Monica says: August 28, 2012 at 9:17 am
i have same problem as radha does..im a secular hindu girl and deeply in love with a muslim boy..he also loves me truly and deeply!! we both are 18, and we have to make a long journey of study n career before our marriage..n he is also secular and can marry me without converting religion!! i dont have any doubts on him!! but the biggest problem is future we may have to encounter that our parents wont agree, i cant compromise with my parents and boyfriend..i wanna satisfy both of them n secure our future..what am i supposed to do?
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Hi Monica,
Major problem is you are 18. Anything we say will be difficult for you to accept because you have not experienced life.
First thing first, complete both’s education and be financially independent. Just getting a basic graduation certificate will not be enough for your employer, you need to put your heart and mind to education (like you are doing for your boy-friend now!!).
Another important thing to do is not to lie or hide. Go and tell yours and his parents as soon as possible. If you hide from them, it will really hurt you later. It is given that both parents will give you hell, but be bold and honest. Over next 2-4 years, parents will come to terms.
Now for Hindu-Muslim relationships, enough is written on this site, good and not so good. Read through all these, and believe or not, it will come back to you one day.
Main problem is that he may be a “secular Muslim” at age 18 to win your love and have fun, but he may not have daring to go against wishes of his parents and his Muslim society. Your expectation should not be limited to “no conversion”, but that you must have secular children (No BBS). Tell him you will not settle for nothing less than Gauri Khan. The day his parents hear this talk, your Bollywood dream story may come to a complete stop. You will find out now your lover is pressuring you to have children only Muslims. If that happens, you should know that it is time to walk away.
So, go tell both sets of parents that you are in love and plan to have a secular marriage and secular children. Let the fire burn high and have big hangama, but later the fire will die down. Meantime, focus on your education and learn from others’ mistakes at Hindu-Muslim experiences. Best wishes.
Also read: Islamic Women Today, Hindu-Muslim marriages, Hindu girl, Muslim girl, Hindu boy, Muslim boy,
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hi frnds…i am a shia muslim and have a bakery shop in lucknow….my wife ran away with a hindu boy who is a software engineer…plz help me…i m really depressed…i love her a lot….no muslim is coming forward to help me..
Sorry to hear of this. Talk to your local imam.
By the way, which city are you writing from?
Dear arshad
Dont feel depressed for people who dont care for u .u will get something
Better in life.have faith in almighty
He is got something more special in store for u.believe him.time will heal and reveal yours mysteries in life.god bless u
be aware of love jihad
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Jihad
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_jihad
Fuck off all religions and marry the guy/girl whom you love. If he/she ever tells you to change your religion before or after your marriage then be strong and leave him/her, use ur brain “If he/she really loved you why the hell religion appeared among you?? It simply means that the fucking bastard/bitch not love you but try to increase his fucking no.
hindu girls love muslim big ones haha
http://infinitelust.blogspot.com
all hindu girls and women make secret sexual relationship with muslim boys and men my mother and me are also in sexual relationship with a boy all hindu men know that they are useless and ignore this my father and my husband both ignored as it is a norm in hindu society all hindu girls either before or after marriage enjoy with muslims
This is what we Muslims do, our Mohammed started culture of sex wit daughter and mother. Also Muslim sisters must have sex on eid as mark celebration, then after 10 days sex with brother. This is Islamic rule you can ask anyone. So stop telling lies Hindu don’t have this rich tradition, its our Islamic culture….
What rubbish is that!
u can only have sex with the person u r married to, there is no provision of having sex affairs with any one in islam , so stop spreading this nonsense
Admin, why you are silent on this comment
Dear Tripathi, U r 100 percent right. I am no different girl to accept this fact. My Hindu boyfriend was not able to enjoy sex with me. I told my friend Rashmi about it , she laughed away but she made it sure to invite 3 Muslim boys and invited me too. After exchange of soft (really hot drink), I was on the highs and these 3 boys did not leave the opportunity and banged me whole night to 9 am in the morning. I am now used to these boys every weekend. I cannot leave them although they have no interest to marry me. But I enjoy their company. My special thanks to my Hindu girl friend Rashmi. Shubha
Sounds ideal Muslim response, Muslims are tought to impersonate other folks and talk stupid, Hindu girls are not coward like Muslim girls who are forced to have sex with brothers, cousin, fathers etc. So Hindu girls are more respected, Muslims girls are insanely desperate for sex, experience says that.
