Ashok says: (November 9, 2011 at 9:52 am)
Myself i’m Ashok, Though i don’t believe in god i’ve much religious tolerance. Here i’m taking this opportunity to ask u a suggestion about hindu muslim interfaith marriage. i’m also a hindu by birth and I’m in love with a muslim but the genders differ (here girl is muslim). except a few clashes regarding religious things we are very happy in our love life from the past 3 years and she’s ready to put a bindi for my sake and i’m ready to let her practise all her beliefs especially in the month of ramzan
i’m the only son of my parents and they love me a lot but i can’t say upto what extent they can accept her. But she’s really good and ready to do anything for me. I doesn’t know much about either of the religions and she knows much about her religion (once or twice during dispute times she criticised hinduism for their idol worships) she suggested me to follow islam in order to make her parents accept for our marriage and she follows her religion in full swing at special days but will be mostly normal during other days (won’t wear burkha won’t do namaz during normal days not ever her parents do) but to be frank she’s very loving and caring for me.
Now with our experiences can u plz quote me what sort of problems we both may face in future in the name of this stupid religions. Am i doing anything wrong by choosing her as my life partner? But there is no chance for changing my opinion, already the decision has been taken at my mind and i’m fixed to her.
Why people won’t give 1st preference to humanity than to religion? When they will realise that we all people are born as humans and religion is nothing but a way of life?
Admin says: (November 10, 2011 at 12:10 am)
Dear Ashok,
Your Muslim girl friend seems like an open-minded for the fact “she’s ready to put a bindi.” If she is truly like Salman or Seema Maheshwari, there will not be any problem and you will have a wonderful happy married life lasting forever. However it is important to be a realist and find out facts now.
The fact that “She criticized Hinduism for their idol worships” is a MAJOR concern. Shah Rukh Khan has no reservation performing Hindu Gods’ pooja (idol worship), does it mean he is not a Muslim? Both of you should sit down and read all verses from Koran on Hindus? and discuss what it mean to you as a couple.
You wrote, “She suggested me to follow Islam…” what does that mean? Are you willing to convert to Islam? Are you willing to have a new Muslim name (at the time of Shahadah)? Are you planning to have an Islamic Nikaah (marriage; after conversion)? Are you planning to give your children Muslim names and have sunat circumcision to announce them Muslims? Are you clear that you will never perform pooja (idol worship?) and will never entering into a Hindu temple to satisfy her request to “follow Islam?” May be you don’t mind doing all these for your love for the girl. You parents will have to accept your choices.
There is a second option where every one sacrifices a little bit. You mentioned that she is “ready to do anything for me” then ask her that 1) you will stay what you are (never convert; and she will remain what she is) and 2) children will not be “labeled” with any religion (like sunat) till their age 21 years. Children will go to a temple and a mosque every week, and will learn from Koran and Geeta equally. Both your parents will not like it in the beginning, but when they realize the beauty of your love and TRUE respect for each other’s faith, they will love you even more. Is not that fair and beautiful? Is not that, in your words, “1st preference to humanity than to religion?”
Please get back to us to inform which one of two options is logical and right for you?
Also read Prateek.
Ashok says: (November 10, 2011 at 10:22 am)
Dear admin,
thank you for ur valued suggestions but in my earlier quiery i forget to mention some things which i like to state now. As i’ve said to u earlier that i don’t believe in god when she asked me to get converted i’ve said i’ll get converted (only for the sake of marrying her and will perform rituals just for their satisfaction) but will never perform any rituals as a muslim there after in their absence while leading a nuclear life. (What i feel is after marriage they’ve nothing to do with religion they are bothered only about the welfare of their daughter and how i’m looking after her as they know that i’m a born hindu i hope they may not stress much on religious things).
And i’m even ready for circumcision but to her i clearly mentioned that as i’m the only son to my parents, my children should be bought up as they wish and moreover if my parents didn’t accept her just on religious basis she too was ready for a secret conversion to hindu (only for making them accept for marriage and also will perform rituals in can’t but situations only to satisfy my parents here also what i feel is as they know my girl is not a born hindu they may not stress much on religious things)
And coming to my children i’ll name them with casual names not any particular muslim or hindu names. and finally after my children grew upto enough age we’ll let them know completely about both religions and also teach the greatness of the essence of secularism.
