Megna says: August 22, 2012 at 4:48 am
hello evry1,
i read all the conversations and i do respect everybody’s views..even iam going throug a same problem..but 1 thng i wana share..there are bad and good people in all religions, so its wrong 2 target only muslims.
i have not decided about our kids..n evn i have no problem if they follow islamic culture..i dont want them 2 get confused between 2 religions in their young age..but i want them 2 respect both religions.
now my love is working out of india..before going there he asked my hand with my mom and my mom refused..my mom like him very much but she is scared of the society n prestige..she feels that if i mary him, it will bring shame 2 our family because no guy will marry my sis..nw proposls r cumn fr me bt
i cant think of a life without him. i feel like running from home but it will affect my sis future and even my bf dont like this..he is coming back 2 india in few months and again going 2 ask my hand..iam scared..plz do evry1 pray fr us..
love sum1 and marry sum1 is not correct na..i knw my love..he will never ever ditch me..bt i dont know what 2 do..iam stuck between my mom n my love..iam 24yr old and stil i dont have a rite 2 decide about my future.
plz pray for us and do give your opinion.
Admin says:
Megna,
We are very sorry to hear of your condition. Agree that it is very difficult to let your lover go just for society n prestige. Some day you have to make a tough decision and do the right thing.
Luckily you have a few months to explore some facts and make informed decision. There are plenty of girls who married to a Muslim and got burned (view videos Love Jihad, Sikh Meat; read Madiha, Dee, Nirmla, Anita, Roma Roy, and many more). But we are sure your lover is different…. like Seema, Salman and Shah Rukh Khan.
Ask him for Hindu-Muslim marriage with EQUALITY. For that, tell him that you will never change you religion (good he agreed to it, now it is critical that his parents have to agree to it), will not have Islamic Nikaah (that needs conversion, no way around this) and further and most important, child will not be only Muslim (but a Hindu and a Muslim and teach them Isvar Allah tero nam). With all these, soon go and meet her family and make sure they agreed to all these requests. If you see any disconnect between what he is talking and his parent’s and society’s expectations, then know that a major disaster is on the way for you. Please make fully “informed” decision.
Some of your statements are of concern to us. It creates some doubts if he is a love-proselytizer. You have stated that “he knows more about Hinduism than me”, “I don’t believe in idol worship” and “(kids) get confused between two religion”. All these are linked. Considering you are intelligent, let us elaborate more on it.
Is his interest in Hinduism to find holes into your current beliefs, try to confuse you and ultimately make you a Muslim? Please find out his intentions for learning about Hinduism.
These “idol worship” and “kids will get confused between two religions” are Abrahamic thought process and results of their scripture’s intolerant teachings. He is trying to brainwash you to be a monotheist exclusivist.
First, Hindus don’t pray to idol, but to murtis or deities. Christians and Muslims are also equally idol-worshippers. Jesus and Muhammad are the most idolized human beings in this world’s history, probably more than the God. Can you think of any other human being so much glorified? People in India may know lots more about Jesus and Muhammad than who really is the Christian or Muslim God. Most Hindus think Jesus is the Christian God because they have not heard much of the Father God. Christians have wood and gold crosses, idols of baby Jesus, Jesus, Mary, John, Paul, Peter, Santa and so on; are not these idols?
Muslim idols include Kabaa, Koran, Muhammad, Mecca, stone house, Darga of Saints, Ayatolla, Persian writings, Apostle’s (PBUH) act of kissing the stone, go to a grave and pray the dead, etc.
Why Muslims only pray in the direction of Saudi Arabia and bow-down to it five times a day? Why not bow-down to our own matru-bhumi (Mother India)? How praying to a decorated black-cube (Kaaba) different than praying to a decorated black Krishna murti?
