Ajay says: October 2, 2014 at 6:38 pm
I am a Hindu Brahmin from India who has moved to the US to complete my studies. I’ve got into relationship with a Pakistani Muslim girl who is also doing her post graduate. We’ve been going put together since 2010 and now thinking about marriage. She is thinking of converting to Hinduism, but her parents will disown her. Please tell me what we can do to work on things. I made it clear to her, that I will not convert nor do I except her to -Ajay
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I’m a Hindu Brahmin man of age 35. Currently living in Istanbul, Turkey. I am in a similar boat as the OP. In fact, this is a Dharam Sankat.
I met this Pakistani girl from Punjab province 1 year ago. We felt instantly attracted to each other and have been inseparable ever since. I do have a strong affection for her but I always wanted her to find another man who shares her Islamic religious beliefs. She said though she doesn’t want anyone else except me. I spoke to her mother and she is feeling very excited for her daughter to marry a Brahmin someday. According to her, Brahmins treat women very nicely so has already given her blessings. Her Pakistani father used to be an abusive person but has always spoken nicely to me on phone. I’m not going to travel to Pakistan to find out more about her family though. Far too risky. Her family has no expectation for me to convert to Islam. I have deep respect for Islam, and Muslim cultures. But, I’m also very strongly attached to my own religion. So, if they put any proposal for conversion, I will refuse instantly. Bottomline, my religious beliefs are really of no concern to them.
Thing is I haven’t mentioned her to my family at all because they’re deeply orthodox Hindu Brahmins. I am a Janeudhari and still chant the Gayatri Mantra daily. So, the girl’s family knows everything about me. But, my family knows nothing about the girl.
We’ve come too far. On one hand, I don’t want to break the heart of this girl, and her mother who has high hopes of me. But I’m myself not sure even now. How are we supposed to raise our kids? If she were an Indian Muslim, somehow I could have reconciled my family with her. But, she happens to be Pakistani. If my family hears about this relationship, they’re going to completely freak out.
I know I should have thought of all this before entering into this relationship. I’m still wanting this girl to lose interest in me but she won’t.
On the plus side, she is very nice to me, and will definitely make a good wife. I know we’re all human beings and religions are man-made. The same God created all of us. Should I just convert her to Hinduism in Arya Samaj (at least, nominally) so that my family and society can accept her better?
How does Indian government view Indian men bringing Pakistani brides home? Do they issue visas without any hassles? Will this girl be able to live in India with me peacefully without harassment?
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Brother it is excellent step taken by you. Go ahead and marry like a Hindu tradition.. I think as per our law, your wife should get India citizenship post your marriage. However admin can tell you more about you.
Hi,
Not seeing your interesting result. can u please let us know about your marriage?
If boy is brahmin and girl is sunni muslim, both are in relationship for above two months. Could they marry in xourt wihout documents/birth proof?
Yes, they can marry in a court provided they are at appropriate ages. They need to show the court their ages. Read laws at https://interfaithshaadi.org/?p=981
Ask them to view these videos to get educate about Hindu-Muslim relationship issues.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvZSqdmnxKM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RiWLGEKusIg
you a non muslim it may be not concerning but to a muslim its concerns so much
she should not leave her religion.her parents have right to stop her parents
have spend their whole life in hardworking and raised her gave her all things
she needs and this is reward she gave to her parents. do u know her parents
how much loved her.may be she have doubts about islam that today muslims are
strict islamic invaders conquers and kill all muslims and non muslims the wrong
quotations of the meaning quran that kills all infeds slay them and kill them
when u see them these are quotations which today the west,asia,europe took
i asked her if muslims are not good and islam is not real then why girls in europe and united states embraced islam???? they are not forced embraced islam
then why they accepted our religion.she should not be reverted to other religion she is a muslim she should realize a allah says a one muslim price
is greater the whole universe.she should have pride as a muslim why she
is easily decieved by today fitnas like many terrorist who claimed to be muslims but in real they are not they are being used just to voilate image of islam.if muslims are cruel they liked to kill then their is no non muslim left remain on earth.dont judge and follow islam by looking at muslims today
muslims today are so much weak in emaan why because they stay away from their religion and its teachings for a long period of time give muslims some time
they will be become good just a matter of time.islam doen,t insult other religions. she should not let her and her parents down.she should follow islam and then think why is she so easily leave her religion where a hindu
whom she likes never leaves his religion.is she feeling that she is not
on the right path then she should study about islam if she doesn,t understands the quran and hadiths she should go to muslim scholars of usa
in order to understand it.she should i preffered her should met new muslims
of usa.
wasalam
nouman saghir from pakistan.
http://tarekfatah.com/this-is-female-genital-mutilation-fgm/
Muslim boys are desperate to marry
HiHindu girls. But when A hindu boy marry their daughter or sister they object
They aare double minded
Hindu girls beware of these Muslim boys
Don’t allow them to enter ur life
These stories are unreliable. Hindus are sex-maniacs.
Hi Ajay any luck?
Dear Ajay,
Dont change your religion and not force her to do so, go ahead and marry her and be happy with both religion.
Well, cousin married to a hindu girl and they live happily in USA. I was about to marry a Sikh girl but because of her parents, she refused. In abstract,we should not change religion for anyone until it is from heart not from compulsion from any person.
Mazhar
Thanks for sharing your views. You said your “cousin married to a hindu girl”. Do you mean she was not converted for their Nikaah? How did they got married?
Dear Ajay,
You both go on believing your own faiths. The faiths are man made.
If she is ready to marry, go ahead to marry and settle in US to lead
a happy and blissfully life, honouring sentiments of each other.
God bless.
leave the choice to her,,…. for conversion or nonconersion,,, in US or west these extremist elements cannot pose much threat
Hi Ajay,
You both are in the West, intellectuals and soon will be financially independent; so this should be relatively easy. However, don’t underestimate pressure from parents and communities (both sides) against you two. It’s like walking on fire, so be ready for it.
All that we have to say is covered in our interfaith marriage video message, sit down with your gf and view and discuss for path forward. Get back to us with more specific questions.
To start with, can you explain to us why “She (Muslim) is thinking of converting to Hinduism”?