Once again thank you for ur suggestions.
Admin says: (November 16, 2011 at 9:10 am)
Dear Ashok,
So, you are ready to convert to Islam and be circumcised, even you don’t believe in Allah(God)!?!! Is this a premeditated lie or helplessness?
You are in a VERY SAD situation. We feel your pain and suffering. Now you are compelled to do that you do not believe in. Instead of being a happy and free bird, you are now trapped into a love-cage. It is very difficult for a single individual like you to fight against religious rigidity and selfish interest of some religious leaders (view Gurumaa). As much as you hate “stupid religions,” now you are prepared to nurture and feed them by converting. With your submission to injustice, they will be even more powerful tomorrow to convert other innocent youths. And one day, even your children (and grand children) will also go out and convert other innocent victims like you for the religions dogma. So when will it end? Is this fair?
Unless Muslims tell us otherwise, the Shahadah (conversion) is not a hollow ritual devoid of meaning. Conversion to Islam is not an ON-OFF switch. If you are the one with some self-esteem, why would you do something that you do not believe in? Why would you start your married life journey in a wrong direction? Why would you make “lies and deception” a foundation of your marriage?
Don’t convert and ultimately she will come to terms. Get married the right way, like Shah Rukh Khan, Rhithik Roshan, Fardeen Khan, Gadar, Namastey London, Jodhaa bai, Seema and Salman.
Instead of “Islam for One Day” your concept above, we recommend:
1) Go to her Mosque, read Koran and learn more on Islam. If you find out that Islam is a better religion than Hinduism or (your) atheism, yes, then convert and accept Islam whole heartedly. Or
2) Forget about this conversion business. You remain 100% what you are and let her be 100% what she is. Go to a court and get married. Teach your children about both faiths, secularism and humanity; and without any formal religious label on children. At children’s age 21, let them pick one of two religions by their own choice. In long run, you will be very happy that you took the path of truth.
Shahadah may be a 10 minutes ritual, but it will set a new tone for your life. Further, it may have major legal implications for you: A) Lets say something happen to you the next day after Shahadah. Now, your parents may want to give you Hindu cremation final rites, while your wife wants you to have an Islamic burial. Most probably, the court will approve the Islamic burial because you are (were) legally a Muslim. B) Lets say after 5 years of marriage, now you get a divorce. For children custody battle, the court may give a judgment in favor of the Muslim spouse and may ban you from teaching them Hindu religion or atheism, because these children are Muslims, since both parents are (were) also Muslims.
If you want an insurance against potential legal issues listed above, like you mentioned, ask her to “formally” convert to Hinduism and document it (a video and credible witnesses). However, we do not recommend this dirty conversion business for marriage, unless one really believes in that faith.
Now about the circumcision, why would you want to cut your private part? Ouch! Most world health authorities have not endorsed the circumcision as beneficial. The foreskin has abundant nerve endings increasing your sensual feelings. After divorce you cannot get back your lost private part!
Do not do that you do not believe in, other wise one day you will be in the position of Dee (My wife calls me Kafir, I wish I die!). Instead, working with your girl friend, spread the message of love (and not religious intolerance). Set an example. Be a role model. Bring a real change to secular India. Be bold! Be brave, like Ashok the Great! Don’t convert.
Also read: Islamic Women Today, Hindu-Muslim marriages, Hindu girl, Muslim girl, Hindu boy, Muslim boy,
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Dear Ashok,
the very fact that you asked the question means you already have doubts which is the truth.
If someone asks you to convert it means they dont love you but the idea of loving you when you step in their foot. It means that person has never loved you the way you are isnt that sad?
Above all you already said you are not religious at all so imagine converting to a faith in which you have to follow a lot and if not you will be remanded? You think its worth it for what: a girl?
