arshi says: March 6, 2012 at 2:09 am
hello , i am a muslim girl loves a hindu boy very much can not live without him. from my heart i belief that he is my husband though am not physically intimated . i do not have a spce for another guy whom my parents will marry to me . i am in a big trouble.i am notable to decide what should i do where i should go . i belief in islam cant leave it or also cant leave him . if i can servive without him but he can not . plz give me the expert advice . from the heart i want that he start to belief in islam not fully but he can try but i am very afraid to tell hm this thing. plz help me out. -Arshi
Admin says: March 6, 2012 at 11:00 am
Hi Arshi,
Every one’s situation is different. We need little more information about you before we could guide you. Note that the objective here is not to discourage you from your relationship, but help you make an “informed” decision for your happy and long lasting Hindu-Muslim married life. While answering, don’t think what you are suppose to say as a Muslim or what your parents will want you to do, but simply say what ever your heart says that is right thing to do.
Are you planning (or wish) to get married by Nikaah? If he declines to convert by shahadah for the Nikaah, are you going to end this love relationship?
After the Nikaah/Shahadah, if he asks you to have another wedding by a Hindu wedding ceremony (where many Hindu Gods will be invoked in front of the fire), are you okay to be a part of such a wedding?
If he agrees for the Nikaah and also conversion just for namesake only to Islam, are you willing to be a part of Hindu religions activities like pooja rituals at his parents home?
Are you okay to visit a Hindu temple once a while with him and he will reciprocate by visiting mosque with you?
Alternatively, are you okay marrying by the special act of marriage (if you are in India) and there is no need for a Nikaah and a Hindu ceremony? After that, you will live a secular married life, is that okay with you?
When you will have kids, are you okay to teach your kids that Isvar Allah tero nam (there is God with different names; Krishna, Laxmi and Allah are all different names of the same God).
Alternatively, are you expecting him to convert to Islam, both 100% follow only Islam, he stop visiting Hindu temples, have no Hindu gods (idols?) in your new home, kids have Muslim names only, kids have circumcision and sunat, and you teach them that there is only one God that is Allah-only and, further, Ganesh, Rama and Ma Durga are false gods.
Do you believe in the Judgment Day? If you and your (intended) Hindu husband do really nobel work in this world except you were not as good a Muslim as your imam wanted you to be, what do you think Allah will decide for you the judgment day?
Which country are you in?
Is he and you financially independent who could afford to go against your parents for a while if need be? -admin
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I am Hindu and my girlfriend is Protestant Christian
admin, for ur very kind information Sri Krishna never had polygamy. Thats a rumous. And whats about your Muhammad?? Had Ayesha of 6yrs, Khadija of 54 yrs. ,had sex slaves, married with son’s wife……..is it ok right? U found idols gods in temple, but I found no god in masjid!!! Even kabaa containing a Shivling, all world know that. Ur ancestors worshipped god idols but muhammad broke all those! Quran doesnt permit polygamy! Lol. Thats why muslimrp having 5 to 6 marrgs. doing terrorism , jihad all over the world….is it ur islam??? why whole world is against islam? :p . where nonhindus embrasing hinduism day by day?
Namaste Arshi ji. Plz go ahead. Have a great happy peaceful life with your dearest one. And this religious conflict , no bar at all. Let me remind all there war no muslim or islam in India before mughals invaded in India. All Indian muslims are converted from Hindu ancestors. So no prblm if u back into Hinduism again. Hinduism is oldest rlgn in the earth, while islam came from muhammad only 1400 yrs ago.
And some one told here that Durga, Shiva etc they are false god and allah is true god. Lol. So I would like to ask him did he see or meet with allah?? How could u say that. ? While concept of Durga, Shiva is very ancient but allah is not. So it depends upto pesons whom they will believe on. Millions of Hindus have deep faith devotion on Shiva n Durga Maa. So where r they getting blessed from?? they dont pray to allah right?? so how could maa durga be false god?? use brain. lol. god is present in every religion with diffrn names and incarnations.
Arshi g , hurry up n dont listen to your idiotic muslim relatives becoz they dont want u get cnvtd. thats why writing these shits on hindu god. . . old is always gold as hinduism is and always will be. . . . maa durga bless ur life. namashkar. jai mata di.
lol, and thats our strength that seen have not seen allah swt, allah is beyond human imagination, whereas your false gods are simply myth, like shiva(killer) can`t recognize his own son ganesha and thus chopped off his head, wao! sounds like a man made story, ya its absolutely man made, no doubt about it, thatswhy millions of people converted from hinduism(false) to islam(truth)
Islam is not a new one. .
its from adam(p.b.u.h)
Every child is born as a muslim
its ur parents which converts to evil religion – lol
Stupid Mohammad and Mac,
What has happened in Peshwar and Sydney besides regular happenings in Syria, Iraq,Afghanistan.
