vedas and Quran in detail. Truth can only set you free.
Congratulations Aamira,
Wish you a very happy and prosperous married life.
God bless you.
All the BEST & mY well wishes to You ! God Bless You !
Aamira Jalal,
You are already a matured person who can think rationally, as is obvious from your decision of choosing a non restricted life. Only make sure that the would be husband is a good person and compatible with you. Also make sure that your children will be raised in a rational atmosphere and will be open minded.
Wish you all the best for your blissful future life where you may have direct relation with the God without any broker in between.