You have to think first about yourself here not even your parents as they have lived their life its your life. Forget about even society and think about kids? are you ready to raise kids who will marry their cousins and that your daughter will get a divorce anyday soon?
i have a problem kindly do let me know how to convey it to u i am in the most disastrous phase of my life just in the name of religion they are not allowing us to be one
My goodness….wht kind of person this idiot is…..just look at his comments…
” Mhd Hamid Alkaff says:June 20, 2012 at 1:32 am
Alhamduillah, Allah is saving you.
I wanted you to realise something:
When you convert to Islam, the true and only path, it is not a game. Do not revert into a kufr and you will be killed if you are found out!
You should not mix with you kufr family anymore. If you cannot convert them then you should be prepared to kill them for Islam if you have to.
When you convert, please don’t expect to stand with us. You are a mawali and we have given you Islam and saved your soul from hell! What more do you want? Don’t try to get our Arab girls! They are not for you, so don’t talk to us about this kufr equality. Be thankful that Allah has opened your heart to Islam instead!”
I mean…..Arabs are such fools….i never knew….
Will never go to Arabia……..they treat converts like pigs and girls like walking meat…..
Screw Arabs…..terrorist saale….
Islam k naam pr dhabba ho sb k sab…..
Islam ka naam kharab kr rahe hai ye kamine….
Aakash Mallick, after reading so many comments under fake muslim name, I think that one might be fake too, because fanatic hindus wants to divide muslim community in the name of arab-nonarab. BTW that comment itself is unislamic, so if that guy was really a muslim-arab, then according to islam, such racist person can’t be muslim, a racist person can’t be muslim.
Ha bhaijaan….aaj tk apni life me maine aisa ghatiya soch wala aadmi nahi dekha……he might be fake…..bt if that person is real…then he is not worth being called a human being….
Anyone who makes comments like this is not a decent human being, let alone a good/decent Muslim.
My reply to people like Mhd Hamid Alkaff on this forum, and the crap they have posted, is – aap log pehle insaan ban jao, Musulman toh bahut door ki baat hai (Translation: You people should learn to become a human being first, being a Muslim is a looong way off for you.)
I wouldn’t go so far as to curse all Arabs, thats wrong, but there are some amongst them, especially conservative ones from the Gulf region, who would totally agree with this guy. I wish they would correct this racist/superiorist attitude they have. They brag about the Prophet having come to them, being born in the Arabian peninsula – the Prophet had to come because you people were misguided, perverted and doing a lot of ill sins! Nothing to be proud of, I’m afraid…
I am very sorry for my extremely harsh language, but these people who make comments like this are a disgrace to Islam and humanity. He is openly advocating racism, killing of people…and the sad thing isn’t what he said here, the sad thing is that many people would agree with him.
Clearly, we are still a long way off of establishing a community of believers, what Prophet Muhammad tried to do in his lifetime… if you read his farewell address to the Muslims, he discouraged tribal/ethnic differences and tried to instill the message of a universal brotherhood of believers. And here this idiot is lecturing to “stay away from our Arab girls”… Allah help you, dude.
sis you are right islam is a great
admin says:
December 9, 2014 at 7:29 am
mac, read what we said to educate her. It’s her life, not your ideologies we are talking about. Let her make a decision what is right for her. Are you saying you are not biased for Islam and giving neutral guidance to youths for interfaith marriage with equality 50?-50%?
did i ever told any Hindu girl that leave Hinduism for you love, now read this comment by a Hindu to a Muslim girl
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Proloy says:
May 8, 2013 at 6:35 am
Arshi, You have you decide how much you love your B/F. If you can leave everything of this world for him, you can leave the religion also. Moreover , why you can not be converted into Hinduism. After all it is your forefather’s religion. So , if you love him, get converted into the great ancient religion of Hindus.”””””
If this was me then you would have made chaos in this blog
Ashok the best advice for you is that u must NEVER EVEN THINK OF CONVERTING TO ISLAM, NOT EVEN FOR 0.1 seconds and this is the TRUTH.
If she suggests this you should do the same and if she does not then DO NOT CONVERT, IT IS NOT WORTH IT BROTHER.
PEACE.