Islam no doubt is a criminal mind set to disturb peace and harmony in the world. Brainwashing innocents, killing andr4aping girls and women is the ideology of this worst religion.
hello , my self reh ,, i am a muslim girl loves a hindu boy very much can not live without him. from my heart i belief that he is my husband though am not physically intimated . i do not have a space for another guy whom my parents will marry to me . i am in a big trouble.i am notable to decide what should i do where i should go . i belief in islam cant leave it or also cant leave him . if i can servive without him but he can not . plz give me the expert advice . from the heart i want that he start to belief in islam not fully but he can try but i am very afraid to tell hm this thing. plz help me out
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8897
admin says:
December 10, 2014 at 8:45 pm
She has entered this comment first time on this site. We google searched and could not find other place that story and thus considered it authentic. There are plenty of comments from Madiha later on this site.
so you couldn`t find that story,all right, the what about this http://www.topix.com/forum/religion/islam/T9CVF8E7E696V1Q39
http://www.hindunet.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/topics/2035/3.html
What are you trying to prove?
We have our own ethics. We have not created any story nor cut and pasted from other sites as seemingly original story. However, we have limited control over what people post it here. If Madiha has posted the same information to several sites, we cannot ask the person not to do so.
Like Madiha, we do not know who the “mac” is? Is mac she or he, a Jew or Parsi? Only we have is her/his writings/views on this site. If mac writes the same thing on 10 other sites, we cannot stop her/him. On any such forum, it is readers responsibility to make their own judgment.
Unlike many closed door sites where only one sided information is given to youths in love, this forum is providing information from both sides. People will say what ever, but it is the youth in love who will have to make decision for what is right and applicable in their own situation. It’s their life and their decision.
Marraige is not a game to play with each other feelings.. .
why these people are doing like this i dont know. .
why they are hurting with each other. .
why they didnt go with according to the religion.. .
why they first love each other and after that marry and broke up…
i didnt blame to love people
before loving why they didnt think about their parents situation. .
they hurting with each other and also hurt to their parents…
I am really sorry admin..if i hurt you guys.. .pls forgive me…
If polygamy is allowed to male in islam, why not females are allowed?
Why male need only virgin wife? Why wife is not allowed to marry with virgin husband?
A older male is allowed to marry girl child, why old woman is not allowed to marry boy child?
Stupid religion
Its not compulsory marry to 4 wifes…
its an optional one…
u can go up with 1 wife also
According to the situation can marry another one…
For this admin create a big issue of this. .
try to understand. .
without any reason why it has been included,
I didnt knw why always hindus peoples wants to go against Islam religion and fight with us. . .
I didnt say all people.. .i only say some people….
and u are going with triple talaq..
First of Allahu ta’la hates talaq
those who brings upto talaq..
there are some procedure to give talaq. .
At the most situation…if the situation brings into talaq. . u can go with it…
Try to understand…we dont want to fight with you people.. why u r always going against us…please dont go about religion..
this site is to help people not going against religion
So admin has zero knowledge about Islam, and he still gives Muslim girl advice based on Islam, if he had little bit of knowledge about Islam he would have told massey not to lie..
lets see how:-
Why male need only virgin wife? Why wife is not allowed to marry with virgin husband? -Massey
—i don`t know which teachings of Islam teach that, Muhammad all wives except Aisha ra weren`t virgin but Muhammad Pbuh was virgin when he married Khadiza ra , but Khadiza wasn`t virgin, i thing its enough to prove that massey lied here
A older male is allowed to marry girl child, why old woman is not allowed to marry boy child?
Stupid religion
—well again you made that up, Khadiza ra was 15 years olde than Muhammad pbuh, further there is no rule in Islam that older men can only marry much younger women and older women cannot marry much younger women, in both the cases i gave example of prophet of Islam, even i can support my claim using Qur’an.
You said stupid religion, now i have right to call you stupid person.
If you don`t know about Islam, then stop commenting on Islam and spent a day learning Islam, because the more you comment on Islam the more stupid you look like…
If polygamy is allowed to male in Islam, why not females are allowed?-massey
—-if females are allowed for polygamy, then what about her offspring, how she will know who is the father of the child in her womb, besides where she will live, generally women lives in her husband`s home, then what will be her home if she marries two,three,four men at a time??? Its like asking why women in general gets pregnant, why not men????
Admin, you will only react when we comment, i salute you for your double standard.
why polgamy is important in our life and why islam is allowing the polygamy…
Read this story of one anonymous muslim wife which i have founded:
“Second wife! The words
reverberated through my brain.
Why? Am I not good enough?