Why a child cannot be raised in two (or no) faiths? When a Jain and a Hindu marry, there is no major confusion in raising child. Hindu-Jain parents teach both religions and take kids to derasars and temples. Problem comes only when Christians and Muslims want to teach messages of – their jealous only One God theory. Barak Obama’s mother taught him about ALL faiths. Obama turned out to be a fine human being, even he had no religious label in his childhood. In his adult age, he decided his religious faith. The same way, tell your bf that your children will NOT be Hindu or Muslim (no circumcision or sunat), but BOTH. Tell him that kids will not get confused, but instead kids will be more open-minded.
Do you want your kids to be a Muslim and want them to read Koran every day? Have you read Koran? Are you okay if your kids recite these following verses every day?
Koran 2:191 Slay then (idolators and unbelievers in Islam) wherever you find them. Drive them out of the places from which they drove you. Idolatry is more grievous than bloodshed.
Koran 2:193 Fight against them until idolatry is no more and Allah’s religion reigns supreme.
Koran 2:221 You shall not wed pagan (idolaters) women, unless they embrace the Faith. A believing slave girl is better than an idolatress, although she may please you.
Koran 3:118 Believers, do not make friends with any but your own people. They will spare no pains to corrupt you. They desire nothing but your ruin.
Koran 3:151 We will put terror into the hearts of the unbelievers. They serve other deities besides Allah for whom He has revealed no sanction. The Fire shall be their home; evil indeed is the dwelling of the evil-doers.
Koran 4:36 Those that deny Our revelations We will burn (them) in fire. No sooner will their skins be consumed than We shall give them other skins, so that they may truly taste the scourge. (read opinion of Madiha on this verse..Muhammod and My Cat)
Koran 4:91 ..lay hold of them (unbelievers) and kill them wherever you find them. Over such men We give you absolute authority.
Koran 9:5 When the sacred months (like Muharram) are over kill the idolaters whenever you find them. Arrest them, besiege them, and lie in ambush everywhere for them.
Koran 9:23: Believers, do not befriend your fathers or your brothers if they chose unbelief in preference to faith. Wrong doers are those that befriend them.
Koran 9:27 Believers, know that the idolaters are unclean.
Koran 22:19 Garments of fire have been prepared for the unbelievers. Scalding water shall be poured upon their heads, melting their skins and that which is in their bellies. They shall be lashed with rods of iron. Whenever, in their anguish, they try to escape from Hell, back they shall be dragged, and will be told: “Taste the torment of the Conflagration!”
Koran 36:7 We have bound their necks with chains of iron reaching up to their chains, so that they cannot bow their heads. We have put a barrier before them and a barrier behind them and covered them over, so they cannot see.
Koran 44:43 Like dregs (worst part) of oil, like scalding water, it shall simmer in his belly. A voice will cry: “Seize him and drag him into the depths of Hell. Then pour out scalding water over his head, saying: “Taste this, illustrious and honorable man! This is the punishment which you have doubted.”” As for righteous, they shall be lodged in peach together amid gardens and fountains, arrayed in rich silks and fine brocade. Even thus: and We shall wed them to dark-eyed houris (paradise of young attractive women).
Koran 47:4 When you meet the unbelievers in the battlefield strike off their heads and, when you have laid them low, bind your captives firmly. Thus shall you do. Had God willed, He could Himself have punished them; (but He has ordained it thus) that He may test you, the one by the other. As for those who are slain in the cause of God, He will not allow their works to perish. He will vouchsafe them guidance and ennoble their state; He will admit them to the Paradise He has made known to them.
Koran 47:22 If you renounced the Faith (reverse the Shahadah), you would surely do evil in the land and violate the ties of blood. Such are those on whom God has laid His curse, leaving them deaf and sightless.
Koran 48:29 Muhammad is God’s apostle. Those who follow him are ruthless to the unbelievers but merciful to one another.
Koran 60:4: We disown you and the idols which you worship besides Allah. We renounce you: enmity and hate shall reign between us until you believe in Allah only.
Koran 60:11 Do not maintain your marriage with unbelieving women.
Koran 66:6 It may well be that, if he divorce you, his Lord will give him your place better wives than yourselves, submissive to God and full of faith, obedient, penitent, devout, and given to fasting; both formerly-wedded and virgins.