Do not convert to islam im not saying this because im against islam or anything but im saying this because love is blind it makes u forget who u really are. Your identity is ur religion an ur name and ur ready to give up who u r for a girl who u just met but think bout ur parents who have done everything they could for u. Ur in love and thats sweet but if u convert now and then in the future u dont get ur love then u wont find urself anywhere cuz u have given up ur identity be who u r and not what they can make u into. I respect love but im against people who change their religion for love come on dude love has no conditions.
Islam isnt real,i have converted to hinduism,some of the things in quran is wrong if u apply humanity
What were your objectionable matters in Koran?
Why you picked Hinduism amongst so many other faiths?
Do you believe in God? …and where is She or He?
Tanzeel mohammed
thanks god liar,criminal like you left islam and joined conspiracy against women i.e hinduism, lets see how
1.women are fickle minded. Never believe them. Friendship with a women is just like friendship with a wolf. (Rig-Veda)
2.Women are liers, corrupt, greedy, and unvirtuous. (Manu II 1)
3. A Brahmin male by virtue of his birth becomes the first husband of all women in the universe. (Manu III. 14)
4. By a girl, by a young woman, or even by an aged one, nothing must be done independently, even in her own house.” (Manu IV. 147)
5. illing of a woman, a Shudra or an atheist is not sinful. Woman is an embodiment of the worst desires, hatred, deceit, jealousy and bad character. Women should never be given freedom. (Manu IX. 17 and V. 47, 147)
6. All women are born of sinful wombs. (Bhagavad-Gita IX 32)
Dear Tazeel muhammad(Now Hindu) 🙂
Please tell us about You in full detail.Thank You 🙂
Its ridiculous that those who are born in a muslim family dont need to follow any ritual , but if a hindu boy wants to marry a muslim girl then he is expected to read quran like a parrot and its so ironic that 99% of non arabic muslims are unable to understand a word from it but a hindu boy is expected to read it like a course book.
Its also ridiculous that an indian born near ganga and jamuna is forced to follow a culture which has nothing to do with quran or prophet mohammad eg. beard is an arabic culture while no arab wears salwar kurta which is indian culture.
Its so ironic that if an indian born near river indus has to imitate a culture which has nothing to do with hindustani culture just to look like a muslim and if you wont have a beard or have an arabic name then you are not a muslim according to foolish indian muslims and it displays their self imposed second class status considering arabic to be purer race.
I can understand the frustration of those who are engaged with a muslim girl including myself and believe me that i am a phd in this subject but when subcontinent people consider themselves to be inferior then nothing can be done to change their mindset.
Its ridiculous that educated youth (even doctors ,engineers CA etc.) have to listen to madarsa educated high school fail imaams who have not read a siingle book in all their life and they behave like a scholar,my foot ,i think this topic is endless so will stop it here only so mail me or reply if you feel like ,bye
Absolutely correct. I would advise the boy not to leave the great Hindu religion which is the greatest and oldest religion of the world. Rather all Muslims should convert into the religion of Hinduism of their forefathers. Why should you convert? If you dont follow any religion , why you would be converted in to Islam, which is also a religion though of barbaric tribes of Arabs.Ask your G/F to convert into Hinduism. People pass remarks without knowing this great religion. Ignore these. Be a proud Hindu.
Admin, you didn` have any problem with this comment, your dual standard is exposed again
Admin has raised some very very practical points, which I am not going to mention all over again.
Life is NOT a bollywood movie. Listen to his/ her experience/ points and then make a decision.
Converting for name sake is cheating her parents no? Why do you want to start a life based on dishonesty and cheating?
And also if your an atheist, your doing something totally against your atheist beliefs by converting to islam. Hinduism/ buddism at least have space for atheistic beliefs. You wont feel at conflict in a hindu temple/ pooja, because its totally valid to question and contradict.
Converting to islam having atheistic beliefs is like cheating yourself too.
Tell your gf that you cannot do something which is so totally opposite to your beliefs as you will be in conflict for ever. Discuss with her the points admin pointed out.