Never! I will never accept a second wife! If you want a second wife you can go out and get one as long as you know that I will not be here when you come back! Those were my words to my husband a few years ago when he mentioned to me that he is intending to marry again a second time. It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. She is having a hard time, he said, she don’t know where the next meal is coming from or how to provide adequately for her children. “Where
is their father?” I asked, “Can’t he take care of his own kids? Why do you a strange man have to carry another man’s burden? Surely there are other ways that you can help her out financially without having to MARRY her! I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. Sharing my husband with another woman. Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. I could not fathom him holding her close and whispering loving words in her ears. It was unacceptable. An outrage. After all I have been to him. Wife, lover, mother, doctor, housekeeper. I raised 3 of his beautiful children. How can he insult me by marrying another woman as if I am not good enough? Not pretty enough. Not young enough or just plain not ENOUGH! NO! I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. If she walks in, I walk out! Plain and simple. If he is willing to risk our marriage, our life, our children for another woman, then he must go ahead. I will not stand for it!
It all seems so many years ago now. When I thought that life would last forever and that nothing will ever change. But it did…. My husband did not get married to a second wife. After all my warnings and threats of leaving he abandoned the idea. I don’t know what happened to the women and children. My guess is that they
moved on to another town. He never mentioned a second wife again and I was happy with that. I managed to hang on to my
husband but I didn’t know that our time was running out. His last words to me were that he had a headache and is going to lie down till Esha. He never read Esha namaaz that night, because henever woke up.
I was devastated by his sudden death. The man whom I have spent my life with, snatched away from me in a second. I mourned him for a long, long time. Neglecting my children and the business. Soon all went to waste and we started losing everything one by one. First the car then the shop, then the house. We moved in with my brother and his family. My 3 children and I crowded the house and my sister in law soon became annoyed by our presence. I needed to get out, to work and find a place of our own instead of living off the leftovers of others. But I had no skill. When my husband was alive we lived comfortably. I had no need to go out and work or equip myself with a skill. Life was very difficult for me and my children and I wasn’t young anymore. I missed him every day with every beat of my
heart. How could one’s condition change so drastically? One day my brother told me that someone he knew is looking for a wife. He was a good person, good akhlaq and very pious. Perfect for me, but he wants me to be his second wife.
It’s the second time in my life that the word second wife was mentioned to me. But how different the circumstances. He came to my brother’s house to see me. There was an immediate connection between us. I liked him and I liked everything about him. He told me that his first wife knows that he is intending to marry again but that she is obviously not supportive of the idea and that he doesn’t know what her reaction will be when he tells her that he had
found someone. His answer he said, will be dependent on her acceptance of Polygamy. I started praying Istikhara that
night. I so desperately wanted it to work out. I remembered so many years ago when the life of another woman depended on my decision and what my decision was. I felt contrite, I felt that because I did not give another woman a chance,
a space in my life, that Allah will punish me this time around. I repented, not once in my life did I think my action worthy of repentance because I had done nothing wrong. I only protected what was mine. Now that I am on the receiving end, I realized how wrong I was in denying another woman this PRIVILEGE of a husband. I prayed that she will accept me. He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. I was nervous the day of the meeting. I prayed a lot the day before and asked Allah to help me. When I met her, she was a person, a woman like me. A woman who loves her husband and fears losing him.
She took my hand and with tears in her eyes said: “This is very hard for me, but I hope that we can be sisters” her words broke my heart. All I needed in these dark days was a hand reaching out to me and embracing me, giving me hope and the will to carry on. His wife was to me, the woman that I could not be and I will be forever grateful for that. I thought that no one could love her husband the way I loved mine, but she taught me the true meaning of unconditional love.
You never know a person’s situation until you are in it. Judge by what is right according to Qu’ran and you will see how Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala will sent double fold of blessings your way.”
Mohammed, you forgot to add URL from where you cut and pasted here.
Admin, before you ask muhammad this question, will you please give us the link of this story https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=298 from where you or someone copy pasted it….
I mean did madiha came to this site and wrote her story here
She has entered this comment first time on this site. We google searched and could not find other place that story and thus considered it authentic. There are plenty of comments from Madiha later on this site.
stupid peoples, this story is of march,2012, i don`t know for what reason admin revised it
Becoz no one is positing against islam and watch this post to the viewers wants to go against islam which is not possible
and gulnor is not a muslim girl who has converted.. she/he tell lie. ..
stupids
We were waiting for reply from her and did not posted it then. When we noticed that you expressed interest in the discussion, we felt it is worth bring it up. Thanks mac.
Dear Arshi 🙂
Golnar is absoluely right.Follow her Genuine Advice.
Hi Arshi,
I am too a muslim girl and married with a hindu guy, living blissfully. No sense of insecurity of tripple oral talak, burqa and other restrictions.
If you love him, have attained age of maturity, you can marry him under special marriage act. You need not to convert.
Can you describe age and job profiles of both of you.It would be an added advantage if you are also a working along with your BF.