In Islam women are treated like shit, covered in burka, while men are allowed to marry 4 times women are allowed to marry only once. As far as inheritance rights and maintenance after divorce is concerned one only has to read about shah bano case to know how badly women are treated in Islam,
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shah_Bano_case
As Hinduism is concerned women are given equal status as men, equal rights to education and inheritance, sari and and white sari for widow is a thing of medieval history.
For Radha I only have this to say, if you are not already married to that Muslim guy, please think twice. I know of a case where a Brahmin girl in my neighbourhood ran away with a muslim boy. That boy was all too liberal and secular in the beginning, but reality dawned upon her soon. She was forced to convert to Islam, underwent 5 pregnancies in 4 years with 3 abortion. She filed rape charges against her father-in-law after which her husbands family disowned her. Her husband divorced her and married to another girl.
She is now living at her parents house.
This is the reality of love jihad. They only marry non muslim girls to increase their population.
this is the truth of love jihad
http://www.mid-day.com/news/2009/oct/301009-Islamic-body-Love-Jihad-Hindu-Christian.htm
Do anything you want but please do not compare yourself to Shrimati Radharani. You and she are hugely different
I love a Hindu girl, but how do I persuade her parents to accept me???
please help.
Its fine baby.
Jhanzib,
We will help you through your needs over years here.
First find out what you want to do. Do you want to marry the Hindu and convert her to Islam for your Nikaah? Alternatively, are you planning to marry her by Hindu marriage ritual where multiple Gods and goddess will be invoked from heaven, earth and water?
Read Muslim boy article and references in it, then get back to us for what are your wishes. Hope to hear from you soon.
I am also in love with a muslim boy but he is bisexual and i am unsure how to deal with my family and persuade them to understand, please help.
Your question is not clear. Let us know your gender. What do you want your family to understand?
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@Monica:u r still young.complete your education n be independent.till then test your relation.at this age teenagers feel love is everything for them.but they dont know the real world.when reality slaps in u will feel the pinch.u still have a long way to go.5 years give time to your relation and see what changes till then.after that u will be mature enough to decide.right now make ur career.dont spoil it.
Monica,
Reaching to this site is the best thing you did. Yes, you may be relatively young and with limited personal life experiences but you are smart, intelligent and a practical person. We will work with you over next several years, please keep up posted (like Shamim did) for major events that are happening in your love relationship. With our communication, you will be able to make a fully “informed” decision, even that is a Hindu-Muslim marriage.
We fully trust your judgment that your lover is honest (at least up to this point) but things could change (for good or bad) in the future based on other circumstances. For insurance, remember and chant one mantra every time you meet him…no BBS, no BBS (meaning raising your children in a secular environment). If his family agrees, rest will work out.
Be bold and be honest. Go talk to your parents soon. It is expected that they will say 1) interfaith marriages will fail and 2) Muslim are …., but challenge them for why or why not. Likewise, go meet the boy’s parents sooner than later and find out if no BBS is okay with them. Get back to us after you talk to them.
The most important point, do not forget your primary goal, a top-notch education that many employers will beg you to work for them. Without it, you will be handicapped for your life (at mercy of your parents, husband or in-laws). Make sure the love don’t ruin your life.
love at 18 is called ‘puppy love’. Worldwide every human being ‘loved’ someone or the other at 18 or much earlier than that. Dont make yourself a namoona, please concentrate on education and look forward to getting a job first.Movies are for entertainment only, life is much different. You will think very high of yourself with this love that is thrilling you and you will escape into this deluded world you have created for yourself thus sidesteping more serious priorities of your life. No one else takes you seriously, thats the harsh reality. Welcome to real world sis.