Her parents should agree. If they are that fanatical, tomorrow they will have more demands. And you cannot fake every single demand in the future too. Don’t move your stand till they agree.
hey ashok so did u convert?its bad to hear u wana convert for the sake of fake love.the girl is confused whether she loves u or not.if she has the guts then she wont ask u to convert at all.sick thoughts.u will regret believing in islam one day….so better stay away from it
Mohammad Mujtaba,
Pls feel free to visit http://www.faithfreedom.ORG. Yoou and many other Muslim will get a real picture of ISLAM.
Alhamduillah, Allah is saving you.
I wanted you to realise something:
When you convert to Islam, the true and only path, it is not a game. Do not revert into a kufr and you will be killed if you are found out!
You should not mix with you kufr family anymore. If you cannot convert them then you should be prepared to kill them for Islam if you have to.
When you convert, please don’t expect to stand with us. You are a mawali and we have given you Islam and saved your soul from hell! What more do you want? Don’t try to get our Arab girls! They are not for you, so don’t talk to us about this kufr equality. Be thankful that Allah has opened your heart to Islam instead!
Hey Ashok, your wife seems to have will. You better remind her that “A woman’s paradise is under the foot of her husband!” Also you have the right to beat her. I can’t do this as my new brother Osman says, that I still have too much a kufr in me and am not enjoying the benefits of Islam.
Sura 2:223 your wives are as tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.
Also, if you want it, she has to drop everything for she is made to please you!
So enjoy yourself dude, you have these rights and don’t let her get the better of you. Remember you are the man dude!
Good luck man
You cannot get the kufr out of these mawalis (non-arab muslims)! The other day I went to a gathering. I was disgusted. These disgusting Pakistani mawalis had their daughters singing about Fatima saying Fatima teach us to be virtuous! What a kufr mentality! Fatima was a human being not Allah! She cannot do anything for you, only Allah can! How can they ask her for anything! This is unIslamic! This is haram! Only Allah is the Giver! Only Allah is worthy of worship! What is wrong with these mawalis?
Secondly, although they were wearing hijab, they did not wear any abaya, so their adornments were sticking out and they were wearing tight jeans! They looked like prostitutes. Then they were singing in front of all us men who were not their brothers or parents!
“[Allaah said to Iblees:] And befool them gradually those whom you can among them with your voice (i.e. songs, music, and any other call for Allaah’s disobedience)…” [al-Israa’ 17:64]
Sining is haram! Literally they behaved like kufr and prostitutes! They should be stoned!
Regarding idol worship. It is shikr to have another GOD before Allah yet a lot of muslims in Iraq, Iran, Afghanistan, Pakistan and India invoke Ali and ask him for things. If you are a true muslim it is only Allah that you can ask. I have been to Iranian sports events and was shocked that they were saying: “Ali give me strength!” Then in Pakistan and India and even Afghanistan, people are singing and praising Ali! I mean “Oh Ali, you are the giver! Heal me, etc, etc”. Are they mad?
Secondly in Islam people are saying Sayyidina Mohammad, Sayyidina Ali. Sayyidina means leader, master and is actually far more than that! It is far more exalted. Only Allah is Sayyidina not prophets and humans. Only Allah is the leader, the master! Only Allah is the Exalted One! Where did this come from? I am sure Rasool Allah (pbuh) never said that of himself!
Finally, my friend was told by the imam at the mosque when he had a sick family member to ask Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) in his prayers! Yes! Neither he nor I can believe it! Rasool Allah (pbuh) never asked to be worshipped! How did this come about? You only worship and bow before Allah, not imams, pirs, walis, kwajas, sultans, prophets, etc. This is idol worship too! Has everyone gone insane? Is no one practising Islam anymore?
Hey dude
Another point Jesus got crucified coz he didn’t carry no sword. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) did and used it and got rid of his enemies. If Jesus did, no body would have crucified him! Islam makes you strong dude. No forgiveness to those who oppose you dude, just go get it. Makes you a winner!
Hey man
I converted too. Dunno how much you are in love man but so was I. My Lebanese friend opened my eyes dude. It’s so cool dude. He’s got 4 wives and wants another so he’ll get rid of no 1 coz she’s older than the others and a pain and now he’s going to get a 20 yr old Paki girl. She’s hot. The others are Lebanese (cute but expiry date soon), Iranian (good), Bosnian (really hot) and Somalian (cool).