Koran 72:13 Some of us are Muslims and some are wrongdoers. Those that embrace Islam pursue the right path; but those that do wrong become the fuel of Hell.
Well, all scriptures have their own problems (including Hinduism). There are dogmas and there is live, better to go for the life. Best will be to not make children Muslims or Hindus, but both. Take them to a Mosque and a temple every week. Celebrate Diwali and Idi. Take best from both and keep the rest for religious fanatics. We are sure your lover will agree to this.
Re-summarizing, please do the followings:
1) Tell him that you will raise children in BOTH faiths, but will not put a religious label on them.
2) Go meet his parents and tell them that you are planning to get married in a court, you are not converting and children will decide their religion at age 21+, like Obama.
3) If they agree to that, go marry that guy in a court. Your sister will have to manage her life on her own.
4) However, if he or his parents don’t agree (especially for children’s formal religion), then you have to get alarmed. Do not risk your life, your sister’s life and your family for someone less reliable. Best wishes.
Also read: Islamic Women Today, Hindu-Muslim marriages, Hindu girl, Muslim girl, Hindu boy, Muslim boy,
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megna girl like have made hindu religion in dangerous and muslim will never allow to follow your hindu religion, u must be killed
i gave above paper cutting to show an example how ignorant a woman can be. She changed her religion and even went to a country like Pakistan, leaving a tolerant and accepting land like India. Can you believe it. Love indeed is blind, at least in some cases. If a man is insisting on change of religion that means you have already fallen off the cliff, but you think you are flying instead. Once you hit the hard ground below, it is too late. Keep well informed be well ahead of time. Change of Faith can kill your future and your past. Your in a suspended animation with that big change. Resist change of religion or simply dont marry.
Please lovers dont be naive and be foolish, it applies to people of all faiths. But somehow muslims end up at the top of the list as for as extremism is concerned, not sure why. Raed below example, explore the webliink provided at the bottom. I have no intention of tarnishing one faith though it looks that way……life is not movie(Indian)!
An Indian woman, who left her country and religion to marry a Pakistani man but was betrayed and virtually imprisoned by him for 13 years, finally has hope of returning home, with the human rights commission here taking up her case.
Shabnam, who was originally called Shirley Ann Hodges, met Gul Khan in India, whom she married before travelling to Karachi with her new-born child to meet his family on a six-month visa 13 years ago.
However, in Karachi she was introduced to Khan’s first wife and her six children, and was never allowed to return. After her case came to light, the Human Rights Commission of Pakistan (HRCP) and noted human rights lawyers, Asma Jahangir and Ansar Burney, have started efforts to help her return home. Abdul Hai of the HRCP and Burney confirmed they had been approached for help by the woman’s family members from Ahmedabad and were now looking at her case.
According to details in the Express Tribune newspaper, the woman left her family and religion to marry Gul Khan, a money lender whom she met in Ahmedabad, and married in 1997. “I was previously named Shirley Ann Hodges but changed my religion and name after meeting Gul Muhammad Khan in Ahmedabad in 1997 where we got married,” the Indian said.
As soon as Shabnam landed in Karachi, she was abruptly introduced to the nightmare her life would become: she was introduced to Gul’s first wife and six children; her Indian passport was seized; she was gifted a burqa and locked away on the top floor of her in-laws’ house. Thirteen years since, Shabnam remains confined at the top floor of the house in the Landhi area dominated by Pukhtuns and is not allowed any visitors.
Shabnam’s only contact with the outside world is through the Internet and her mobile phone.
“I am a prisoner and this is a hell. For years, I have not gone out from my room. I want to go back to my family in India,” she told the newspaper. Shabnam said she still didn’t know why her husband fooled her. “My daughters are not allowed to go to school. We are beaten with sticks and hurled abuses. Our life is very suffocating,” she said.——— continued in the link below
http://news.outlookindia.com/items.aspx?artid=773354