I mean why stick with one? Did you know you can even text your divorce now? Cool dude real cool! Anyway, he goes to Hyderabad (in India I think) and marries a girl for one night, then divorces her. The mullahs there will help you. If you like Afghans, I heard you can get beauts there or in Islamabad or Lawhore.
Well good luck dude, this religion is so cool. You won’t regret it! Great to be a man, dude.
Terrific response.
THE only problem in this is one has to kill their moral conscience.
It is not easy.
Hi Freedy,
We are glad you found the right religion for the right (wrong?) reason.
Now go proselytize your father to Islam, so he could get you a few young mothers!
Also convince your sisters too to convert to Islam so they could enjoy the life of Sadaf.
Unless this was just a sarcastic remark, comeback after two years to update us on your new promised life.
Hey dude
Nah, my father and sisters are blind and will never change their religion dude. They can’t see that the true prophet (pbuh) and the true faith. They cannot see the beauty and greatness of Islam. Well they will burn when judgement day comes. I keep telling them that but they are stubborn. Can’t change some folks!
Can’t see why people are saying I have no moral conscience or be sarcastic with what I’m sayin. My friend Ali showed me that it was all in the Hadith and that we have to follow the life of the Prophet (pbuh) and truly dude, what is good for the Prophet of God (pbuh) is good for me and other muslims man! Anyway, I am not the only one. A lot of people in the middle east and the muslim world do it so why is everyone angry with me just coz I said it? My shaykh said “it is better to be a bad muslim than a good kufr. Allah does not forgive the kufr!”
Hey Ashok, if you were in the States dude and put the name of the Holy Prophet (pbuh) in front of your name when you convert, the Saudi Government will give you US$1000! Pity you’re not. Go for it dude, it’s great!
if she really loved you, it would not bother you. Perhaps if she really loved you, she’d convert to a Hindu at best!
Dear Ashok,
I feel Admin of this forum, is not a very good guiding person, What i suggest below the same suggestion i have given to all my friends of different religions.
There is nothing in this world you cannot live without, you are born alone and you die alone.There is no pain in this world that does not heal with time.
Marry a girl from your own religion and cast, in the begining you may not like her or love her at all, but with time wound will heal and you will be happy. As their will be no difference of opnion in religion, value, tradition and any sort of contradiction of opinion.
Because it will difficult for you as well as her to accept and pratice any religion full hearted. Your children will be more confused in life whats right and whats wrong.
There is nothing in this world you can not live without. Your new wife will equallty love you, and once seening her love and care for you, you will be attracted to her and with time fall in love with her.
I have suggest this and encourged to many of my friends, in the begining, they thought i was wrong, but today they are very happy in their life.
Inter region marriage will always create problem and confusions in life and you wil live a life in distress, tension and confused about your decision. Children will be asking all sort of mixed up question.
Your parents will appreciate your decision, and her parents will aprreciate hers.
Both families will love you and encourge you to move on in life and support you both to over come the pain of separation.
Hope you live long and happy married life.
Your brother
Mujtaba
Reply to Mujtaba at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=2972
Excellent point, well said!!
All youths should read this before going too deep into an interfaith relationship.
But the problem is…youths come to this site only after being in relationship for a few years. After already being in relationship for a few years, will your advise work?
Hey dude
Nah, my father and sisters are blind and will never change their religion dude. They can’t see that the true prophet (pbuh) and the true faith. They cannot see the beauty and greatness of Islam. Well they will burn when judgement day comes. I keep telling them that but they are stubborn. Can’t change some folks!
Can’t see why people are saying I have no moral conscience or be sarcastic with what I’m sayin. My friend Ali showed me that it was all in the Hadith and that we have to follow the life of the Prophet (pbuh) and truly dude, what is good for the Prophet of God (pbuh) is good for me and other muslims man! Anyway, I am not the only one. A lot of people in the middle east and the muslim world do it so why is everyone angry with me just coz I said it? My shaykh said “it is better to be a bad muslim than a good kufr. Allah does not forgive the kufr!”
Hey Ashok, if you were in the States dude and put the name of the Holy Prophet (pbuh) in front of your name when you convert, the Saudi Government will give you US$1000! Pity you’re not. Go for it dude, it’s great!
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Mohammad Mujtaba,
Pls feel free to visit http://www.faithfreedom.ORG. Yoou and many other Muslim will get a real picture of ISLAM.
hello , i am a muslim girl loves a hindu boy very much can not live without him. from my heart i belief that he is my husband though am not physically intimated . i do not have a spce for another guy whom my parents will marry to me . i am in a big trouble.i am notable to decide what should i do where i should go . i belief in islam cant leave it or also cant leave him . if i can servive without him but he can not . plz give me the expert advice . from the heart i want that he start to belief in islam not fully but he can try but i am very afraid to tell hm this thing. plz help me out
Reply at https://www.interfaithshaadi.org/?p=8881
Hi Arshi,
Every one’s situation is different. We need little more information about you before we could guide you. Note that the objective here is not to discourage you from your relationship, but help you make an “informed” decision for your happy and long lasting Hindu-Muslim married life. While answering, don’t think what you are suppose to say as a Muslim or what your parents will want you to do, but simply say what ever your heart says that is right thing to do.
Are you planning (or wish) to get married by Nikaah? If he declines to convert by shahadah for the Nikaah, are you going to end this love relationship?
After the Nikaah/Shahadah, if he asks you to have another wedding by a Hindu wedding ceremony (where many Hindu Gods will be invoked in front of the fire), are you okay to be a part of such a wedding?
If he agrees for the Nikaah and also conversion just for namesake only to Islam, are you willing to be a part of Hindu religions activities like pooja rituals at his parents home?
Are you okay to visit a Hindu temple once a while with him and he will reciprocate by visiting mosque with you?
Alternatively, are you okay marrying by the special act of marriage (if you are in India) and there there is no need for a Nikaah and a Hindu ceremony? After that, you will live a secular married life, is that okay with you?
When you will have kids, are you okay to teach your kids that Isvar Allah tero nam (there is God with different names; Krishna, Laxmi and Allah are all different names of the same God).
Alternatively, are you expecting him to convert to Islam, both 100% follow only Islam, he stop visiting Hindu temples, have no Hindu gods (idols?) in your new home, kids have Muslim names only, kids have circumcision and sunat, and you teach them that there is only one God that is Allah-only and, further, Ganesh, Rama and Ma Durga are false gods.
Do you believe in the Judgment Day? If you and your (intended) Hindu husband do really nobel work in this world except you were not as good a Muslim as your imam wanted you to be, what do you think Allah will decide for you the judgment day?
Which country are you in?
Is he and you financially independent who could afford to go against your parents for a while if need be?
Hi to all hindu boys i m Abeera 23 years old pakistani girl i m pretty fair and good height girl due to this amzaing blog i attraced towards hindu boys i m living rite now in pakistan but soon to come india i need a hindu boy for me who can do whatever he wants but i need a black hindu if only black hindu reply me Abeera
Arshi, You have you decide how much you love your B/F. If you can leave everything of this world for him, you can leave the religion also. Moreover , why you can not be converted into Hinduism. After all it is your forefather’s religion. So , if you love him, get converted into the great ancient religion of Hindus.
Admin and others, you didn`t have any problem with this type ^^^^^ of comments
Explain your concern. Explain what it done here that you are not doing everyday?
Everyday you and your gang is lying, i am presenting the truth of Islam which obviously you will not like coz you are an anti-islamist
“So , if you love him, get converted into the great ancient religion of Hindus.”” did i say this type of words to hindu girls who said they were with Muslim boys, did I, say its for priyanka, akansha or any other Hindu girls.
All you want is that this website should spread false against Islam and Muslim girls who come here read those comments without any rebuttal, if we rebut then irritation starts on your skin….all you want is anti-Islamic comments , and no truth,no rebuttals.. only foolish Muslim girls will believe in this type of biased anti-Islamic website.
mac, read what we said to educate her. It’s her life, not your ideologies we are talking about. Let her make a decision what is right for her. Are you saying you are not biased for Islam and giving neutral guidance to youths for interfaith marriage with equality 50?-50%?
Hello Ashok,
I am not going to ask you to do some thing …. but I insist you should know a bit about Islam before moving forward ….
The best way is to find out for yourself …. do not listen to me or any other …..
Like some one said read the Koran for your self ….
I want say that if you convert to Islam, there is no coming back …
One more thing is, some told you not to fear society …….
This is lame because society is already in fear.
To Indian,
Worshiping idols is better than praying to a God -Allah – who tells Muslims to rape women and allows Muslim men to keep women as slaves for sex with out any limit on the number ……
Worshiping idols or anything is better than following a man who married his own daughter in law and raided caravans and raped young women ….
The great question is why would a God take such a man like your prophet as his messenger …….for all his wonderful conduct …..
brother come to islam and enjoy
I think you are smart enough to know red flags are popping up. In Islam as you may know a Muslim woman can never marry anyone other than a Muslim man. She may be hinting to have you convert to Islam to make peace with her family (even if they do not pray) and maybe her psychology and slight fear in God, because she knows deep down that things like Idol worshiping are haram (forbidden in Islam) and she even feels annoyed by it but it doesn’t show to you until there is some argument.
Prayer in Islam is absolutely required and a family that does not pray is a family that ends up messed up, weak religion leads to their daughter doing things like she is doing with you.
In Islam she would gain no respect from the community for stepping outside the boundaries of her faith.She is confused. Trying to maintain some identity to be Muslim but she is fighting the devil because she loves you and cannot imagine to be with anyone other.
In her world the best life would be for you to embrace Islam.
No, not at all. Get her converted into your religion.
Hey Ashok,
Apart from everything admin has already said, i would say be a man…stand for your love, its difficult dude i know, i can understand the problems that you might be going through…but above all is humanity my friend, love each other; dont fear society, people need a topic to discuss, to gossip…but just make her and your parents understand because for them above everything is going to be her’s and your’s happiness respectively….don’t start out your life with lie…what example are you going to set for your children…be brave…fight for your love!!! Best of luck.
Stand for your love?
Against your self respect and values? Seriously? 😀
How old are you?
so mr. wateva u r….u know what i hav to say only this to you…muslim girls were not having rights to get education…what the hell os this? they r different right n laws for boys and girls in muslims…what the hell is dat? does allah said discriminate on gender? hate and disrespect other religions…kill the lovers…kill humanity? what i beleive is there is some ultimate source of energy..which every1 regards as god..n these outdated books were written by humans n taught by some people who never understood its meaning..creating fear n chaos in the life
dear amritesh, do you know anything about islam
“And when the female (infant) buried alive – is questioned, for what crime she was killed.” (Qur’an 81:8-9).
Criticizing the attitudes of such parents who reject their female children, Allah Says in Qur’an : “When news is brought to one of them, of (the birth of) a female (child), his face darkens, and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people, Because of the bad news He has had! Shall he retain it On (sufferance and) contempt, Or bury it in the dust? Ah! what an evil (choice) They decide on? (The Noble Quran, 16:58-59)“
Prophet Muhammad( peace be upon him) said: Narrated AbuSa’id al-Khudri: “The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: If anyone cares for three daughters, disciplines them, marries them, and does good to them, he will go to Paradise. (Translation of Sunan abu Dawud, Book 41, General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab), Number 512 8) “
Far from saving the girl’s life so that she may later suffer injustice and inequality, Islam requires kind and just treatment for her. Among the sayings of Prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him) in this regard are the following:
Prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him) said “Whosoever has a daughter and he does not bury her alive, does not insult her, and does not favor his son over her, God will enter him into Paradise”. (Ibn Hanbal, No. 1957).
Prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him) said
Whosoever supports two daughters till they mature, he and I will come in the day of judgment as this (and he pointed with his two fingers held together). (Ibn-Hanbal, No. 2104).
Prophet Muhammad ( peace be upon him) said about female children:
“A daughter is a lovely child; affectionate, eager to help, mild and full of sacred feelings of motherhood.”M/b>